The 5 Love Languages (What’s Your Love Language?)

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What’s your love language?

Have you ever thought about it?

Love is Universal. But it can be expressed in many ways.

Though love is our essence, sometimes things get lost in translation. That’s why it’s crucial to understand the different kinds of love languages.

We all yearn for love. We look for love in different ways and express love in different ways.

Essentially, there are 5 love languages…

The 5 Love Languages

1. Gift Giving
2. Quality Time
3. Acts of Service
4. Words of Affirmation
5. Physical Touch

These are all different ways of expressing and receiving love. And each of us has unique preferences regarding these. Most people prefer one – or several – love languages, while others might be unimportant to them.

Here’s an example of each of the 5 love languages…

  • Gift Giving – Buying your partner flowers.
  • Quality Time – Taking your partner out on a romantic date.
  • Acts of Service – Running an errand for your partner.
  • Words of Affirmation – Saying “I love you.”
  • Physical Touch – Giving your partner a massage.
  • Different people prefer different things. With myself, for example, I could care less about receiving gifts or having an act of service done for me, but I highly value the other three. I need the sharing of quality time, physical touch and words of affirmation in order to really “feel the love.”

    It’s important to keep this in mind when interacting with people you’re close to.

    For example, if your partner’s primary love language is words of affirmation, don’t just get them roses for Valentine’s day and ignore them. They’d probably prefer a handwritten poem.

    Love languages go beyond romantic relationships too. They apply to all of our relationships.

    For example, if your best friend’s primary love language is quality time, it would be a better idea to go on a weekend trip with them as opposed to buying them a new shirt for their birthday.

    What is your primary love language? What love languages are important to you? What love languages are unimportant to you? How do you prefer to give love? How do you prefer to receive love?

    What is your partner’s primary love language? Or the people you spend the most time around.

    Leave a comment below.

    Much LOVE.

    – Stevie P!

    How to Prioritize Self-Care

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    If you don’t love yourself, then how are you going to love someone else?

    If you’re not empowered, then how are you going to empower others?

    If you don’t grow an inherent capacity to give from, then how can you consistently give?

    In order to serve, you must first be fit to serve. This is why self-care is a prerequisite for any positive change externally. The cultivation of self-love must be a priority, or else everything else in life is compromised.

    Self-care is essentially anything that rejuvenates your being, facilitates your growth and helps you love yourself more fully. A wide array of things can be self-care: meditation, yoga, working out, walking, hiking, reading, writing, drawing, painting, knitting (if anyone still does that), dancing, baths, saunas, massages, reiki, acupuncture, qi gong, tai chi, stress-free cooking, watching something funny, watching something inspirational, learning (on your own accord of course), traveling and even sleeping. We all know what can be considered self-care by the reinvigorating feeling that comes along with such activities.

    The Importance of Self-Care

    You Can’t Pour From an Empty Cup

    That expression is so true, yet few people apply it. Fill your cup first and give from the overflow.

    Get over the limiting belief that self-care is selfish. It’s not. And neglecting yourself does no good for anyone. You can only give more by increasing your capacity to give! Self-care, being compassionate towards yourself, helps you to embody compassion in every situation you find yourself in.

    Creating a Harmonious Foundation for Everything Else

    If you don’t clear your own bullshit, everything you do is going to be from a place of fear, lack and delusion. Without a high level of self-love, you will consciously or unconsciously project your delusions and fears into all of your relationships. Without a practice of self-care, even giving will be a distorted version of itself. You will find yourself giving out of duty (as opposed to love), giving because you feel like you have to (creating bitterness), giving with strings attached (conditional love), or just not giving at all because you’re so internally depleted.

    If you don’t have a harmonious foundation within, all of your relationships will be based in disharmony and built on shaky foundations. So many relationships are dysfunctional because so few people do the inner work. Harmony and alignment within creates relationships based in harmony and alignment. Disharmony and misalignment within creates relationships based in disharmony and misalignment. Build a strong foundation first, or you will be living in a house that’s falling apart.

    Your internal state ripples across every aspect of your reality. Cultivate self-love and let compassion ripple into the ocean of your existence.

    How to Incorporate Self-Care into Your Daily Life

    1. Make a commitment to self-care – Make self-care a priority. In order to fully follow through with anything, you must prioritize it. When something is a priority, you will do it by any means necessary, but if something isn’t a priority, you will find any excuse not to do it.

    Make a commitment to self-care right now, whether it be in writing or a strong mental affirmation.

    2. Simplify your life – Cut out all of the unnecessary distractions. Let go of the asinine commitments you’ve taken on that don’t serve your highest good. Reduce the amount of stuff you have (less stuff = less to upkeep = more time for you).

    3. Focus on simple, tangible daily practices – Commit to daily habits of self-care, not vague promises of things you might do in the future. Create a system for yourself to implement to bring you in the direction you wish to head in. Simple systems are more effective than lofty goals, as they’re easy to implement on a daily basis and you’ll get a lot more done in the long run while enjoying the process.

    Pick one self-care activity right now that you can implement on a daily basis.

    4. Make time (don’t find time) – When you prioritize something, you make time for it, no matter what. If you’re really pressed for time or if you have young children, you might have to squeeze in your self-care early in the morning, late at night, on your lunch breaks…etc.

    5. Do it!

    Knowing is not enough; we must apply. Willing is not enough; we must do.
    – Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

     
    Make a firm decision to love yourself and prioritize self-care. It’s a win-win for everyone involved.

    Cultivate unconditional love within and share it with others.

    Create a ripple effect of compassion.

    – Stevie P!
     

