Fuck Your Victim Mentality

(Pardon the rather blunt title, but this article is the proverbial cold shower. It’s time to wake up and feel alive.)

Why do you constantly need to be a victim?

Why are you arguing for limitation? Don’t you want to be empowered?

Are you addicted to the victim mentality?

Have you attached your identity with being a victim?

So many people are addicted to being a victim. It’s a coping mechanism to the “obstacles” we face in life.

The victim mentality is a choice. You always have the choice, in every situation.

Seriously, why the fuck are you choosing victimhood over empowerment? Why?

As Darth Vader put it, “I find your lack of faith disturbing.”

You are the master of the internal, and the external is merely a manifestation of the internal. You don’t see the world as it is, you see the world as YOU ARE.

Being a victim is depriving yourself of your own immense strength. Saying “I can’t” is an act of suicide on your potential self. Complaining is resistance to the present moment, resistance to all that is.

“When you complain, you make yourself a victim. Leave the situation or accept it. All else is madness.” -Eckhart Tolle

Yes, life is difficult for everyone (some more than others), but you have the choice of whether to view difficulties as challenges to overcome, or as an excuse to say “poor me.”

Think about life as like a video game. Would playing Super Mario be fun if you just walked to the right the whole time, with no obstacles? Hell no. The experience is defined by overcoming challenges!

“What you call a setback, I call a challenge,
If I fall I know I’ll get back, it’s all a balance.” -Crooked I

“A pessimist sees the difficulty in every opportunity; an optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty.” -Winston Churchill

Do you really want to be happy? Then choose to be happy! Happiness is not some magical scenario at the end of the rainbow. Happiness is your choice, right now.

Unleash your inner lion; live your strength.

Unleash your inner lion; live your strength.

10 Reasons Why Having a Victim Mentality is Completely Useless:

1. You have the choice!

You have the choice to choose happiness or sadness. You have the choice to choose love or fear. You have the choice to be offended or not. You have the choice of being a victim or being empowered. You have the choice in every moment. So why would you choose to be a victim!? That’s insanity. Empower, overcome and have fun.

“The choice is yours in every moment to create beauty or misery, happiness or pain.” –Ralph Smart

2. You influence your reality.

You create your own reality. The effect of consciousness on reality is being proven on so many levels…

Look into:  the double-slit experiment, the placebo effect, the law of attraction…etc. Also, check out this article, 10 Scientific Studies That Prove Consciousness Can Alter Our Physical Material World.

Entertain this possibility, and you develop your inherent power.

Even if you have a hard to entertaining these things, think about it this way… Your thoughts dictate your beliefs, your beliefs dictate your actions, and your actions dictate your situation. Change your thoughts, change your beliefs, change your actions, change your situation. It’s as simple as that.

Take responsibility back. Response-ability is literally the ability to respond. Embrace it.

“We are not only observers. We are participators. In some strange sense this is a participatory universe.” -John Wheeler (pioneering physicist who coined the terms “black hole” and “wormhole”)

So why are you choosing to be a victim? It’s ludicrous. It’s like being given a hammer, and instead of building a house, you just continuously hit yourself on the foot with it. And that’s what so many people are doing with their lives.

Use the power of your consciousness to achieve your dreams, instead of sabotaging them.

“Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t–you’re right.” -Henry Ford

3. You attract what you are.

If you hold onto a victim mentality, guess what you’ll get?

“A victim mentality creates a victim reality.” -David Icke

If you’re a victim, you’ll attract people and situations that will further victimize you. If you’re empowered, you’ll attract people and situation that will further empower you.

Like attracts like. You reap what you sow. The law of attraction.

“Everything is energy and that’s all there is to it. Match the frequency of the reality you want and you cannot help but get that reality. It can be no other way. This is not philosophy. This is physics.” -Albert Einstein

4. It’s so limiting.

Anyone who has achieved anything great was the antithesis of a victim. Would you break any record as a victim? Or accomplish anything noteworthy? Nope!

A victim mentality is self-created, false limitation.

Why would you ever argue for your own limitation? Stop it. Break free.

“Argue for your limitations and, sure enough, they’re yours.” -Richard Bach

5. Do you want to be the driver, or a passenger?

Do you want to control your own destiny? Or be a victim, at the mercy of external forces? Ask yourself that every time you find yourself complaining or acting like a whiny little victim. Take the wheel back, and drive your car to your rightful destiny.

