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How To Be An Alchemist When Faced With Rejection

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Rejection helped propel me to where I am now.

It was borderline comical at one point… I faced so much rejection and missed opportunities with women, to the extent that I thought something was wrong with me. But before I threw my hands up in defeat and hurled myself into to vicious cycle of self-pity, I used rejection as a major catalyst for self-improvement.

The story goes…

I was a virgin until I was 21, and not by (conscious) choice haha. I wasn’t comfortable with myself, desperate to fit in, had no genuine confidence and the assertiveness of a limp noodle. The perfect recipe for great (un)success in the female department. But on top of that, because of societal conditioning, I was hopelessly dead set on “getting girls.” It was like an eagle living on the ground just because all of the other creatures are doing it.

During college, I had a streak of (almost) sexual encounters that were painfully close to coming to fruition, but nothing happened. It was frustrating to say the least, but the Universe was welcomely whispering to me that I needed to be more self-confident and assertive.

I took heed. Instead of feeling sorry for myself, this series of experiences became a catalyst for my personal growth and development. It sparked something deep within, and I’ve been on a journey of continuous growth ever since.

Literally everything changed once I cultivated self-love and started to become comfortable in my own skin.

As Ralph Smart says, “love yourself 100%” because that’s the point from which everything else falls into place.

Note: I’m not saying that I changed and went all Wilt Chamberlain. I just honed the genuine confidence to go after what I wanted. Nothing was done out of spite, fear or ego, which is why I’m still on good terms with every woman I’ve had an intimate relationship with (oh heyyy, if you’re reading this). And this improvement carried over into every other aspect of life as well.

What actually sparked the idea for this post was an interesting weekend I recently had. I went out Friday and Saturday night in Portland, Maine (great little city btw). I must have talked to 30-40 different girls over the weekend (young women, if you want to be politically correct), but nothing came to fruition. It was a bit disheartening, but these so-called rejections are actually a blessing in disguise. Why? I’ll get to that soon.

The main point is this… Turn rejection into self-improvement, not self-pity.

“Every time I thought I was being rejected from something good, I was actually being re-directed to something better.” ― Steve Maraboli

 

It never seems like it in the moment, but with hindsight that quote always proves true.

Now let’s get to the action items…

How to change your perception of rejection (and become a ‘rejection alchemist’):

1. Don’t take things too seriously.

Why are you taking things so seriously? Let go and enjoy life. Drop all the self-created fear and step into your true potential. Not taking yourself, or the world too seriously, is a major factor in cultivating genuine happiness and self-confidence.

Have fun with your life, and you’ll end up attracting kindred spirits (see #3).

“I asked the girl at the coffee shop out on a date. Unfortunately she said no, probably because I asked her out to coffee.
” ― Jarod Kintz

 

2. Rejection is a tremendous learning opportunity.

Rejection reveals great opportunities to fine-tune yourself. It shows you of any character flaws you have, guiding you along the path of self-mastery.

It’s also an opportunity to stop overanalyzing everything; a sign to let go and unleash your unique brand of awesomeness.

“Bad luck with women is a determined man’s road to success. For every affliction, he makes, out of indignation, yet another advancement in order to exceed the man that the woman chose over him. This goes to show that great men are made great because they once learned how to fight the feeling of rejection.” ― Criss Jami

 

Use rejection as fuel for self-improvement. It provides a golden opportunity to get better at something, or a lot of things. Rejection lays out the path to continue growing into the greatest version of yourself.

3. You attract the same energy you put out.

“Everything is energy and that’s all there is to it. Match the frequency of the reality you want and you cannot help but get that reality. It can be no other way. This is not philosophy. This is physics.”

 

Like attracts like.

Sometimes those people just aren’t compatible with you on an energetic level. Maybe you’re looking in the wrong places. This is why I don’t have much “luck” in bars. Because the setting usually (though not all the time) attracts people with a certain energetic/mental-emotional state. And that state isn’t too compatible with where I’m at right now. I’m probably better off meeting women at a yoga studio or something like that. (Where my yoga girls at!?)

Be who you want to attract, live your own truth and reality eventually conforms.

4. Sometimes it’s just them.

Maybe they were too consumed with their own inner turmoil to see your awesomeness. Most people are too preoccupied with their own dysfunction to effectively interact with others. So don’t take it personally if people don’t respond well. Just don’t be captain creeper, of course.

Be yourself, without harming yourself or others, and let go. That’s what allows everything to naturally fall into place.

Every rejection presents potent opportunities to better yourself…

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Just as this blog is the mental/emotional manifestation of ‘rejection alchemy’, this picture is the physical manifestation. Self-improvement > self-pity.

 “Knowing others is intelligence; knowing yourself is true wisdom. Mastering others is strength; mastering yourself is true power.” -Lao Tzu

 

Our society focuses on manipulating or changing others to get what you desire, but changing yourself is the only way to bring about change.

Be grateful for everything you have, while continuously improving. Always grateful, never complacent.

Turn rejection into self-improvement, not self-pity.

Swords are only forged in intense heat. Diamonds are created only through immense pressure.

Uncover your inherent greatness.

Infinite Love.

-Stevie P!

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Earth Is Our Holy Land

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It’s become painfully obvious…

We’ve been getting played out for a long, long time; manipulated into the illusion of separation. We’re deviating from our essence of love, succumbing to fear, allowing ourselves to get dragged into senseless conflict and destroying our beautiful planet.

“Just look at us. Everything is backwards, everything is upside down. Doctors destroy health, lawyers destroy justice, psychiatrists destroy minds, scientists destroy truth, major media destroys information, religions destroy spirituality and governments destroy freedom.” -Michael Ellner

We all know, deep down, that it doesn’t have to be this way. Humanity is capable of so much more, and (thankfully) we’re seeing clearer glimpses of our potential every day.

We’re all unique, physical manifestations of infinite love, and the time has come to shine our light on Planet Earth.

Let Love Be the Guiding Force

“There are two basic motivating forces: fear and love. When we are afraid, we pull back from life. When we are in love, we open to all that life has to offer with passion, excitement, and acceptance. We need to learn to love ourselves first, in all our glory and our imperfections. If we cannot love ourselves, we cannot fully open to our ability to love others or our potential to create. Evolution and all hopes for a better world rest in the fearlessness and open-hearted vision of people who embrace life.” -John Lennon

Love is our essence. Fear is False Evidence Appearing Real… An illusion.

“I have been saying and writing for so many years that one sentence can encapsulate the totality of life, of existence, of being: Infinite Love is the Only Truth – Everything Else is Illusion.” -David Icke

Love is the answer to most, if not all, questions in life. Choose love, let go of fear and judgment; that’s when we unleash our dormant magnificence.

One evening an old Cherokee told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside people. He said, “My son, the battle is between 2 “wolves” inside us all. One is Evil (fear). It is anger, envy, jealousy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego. The other is Good (Love). It is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion, and faith.” The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather: “Which wolf wins?” The old Cherokee simply replied, “The one you feed.”

 

Rigid Belief Systems = Easy Manipulation

“We have to stop thinking in black and white and soften our rigid belief systems. This world is not black and white. Nothing is. If you have a rigid belief system that is not open to the endless subtleties of life, you become a manipulator’s party trick.” -David Icke

Rigid belief systems are based in fear (“believe what I say or suffer the consequences”), and being in fear makes us easily manipulated and controlled. When we operate in love (or as love), it is the ultimate freedom.