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    Soul Mates

    Stevie P’s note: This is a post by Dean Hurtt, and originally appeared on his website at  www.deanhurtt.com. Dean explained the enigmatic concept of soul mates in such a succinct and straightforward tone, so I had to share it. Also, the analogy of us being leaves to a tree was an “Aha!” moment for me. Enjoy!

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    I often hear these terms thrown around rather haphazardly, and I wanted to clarify what my understanding of “soul groups,” “soul mates,” and “soul twins” are.

    Perhaps by just hearing these terms you already have an intuitive understanding of what they mean. It is actually quite logical, and there is a hierarchy in the terms.

    An analogy might be useful to start with, so that you can more easily picture how this whole process operates. Imagine a tree with leaves and branches—this is how your soul operates.

    At the beginning, there was no differentiation between any of us; we were One, with a capital ‘O.’ Then we started to split from God, Source, or whatever you want to call it. From there we kept dividing like branches on a tree, until we finally became our present Self, which for this metaphor is going to be a leaf.

    Now, back to the original terms I introduced at the beginning of this blog; let us start with soul twins, also known as “twin flames.” This is term that many people aren’t aware of, and is usually confused with soul mates.

    There is only one soul twin for each of us, whereas there are multiple soul mates. The soul group is the largest of the three, and if you have known anyone in your life for longer than 15 minutes or so, and felt a connection to, they are more than likely in your soul group.

    Soul mates are closer, and these are usually your friends, family, and coworkers. Finally, there is the soul twin, which people are usually the most concerned about finding.

    I would like to reiterate that all of this is my current understanding of these terms, and I am not claiming this is the final definition for any of these terms. If you have a different understanding, please let me know by commenting below!

    There are a few other things I would like to bring up while I’m on the topic of soul mates and such. Your soul twin is not going to make your life complete. I can’t possibly stress this enough. If you are searching for something outside yourself, you won’t find it until you realize you are already complete as you are, and don’t need anyone to fulfill your life.

    In fact, you likely won’t be able to find your soul twin until you find happiness within. It is a paradox, that what you are looking for won’t appear until you realize you’ve had it the entire time.

    This isn’t always the case, however, because it is possible to find your soul twin while you are still in internal conflict. When this happens, they will likely become one of your worst enemies, because they are reflecting back all the qualities you refuse to accept in yourself.

    Another possibility is that your soul twin isn’t even incarnated with you on the Earth right now. You generally don’t find your soul twin actually, because all of us enjoy incarnating with different people, creating new and exciting lives that make our souls rich with experience.

    Wouldn’t it become boring around the hundredth lifetime if we always kept coming back with the exact same people? Everyone is different in this regard, because some people like consistency, but others like variety.

    A good test for you to tell if you generally have the same people in your lifetimes is if you enjoy watching the same movie, or reading the same book, over-and-over again. If you enjoy new things more often than not, then it’s likely your soul likes to change things up as well.

    Nevertheless, even if your soul twin is here with you on Earth, it doesn’t mean they will be your romantic partner. Your soul twin can be a family member, or just a dear friend.

    They may stick around for the rest of your life once you’ve found them, or they may only be in your life for a day. There are no hard-and-fast rules for these things, because we are essentially making it up as we go along in life.

    Hopefully this brief overview cleared up some of the common misconceptions about soul mates.

    I am interested to hear your take on these things though, so please feel free to comment…

    You can find the original post HERE 

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    My Problem With Feminism

    To preface this post:

    1. We’re all equal, yet unique.
    2. Society has been overly patriarchal for a long time and that needs to change.
    3. I believe that a more matriarchal society would be much more beneficial for humanity.
    4. There is no denying that feminism has accomplished a lot in terms of equality and women’s rights.

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    My problem with feminism lies within the phrase “You can’t fight fire with fire.” In fighting the often-oppressive patriarchy, those who label themselves feminists tend to exaggerate their masculine qualities. So by fighting (even the word ‘fighting’ is very masculine) for women’s rights, they ironically become more like the men they’re criticizing. It’s like the recurring theme of governments throughout history… One tyrant is overthrown, only to be replaced by another. Because in the act of overthrowing, you’re forced to become tyrannical yourself.

    This is also evident in the workforce. When “playing the corporate game” you need to do certain things to move up the ladder. These usually involve the not-so-positive masculine qualities. But here’s the thing, you won’t change the hierarchy from the inside. You will only become the hierarchy by doing so. That’s why many women in high-ranking corporate positions exhibit the same traits and behaviors as the men. Because you need those traits in order to rise to the top of these rigid, hierarchical organizations. Instead, both men and women should focus on solutions. Building organizations that embrace the feminine side, instead of the exaggeratedly masculine corporate structure we’ve traditionally seen. This comes in the form of entrepreneurship and creating companies that place people over profit.

    “The secret of change is to focus all of your energy, not on fighting the old, but on building the new.”  – Socrates

     
    Both men and women need to tap into their feminine qualities. The sacred feminine exudes qualities of unconditional love, compassion, wisdom, beauty, gentleness, patience, accepting, forgiving, nurturing, welcoming, healing, receptivity, spontaneity, intuition, and right-brain creativity.

    This shift is the basis for solving the problem of exaggerated, masculine rigidity that has pervaded society for the last few millennia. The feminine essence has been suppressed so vehemently because its very existence renders the control system obsolete. It’s that powerful.

    Regarding relationships, polarity is essential to their existence. You need the yin and the yang, a dance of masculine and feminine energy for any intimacy to thrive. And this doesn’t mean that the woman embodies the feminine 24/7 and the man embodies the masculine 24/7. It should be a dance of fluidity between the two.