6. Empowerment is awesome.

Make the conscious decision to be empowered and you feel strong, physically, mentally, and spiritually. It’s literally just the flip of a switch; a simple choice. The beautiful thing is that a positive, empowered mentality permeates every level of existence and allows everything to fall into place. You embrace life, instead of resisting life, making it infinitely more fun, interesting and enjoyable.

I don’t know about you, but I would rather operate in the paradigm of empowerment instead of perpetual victimhood. But that’s just me.

7. Less pain, more fun. (The power of positivity)

Because really, it’s no fun being a victim. People just cling to it because it becomes familiar, it’s a part of their identity and they’re addicted to it.  Drop the victim mentality and enjoy life. Experience life without constantly being in fear.

“Life begins where fear ends.” -Osho

Positivity is a force to be reckoned with, and a superpower we can all harness. A positive attitude strengthens the mind, body and spirit, and makes life quite delightful.

People with positive attitudes live longer, and have more fun doing so…
(Check out these articles)
Centenarians’ Positive Attitude Linked to Long Life
Positive Thinking On Aging Helps Seniors Heal: Study
Do Positive People Live Longer?

“I’d rather be an optimist and a fool than a pessimist and right.” -Albert Einstein

8. Victim mentality = covering your awesomeness

With a victim mentality, you’re robbing yourself of your true essence. You’re denying yourself of your true potential.

It’s a disservice to both yourself and to those around you. When you become a stronger version of yourself, you not only help yourself, but inspire those around you as well.

9. As a “victim” you make life more difficult for those around you.

As a victim, you become a burden (a burden to both yourself and others). You impose your limitations on others as well. When you hold a victim mentality, others have to pick up your slack. Instead of acting as wings, you become a dead weight to both yourself and those around you.

A victim mentality makes you a complete buzz kill too. And people don’t like being around negative, disempowered people. Life is to be enjoyed.

“The truth is that existence wants your life to become a festival… Because when you are unhappy, you also throw unhappiness all around. ” -Osho

10. You welcome dis-harmony and dis-ease.

Your mind state effects your body (see point #2). Positive people are less likely to get sick (see articles in point #7). If you marinate in negative thoughts, they will manifest physically (think about the power of the placebo effect). An example we’re all familiar with is stress. Victims always find something to stress about. Stress causes tension in both the mind and body. Stress releases the hormone cortisol, which if chronically elevated, leads to a whole host of problems. Continuous stress also produces inflammatory responses in the body, which leads to dysfunction and dis-ease.

How stress influences disease: Study reveals inflammation as the culprit
8 Stress-Busting Tips from Experts

11. A victim mentality is complete dependence.

If you’re a victim, you become dependent on everything other than yourself. Dependent on other people. Dependent on external things for your happiness. Dependent on government. Dependent on material goods. Dependent on foods. Dependent on substances. Addiction in all of its forms thrives off of the victim mentality. A victim mentality perpetuates all kinds of fear-based, limiting beliefs and dependency.

Empowerment liberates you from all of this. It’s a simple choice, in every moment.

12. You feed the parasite.

Most would agree that the situation on planet Earth right now is far from the peaceful utopia it could be. Think about the collective fuckedupness that exists…

This idea of an intangible force that we all feed is everywhere. Eckhart Tolle calls it the “collective pain-body” in A New Earth, Don Miguel Ruiz calls it “the parasite” in The Four Agreements, Carlos Castaneda refers to psychic parasites in his books, The Gnostics called them archons, David Icke refers to them as reptilians, in Christianity you have demons, in Islam you have djinn…etc.

If you’re a victim, you’re feeding this parasite. Don’t contribute to the woes of the world. Stop feeding the parasite and cultivate something positive instead.

“The secret of change is to focus all of your energy, not on fighting the old, but on building the new.” -Socrates

13. You miss out on the magic of being a dreamer.

There’s a certain magic to life when you become a dreamer. It’s like going from black and white to high definition. Everything becomes wondrous. It’s that blissful world of imagination that you immersed yourself in as a child.

Get out of the doldrums and step into the field of dreams.

Be a dreamer. No one who has ever made a great impact on the world has been a realist.

“You may say I’m a dreamer
But I’m not the only one
I hope someday you’ll join us
And the world will live as one.”
-John Lennon

Don’t succumb to the illusion of victimhood (I say illusion because it’s merely a crafty trick of the mind/ego).  Let go of the bullshit victim mentality, uncover your true self and step into your infinite potential. You deserve it.

Much love,

-Stevie P!

Stevie P


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