Cute Girl Shuffle

Here’s a little poem I felt compelled to write and share. Hope you enjoy it…

You were on your way to work
Walking at a hurried pace
The concept of time
Weighing heavily on your mind

Our paths crossed
On that city street corner

We exchanged eye contact
For a slice of eternity
Then you glided right in front of me
With a slight hop
A captivating, delightful skip
Barely airborne
Yet leaving me in the clouds

You landed in a moment of serenity
With quick, little steps
The cutest shuffle
Shifting out of angelic form
And relapsing back to that hasty march
Ending our serendipitous encounter

I’ll probably never see you again
But thank you
Thank you for the beautiful glimpse

28 Ways To Instantly Turn A “Bad” Day Around

Love is our natural state.

If you’re not in a state of love,  joy, bliss, peace, happiness…etc then there is something damming the flow of life.

By removing the blocks, we allow continuous bliss to flow as it should.

Like Bruce Lee said, “Be like water, my friend.”

This is especially important in those moments where we feel blocked from our natural state of love. When we’re having “one of those days.”

Learn to flow around (or right through!) those rough moments that even the best of us encounter from time to time.

Here are 28 simple ways to instantly turn a “bad” day around…

Note: I put “bad” in quotes because it’s just a label we put on things. “Good” or “bad” is simply a judgment based on perspective. Change your perception (aka your filter of reality), and your reality changes accordingly.

“A pessimist sees the difficulty in every opportunity; an optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty.” ―Winston Churchill

The art of turning your day around ultimately comes down to two fundamental things; changing your perspective and expressing yourself.

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1. Remember that you have the choice! You choose to be happy or sad. You choose to be offended by something. You have the choice of love or fear. You’ll always be a sad little victim if you think you don’t have the choice. You’ll be empowered,  positive and successful (in everything) when you realize you have the ability to choose happiness at every moment. Take responsibility for your situation. Responsibility is response-ability: the ability to respond. Taste the sweet nectar of empowerment.

“When you think everything is someone else’s fault, you will suffer a lot. When you realize that everything springs only from yourself, you will learn both peace and joy.” -Dalai Lama

“Take the negative definition off of responsibility,
it doesn’t mean blame or it certainly doesn’t have to be,
it doesn’t mean burden,
it doesn’t mean struggle if you don’t want it to.
Responsibility: the ability to respond!
Period! Who doesn’t want that?!
Who doesn’t want the ability
to respond to something… to be creative… to act?”
That’s what responsibility is,
your ability to respond instead of react to these ideas.
So, take responsibility… demand responsibility,
insist on responsibility… believe me… it’s the most fun!”
Bashar

 

2. Call your mom (or someone else who deeply cares about you, if this isn’t possible). A call to momma is a sure-fire solution for a rough day.

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3. Reach out to someone you haven’t talked to in a while. A call (like I mentioned above), text, send an email, or even  a Facebook message to an old friend can instantly boost your mood. Interpersonal connections are integral to the human experience.

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4. Deep breathing. Relax and consciously breath deeply, into your belly (or as Elliott Hulse so eloquently puts it, “breathe into you balls.”). This puts both the mind and body at peace after just a few breaths. Deep breathing is the gateway to self-mastery.

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5. Lay on the floor (or ground) until you feel like getting up again. For those days when you really don’t feel like doing ANYTHING, this is the solution. Simply lay on the floor (on your back), relax your body and breath deeply. See my post about it here.

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6. Meditate. Any form of meditation is a phenomenal way to reset yourself and move forward with a renewed sense of vitality. Here’s an article with great, practical tips on meditation for beginners.

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7. Walk outside. Walking makes us feel good (we’re bipedal after all, right?). And being outside makes us feel good. So that makes walking outside a winning combination. It’s calming and refreshing on so many levels. A quick, 10 minute walk outside is my go-to strategy for getting through a rough work day.

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8. Take a shower. Water is cleansing. Showers are relaxing. Seriously, have you ever been in a bad mood in the shower? And if you really want to ramp it up, switch to cold water for the last minute or two. Read about the benefits of cold showers here.

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9. Work out. If you muster the motivation to work out when you’re having an off day, you find yourself a new person by the end of the workout; like a (jacked) phoenix arising from its ashes. It transforms fatigue to vitality, apathy to passion, and hopelessness to empowerment.