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    Most women tend to have a feminine core and most men tend to have a masculine core. And hey, if a man expresses more feminine qualities than the woman in a relationship, that’s fine too. The same principle applies if it’s between two men or two women as well.

    Intimacy requires polarity. In magnetism, opposites attract. As above, so below; this concept penetrates all levels of existence.

    If two individuals have a relationship without polarity, they’re friends. There’s no magnetic intimacy there. We’ve all seen it in relationships where the woman is forced to exaggerate her masculine energy because the man won’t step up to the plate. This creates two masculine energies; two rigid, dominating forces, and there’s no spark there. You need a giver and a receiver, a speaker and a listener, musical notes juxtaposed against gorgeous silence. Note: It also works between a man who embodies feminine energy and a woman who embodies masculine energy. It’s less common, but there’s still the dance of polarity there.

    This is a call for females everywhere to embrace their divine feminine. Embody your inner goddess and share your radiance with the world. It’s vitally needed in this day and age.

    Don’t fight fire with fire. Put the fire out with water.

    Stay cool.

    -Stevie P

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    The Phenomenon of Energy Snowballing

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    Story time…

    Last Friday night I was gallivanting along the streets of Portland (Maine) when I heard the voice of a young man behind me say “Excuse me sir, could you spare any change?” I stopped dead in my tracks. Not because of what he said, but how he said it. It wasn’t the usual, incoherent babble. It wasn’t in a disempowered, victim-stricken tone. It was polite and articulate with a refreshing sense of hope. So I turned around and we both introduced ourselves. His name was Adam and he’s about my age (26… in Earth years). He’s been on his own since adolescence when his single mother passed away. He has family dispersed across the world and (sadly) none willing to help him out. After a series of unfortunate circumstances he found himself with no place to live a couple weeks ago.

    We immediately hit it off and started talking about anything and everything… Our lives, our experiences, the monetary system, philosophy, positivity, personal growth, changing lives…etc. As this positive energy built up between us, a tall dude (around our age too) walked up and excitedly greeted Adam (handshakes & man hugs). They’re old friends that haven’t seen each other in months (his friend was noticeably surprised to find out that Adam was on the streets). So the three of us started talking about empowerment, self-improvement and all that good stuff. At one point, Adam’s friend mentioned that a major turning point in his life was recently when he volunteered at Kripalu for 6 months. I was like “Yo… I was there like 5 days ago!” (see my post here). So funny. So synchronistic. And everyone that walked by our triangle of awesomeness was smiling. We all knew that we were co-creating something special. #datenergytho

    I felt compelled to give Adam $20 and he accepted it with radiant gratitude, promising that he would pay it forward. I knew he would. Then we parted ways and I kept energy snowballing for the rest of the night (that’s another story haha).

    Quick shout out to Adam: Keep your head up and stay positive, my friend. May all the dreams and desires of your heart come true.

    The experience we all co-created last week was a breath of fresh air. That’s the kind of stuff that happens when you’re energy snowballing…

    And we’ve all experienced it. We’ve all experienced the phenomenon of feeding off of other people’s energy. A team rallying behind the empowerment of a motivational halftime speech. One person instigating a spontaneous laugh fest amongst a group of friends. The reaction of everyone at a party when “Return of the Mack” comes on. The ever-increasing, tangible energy of a crowd matching the climax of a song during a live performance. The feeling of utter euphoria that arises within the depths of every soul whenever the word “Pokémon” is brought up. (Wait… Is that just me?)

    Vibes are contagious. Energy is infectious.

    Everything is energy, frequency and vibration…

    “If you want to find the secrets of the universe, think in terms of energy, frequency and vibration.” -Nikola Tesla

    And everything tends to match the dominant frequency at hand…

    “Everything is energy and that’s all there is to it. Match the frequency of the reality you want and you cannot help but get that reality. It can be no other way. This is not philosophy. This is physics.” -Bashar

    This manifests in the form of feelings/emotions, behavior, situations, experiences…etc. Energy snowballing happens with everything, from the micro scale to the macro scale.

    It all starts with a little spark. That spark could be as simple as a friendly smile. And with that spark, you start attracting similar energy, drawing in compatible vibes. This builds and builds, as beings feed off of each other’s energy. It’s a damn good time.

    And of course, it applies to the “negative” as well (think about riots). Energy snowballing is a powerful tool. So use that tool to build a better home (Earth), instead of hitting yourself in the face with it.

    Be a beam of light everywhere you go. When you radiate your inner light, you drive out darkness and help others see.

    “Thousands of candles can be lighted from a single candle, and the life of the candle will not be shortened. Happiness never decreases by being shared.” -Buddha

    Step into your power and start an avalanche of positive energy everywhere you go.

    “The truth is that existence wants your life to become a festival.” -Osho

    Stay snowballin.

    -Stevie P!

    Earth Is Our Holy Land

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    It’s become painfully obvious…

    We’ve been getting played out for a long, long time; manipulated into the illusion of separation. We’re deviating from our essence of love, succumbing to fear, allowing ourselves to get dragged into senseless conflict and destroying our beautiful planet.

    “Just look at us. Everything is backwards, everything is upside down. Doctors destroy health, lawyers destroy justice, psychiatrists destroy minds, scientists destroy truth, major media destroys information, religions destroy spirituality and governments destroy freedom.” -Michael Ellner

    We all know, deep down, that it doesn’t have to be this way. Humanity is capable of so much more, and (thankfully) we’re seeing clearer glimpses of our potential every day.

    We’re all unique, physical manifestations of infinite love, and the time has come to shine our light on Planet Earth.