“Never belong to a crowd; Never belong to a nation; Never belong to a religion; Never belong to a race. Belong to the whole existence. Why limit yourself to small things? When the whole is available.” -Osho

Falling into other peoples’ molds is taking life for granted. When we embrace the fact that we’re all brilliantly unique expressions of infinity, the collective reality we experience has no choice but to change for the better.

See Through the Illusion (Or Get Played)

The world we’re living in is a grand illusion. We’re constantly fed is a massive deception.

Every major system that is in place is built on fear-based conditioning. The education (indoctrination) system, organized religion, healthcare (sick care), the media…etc.

Just turn on the news; it’s all fear mongering and propaganda, designed to paralyze our consciousness. When was the last time watching the news made you feel good? And anyone with half a brain sees through the utter nonsense perpetuated.

We get brainwashed into belief systems and manipulated into conflict. Divide and conquer works like a charm when we’re programmed with fear and see others as “different” merely because of asinine labels we put on everything. Jews, Muslims, Christians, Americans, New Yorkers, Whites, Blacks, Republicans, Democrats…etc. Attaching our identity to these labels is what sets us up to be easily divided and conquered. It’s this rigid categorization that positions us as pawns for malevolent agendas.

So many get manipulated into anger and violence through fear-based conditioning and viewing fellow humans as something different from themselves. When we drop the labels and see everyone as another aspect of ourselves, we simply won’t be coerced into harming anyone.

The pathetic “elite” love war, violence, death, destruction and anything based in fear. War is immensely profitable for them. War creates more control. War is a massive fear generator, and they literally live off of our fear. (See David Icke’s books for a ridiculous amount of information and evidence on this stuff.)

Here’s an interesting excerpt from “The Active Side of Infinity” by Carlos Castaneda (quoting his supposed mentor Dan Juan Mathus):

We have a predator that came from the depths of the cosmos and took over our lives. Human Beings are its prisoners. The predator is our lord and master. It has rendered us docile, helpless. If we want to protest, it suppresses our protest. If we want to act independently, it demands that we don’t do so. Indeed, we are held prisoner. They took us over, because we are food to them, and they squeeze us mercilessly because we are their sustenance. Just as we rear chickens in coops, they rear us in human coops. Therefore, their food is always available to them. Think for a moment and tell me how you would explain the contradictions between the intelligence of man, the engineer and the stupidity of his belief systems, or the stupidity of his contradictory behavior. Sorcerers believe that the Predators have given us our systems of belief, our ideas of good and evil, our social morals. They are the ones who set up our beliefs of success or failure. They have given us covetedness, greed, and cowardice. It is the Predator who makes us complacent, routinary and egomanical. In order to keep us obedient and weak, the Predators engage themselves in a stupendous maneuver. Stupendous of course from the point of view of a fighting strategist. A horrendous maneuver from the point of view from those who suffer it. They gave us their mind. The predator’s mind is baroque, contradictory, morose, and filled with the fear of being discovered any minute now.

 

Don’t feed the parasite with fear. We must choose love in order to free ourselves.

And here’s an incredibly potent song by Black Sabbath:

“Generals gathered in their masses
Just like witches at black masses
Evil minds that plot destruction
Sorcerers of death’s construction
In the fields the bodies burning
As the war machine keeps turning
Death and hatred to mankind
Poisoning their brainwashed minds… Oh Lord yeah!

Politicians hide themselves away
They only started the war
Why should they go out to fight?
They leave that role to the poor, yeah

Time will tell on their power minds
Making war just for fun
Treating people just like pawns in chess
Wait ’till their Judgment day comes, yeah!”

Non-Compliance

The way to bring about change is to not participate in the insanity. The madness simply cannot exist if we don’t take part in it. It’s as simple as that. Toxic fast food won’t be manufactured if people don’t eat it. Health-wrecking pharmaceutical drugs won’t be produced when people stop buying them. War will not exist when people refuse to kill each other.

“The pioneers of a warless world are the youth who refuse military service.” -Albert Einstein

“Non-violence is the greatest force at the disposal of mankind. It is mightier than the mightiest weapon of destruction devised by the ingenuity of man.” -Gandhi

We’re holding up the house of cards out of fear; it’s about time we walk away and build something better.

It is only through releasing the old that we can bring about the new.

We must stop compromising our morals for money and ego. We must stop sacrificing our essence out of fear. It’s time we step into our power, and as Gandhi so eloquently said, “be the change we wish to see in the world.”

We’re far more powerful than we’ve been conditioned to think…

A New Day is Rising

“I’m American born, love America, love my people, love all mankind, all nationalities you know. I think it’s just recently where everybody just started to feel like there was an elite group that runs everything, and everybody else was sheep, ignorant, making all ethnicities, colors and creeds, niggers, blind to what really is going on. So I say take off the wool from your eyes. Out with the old America in with the new. End all racism, all injustice, all oppression to poor people, any people anywhere in this planet. Let’s come together: a new day is rising.” -Nas

More and more people are waking up to the true nature of everything. Many are now seeing through the illusion,choosing love over fear and helping to bring about change to our planet.

New and improved solutions, that are actually beneficial to humanity, are being developed in all aspects of life (energy sources, education, nutrition, economic systems…etc). We’re seeing glimpses of greatness amidst the chaos of the world. Change is happening fast. Change is happening now.

“Just before you break the sound barrier, the cockpit shakes the most.” -Chuck Yeager

Oh, it’s shaking alright. And we’re about to break out of the matrix we’ve been held in for so long.

Wake up, sleeping giants. Step into your inherent power.

When we choose love, it will collectively manifest in all forms, and in every aspect of life.

Get ready for a new paradigm.

Infinite Love.

-Stevie P!

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3 Quotes To Help You Fully Experience Life

A little picture I took at Fort Williams Park, Maine.

A little picture I took at Fort Williams Park, Maine.

Life is defined by experiences…

Our experiences make us who we are. Experiences mold our character and sculpt our unique personality.

It is through a diverse array of experiences that makes the most interesting people who they are. These experiences come to fruition when we consciously choose to step out of our comfort zone. When we travel to different places, learn a new skill, or really do anything new (no matter how small). This is what allows our true essence to manifest through our character.

So without too much rambling, here’s the 3 quotes that will help you fully experience life. These quotes deeply resonate with me and act as the spark for me to experience everything life has to offer (while embracing and enjoying every moment).

3 Quotes To Help You Fully Experience Life

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“Experience life in all possible ways — good-bad, bitter-sweet, dark-light, summer-winter. Experience all the dualities. Don’t be afraid of experience, because the more experience you have, the more mature you become.” – Osho

 

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“Never forget that you are not in the world; the world is in you. When anything happens to you, take the experience inward. Creation is set up to bring you constant hints and clues about your role as co-creator. Your soul is metabolizing experience as surely as your body is metabolizing food” – Deepak Chopra

 

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“The purpose of life is to live it, to taste experience to the utmost, to reach out eagerly and without fear for newer and richer experience.” – Eleanor Roosevelt

 

Just let those sink in for a little…

Then go out there, and like Osho said, “experience life in all possible ways.”

