Love is our natural state.
If you’re not in a state of love, joy, bliss, peace, happiness…etc then there is something damming the flow of life.
By removing the blocks, we allow continuous bliss to flow as it should.
Like Bruce Lee said, “Be like water, my friend.”
This is especially important in those moments where we feel blocked from our natural state of love. When we’re having “one of those days.”
Learn to flow around (or right through!) those rough moments that even the best of us encounter from time to time.
Here are 28 simple ways to instantly turn a “bad” day around…
Note: I put “bad” in quotes because it’s just a label we put on things. “Good” or “bad” is simply a judgment based on perspective. Change your perception (aka your filter of reality), and your reality changes accordingly.
“A pessimist sees the difficulty in every opportunity; an optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty.” ―Winston Churchill
The art of turning your day around ultimately comes down to two fundamental things; changing your perspective and expressing yourself.
1. Remember that you have the choice! You choose to be happy or sad. You choose to be offended by something. You have the choice of love or fear. You’ll always be a sad little victim if you think you don’t have the choice. You’ll be empowered, positive and successful (in everything) when you realize you have the ability to choose happiness at every moment. Take responsibility for your situation. Responsibility is response-ability: the ability to respond. Taste the sweet nectar of empowerment.
“When you think everything is someone else’s fault, you will suffer a lot. When you realize that everything springs only from yourself, you will learn both peace and joy.” -Dalai Lama
“Take the negative definition off of responsibility,
it doesn’t mean blame or it certainly doesn’t have to be,
it doesn’t mean burden,
it doesn’t mean struggle if you don’t want it to.
Responsibility: the ability to respond!
Period! Who doesn’t want that?!
Who doesn’t want the ability
to respond to something… to be creative… to act?”
That’s what responsibility is,
your ability to respond instead of react to these ideas.
So, take responsibility… demand responsibility,
insist on responsibility… believe me… it’s the most fun!”
2. Call your mom (or someone else who deeply cares about you, if this isn’t possible). A call to momma is a sure-fire solution for a rough day.
3. Reach out to someone you haven’t talked to in a while. A call (like I mentioned above), text, send an email, or even a Facebook message to an old friend can instantly boost your mood. Interpersonal connections are integral to the human experience.
4. Deep breathing. Relax and consciously breath deeply, into your belly (or as Elliott Hulse so eloquently puts it, “breathe into you balls.”). This puts both the mind and body at peace after just a few breaths. Deep breathing is the gateway to self-mastery.
5. Lay on the floor (or ground) until you feel like getting up again. For those days when you really don’t feel like doing ANYTHING, this is the solution. Simply lay on the floor (on your back), relax your body and breath deeply. See my post about it here.
6. Meditate. Any form of meditation is a phenomenal way to reset yourself and move forward with a renewed sense of vitality. Here’s an article with great, practical tips on meditation for beginners.
7. Walk outside. Walking makes us feel good (we’re bipedal after all, right?). And being outside makes us feel good. So that makes walking outside a winning combination. It’s calming and refreshing on so many levels. A quick, 10 minute walk outside is my go-to strategy for getting through a rough work day.
8. Take a shower. Water is cleansing. Showers are relaxing. Seriously, have you ever been in a bad mood in the shower? And if you really want to ramp it up, switch to cold water for the last minute or two. Read about the benefits of cold showers here.
9. Work out. If you muster the motivation to work out when you’re having an off day, you find yourself a new person by the end of the workout; like a (jacked) phoenix arising from its ashes. It transforms fatigue to vitality, apathy to passion, and hopelessness to empowerment.
10. Smile for no reason. Seriously, do it. Just smile. You CAN’T NOT feel happy when smiling, even if it’s forced.
11. Laugh for no reason. Whatever applies to smiling, applies to laughing as well. Laugh like a little kid. Laugh with your whole body. Come up with the weirdest laughs you can. Laughter truly is the best medicine. Put on your LOLerskates and have some fun.
12. Have a spoonful of coconut oil. This works like magic. I remember one time I was at work, feeling depleted and worn-out. I ate a spoonful of coconut oil, and within 20 minutes I was back to feelin’ good, feelin’ great. Try it for yourself.