    Let Love Be the Guiding Force

    “There are two basic motivating forces: fear and love. When we are afraid, we pull back from life. When we are in love, we open to all that life has to offer with passion, excitement, and acceptance. We need to learn to love ourselves first, in all our glory and our imperfections. If we cannot love ourselves, we cannot fully open to our ability to love others or our potential to create. Evolution and all hopes for a better world rest in the fearlessness and open-hearted vision of people who embrace life.” -John Lennon

    Love is our essence. Fear is False Evidence Appearing Real… An illusion.

    “I have been saying and writing for so many years that one sentence can encapsulate the totality of life, of existence, of being: Infinite Love is the Only Truth – Everything Else is Illusion.” -David Icke

    Love is the answer to most, if not all, questions in life. Choose love, let go of fear and judgment; that’s when we unleash our dormant magnificence.

    One evening an old Cherokee told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside people. He said, “My son, the battle is between 2 “wolves” inside us all. One is Evil (fear). It is anger, envy, jealousy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego. The other is Good (Love). It is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion, and faith.” The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather: “Which wolf wins?” The old Cherokee simply replied, “The one you feed.”

     

    Rigid Belief Systems = Easy Manipulation

    “We have to stop thinking in black and white and soften our rigid belief systems. This world is not black and white. Nothing is. If you have a rigid belief system that is not open to the endless subtleties of life, you become a manipulator’s party trick.” -David Icke

    Rigid belief systems are based in fear (“believe what I say or suffer the consequences”), and being in fear makes us easily manipulated and controlled. When we operate in love (or as love), it is the ultimate freedom.

    “Never belong to a crowd; Never belong to a nation; Never belong to a religion; Never belong to a race. Belong to the whole existence. Why limit yourself to small things? When the whole is available.” -Osho

    Falling into other peoples’ molds is taking life for granted. When we embrace the fact that we’re all brilliantly unique expressions of infinity, the collective reality we experience has no choice but to change for the better.

    See Through the Illusion (Or Get Played)

    The world we’re living in is a grand illusion. We’re constantly fed is a massive deception.

    Every major system that is in place is built on fear-based conditioning. The education (indoctrination) system, organized religion, healthcare (sick care), the media…etc.

    Just turn on the news; it’s all fear mongering and propaganda, designed to paralyze our consciousness. When was the last time watching the news made you feel good? And anyone with half a brain sees through the utter nonsense perpetuated.

    We get brainwashed into belief systems and manipulated into conflict. Divide and conquer works like a charm when we’re programmed with fear and see others as “different” merely because of asinine labels we put on everything. Jews, Muslims, Christians, Americans, New Yorkers, Whites, Blacks, Republicans, Democrats…etc. Attaching our identity to these labels is what sets us up to be easily divided and conquered. It’s this rigid categorization that positions us as pawns for malevolent agendas.

    So many get manipulated into anger and violence through fear-based conditioning and viewing fellow humans as something different from themselves. When we drop the labels and see everyone as another aspect of ourselves, we simply won’t be coerced into harming anyone.

    The pathetic “elite” love war, violence, death, destruction and anything based in fear. War is immensely profitable for them. War creates more control. War is a massive fear generator, and they literally live off of our fear. (See David Icke’s books for a ridiculous amount of information and evidence on this stuff.)

    Here’s an interesting excerpt from “The Active Side of Infinity” by Carlos Castaneda (quoting his supposed mentor Dan Juan Mathus):

    We have a predator that came from the depths of the cosmos and took over our lives. Human Beings are its prisoners. The predator is our lord and master. It has rendered us docile, helpless. If we want to protest, it suppresses our protest. If we want to act independently, it demands that we don’t do so. Indeed, we are held prisoner. They took us over, because we are food to them, and they squeeze us mercilessly because we are their sustenance. Just as we rear chickens in coops, they rear us in human coops. Therefore, their food is always available to them. Think for a moment and tell me how you would explain the contradictions between the intelligence of man, the engineer and the stupidity of his belief systems, or the stupidity of his contradictory behavior. Sorcerers believe that the Predators have given us our systems of belief, our ideas of good and evil, our social morals. They are the ones who set up our beliefs of success or failure. They have given us covetedness, greed, and cowardice. It is the Predator who makes us complacent, routinary and egomanical. In order to keep us obedient and weak, the Predators engage themselves in a stupendous maneuver. Stupendous of course from the point of view of a fighting strategist. A horrendous maneuver from the point of view from those who suffer it. They gave us their mind. The predator’s mind is baroque, contradictory, morose, and filled with the fear of being discovered any minute now.

     

    Don’t feed the parasite with fear. We must choose love in order to free ourselves.

    And here’s an incredibly potent song by Black Sabbath:

    “Generals gathered in their masses
    Just like witches at black masses
    Evil minds that plot destruction
    Sorcerers of death’s construction
    In the fields the bodies burning
    As the war machine keeps turning
    Death and hatred to mankind
    Poisoning their brainwashed minds… Oh Lord yeah!

    Politicians hide themselves away
    They only started the war
    Why should they go out to fight?
    They leave that role to the poor, yeah

    Time will tell on their power minds
    Making war just for fun
    Treating people just like pawns in chess
    Wait ’till their Judgment day comes, yeah!”

    Non-Compliance

    The way to bring about change is to not participate in the insanity. The madness simply cannot exist if we don’t take part in it. It’s as simple as that. Toxic fast food won’t be manufactured if people don’t eat it. Health-wrecking pharmaceutical drugs won’t be produced when people stop buying them. War will not exist when people refuse to kill each other.