My Recent Experiences

I’ve been traveling a lot for work in recent weeks, spending a lot of time in Portland, Maine. And I’ve experienced so much in such a short amount of time. I’ve tried a different restaurant every night; sampled dozens of local, craft beers; met so many random, awesome people; explored the surrounding countryside and coastline; the list goes on. I’m truly living in the moment; spontaneously doing whatever my heart tells me. It’s led me on some great adventures and I absolutely love it. I’m just going with the flow, and feeling magically alive.

Marcus… aka Marcus the Maine Event

I can’t discuss truly experiencing life without mentioning my friend Marcus, who I met through work in Portland. This guy most definitely epitomizes everything discussed in this post, and he is the living embodiment of those quotes. Marcus has had such a multitude of diverse experiences, and not surprisingly, he’s probably the most interesting person I’ve ever met. There is no fear behind his motivations in life; he simply lives through the love of experience.

Marcus has owned his own company, traveled the world, been rich, been broke, partied with “royalty” and the mega-rich, and meditated with gurus. He even took a six month “retirement” in which he gave up everything and lived without using fossil fuels at all (he’s a hippie at heart), getting around mostly by bicycle. That’s just the tip of the iceberg. He experiences life from every angle, all while leveraging the power of the present moment. Marcus has stories for lifetimes. The guy just loves to experience everything, resulting in the wildly interesting, entertaining character that he is (his true self). And I genuinely admire that.

Go and experience everything life has to offer.

Truly live, instead of just merely existing. Do some crazy shit; but do it from a place of love. Step out of your comfort zone. Try something new. Be spontaneous. Follow your heart. Follow your excitement. Be weird. Be uniquely you. Feel deeply alive in every moment.

Enjoy this wonderfully fleeting life of yours.

Much love.

-Stevie P!

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Fuck Your Victim Mentality

(Pardon the rather blunt title, but this article is the proverbial cold shower. It’s time to wake up and feel alive.)

Why do you constantly need to be a victim?

Why are you arguing for limitation? Don’t you want to be empowered?

Are you addicted to the victim mentality?

Have you attached your identity with being a victim?

So many people are addicted to being a victim. It’s a coping mechanism to the “obstacles” we face in life.

The victim mentality is a choice. You always have the choice, in every situation.

Seriously, why the fuck are you choosing victimhood over empowerment? Why?

As Darth Vader put it, “I find your lack of faith disturbing.”

You are the master of the internal, and the external is merely a manifestation of the internal. You don’t see the world as it is, you see the world as YOU ARE.

Being a victim is depriving yourself of your own immense strength. Saying “I can’t” is an act of suicide on your potential self. Complaining is resistance to the present moment, resistance to all that is.

“When you complain, you make yourself a victim. Leave the situation or accept it. All else is madness.” -Eckhart Tolle

Yes, life is difficult for everyone (some more than others), but you have the choice of whether to view difficulties as challenges to overcome, or as an excuse to say “poor me.”

Think about life as like a video game. Would playing Super Mario be fun if you just walked to the right the whole time, with no obstacles? Hell no. The experience is defined by overcoming challenges!

“What you call a setback, I call a challenge,
If I fall I know I’ll get back, it’s all a balance.” -Crooked I

“A pessimist sees the difficulty in every opportunity; an optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty.” -Winston Churchill

Do you really want to be happy? Then choose to be happy! Happiness is not some magical scenario at the end of the rainbow. Happiness is your choice, right now.

Unleash your inner lion; live your strength.

Unleash your inner lion; live your strength.

10 Reasons Why Having a Victim Mentality is Completely Useless:

1. You have the choice!

You have the choice to choose happiness or sadness. You have the choice to choose love or fear. You have the choice to be offended or not. You have the choice of being a victim or being empowered. You have the choice in every moment. So why would you choose to be a victim!? That’s insanity. Empower, overcome and have fun.

“The choice is yours in every moment to create beauty or misery, happiness or pain.” –Ralph Smart

2. You influence your reality.

You create your own reality. The effect of consciousness on reality is being proven on so many levels…

Look into:  the double-slit experiment, the placebo effect, the law of attraction…etc. Also, check out this article, 10 Scientific Studies That Prove Consciousness Can Alter Our Physical Material World.

Entertain this possibility, and you develop your inherent power.

Even if you have a hard to entertaining these things, think about it this way… Your thoughts dictate your beliefs, your beliefs dictate your actions, and your actions dictate your situation. Change your thoughts, change your beliefs, change your actions, change your situation. It’s as simple as that.

Take responsibility back. Response-ability is literally the ability to respond. Embrace it.

“We are not only observers. We are participators. In some strange sense this is a participatory universe.” -John Wheeler (pioneering physicist who coined the terms “black hole” and “wormhole”)

So why are you choosing to be a victim? It’s ludicrous. It’s like being given a hammer, and instead of building a house, you just continuously hit yourself on the foot with it. And that’s what so many people are doing with their lives.

Use the power of your consciousness to achieve your dreams, instead of sabotaging them.

“Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t–you’re right.” -Henry Ford

3. You attract what you are.

If you hold onto a victim mentality, guess what you’ll get?

“A victim mentality creates a victim reality.” -David Icke

If you’re a victim, you’ll attract people and situations that will further victimize you. If you’re empowered, you’ll attract people and situation that will further empower you.

Like attracts like. You reap what you sow. The law of attraction.

“Everything is energy and that’s all there is to it. Match the frequency of the reality you want and you cannot help but get that reality. It can be no other way. This is not philosophy. This is physics.” -Albert Einstein

4. It’s so limiting.

Anyone who has achieved anything great was the antithesis of a victim. Would you break any record as a victim? Or accomplish anything noteworthy? Nope!

A victim mentality is self-created, false limitation.

Why would you ever argue for your own limitation? Stop it. Break free.

“Argue for your limitations and, sure enough, they’re yours.” -Richard Bach

5. Do you want to be the driver, or a passenger?

Do you want to control your own destiny? Or be a victim, at the mercy of external forces? Ask yourself that every time you find yourself complaining or acting like a whiny little victim. Take the wheel back, and drive your car to your rightful destiny.

6. Empowerment is awesome.

Make the conscious decision to be empowered and you feel strong, physically, mentally, and spiritually. It’s literally just the flip of a switch; a simple choice. The beautiful thing is that a positive, empowered mentality permeates every level of existence and allows everything to fall into place. You embrace life, instead of resisting life, making it infinitely more fun, interesting and enjoyable.

I don’t know about you, but I would rather operate in the paradigm of empowerment instead of perpetual victimhood. But that’s just me.

7. Less pain, more fun. (The power of positivity)

Because really, it’s no fun being a victim. People just cling to it because it becomes familiar, it’s a part of their identity and they’re addicted to it.  Drop the victim mentality and enjoy life. Experience life without constantly being in fear.

“Life begins where fear ends.” -Osho

Positivity is a force to be reckoned with, and a superpower we can all harness. A positive attitude strengthens the mind, body and spirit, and makes life quite delightful.

People with positive attitudes live longer, and have more fun doing so…
(Check out these articles)
Centenarians’ Positive Attitude Linked to Long Life
Positive Thinking On Aging Helps Seniors Heal: Study
Do Positive People Live Longer?