 

10. Smile for no reason. Seriously, do it. Just smile. You CAN’T NOT feel happy when smiling, even if it’s forced.

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11. Laugh for no reason. Whatever applies to smiling, applies to laughing as well. Laugh like a little kid. Laugh with your whole body. Come up with the weirdest laughs you can. Laughter truly is the best medicine. Put on your LOLerskates and have some fun.

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12. Have a spoonful of coconut oil. This works like magic. I remember one time I was at work, feeling depleted and worn-out. I ate a spoonful of coconut oil, and within 20 minutes I was back to feelin’ good, feelin’ great. Try it for yourself.

Read about the endless benefits and uses of coconut oil here.

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13. Cook. Cooking is so underrated as an enjoyable, rewarding activity, and comes with a whole host of benefits. The process of cooking can be enjoyable in and of itself. And then you get to eat tasty food when you’re done!

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14. Take a moment to wonder. Be awe-struck by reality. Observe the natural beauty everywhere. Gaze at the sky and contemplate the possibilities. Admire the elaborate architecture of buildings. Wonder what life is like for the people passing on the street. Be amazed. This natural state of wonder and curiosity will wake you up from any negative trance and give you some awe-inspiring perspective.

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15. Express yourself! If you’re holding onto anger, go somewhere where you can scream or work out intensely. If you’re holding sadness, cry. Let it out! Many of the other items on this list fall under this category too. Just express yourself however you feel like it, and you’ll be revitalized.

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16. Do some stretching, mobility exercises or yoga. Physical tension and mental tension are intimately connected. Sometimes the body just needs to release tension, and then mind will follow suit.

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17. Write. Write a poem. Write a journal entry. Just write. Writing is an excellent means of self-expression, and can be remarkably cathartic.

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18. Check something off of your to-do list, no matter how small. Even the smallest sense of accomplishment can create a snowball effect of positive momentum.

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19. Put yourself back in your shoes as a young child. How did you imagine you would act as a grown-up? Probably like some sort of superhero, right? Definitely not like a disempowered victim. Your inner child is right. Drop fear and the illusion of disempowerment and live up to your grown-up, superhero potential.

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20. Ask yourself WWSD (What Would Spongebob Do?)

 

21. Remind yourself that someone always has it worse than you. No matter your circumstance, there’s someone out there that has it worse than you. Especially if you’re fortunate enough to be accessing the internet 😉

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22. Watch an Infinite Waters (Diving Deep) video. Infinite Waters is probably my favorite Youtube channel. It’s impossible to be in a bad mood while watching this guy. He has the most positive aura that just makes you smile.

Watch Infinite Waters (Diving Deep) videos here

And here’s one of my favorites:

 

23. Remember… You’re braver than you believe, and stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think…

 

24. View life as like a video game. Video games are meant to be challenging. They are based on overcoming obstacles. Why? Because it makes it so much more satisfying when it’s all said and done. The same principle applies to life in general. What would a video game be without any challenges? It would be boring and absolutely pointless. Would you play Super Mario if all you did was leisurely walk to the right the whole time with no obstacles? Hell no! What’s the fun in that? Would you enjoy playing Pokemon if you had unlimited master balls and rare candies? (I hope you got that one haha). It’s all about the journey, baby. Overcome the obstacles, keep leveling up, and keep having fun.

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25. Sometimes the Universe tests you. Think about challenges, difficulties, problems or anything you label as “bad” as a test. These situations are tests of character. How are you going to deal with it? Whine, complain and throw your hands in the air like a weak little victim? Or persevere, like the empowered being you know you really are?

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26. Think about how insignificant your problems are in the grand scheme of things. If you’re reading this (probably from a computer or smartphone, right?), chances are that all of the so-called problems in your life are self-created, blown out of proportion, and ultimately insignificant in the grand scheme of things. Is your bad day at work going to matter a year from now? Is that guy that cut you off in traffic going to occupy your thoughts on your deathbed? Of course not. You may not be able to change what happens, but you most certainly can change how you react. Everything is a learning experience. Nothing is inherently “good” or “bad;” it’s merely our perceived judgment that attaches these labels to everything. Change your perception, stop labeling things as “bad”, and stay enjoying the life your living.