    “The pioneers of a warless world are the youth who refuse military service.” -Albert Einstein

    “Non-violence is the greatest force at the disposal of mankind. It is mightier than the mightiest weapon of destruction devised by the ingenuity of man.” -Gandhi

    We’re holding up the house of cards out of fear; it’s about time we walk away and build something better.

    It is only through releasing the old that we can bring about the new.

    We must stop compromising our morals for money and ego. We must stop sacrificing our essence out of fear. It’s time we step into our power, and as Gandhi so eloquently said, “be the change we wish to see in the world.”

    We’re far more powerful than we’ve been conditioned to think…

    A New Day is Rising

    “I’m American born, love America, love my people, love all mankind, all nationalities you know. I think it’s just recently where everybody just started to feel like there was an elite group that runs everything, and everybody else was sheep, ignorant, making all ethnicities, colors and creeds, niggers, blind to what really is going on. So I say take off the wool from your eyes. Out with the old America in with the new. End all racism, all injustice, all oppression to poor people, any people anywhere in this planet. Let’s come together: a new day is rising.” -Nas

    More and more people are waking up to the true nature of everything. Many are now seeing through the illusion,choosing love over fear and helping to bring about change to our planet.

    New and improved solutions, that are actually beneficial to humanity, are being developed in all aspects of life (energy sources, education, nutrition, economic systems…etc). We’re seeing glimpses of greatness amidst the chaos of the world. Change is happening fast. Change is happening now.

    “Just before you break the sound barrier, the cockpit shakes the most.” -Chuck Yeager

    Oh, it’s shaking alright. And we’re about to break out of the matrix we’ve been held in for so long.

    Wake up, sleeping giants. Step into your inherent power.

    When we choose love, it will collectively manifest in all forms, and in every aspect of life.

    Get ready for a new paradigm.

    Infinite Love.

    -Stevie P!

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    Why You Shouldn’t Attach Your Identity to Groups

    Well… really the title should be more like “Why You Shouldn’t Attach Your Identity to Groups… If You Want to Be Extraordinary in Any Sense.”

    Don’t get me wrong, groups can be awesome and tremendously helpful. But the problem comes when you attach your whole identity to a group. In that case, you concede your brilliant uniqueness and take on unnecessary limitation. And ain’t nobody got time for that.

    Not identifying with a group doesn’t mean never stepping foot any place of worship, or never playing for a team again. It means not attaching your identity, your sense of self, to it. You can participate in anything and everything, without being bound to the limitations of one group. You can get useful insights, experiences and wisdom from literally everywhere. You’re free to be your own master, create your own destiny and journey wherever you please.

    “Never belong to a crowd; Never belong to a nation; Never belong to a religion; Never belong to a race. Belong to the whole existence. Why limit yourself to small things? When the whole is available.” -Osho

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    Fly free, my friend

    Why You Shouldn’t Attach Your Identity to  Groups (10 Reasons):

    1. Not labeling yourself is pure freedom.

    Being relentlessly yourself is the ultimate freedom. You’re free to entertain any idea. Free to travel wherever life takes you. Free to experience everything life has to offer. Don’t be your own jail-keeper. Step outside of the prison cell.

    There’s no need to slap a label on yourself and attach your identity with being a Christian, or Jewish, or a republican, or a democrat, or a janitor, or a lawyer, or American, or Italian, or a Pokemon Master (that might be an exception though 😉 ). Just be you! Just BE. Allow yourself to live with the joyous delight of flexibility. Embrace the enlightening capacity of entertaining any idea or immersing yourself in any situation.

    “It’s what you can let go of that determines how high you fly.” -Ralph Smart

    Let go of the weight of all the labels you’re carrying, and soar to new heights.

    2. Your life becomes the Bruce Lee quote “Absorb what is useful, discard what is not, add what is uniquely your own.”

    You gain the ability to draw useful information, experience and wisdom from anywhere. You also gain the flexibility to let go of anything that doesn’t serve your best interests. And you put you own unique spin on everything. This allows your life to be a dynamic, flexible and blissfully free dance with “reality.”

    “Think about the power you have when you can readily entertain and deviate from ideas.” -Elliott Hulse

    3. The ability to evolve more quickly.

    As an individual, you can be far more dynamic in your evolution than if you’re attached to a group. Groups have a hard time adjusting to new environments and accepting change, while individuals ride (more like joyride) the winds of change.

    Think about decisions. When you have a big group of people, it takes forever to decide where to even eat dinner. But as an individual, you just spontaneously do things. Spontaneity is the playfulness of the spirit emerging through you.

    Being an individual allows you to follow your intuition; to take heed to the signs and move wherever life takes you.

    Because an individual is far more dynamic and adaptable than a group, individuals are able to more easily transcend cognitive dissonance. (“In psychology, cognitive dissonance is the excessive mental stress and discomfort experienced by an individual who holds two or more contradictory beliefs, ideas, or values at the same time.” –Wikipedia) Groups tend to be paralyzed by cognitive dissonance when they encounter accurate or truthful information which contrasts their inherent beliefs.

    Individuals can readily entertain and let go of ideas, while groups cling to ideas. Groups only exist because they’re based around a certain idea or collection of ideas. And if there is information contrary to these ideas, it causes cognitive dissonance and irrational thinking for those who attach their identity to the group. This is why many rigid groups simply ignore factual or new information, even information that can be massively beneficial. Why? Because it contradicts the ideas that the group is based upon, and they don’t no how to deal with it.

    Be an individual, adapt, evolve and keep becoming the greatest version of yourself.