“I’d rather be an optimist and a fool than a pessimist and right.” -Albert Einstein

8. Victim mentality = covering your awesomeness

With a victim mentality, you’re robbing yourself of your true essence. You’re denying yourself of your true potential.

It’s a disservice to both yourself and to those around you. When you become a stronger version of yourself, you not only help yourself, but inspire those around you as well.

9. As a “victim” you make life more difficult for those around you.

As a victim, you become a burden (a burden to both yourself and others). You impose your limitations on others as well. When you hold a victim mentality, others have to pick up your slack. Instead of acting as wings, you become a dead weight to both yourself and those around you.

A victim mentality makes you a complete buzz kill too. And people don’t like being around negative, disempowered people. Life is to be enjoyed.

“The truth is that existence wants your life to become a festival… Because when you are unhappy, you also throw unhappiness all around. ” -Osho

10. You welcome dis-harmony and dis-ease.

Your mind state effects your body (see point #2). Positive people are less likely to get sick (see articles in point #7). If you marinate in negative thoughts, they will manifest physically (think about the power of the placebo effect). An example we’re all familiar with is stress. Victims always find something to stress about. Stress causes tension in both the mind and body. Stress releases the hormone cortisol, which if chronically elevated, leads to a whole host of problems. Continuous stress also produces inflammatory responses in the body, which leads to dysfunction and dis-ease.

How stress influences disease: Study reveals inflammation as the culprit
8 Stress-Busting Tips from Experts

11. A victim mentality is complete dependence.

If you’re a victim, you become dependent on everything other than yourself. Dependent on other people. Dependent on external things for your happiness. Dependent on government. Dependent on material goods. Dependent on foods. Dependent on substances. Addiction in all of its forms thrives off of the victim mentality. A victim mentality perpetuates all kinds of fear-based, limiting beliefs and dependency.

Empowerment liberates you from all of this. It’s a simple choice, in every moment.

12. You feed the parasite.

Most would agree that the situation on planet Earth right now is far from the peaceful utopia it could be. Think about the collective fuckedupness that exists…

This idea of an intangible force that we all feed is everywhere. Eckhart Tolle calls it the “collective pain-body” in A New Earth, Don Miguel Ruiz calls it “the parasite” in The Four Agreements, Carlos Castaneda refers to psychic parasites in his books, The Gnostics called them archons, David Icke refers to them as reptilians, in Christianity you have demons, in Islam you have djinn…etc.

If you’re a victim, you’re feeding this parasite. Don’t contribute to the woes of the world. Stop feeding the parasite and cultivate something positive instead.

“The secret of change is to focus all of your energy, not on fighting the old, but on building the new.” -Socrates

13. You miss out on the magic of being a dreamer.

There’s a certain magic to life when you become a dreamer. It’s like going from black and white to high definition. Everything becomes wondrous. It’s that blissful world of imagination that you immersed yourself in as a child.

Get out of the doldrums and step into the field of dreams.

Be a dreamer. No one who has ever made a great impact on the world has been a realist.

“You may say I’m a dreamer
But I’m not the only one
I hope someday you’ll join us
And the world will live as one.”
-John Lennon

Don’t succumb to the illusion of victimhood (I say illusion because it’s merely a crafty trick of the mind/ego).  Let go of the bullshit victim mentality, uncover your true self and step into your infinite potential. You deserve it.

Much love,

-Stevie P!

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Your Everyday Life is Changing the World

(Warning: If you think you’re a powerless victim, you’re in for a rude awakening.)

You have to do extravagant things to make any impact on the world, right?

Like donate millions to charity, become an elected official or rescue an old lady from a burning building.

Well here’s a little secret of the universe…

Changing the world is simply a matter of changing yourself.

“Be the change you wish to see in the world.” -Gandhi

There’s a reason why Gandhi said this, instead of saying “go change what you don’t like.” He knew the paradigm-shifting truth of the ages… We have a profound and powerful effect on our “reality”. The change must start from within, and the rest falls into place. We’ve come a long way from “poor little me.”

“We are not only observers. We are participators. In some strange sense this is a participatory universe.” -John Wheeler (pioneering physicist who coined the terms “black hole” and “wormhole”)

With this comes a letting go of the illusion of separation. Everything is intimately interconnected…

“Learn how to see. Realize that everything connects to everything else.” ― Leonardo da Vinci

 

“A human being is a part of the whole called by us universe, a part limited in time and space. He experiences himself, his thoughts and feeling as something separated from the rest, a kind of optical delusion of his consciousness. This delusion is a kind of prison for us, restricting us to our personal desires and to affection for a few persons nearest to us. Our task must be to free ourselves from this prison by widening our circle of compassion to embrace all living creatures and the whole of nature in its beauty.” ― Albert Einstein

 

“As above, so below, as below, so above – The same pattern expresses on all planes of existence, from the smallest electron to the largest star, and vice versa. Change yourself – change the whole.” -Cary Ellis

 

“Quantum activism focuses both on individual and collective change. Today our activists perpetuate the separateness that creates the problems we want resolved. We ‘battle’ the perpetrators of the problems, negativity with negativity. Quantum activism will succeed where other activist movements failed because they are founded on separateness.” – Dr. Amit Goswami, Ph.D.

Strengthen your character, pay it forward, change the world.

Don’t underestimate the compounding effect of small, good deeds performed consistently over time.

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Think about the possibilities if you compliment everyone you interact with. Even one small act of kindness could save someone from committing suicide.

You really never know how profoundly you may affect someone…

Maybe leaving a generous tip with a thank you letter at a restaurant could inspire the waitress to produce a brilliant painting. Maybe buying lunch for the person behind you inspires them to become pursue their dream of starting a charity.

“I’m not saying I’m gonna change the world, but I guarantee that I will spark the brain that will change the world.” -Tupac Shakur

I love that quote, because you really never know who you’re inspiring. (That’s why I’m doing this)

There are so many wildly successful people who mention single acts of kindness that acted as the catalyst in pursuing their dream. Someone sparked that inner flame, that inner flame which lies in all of us.

These acts can be as simple as saying thank you, holding the door for people, a passing smile, or a genuine compliment to a friend or family member. Even simply not getting angry can have far-reaching implications.

Treat everyone with kindness and respect, and the world will emanate that much more kindness and respect.

“I speak to everyone in the same way, whether he is the garbage man or the president of the university.” ― Albert Einstein

“Paying it forward” creates a snowball effect. Think about how you feel when someone does something nice for you. The natural human reaction is to do something nice for someone else; to pay it forward. This results in a chain reaction of love, and that’s a beautiful thing.

“No snowflake in an avalanche ever feels responsible.” -Voltaire

Now think about this avalanche of kindness. More and more people become participants and love is spread at an ever-increasing rate. This will change the world as we know it, from a fear-based paradigm to a love-based paradigm.

Imagine… Those who are submerging their self-confidence let it shine. Those who dismiss their brilliant creativity embrace it, bringing ingenious new ideas to the world. The fast food cashier leaves her job and earns a living sharing her gift of writing. The corporate executive realizes giving is better than taking and co-founds a non-profit organization. The slaughterhouse worker taps into his ingenuity and invents a new air conditioner that runs off of free energy. Imagine that.

Hello paradigm shift.