“No misfortune is so bad that whining about it won’t make it worse.” ― Jeffrey R. Holland

It’s pointless to fret about the crumbs on the floor when you’re making a masterpiece meal. Your life is your masterpiece; enjoy the creative process without getting hung up on the asinine side products.

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27. Listen to a song you love (preferably a happy/upbeat one). Play your favorite song, and I bet you can’t hold onto negativity even if you tried. Music is food for the soul, romancing us on an energetic level.

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28. Watch these Youtube videos…

Stay feelin’ good, feelin’ great.

Have an awesome day.

-Stevie P!

A Message To My Twin Flame

I wrote this a couple months ago and I’ve been sitting on it. So I figured putting it out there might help bring it to fruition, and maybe spark something within you (the reader) as well.

My twin flame soul mate

The other me

I feel your presence
I feel us calling out for each other

We share the same essence
Yet inhabit two bodies

The day we coexist in this reality
Already brings a smile to my face

We will share experiences
Explore together
Grow together
Better each other
Uncover our true self together

A celestial tag team
In this magical game of life

Our relationship will be a reflection
Of the relationship within ourselves
Heart-based, not ego-based
Embracing love, letting go of fear
We will share this experience of life
Share joy
Share happiness
Share Love
Love is meant to be shared, right?

Revealing to each other
As much as we reveal to our self

Coexisting in blissful harmony

The mere thought of one another
Creates a soul-bursting smile

Can you feel it?

We already have an infinitely deep connection
A unity which transcends space and time

This is my call for our divine oneness to manifest in this reality

My twin flame soul mate

The other me

I Love you

 

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Reiki: Feel The Flow

Hey there,  I got a story to share…

I’m now a Reiki practitioner!

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But wait, what is this Reiki thing anyway?

Well I’m glad you asked.

Reiki is a Japanese technique for stress reduction and relaxation that also promotes healing. It’s administered by laying on hands and can be easily learned by anyone.

The word Reiki is actually a combination of two Japanese words. Rei, which means “spiritual consciousness” or “universal life force”. And Ki, which means “life force energy”. So Reiki essentially means “spiritually guided life force energy”.

“For those of you who are not familiar with Reiki, it is a natural method of healing that brings alignment, balance, health and well-being to the recipient’s body. Due to the supportive nature of Reiki, it is a wonderful complement to anything you are already choosing as part of your self-care or medical care. Reiki practice releases energetic blockages, tension, and toxins from the body and is deeply restorative.”Erin McCollough

“Reiki treatment is balancing at every level, it can help anyone who is interested enough to experience a treatment. If you are tired, you’ll feel refreshed. If you are anxious, you’ll feel serene. If you are distressed, you’ll feel comforted. Where you feel overwhelmed, you’ll find a renewed sense of yourself. And these subjective changes will be accompanied by physical changes indicative of deep relaxation, such as a slower heart rate and easier breathing.”Pamela Miles

Energy is the fundamental form of our universe, and we’re intrinsically beings of energy. Reiki is a transfer of universal life force energy (usually through the hands, or palm chakras*) from one being to another.

*If you’re unfamiliar with chakras, this video is a great place to start.

“Matter is simply energy slowed down enough to be visible to our perceptions.” -Albert Einstein

“If you want to find the secrets of the universe, think in terms of energy, frequency and vibration.” -Nikola Tesla

As stated above, the “ki” in Reiki is life force energy; circulating energy within every living thing. The Chinese call this energy “qi” (or “chi”). And the Sanskrit word for it is “prana”. Even modern science has a name for it… “bioelectricity”.

This is the same energy utilized in practices such as Tai Chi, Qi Gong, acupuncture, and other energy modalities.

If you want to feel this energy for yourself, simply relax and be still. Focus on a specific body part, and you will inevitably feel a flow of energy, heating/cooling sensation, tingling, or pulsation. That’s that ki!

Everything starts at the energetic level, and Reiki is a means of energetic optimization.

” From a scientific point of view, Reiki produces results on an electromagnetic level. From recent research, it appears Reiki acts to electromagnetically ‘jump-start’ the body’s own healing process by producing changes in vibrational frequency that, in turn, stimulate physical changes in the body.”Erin McCollough

Reiki is also inherently part of our healing nature. Think about it…

  • When you hurt yourself, you naturally put your hands on where it hurts.
  • If you have a headache, you cradle your head. If you have a stomach ache, you place your hands on your stomach.
  • When children get hurt, the first thing parents naturally do is put their hands on the place of pain.