    4. Existing in Love (as opposed to fear).

    Many people cling to groups out of fear. Many label themselves as Christians, not because they strive to be Christ-like, but merely to avoid going to hell (or they’re too afraid to do something other than what they were born into, or they’re afraid of what their family would say…etc). People contemptuously cling to nationalities, because they’re afraid and ignorant of people who are different from them. This type of misled pride is often driven by the ego’s need for a convenient, classifiable identity. Ultimately, the ego fears for it’s own survival if not firmly attached to a label. Because when you just BE, you’re able transcend the limitations of fear and ego.

    Letting go of labels allows you to let go of fear, and live in love. The more you operate in love, the more you will naturally let go of destructive behaviors, people, and situations. You will follow your bliss, existing in a state of pure love (well, most of the time, because nobody’s perfect, right?).

    Love is our essence, re-familiarize with it and experience the life you were meant to live.

    5. Objectivity.

    If you identify strongly with a group, you’re inheriting the biases of that group. And on top of this, you’re constantly going to be around people with the same biases as yourself, which will further solidify any biases you already have. If you draw information from everywhere and engage with a variety of different people, you’re going to have far less biases, and a clearer picture of “reality.”

    You’ll never be completely unbiased, but as an individual you can avoid the severely limiting biases that a lot of groups have.

    6. Not succumbing to groupthink.

    “Groupthink is a psychological phenomenon that occurs within a group of people, in which the desire for harmony or conformity in the group results in an irrational or dysfunctional decision-making outcome.” (Wikipedia)

    It’s groupthink that has driven the large-scale tragedies we’ve seen in the world. The phenomenon of groupthink allowed the likes of Hitler and Stalin to perpetuate immense atrocities on humankind. These things would not occur if people weren’t so quick to conform (out of fear). These things will not occur when we all embrace our uniqueness, think for ourselves and live based in Love (not fear).

    “The pioneers of a warless world are the young men (and women) who refuse military service.” – Albert Einstein

    We’re social creatures, needing interactions with others. But with this comes conformity. People tend to conform to ideas and standards in groups, even if they wouldn’t when alone. A great benefit of not rigidly identifying with groups is that you develop the awareness to choose your own actions, in every situation. Individuals recognize that they don’t have to conform to detrimental ideas or standards that many groups propagate.

    “The worst curse to befall anyone is stagnation, a banal existence, the quiet desperation that comes out of a need for conformity.” -Deepak Chopra

    7. You will experience more.

    People who are individuals will develop relationships with a variety of different people, come across a myriad of diverse information, and expose themselves to a vast variety of life experiences. And that’s what life is all about, the experiences.

    “Never forget that you are not in the world; the world is in you. When anything happens to you, take the experience inward. Creation is set up to bring you constant hints and clues about your role as co-creator. Your soul is metabolizing experience as surely as your body is metabolizing food.” -Deepak Chopra

    “Experience life in all possible ways — good-bad, bitter-sweet, dark-light, summer-winter. Experience all the dualities. Don’t be afraid of experience, because the more experience you have, the more mature you become.” -Osho

    8. Harness the power of solitude.

    If you don’t rigidly identify with groups, that means you’ll get more quality alone time (or at least the freedom to come up with your own thoughts and ideas). It’s during these moments of solitude that you get to know yourself, and allow for creative inspiration to come through.

    “The more powerful and original a mind, the more it will incline towards the religion of solitude.” -Aldous Huxley

    Solitude allows you to take a break from the incessant external noise, and tap into your inner awareness.

    9. Just being you allows your true self to shine through.

    As an individual, you have the flexibility to express your own brilliant uniqueness. You have absolute freedom to express your innate, one-of-a-kind creativity; something that is virtually impossible when you completely identify with a group. Attaching your identity to a group is like making a pact to suppress your intrinsic uniqueness; to be more like other people and less like your true self.

    Not expressing your individuality is a complete disservice to your unique existence.

    Why fit in, when we were meant to stand out?

    “If you celebrate your differentness, the world will, too. It believes exactly what you tell it—through the words you use to describe yourself, the actions you take to care for yourself, and the choices you make to express yourself. Tell the world you are one-of-a-kind creation who came here to experience wonder and spread joy. Expect to be accommodated.” -Victoria Moran

    10. The people who have made the biggest impact on the world have been distinct individuals.

    Think about the “great” people we’re all familiar with… Buddha, Jesus, Gandhi, Martin Luther King Jr, Leonardo Da Vinci…etc. Sure, some of them may have associated with groups, but they’re remembered for their brilliant individuality. They truly did their own thing, living their essence, and that’s what makes them so memorable. No one achieves any greatness by merely maintaining the status quo.

    Think about all  successful people, or people you admire as well. They’re all unmistakably themselves. If they merely blended in with the herd, they wouldn’t be who they are.

    “What attracts people to me is that I’m relentlessly me, to the point that it’s fucking weird.” -Elliott Hulse

    Groups aren’t inherently “bad.” Many groups can greatly contribute to one’s personal development and life experience. But rigidly attaching identity to groups is so limiting. 

    You don’t have to abandon every group you belong to and live the life of a hermit. Quite the opposite, in fact. Experience everything life has to offer, and draw upon as many people as possible to create your own unique journey.

    And remember… Just be you!

    “To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.” -Ralph Waldo Emerson

    Stay feelin’ good, feelin’ great.

    -Stevie P!

    Your Everyday Life is Changing the World

    (Warning: If you think you’re a powerless victim, you’re in for a rude awakening.)

    You have to do extravagant things to make any impact on the world, right?

    Like donate millions to charity, become an elected official or rescue an old lady from a burning building.