How your actions affect “reality”:

“Every aspect of our lives is, in a sense, a vote for the kind of world we want to live in.” -Frances Moore Lappe

Voting with your dollar. What are you spending money on every day? Every dollar you spend is a vote, an investment towards your support for something. We live in a consumerist society, so money we (as consumers) spend dictates what is supplied. The consumers hold the power, we just need to unite and focus that power.

Will health-destroying fast food exist if no one buys it?

Will clothing companies who use immoral labor practices exist if no one buys their clothing?

And on the flip side, the more people that buy something, the bigger that niche gets. Look at “positive” things like organic foods, yoga, and “buying local” catching on like wildfire in recent years. That kind of change is inevitable when people shift their preferences, and thus their spending habits.

Non-compliance. Non-compliance is as simple as choosing not to participate in destructive activities. Not polluting or littering. Not succumbing to peer pressure with destructive activities. Not treating other people badly. Any simple act of not participating in things that are not love-based.

“The world is a dangerous place to live, not because of the people who are evil, but because of the people who don’t do anything about it.” ― Albert Einstein

 

“Conflict cannot survive without your participation.” ― Wayne W. Dyer

One example is that, from the perspective of a young man, there’s a subtle pressure to be a player. Sleep with women, treat them like objects and then ignore them. You know what I’m talking about. I practice non-compliance with this. I’m not celibate (that’s no fun), but I don’t perpetuate that dysfunctional, ego-driven behavior in intimate relationships. I treat everyone I encounter with kindness and respect, and strive to inspire those I do come into contact with in some way, even if it’s short-lived.

And then there’s things like refusing military service.  Will wars happen if the youth refuse military service? (Ok, this isn’t really an “every day” thing. But it paints a picture of how effective non-compliance could be.)

“The pioneers of a warless world are the young men (and women) who refuse military service.” – Albert Einstein

How your state of being affects “reality”:

Yes, your state of being is affecting the world around you. We’re co-creators of reality and our attention holds situations in place.

“The world as we have created it is a process of our thinking. It cannot be changed without changing our thinking.” ― Albert Einstein

Abuse tolerance. In the book The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz, he states that no one abuses you more than you abuse yourself. The level you abuse yourself is the level you will tolerate from others. Now picture this on the collective level. We need to love ourselves first, in order to remove our subconscious tolerance of abuse.

The Universe begins to look more like a great thought than a machine.” -Sir James Jeans, British physicist

Heart’s electromagnetic field. This what is called the aura, and why we feel people’s vibes. The heart’s electromagnetic field has been measured to radiate 8 feet out from the body. And it was only measured at 8 feet because that’s the limitation of the equipment used so far. It’s speculated that the heart’s electromagnetic field actually has the potential to expand for miles, if we’re operating in a state of love and gratitude. Check out my post “The Love Aura” for more details on this.

Reality is a mirror. The external mirrors your internal state. And believe it or not, quantum physics is beginning to hint at this (the double-slit experiment, quantum entanglement, the holographic universe theory…etc).

Our internal state determines what we see and experience on the “outside.” Our “reality” mirrors our fundamental beliefs.

“Everything is energy and that’s all there is to it. Match the frequency of the reality you want and you cannot help but get that reality. It can be no other way. This is not philosophy. This is physics.” -Albert Einstein

Uncle Al even told us about the law of attraction. Like attracts like.

We all know, for example, the guy who somehow ends up getting into fights wherever he goes. Then there’s the people who walk barefoot across burning coals unscathed. How is this even possible!? The power of belief. (I highly recommend The Spontaneous Healing of Belief by Gregg Braden, which goes into great detail on all of this)

Whatever we’re resonating (subconsciously and consciously), is what we get as our “reality.”

Quote city…

“The world is a mirror, forever reflecting what you see inside yourself.” -Neville Goddard

 

“We don’t see things as they are, we see them as we are.” ― Anaïs Nin

 

“Let us consider a piece of cheese. Where are it’s qualities? Not in the cheese, for different observers give different accounts of it. Not in ourselves, for we do not perceive them in the absence of the cheese. They are the result of the union, the seer and the seen, of subject and object.” -Robert Shea/Robert Anton Wilson

 

“The state of your life is nothing more than a reflection of the state of your mind.” ― Wayne W. Dyer

 

“Change the way you look at things and the things you look at change.” ― Wayne W. Dyer

Meditation decreasing crime rates. Yes, you read that right. Group meditation has been shown to decrease crime rates. Mindblowing stuff.

Reality is a lot stranger and more malleable than we’ve been conditioned to think. And that’s exciting.

How to change the world, summed up in a few sentences:

Be aware. Be aware of your state of being. Be aware of your actions and interactions. Be aware of what you support with your spending habits. Be aware of what you support with your attention. Because you’re so much more powerful than you think…

Operate in love (as opposed to fear) and be solution-oriented with your actions (as opposed to merely dwelling on problems). And never underestimate the power of simple acts of kindness. Become your own ocean of love and light, and witness the currents of change sweep across the globe 🙂

The shift starts within you. And it’s as simple as all those seemingly insignificant choices in your daily life.

“A few of us will start this. I invite you to become a quantum activist with this resolution in mind: we can change ourselves and we can change the world simultaneously.” -Dr. Amit Goswami, Ph.D.

Stay feelin’ good, feelin’ great. You’re profoundly changing the world.

Much love.

-Stevie P!

PS- Did I put enough quotes in here? 😉

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6 Steps To Program Yourself For Happiness And Success

I want you to answer this question honestly…

How are you programming yourself?

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Are you conditioning yourself to your benefit or detriment? Are you programming yourself with love or fear? Are you brainwashing yourself to be empowered and positive, or a disempowered victim? What stories are you telling yourself?

Whatever you program yourself with becomes your experience; your reality.

“Just as your conscious mind can be thought of as the gardener, planting seeds, your subconscious mind can be thought of as the garden, or fertile soil, in which the seeds germinate and grow. 

Your conscious mind commands and your subconscious mind obeys. Your subconscious mind is an unquestioning servant that works day and night to make your behavior fits a pattern consistent with your emotionalized thoughts, hopes, and desires. Your subconscious mind grows either flowers or weeds in the garden of your life, whichever you plant by the mental equivalents you create.” -Brian Tracy

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The conscious mind can only hold one thought at a time. You always have the choice of what that one conscious thought is, and you can always change it.

You reap what you sew. Keep planting seeds of love and empowerment, and that’s what you’ll reap.

You’re the gatekeeper. You can let demons or angels into your royal kingdom. The choice is up to you…

“One evening an old Cherokee Indian told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside people. He said, ‘My son, the battle is between two ‘wolves’ inside us all. One is evil. It is anger, envy, jealousy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.

The other is good. It is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion and faith.’

The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather: ‘Which wolf wins?’

The old Cherokee simply replied, ‘The one you feed.’”

We create “reality”…

Placebo Effect – Think about how crazy the Placebo Effect is! Have you ever really wrapped your head around it? It’s a phenomenon in which people’s beliefs cause physical changes. That’s mind-blowing. The placebo effect is a testament to the ability of our consciousness to influence “physical reality.”