Energetic healing through the hands is an innate, instinctual ability in all of us.

The hands (and palm chakras) are also prominent in our daily interactions…

  • Waving hello or goodbye
  • Holding hands
  • Handshakes
  • Patting people on the back
  • Placing your hand on someone’s shoulder to comfort them

All of these things exemplify how the power of touch creates deep interpersonal connections, cultivating peace and love.

And Reiki isn’t a magic pill. Don’t expect it to energy-blast tumors Dragon Ball Z style (although we have seen cases of energy healing doing this, so ya never know.). It’s typically much more subtle. Reiki balances everything on an energetic level, which supports our natural ability to harmonize and heal (physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually).

How I got into Reiki:

A few months ago, I started seeing the word “Reiki” everywhere…

I came across it while reading articles, while listening to music…etc. It just kept popping up! A lot of signs and synchronicity.

That’s when I got really curious and did some research on it. I became fascinated by Reiki, and decided that I had to try it. Experience trumps theory, right? So I searched Google for Reiki practitioners in NYC, and came across Beth White (check out her website here). She had great reviews and was only a 15 minute walk from me, so I scheduled a session.

What my Reiki session was like:

When I got there, Beth gave me a quick overview of what Reiki is and what the session would consist of. We also got into some good conversation too.

Here’s what I wrote down about it…

I laid down on my back (fully-clothed I might add) on a massage table (actually a Reiki table, but close enough).

The session started when she hovered her hand over my entire body to assess my energy field (aura scanning). She stopped at my lower abdomen (sacral chakra) and said I had a lot of creative energy. I told her I was pursuing a lot of creative things (this blog, writing in general…etc).

And the main part of the session was a bunch of hand placements. She placed her hands on my head, forehead, jaw, neck, back of my neck, traps, shoulders, upper chest, abdomen, hips, and my feet.

I had my eyes closed the whole time. The predominate color that I visualized was purple. Then blue and orange. I also had visuals like Christopher Robin (the kid from Winnie the Pooh), a baby, sunflowers, a lighthouse, and a purple vortex. Yup… random. It was like the visuals you see in your mind’s eye when you’re really relaxed right before falling asleep.

I felt like her hands were everywhere (especially on my head) when they weren’t. I had an interesting feeling on my face the whole time. Almost like a really wide headband stretched over my face. And I felt it both on the inside and outside.

The most profound part of the session was when she gently massaged my right shoulder and energy surged through my right arm. My right palm burst with energy that was like a blue lightning. Very intense and it felt awesome. Then she did the same thing on my left shoulder. I got the same feeling but with an orange lightning energy. That was some crazy stuff.

At one point she put her hands on my abdomen. And I felt a lot of healing energy moving around in my abdomen during this. A lot of positive activity.

At the end she put one hand on my abdomen and one on my forehead. And it felt like a rainbow of energy passing from one to the other.

All in all, it was so soothing. I felt so relaxed during the session. And afterwards I felt so peaceful and deeply rejuvenated. Spirit Science describes Reiki as “the equivalent of spiritual surgery” and I couldn’t agree more.

This is what I wrote 2 days after my Reiki session (the aftermath)…

I’ve noticed an increase in overall well-being over the last 2 days. It’s funny because I thought I was feeling awesome before. I guess there’s no limits to how good you can feel! Ha.
Here’s what I noticed:

  • Increased balance. Noticed this while doing the bioenergizer warm-up this morning.
  • Increased coordination.
  • No discomfort in my abdomen. (It was slightly uncomfortable on Friday.)
  • An unwavering feeling of bliss. Like nothing can kill my vibe.
  • Irresistible urge to give and spread love. (I gave a guy on the street $5 on Saturday and shook his hand. He said “God bless you” and was really grateful. I Facebook messaged a bunch of people just to genuinely compliment them. I’ve also been transmitting Love to people on the street and constantly smiling.)
  • Increased flow of energy through my body.
  • Ability to calm my mind much more easily.
  • I also feel like my eyes have more depth and deeper color to them. More radiance.

Sounds awesome, right? That’s because it is.

So at the end of my session, I asked Beth to let me know when she was doing Reiki training. It was something I felt, deep down, that I needed to do.