    Well here’s a little secret of the universe…

    Changing the world is simply a matter of changing yourself.

    “Be the change you wish to see in the world.” -Gandhi

    There’s a reason why Gandhi said this, instead of saying “go change what you don’t like.” He knew the paradigm-shifting truth of the ages… We have a profound and powerful effect on our “reality”. The change must start from within, and the rest falls into place. We’ve come a long way from “poor little me.”

    “We are not only observers. We are participators. In some strange sense this is a participatory universe.” -John Wheeler (pioneering physicist who coined the terms “black hole” and “wormhole”)

    With this comes a letting go of the illusion of separation. Everything is intimately interconnected…

    “Learn how to see. Realize that everything connects to everything else.” ― Leonardo da Vinci

     

    “A human being is a part of the whole called by us universe, a part limited in time and space. He experiences himself, his thoughts and feeling as something separated from the rest, a kind of optical delusion of his consciousness. This delusion is a kind of prison for us, restricting us to our personal desires and to affection for a few persons nearest to us. Our task must be to free ourselves from this prison by widening our circle of compassion to embrace all living creatures and the whole of nature in its beauty.” ― Albert Einstein

     

    “As above, so below, as below, so above – The same pattern expresses on all planes of existence, from the smallest electron to the largest star, and vice versa. Change yourself – change the whole.” -Cary Ellis

     

    “Quantum activism focuses both on individual and collective change. Today our activists perpetuate the separateness that creates the problems we want resolved. We ‘battle’ the perpetrators of the problems, negativity with negativity. Quantum activism will succeed where other activist movements failed because they are founded on separateness.” – Dr. Amit Goswami, Ph.D.

    Strengthen your character, pay it forward, change the world.

    Don’t underestimate the compounding effect of small, good deeds performed consistently over time.

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    Think about the possibilities if you compliment everyone you interact with. Even one small act of kindness could save someone from committing suicide.

    You really never know how profoundly you may affect someone…

    Maybe leaving a generous tip with a thank you letter at a restaurant could inspire the waitress to produce a brilliant painting. Maybe buying lunch for the person behind you inspires them to become pursue their dream of starting a charity.

    “I’m not saying I’m gonna change the world, but I guarantee that I will spark the brain that will change the world.” -Tupac Shakur

    I love that quote, because you really never know who you’re inspiring. (That’s why I’m doing this)

    There are so many wildly successful people who mention single acts of kindness that acted as the catalyst in pursuing their dream. Someone sparked that inner flame, that inner flame which lies in all of us.

    These acts can be as simple as saying thank you, holding the door for people, a passing smile, or a genuine compliment to a friend or family member. Even simply not getting angry can have far-reaching implications.

    Treat everyone with kindness and respect, and the world will emanate that much more kindness and respect.

    “I speak to everyone in the same way, whether he is the garbage man or the president of the university.” ― Albert Einstein

    “Paying it forward” creates a snowball effect. Think about how you feel when someone does something nice for you. The natural human reaction is to do something nice for someone else; to pay it forward. This results in a chain reaction of love, and that’s a beautiful thing.

    “No snowflake in an avalanche ever feels responsible.” -Voltaire

    Now think about this avalanche of kindness. More and more people become participants and love is spread at an ever-increasing rate. This will change the world as we know it, from a fear-based paradigm to a love-based paradigm.

    Imagine… Those who are submerging their self-confidence let it shine. Those who dismiss their brilliant creativity embrace it, bringing ingenious new ideas to the world. The fast food cashier leaves her job and earns a living sharing her gift of writing. The corporate executive realizes giving is better than taking and co-founds a non-profit organization. The slaughterhouse worker taps into his ingenuity and invents a new air conditioner that runs off of free energy. Imagine that.

    Hello paradigm shift.

    How your actions affect “reality”:

    “Every aspect of our lives is, in a sense, a vote for the kind of world we want to live in.” -Frances Moore Lappe

    Voting with your dollar. What are you spending money on every day? Every dollar you spend is a vote, an investment towards your support for something. We live in a consumerist society, so money we (as consumers) spend dictates what is supplied. The consumers hold the power, we just need to unite and focus that power.

    Will health-destroying fast food exist if no one buys it?

    Will clothing companies who use immoral labor practices exist if no one buys their clothing?

    And on the flip side, the more people that buy something, the bigger that niche gets. Look at “positive” things like organic foods, yoga, and “buying local” catching on like wildfire in recent years. That kind of change is inevitable when people shift their preferences, and thus their spending habits.

    Non-compliance. Non-compliance is as simple as choosing not to participate in destructive activities. Not polluting or littering. Not succumbing to peer pressure with destructive activities. Not treating other people badly. Any simple act of not participating in things that are not love-based.

    “The world is a dangerous place to live, not because of the people who are evil, but because of the people who don’t do anything about it.” ― Albert Einstein

     

    “Conflict cannot survive without your participation.” ― Wayne W. Dyer

    One example is that, from the perspective of a young man, there’s a subtle pressure to be a player. Sleep with women, treat them like objects and then ignore them. You know what I’m talking about. I practice non-compliance with this. I’m not celibate (that’s no fun), but I don’t perpetuate that dysfunctional, ego-driven behavior in intimate relationships. I treat everyone I encounter with kindness and respect, and strive to inspire those I do come into contact with in some way, even if it’s short-lived.

    And then there’s things like refusing military service.  Will wars happen if the youth refuse military service? (Ok, this isn’t really an “every day” thing. But it paints a picture of how effective non-compliance could be.)