Dr. Emoto’s Water Experiments – Another example of consciousness affecting reality is Dr. Emoto’s water experiments. Dr. Emoto would subject water to various stimuli (words, phrases, music…etc), and then quickly freeze them so they crystallize. The results were amazing. Water crystals subjected to love-based stimuli would form beautiful, harmonious structures, while crystals subjected to not-of-love stimuli would would be disharmonious. Intriguing, eh?

Double-slit experiment – Then there’s the famous double-slit experiment… This experiment has repeatedly shown that matter is not what we thought it was, and that the behavior of particles change when they are being observed. This (again) hints at the effect of consciousness on “reality.”  Here’s a great video explaining the double-slit experiment:

Check this article out for more on these topics – 10 Scientific Studies That Prove Consciousness Can Alter Our Physical Material World

The field of possibilities… 
Many who study quantum physics and the fundamental structures of “reality” hypothesize that everything exists as a “field of possibility.” That everything is fundamentally wave-form, and brought to fruition (as “physical reality”) only when conscious attention is placed upon this field. This is science echoing the age-old spiritual teachings of oneness and creating our own reality. Empowering, right?

“Space is not empty. It is full, a plenum as opposed to a vacuum, and is the ground for the existence of everything, including ourselves. The universe is not separate from this cosmic sea of energy.” -David Bohm (theoretical physicist and mentor of Albert Einstein)

For a spectacular presentation of these concepts, check out “Divine Matrix” by Gregg Braden…

The Law of Attraction…
The law of attraction is the belief that “like attracts like.” What you put out into the world is what you receive. You reap what you sew. The law of attraction entails creating your own reality (empowering, right?). “Reality” is more malleable and dynamic than we’ve been conditioned to think. And after studying subjects like quantum physics, these kind of ideas seem less “New-Agey” and more self-evident.

Ok, let’s bring it back to the ground now…

Common sense…
You act, consciously and subconsciously, according to what you believe. For example, if you believe you don’t deserve a girlfriend or boyfriend, you will create that reality. You’ll have bad posture, unconfident communicative abilities, and a lack of that love aura. So then, consequently, you won’t attract a girlfriend/boyfriend. What you believe is what you get. Our beliefs determine our thoughts, emotions, actions, interactions, and thus our experience in life.

“We all tell ourselves stories. We define ourselves with our stories. Is your story helpful?” -Elliott Hulse

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How to program yourself for success and happiness (or anything else you wish to BE or attain):

1. Awareness. This is the most crucial thing for any kind of personal development. You must first be aware of your thoughts in order to change them.

“KEY THOUGHT – When you choose to be aware of behavior patterns that don’t serve you, you are in a position to change them. That’s empowerment.” -dr. michael ryce

The best way to develop awareness of your thoughts is to consistently meditate (even if only for a few minutes). Here’s a really helpful list of tips on meditation.

2. Stop the negative thought patterns. Once you become aware of your thoughts, you will then begin catching the negative thoughts as they arise. Simply observe and let go of them. As you do this, they’ll become less and less frequent. Soon enough you’ll be able to transcend the negative thought patterns and consciously program yourself to your benefit.

Piece of advice – Reduce the amount of news you watch (and TV in general). It’s overwhelmingly fear-based, and will further exacerbate negative thought patterns. It’s called ” television programming” for a reason. Don’t be a victim of mass fear-mongering, consciously program yourself to your benefit.

3. Plant the seeds you want. Use your self-awareness to consciously program empowering and loving thoughts into your psyche. Your self-talk should be like talking to a young child, gentle, encouraging and empowering. Be aware of what you say to yourself, as that is the experience you get.

Techniques to plant the seeds you want:

~Affirmations. Affirmations are empowering phrases that are consistently repeated, programming the subconscious mind. With affirmations, it’s crucial to affirm that your desire IS happening. The Universe works in bringing you what you believe in the present moment; what you are projecting in the eternal now. Repeated affirmations upgrade the programming system (your subconscious) in which you operate on.

Here are some examples:
If you want good health…
“I am healthy and strong.”
If you want to attract money…
“I am experiencing money flowing easily into my life.”

Note: A lot of effective affirmations start with “I am…” When you powerfully affirm that it IS, it will come to fruition.

Huffington Post – 35 Affirmations That Will Change Your Life

~Visualization. Successful athletes are well-known for using visualization to optimize performance. Visualize what you desire like it IS happening right now (like with affirmations). Imagine and experience the visualization with all your senses. Become fully immersed, and you will help bring your vision to fruition. Visualize the action and actualize the vision. Consistently imagine the taste of success, and you will inevitably taste success.

“For example, one study had novice weightlifters imagine that they were performing a bicep curl exercise three times a week for eight weeks. The participants did notactually do any bicep curls or any other elbow flexion training during that time. However, they still gained strength in both the elbow flexors and extensors (44 and 32 percent increase in strength, respectively). A second study found that college athletes who performed visualization before strength training had more confidence and lifted more weight in a leg press exercise than they had done before without imagery. “ -Charles Poliquin

4. Move in the direction you want to go. Take action. Work towards your desires. If you want to get stronger, start lifting weights. If you want to become a better writer, read and write more. If you want to find your soul mate, be more open and do more things to meet people.

“Knowing is not enough; we must apply. Willing is not enough; we must do.” – Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

5. Consistently apply steps 1-4. 

See my article “Use This Strategy To Accomplish Anything (Part 1)” for a reminder of how ridiculously effective consistency is.

6. Reap the benefits and continue on the wonderful journey of life. 

And, of course, stay feelin’ good, feelin’ great.

Much Love.

-Stevie P!

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Dive Into The Human Experience

“The person who has lived the most is not the one with the most years but the one with the richest experiences.” 

                 -Jean-Jacques Rousseau

Life is defined by experiences.

Moments that ripple through time, enriching the ever-present now of our existence.

That’s why, in my opinion, experiences are infinitely more valuable than any material good (besides the necessities for survival of course).

And speaking of experiences, I went on vacation last week! Woo wooo! It was a six day cruise in the Caribbean on the awesome Carnival Breeze, and I’m basking in gratitude for the experience.

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Vacations like this epitomize what I call “the 3D human experience.” Food. Drinks. Partying. Flirting. Dancing. Singing. Socializing. Spectacular scenery. Sunsets over the sea. All things that exemplify our experience on this plane (or boat 😉 ) of existence.

We, as human beings, are much more than meets the eye though. Like the old saying goes… We’re not human beings having a spiritual experience, we’re spiritual beings having a human experience.

However, I’ve noticed that as many of us go through a “spiritual awakening”, we often find it difficult to stay grounded and fully immerse ourselves in this material world we’re inhabiting. I like to call this “floating on the ceiling.” And the thing is that if you’re too identified with being a “spiritual being”, you’ll miss out on the wonderful 3D experience at your fingertips.

My man Osho said something along the lines of “A spiritual man is just as comfortable in a bustling village as he is meditating on a mountain by himself.” I couldn’t agree more. (Note: Osho is referenced multiple times in this article, and for good reason. He delivers this message perfectly, with a healthy sense of humor.)

The whole point of this human experience is to dive in. Fully embrace it. Live, learn, laugh, have fun, connect with others and experience as much as possible.

“Experience life in all possible ways — good-bad, bitter-sweet, dark-light, summer-winter. Experience all the dualities. Don’t be afraid of experience, because the more experience you have, the more mature you become.” -Osho

That’s what I realized that I was embodying on the cruise.