13. Cook. Cooking is so underrated as an enjoyable, rewarding activity, and comes with a whole host of benefits. The process of cooking can be enjoyable in and of itself. And then you get to eat tasty food when you’re done!
14. Take a moment to wonder. Be awe-struck by reality. Observe the natural beauty everywhere. Gaze at the sky and contemplate the possibilities. Admire the elaborate architecture of buildings. Wonder what life is like for the people passing on the street. Be amazed. This natural state of wonder and curiosity will wake you up from any negative trance and give you some awe-inspiring perspective.
15. Express yourself! If you’re holding onto anger, go somewhere where you can scream or work out intensely. If you’re holding sadness, cry. Let it out! Many of the other items on this list fall under this category too. Just express yourself however you feel like it, and you’ll be revitalized.
16. Do some stretching, mobility exercises or yoga. Physical tension and mental tension are intimately connected. Sometimes the body just needs to release tension, and then mind will follow suit.
17. Write. Write a poem. Write a journal entry. Just write. Writing is an excellent means of self-expression, and can be remarkably cathartic.
18. Check something off of your to-do list, no matter how small. Even the smallest sense of accomplishment can create a snowball effect of positive momentum.
19. Put yourself back in your shoes as a young child. How did you imagine you would act as a grown-up? Probably like some sort of superhero, right? Definitely not like a disempowered victim. Your inner child is right. Drop fear and the illusion of disempowerment and live up to your grown-up, superhero potential.
20. Ask yourself WWSD (What Would Spongebob Do?)
21. Remind yourself that someone always has it worse than you. No matter your circumstance, there’s someone out there that has it worse than you. Especially if you’re fortunate enough to be accessing the internet 😉
22. Watch an Infinite Waters (Diving Deep) video. Infinite Waters is probably my favorite Youtube channel. It’s impossible to be in a bad mood while watching this guy. He has the most positive aura that just makes you smile.
And here’s one of my favorites:
23. Remember… You’re braver than you believe, and stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think…
24. View life as like a video game. Video games are meant to be challenging. They are based on overcoming obstacles. Why? Because it makes it so much more satisfying when it’s all said and done. The same principle applies to life in general. What would a video game be without any challenges? It would be boring and absolutely pointless. Would you play Super Mario if all you did was leisurely walk to the right the whole time with no obstacles? Hell no! What’s the fun in that? Would you enjoy playing Pokemon if you had unlimited master balls and rare candies? (I hope you got that one haha). It’s all about the journey, baby. Overcome the obstacles, keep leveling up, and keep having fun.
25. Sometimes the Universe tests you. Think about challenges, difficulties, problems or anything you label as “bad” as a test. These situations are tests of character. How are you going to deal with it? Whine, complain and throw your hands in the air like a weak little victim? Or persevere, like the empowered being you know you really are?
26. Think about how insignificant your problems are in the grand scheme of things. If you’re reading this (probably from a computer or smartphone, right?), chances are that all of the so-called problems in your life are self-created, blown out of proportion, and ultimately insignificant in the grand scheme of things. Is your bad day at work going to matter a year from now? Is that guy that cut you off in traffic going to occupy your thoughts on your deathbed? Of course not. You may not be able to change what happens, but you most certainly can change how you react. Everything is a learning experience. Nothing is inherently “good” or “bad;” it’s merely our perceived judgment that attaches these labels to everything. Change your perception, stop labeling things as “bad”, and stay enjoying the life your living.
“No misfortune is so bad that whining about it won’t make it worse.” ― Jeffrey R. Holland
It’s pointless to fret about the crumbs on the floor when you’re making a masterpiece meal. Your life is your masterpiece; enjoy the creative process without getting hung up on the asinine side products.
27. Listen to a song you love (preferably a happy/upbeat one). Play your favorite song, and I bet you can’t hold onto negativity even if you tried. Music is food for the soul, romancing us on an energetic level.
28. Watch these Youtube videos…
Stay feelin’ good, feelin’ great.
Have an awesome day.