    “The pioneers of a warless world are the young men (and women) who refuse military service.” – Albert Einstein

    How your state of being affects “reality”:

    Yes, your state of being is affecting the world around you. We’re co-creators of reality and our attention holds situations in place.

    “The world as we have created it is a process of our thinking. It cannot be changed without changing our thinking.” ― Albert Einstein

    Abuse tolerance. In the book The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz, he states that no one abuses you more than you abuse yourself. The level you abuse yourself is the level you will tolerate from others. Now picture this on the collective level. We need to love ourselves first, in order to remove our subconscious tolerance of abuse.

    The Universe begins to look more like a great thought than a machine.” -Sir James Jeans, British physicist

    Heart’s electromagnetic field. This what is called the aura, and why we feel people’s vibes. The heart’s electromagnetic field has been measured to radiate 8 feet out from the body. And it was only measured at 8 feet because that’s the limitation of the equipment used so far. It’s speculated that the heart’s electromagnetic field actually has the potential to expand for miles, if we’re operating in a state of love and gratitude. Check out my post “The Love Aura” for more details on this.

    Reality is a mirror. The external mirrors your internal state. And believe it or not, quantum physics is beginning to hint at this (the double-slit experiment, quantum entanglement, the holographic universe theory…etc).

    Our internal state determines what we see and experience on the “outside.” Our “reality” mirrors our fundamental beliefs.

    “Everything is energy and that’s all there is to it. Match the frequency of the reality you want and you cannot help but get that reality. It can be no other way. This is not philosophy. This is physics.” -Albert Einstein

    Uncle Al even told us about the law of attraction. Like attracts like.

    We all know, for example, the guy who somehow ends up getting into fights wherever he goes. Then there’s the people who walk barefoot across burning coals unscathed. How is this even possible!? The power of belief. (I highly recommend The Spontaneous Healing of Belief by Gregg Braden, which goes into great detail on all of this)

    Whatever we’re resonating (subconsciously and consciously), is what we get as our “reality.”

    Quote city…

    “The world is a mirror, forever reflecting what you see inside yourself.” -Neville Goddard

     

    “We don’t see things as they are, we see them as we are.” ― Anaïs Nin

     

    “Let us consider a piece of cheese. Where are it’s qualities? Not in the cheese, for different observers give different accounts of it. Not in ourselves, for we do not perceive them in the absence of the cheese. They are the result of the union, the seer and the seen, of subject and object.” -Robert Shea/Robert Anton Wilson

     

    “The state of your life is nothing more than a reflection of the state of your mind.” ― Wayne W. Dyer

     

    “Change the way you look at things and the things you look at change.” ― Wayne W. Dyer

    Meditation decreasing crime rates. Yes, you read that right. Group meditation has been shown to decrease crime rates. Mindblowing stuff.

    Reality is a lot stranger and more malleable than we’ve been conditioned to think. And that’s exciting.

    How to change the world, summed up in a few sentences:

    Be aware. Be aware of your state of being. Be aware of your actions and interactions. Be aware of what you support with your spending habits. Be aware of what you support with your attention. Because you’re so much more powerful than you think…

    Operate in love (as opposed to fear) and be solution-oriented with your actions (as opposed to merely dwelling on problems). And never underestimate the power of simple acts of kindness. Become your own ocean of love and light, and witness the currents of change sweep across the globe 🙂

    The shift starts within you. And it’s as simple as all those seemingly insignificant choices in your daily life.

    “A few of us will start this. I invite you to become a quantum activist with this resolution in mind: we can change ourselves and we can change the world simultaneously.” -Dr. Amit Goswami, Ph.D.

    Stay feelin’ good, feelin’ great. You’re profoundly changing the world.

    Much love.

    -Stevie P!

    PS- Did I put enough quotes in here? 😉

    Back to Your Essence

    I’m reaching out
    To pull you back to your essence

    That pure love
    You embodied as a child

    Do not bury it
    Do not hide your face

    Do not rob yourself
    Of your own radiant innocence

    You… are worth it
    You… are worthy

    No need to fear
    No need to worry
    No need for anxiety
    No need for guilt
    No need for shame
    It’s all illusion
    Smoke and mirrors

    Let your light shine

    No need to fit in
    We came here to stand out

    We came here to be free
    We came here to learn
    We came here to experience
    We came here to discover our true self
    Revelation through challenges

    You are the creator
    Of your greatest joys
    And deepest sorrows

    Self-love comes first
    Everything else follows

    Let go and fly
    Embrace your inner dove
    Remember who you are
    Infinite LOVE

     

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    A Message To My Twin Flame

    I wrote this a couple months ago and I’ve been sitting on it. So I figured putting it out there might help bring it to fruition, and maybe spark something within you (the reader) as well.

    My twin flame soul mate

    The other me

    I feel your presence
    I feel us calling out for each other

    We share the same essence
    Yet inhabit two bodies

    The day we coexist in this reality
    Already brings a smile to my face

    We will share experiences
    Explore together
    Grow together
    Better each other
    Uncover our true self together

    A celestial tag team
    In this magical game of life

    Our relationship will be a reflection
    Of the relationship within ourselves
    Heart-based, not ego-based
    Embracing love, letting go of fear
    We will share this experience of life
    Share joy
    Share happiness
    Share Love
    Love is meant to be shared, right?

    Revealing to each other
    As much as we reveal to our self

    Coexisting in blissful harmony

    The mere thought of one another
    Creates a soul-bursting smile

    Can you feel it?

    We already have an infinitely deep connection
    A unity which transcends space and time

    This is my call for our divine oneness to manifest in this reality

    My twin flame soul mate

    The other me

    I Love you

     

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