I usually eat healthy, but I indulged. I ate what I wanted, and made damn sure that I enjoyed every morsel. (Of course, health is of utmost importance, but occasionally you gotta say fuck it for a short period of time.)

I don’t usually drink alcohol too often, but I drank every night. I drank more than I should have a couple nights too. But hey, it’s all a learning experience and part of the journey of our being.

These kind of things become a problem when they’re done consistently. You become what your consistent behavior is. It would only be problematic if I had continued on that path. Just like how an obese person is not going to be fit after eating healthy for just 6 days.

Ok, back to the topic at hand…

On the cruise, I literally talked to every friendly person in my vicinity. I struck up conversation with every girl/woman I was attracted to (and got denied a few times, but it’s all in good fun). I made new friends at the bar, on the deck, waiting in lines, in the bathroom, wherever. I went zip-lining in Jamaica (ya mon). I swam with dolphins in Cozumel. The list goes on and on.

And I ended up meeting some great, like-minded people as well (hey Nickee and Amanda). Who would’ve known that I would get involved in deep, meaningful conversation within minutes of meeting people? Who would’ve thought that I would form deep-seated connections in the midst of such a seemingly “surface-level” atmosphere? I even randomly ran into someone who I’ve met before (hey Brittany). How crazy is that!?

Life is miraculous when you’re unshakably yourself. Life is magical when you embrace your inherent Love Aura and dive into the river of life.

Experience the world. Experience your physical body. Experience the connection with others, with animals, and with nature. Experience the miracle that is your life right now.

What are you waiting for? Dive in to the human experience.

Stay feelin’ good, feelin’ great.

-Stevie P!

Here’s Osho elaborating on this topic. He beautifully describes integrating spiritual awareness with worldly experience…

The traditional concept of man was that of a materialist or spiritualist, moral or immoral person, sinner or saint. A divided man is miserable. He is neither healthy nor whole; the other half that has been denied will go on taking revenge. It will find ways and means to overcome the part you have imposed upon yourself. You will become a battleground, there will be civil war.

In the past we were unable to create real human beings; we made humanoids. A humanoid is one who looks like a human being but is utterly challenged. He has not been allowed to bloom in his totality. He is adhoora, and because he is half is always tense; he cannot celebrate. Celebration is the fragrance of being whole.

Only a fulfilled tree will flower. Man is yet to flower. The new man will be earthy and divine, worldly and other-worldly. The new man will accept his totality and he will live it without any inner division, without getting split. His god will not be opposed to the devil, his morality will not be opposed to immorality; he will know no opposition.

He will transcend duality, he will not be schizophrenic. With the new man will come a new world, because the new man will perceive in a qualitatively different way. He will live a totally different life. He will be a mystic, poet, scientist. all at once.

The moment a child grows to become whole, society starts to suffocate him, stifling and cutting him into fragments, telling him what to do and what not to do, what to be and what not to be.

Losing his wholeness, he becomes guilty about his whole being. He denies much that is natural, and in that very denial he becomes uncreative. Now he will be only a fragment, and a fragment cannot dance, a fragment cannot sing. And a fragment is always suicidal because the fragment cannot know what life is. The humanoid cannot decide on his own.

Others have been deciding for him — his parents, the teachers, the leaders, the priests; they have taken all his decisiveness. They decide, they order; he simply follows. The humanoid is a slave.

My concept of the new man is that he will be Zorba the Greek and he will also be Gautama the Buddha. The new man will be Zorba the Buddha. He will be sensuous and spiritual — in the body, yet with a great consciousness, a great witnessing.

He will be Christ and Epicurus together. Religion failed because it was too other-worldly. It neglected this world. And you cannot neglect this world; to neglect this world is to neglect your own roots. Science has failed because it neglected the other world, the inner, and you cannot neglect the flowers.

Once you do that, neglect the innermost core of being, life loses all meaning. The tree needs roots, so man needs roots, and the roots can only be in the earth. The tree needs an open sky to grow, to come to great foliage and to have thousands of flowers. Then only is the tree fulfilled, then only does the tree feel significance and meaning and life becomes relevant.

Religion talks only of flowers that remain philosophical, abstract; they never materialise because they are removed from earth. And science has failed because it cares only about the roots.

We now need a new humanity in which religion and science become two aspects of one human being. And art will be the bridge. That’s why I say that the new man will be a mystic, a poet and a scientist.

PS- Videos too!

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Use This Strategy To Accomplish Anything (Part 2)

This is part 2 on how to accomplish anything. Read part 1 HERE.

Everything you progress in is an epic journey.

And a journey is all about consistent movement while embracing (and hopefully enjoying) the process.

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But sometimes you need sign posts; markers to let you know where you’re at along your journey. Sometimes you need to have your eyes set on a “check point”, generating a newfound spark of motivation to keep pushing.

To reach those check points along your journey, you can unleash a secret weapon…

The final push strategy.

Which can be summarized like this…

Write it down. Share it. Set a deadline. Make the push.

Writing something down, sharing it, and setting a deadline makes  you so much more likely to accomplish anything. They give you the mentality that you can’t NOT do it, and act as the fuel for you to make that final push.

Note: This technique is for concrete goals that you can set for yourself. It should be used when you need that extra push. Your day-to-day routine should be more system, or habit oriented, than goal oriented.

You’re going to make the majority of progress by developing systems or habits. This strategy is for that extra push when you find something specific that you really want to accomplish.

This technique is your haymaker. In a boxing match, a good boxer doesn’t throw haymakers the whole fight. A good boxer jabs, blocks, and looks for openings. Then, when the opportunity presents itself, they throw a big punch. Your system/routine is your jab, your bread and butter. And the final push strategy is the knockout punch.

Get in the ring and dominate.

How to implement the final push strategy:

1. Writing things down. Simply write down your goal, aspiration, or whatever it is you want to make the final push at.

When you write something down, it makes it more tangible. The mere act of writing  desires/goals/aspirations makes them wayyy more likely to come into fruition. Writing serves as a portal through which the intangible enters the tangible world. That’s why it’s so beneficial in manifesting what you want.

2. Sharing. Share your aspiration. Tell a friend, tell your mom, share it on Facebook, send it to an anonymous goal-logging organization; whatever floats your boat.

Sharing puts your goal out into the world. It also creates public accountability. This allows you to leverage your ego and use it as a tool to accomplish something. Whenever you openly declare an aspiration, you’ll have no trouble finding motivation to achieve it.

3. Setting a deadline. Create a reasonable deadline to accomplish your goal, and stick to it.

As humans, we work well with deadlines. A sense of urgency kicks us into high gear.

Note: Deadlines are useful for things we need to proactively work towards, but not really necessary for desires which we attract. For example, are you going to set a deadline to have a girlfriend within 3 months? Nope, this is a desire that you indirectly attract. But what you can do is accomplish goals that will help you attract a girlfriend. Like meeting 10 new women in 3 months. Or losing 10 pounds of body fat in 3 months.

4. Make the push. Take massive action.

This is where you boost your system into hyperdrive to accomplish what you want. You’ll probably do a lot more than normal. But it’s short-term. Go too hard for too long and you’ll inevitably burn out. That’s why I stick to an simple, easy, consistent system most of the time, and give that extra push when I decide to accomplish something very specific.

How I used the final push technique:

Case study on myself – Writing The Art of Not Giving a Fuck:

My system was to write, edit, or research at least something every day (no matter how small of a task).

Once I was close to being done, it was time to implement the final push strategy. I set a deadline for myself (in this blog post) to catalyze my final push. I found myself slowing down towards the end, so I needed to set a deadline to help me with the final push. Sharing my deadline in writing took care of steps 1-3 (described above) in one shot. This instantly gave me tremendous motivation to complete The Art of Not Giving a Fuck by the deadline I had set.

I apply this technique for everything goal-oriented, and it works.

Think about it. People naturally kick into beast mode when they have a deadline (especially a public deadline). Ex/ Preparing for weddings or vacations is the ultimate call to action for people who want to get in better shape. It’s hard NOT to be motivated and take action in cases like that.

Now you have the tools to accomplish anything. Now it’s only a matter of taking consistent action.

Stay feelin’ good feelin’ great.

Much Love.

-Stevie P!

PS- Get your hands on The Art of Not Giving a Fuck. It’s well worth it.

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Use This Strategy To Accomplish Anything (Part 1)

In this two part series, I’m going to share with you two techniques that greatly helped in completing my latest eBook, The Art of Not Giving a Fuck.

Most people struggle with attaining goals, often coasting through life without ever accomplishing what they really wanted to.

Ask any random person on the street, I guarantee they have goals. But the truth is, goals don’t have great success rates. All too often, goals become something to achieve when [insert excuse for not starting]. That’s the thing! Most people don’t even get started towards their goals, falling into comfortable complacency for the remainder of their days.

The good news is that there’s a stupid simple way to circumvent that…

Choose something to improve upon or progress in, and…

JUST DO SOMETHING, NO MATTER HOW SMALL, EVERY DAY.

I’m a big fan of systems, habits, and routines that build momentum in a desired direction. When all you have to do is accomplish something bite-sized today, it’s easy as pie (see that double food analogy?). Do this consistently, and you build confidence. Keep at it, and you’ll feel empowered and fulfilled. And before you know it, you’ll be amazed by the progress you’ve made just by doing something, no matter how small, every day. This is the foundation of success and personal development.

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Embark on your journey. One step at a time, young jedi.

I read this great article by James Clear a few months ago. And what’s funny is that for everything I’ve made significant progress in, I subconsciously created a system/routine and consistently stuck to it. And this system/routine would result in mind-boggling progression over time.

So what does a system look like?

It’s basically a habit or routine that you consciously and consistently implement. It’s doing something continuously (usually every day), to make progress in the direction you wish to move in.

Do a little bit every day, even if it’s for the smallest amount of time.

Think about how consistent work compounds over weeks, months, or even years?

“Most people overestimate what they can do in one year and underestimate what they can do in ten years.” -Bill Gates

Elliott Hulse calls it “finding your heartbeat.” Making something such an intrinsic part of your lifestyle that it becomes second nature, like your heartbeat.

Another variation of a system is Jerry Seinfeld’s “don’t break the chain” technique (described in detail here). It’s basically doing something every day, and marking a big red X on a calendar each day you did it, creating a chain. The goal is to keep doing whatever you’re doing every day and, whatever you do,  don’t break that chain.

“Consistency is what matters the most in triggering something important to your life.” -Abdul Rauf

What I did to write The Art of Not Giving a Fuck:

You guessed it… I focused on doing something every day, no matter how small. Some days I wrote pages upon pages. Other days I edited one sentence (yeah… really). I just focused on doing SOMETHING every day, and before I knew it, I had a finished product.

“…you can do what I quite often do when I am having an uninspired morning.
I get started anyway, despite the lack of motivation within.
I do so by taking a small step forward and by just focusing on taking that one step. I may for example tell myself that I will work on a new article or on editing a part of a new course for 3 minutes.”
Henrik Edberg (The Positivity Blog)

Here’s another tip for when you’re not so motivating. Just focus on the smallest thing you can do to move in the right direction. For example, when I have the motivation of a stoned sloth and it’s workout time, I just focus on warming up. “C’mon, let’s just warm-up and see how it goes.” That’s it. And as I’m warming up I’m like “Ok, this isn’t so bad.” And then I focus on doing one set. “Let’s just get through this set.” Then I focus on the next set, and so on and so forth, until (voila) I finished the workout. And if you’re wondering, yes, I do motivational self-talks. It works.

The things we can accomplish when we take action consistently is literally mindblowing. It’s almost like a superpower.

“Daily, consistent, focused, faithful expectation raises the miracle power of achieving your dreams.” -John Di Lemme

This “system approach” can be applied to anything, and works best when it’s a daily habit. The only exception I can think of is something like working out, because you simply can’t lift heavy every day. You need to recover. So in this case, the system would be to work out something like 4 days per week, and make it a lifestyle.

So…

Don’t worry about that six pack, just eat one healthy meal at a time.

Don’t worry about having a New York Times Best Seller, just focus on writing one sentence at a time.

Don’t worry about catching them all, just focus on catching one Pokemon at a time.

Don’t worry about getting as big as Ronnie Coleman, just focus on one rep at a time.

Stay consistent, and before you know it, you’ll be well on your way.

In the next part, we’ll discuss how to calibrate your system to achieve specific goals. Stay tuned…

And, of course, stay feelin’ good, feelin’ great.

-Stevie P!

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Great Moments in the History of Not Giving a Fuck: The Guy Who Refused To Do The Nazi Salute

If you want to see someone who epitomizes The Art of Not Giving A Fuck, look no further than the image below…

Like a bawss

“It was Nazi Germany in 1936, and a crowd of people had gathered in Hamburg to watch the launch of a navy training vessel. As hundreds raised their arms in unison in the Nazi salute, one man stood with his arms crossed, his eyes squinting at whoever was leading the salute.”¹

 

That one man was August Landmesser, connoisseur of  the “just because everyone’s doing this dumb shit, doesn’t mean I’m going to”-mentality.

I applaud ol’ August. What a G, and what a testament to moral heroism. This one action serves as a reminder that no matter how fucked up a society is, the human spirit will never be completely extinguished. Free will is a trump card we can pull out at any time. We always have the choice, though we might be conditioned to think otherwise. Oppressive control systems only come to fruition through our acquiescence.

Their power over you is only the result of you not knowing your own.

Our main man August was fearless in his epic moment of noncompliance. Fear allows us to be manipulated oh so easily (like everyone else in the picture), but if you don’t give a fuck (aka don’t give into fear), you take your power back. You can’t be controlled. You can’t be herded. You can’t be easily manipulated. You become your own person whose actions are based on what you feel to be right… Now that’s empowerment, and August Landmesser embodied it.

“Even if you are a minority of one, the truth is the truth.” – Mahatma Gandhi

The Art of Not Giving a Fuck eBook is coming soon…

Stay feelin good, feelin’ great my friends.

-Stevie P!

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¹http://www.washingtonpost.com/blogs/blogpost/post/august-landmesser-shipyard-worker-in-hamburg-refused-to-perform-nazi-salute-photo/2012/02/07/gIQA1ZzExQ_blog.html?tid=pm_national_pop

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