My training took place at the end of January. It was basically an energetic clearing, exercises/methods to open the palm chakras, learning how to use Reiki, and then practicing it. Now I’m a level 1 Reiki practitioner!

What I’ve experienced since being attuned to Reiki:

Note: It’s referred to as an “attunement” because you essentially open up your chakras, most importantly the palm chakras, to attune to the flow of Reiki energy.

I immediately noticed a significant increase in the flow of energy out of my hands. It’s not made up or metaphorical. I FEEL it, and others feel it from me as well. I’ve practiced on family and friends, who have experienced this energetic exchange first-“hand”. (<–see what I did there?)

The interesting thing is that it feels different for everyone, both for the practitioner and the recipient of Reiki. For example, my mom mostly felt pulsations of energy when I gave her Reiki. My dad felt a soothing, relaxing sensation. While my brother experienced rushes of energy, heat, and tingling. We’re all different, with different needs, and different imbalances to correct. Different strokes (of energy) for different folks.

And something else I’ve noticed is that I affect electronics and lights more these days. It’s actually kinda cool. Here’s one example: I got to work one morning last week, turned on my computer and wiggled the mouse (it’s a USB wired one). The cursor on the screen moved for a couple seconds, and then stopped. I was all like “Why did it stop working?” until I realized that it wasn’t plugged in haha. Crazy stuff.

How I use Reiki in daily life:

I practice Reiki on myself every day. I do it every night before I go to sleep to promote relaxation. In doing this, I’ve noticed that I have no trouble falling asleep (usually it would take me a while to fall asleep). I also started giving myself a little Reiki every morning with the intent of energizing myself.

I give myself Reiki to recover from workouts or when I feel a weakness. My right elbow begins to act up when I do too many pushing exercises. Performing Reiki on my elbow for a couple minutes relieves this.

Whenever I’m sitting somewhere in public with nothing better to do, I’ll nonchalantly place my hands on my thighs and let the energy flow through my body. It keeps me occupied and relaxed.

I use Reiki any time I need stress relief as well. Even the mere act of feeling the flow of energy is deeply relaxing and meditative. Stress isn’t even in my vocabulary now 😉

I give Reiki to food before eating it (well, when I remember to). Word on the street is that it makes the food energetically healthier. I’m not going to act like I’ve noticed any big changes, but it does make me more relaxed and conscious while eating. Plus it’s just badass to beam energy at your food.

Random Reiki tidbits:

Christina Aguilera says Reiki helped her lose weight.

-Athletes can greatly benefit from Reiki. (This is a great article – Reiki in the NFL)

Reiki garners some praise on Bodybuilding.com

-Even though the modern (Japanese) form called “Reiki” is relatively new, it apparently it existed in advanced ancient cultures as well. Ancient Tibet being one of them.

-Reiki gets name dropped in hip-hop:
“Im laying hands on leading ladies, tibetan reiki
I lent a hand rebuilding haiti, you building hades
My flying pegasus awaits me.”
YC the Cynic

-Even Dr. Oz (who everyone seems to listen to) is an advocate of Reiki…

Like Dr. Oz says in that video, give Reiki a try. There’s no limit as to what’s possible.

“Nothing ever becomes real ’til it is experienced.” -John Keats

Feel the flow. Optimize your being.

And if you really like it, pursue becoming a Reiki practitioner. It’s really fun working with energy, plus being able to help people makes it a true win-win situation.

Stay feelin’ good, feelin’ great.

-Stevie P!

PS – I’m sending Reiki and positivity your way 🙂

Resources:
Collection of Reiki healing stories
Peer reviewed articles on Reiki
Gnostic Palms and the Eye of the Handshake

1

Dive Into The Human Experience

“The person who has lived the most is not the one with the most years but the one with the richest experiences.” 

                 -Jean-Jacques Rousseau

Life is defined by experiences.

Moments that ripple through time, enriching the ever-present now of our existence.

That’s why, in my opinion, experiences are infinitely more valuable than any material good (besides the necessities for survival of course).

And speaking of experiences, I went on vacation last week! Woo wooo! It was a six day cruise in the Caribbean on the awesome Carnival Breeze, and I’m basking in gratitude for the experience.

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Vacations like this epitomize what I call “the 3D human experience.” Food. Drinks. Partying. Flirting. Dancing. Singing. Socializing. Spectacular scenery. Sunsets over the sea. All things that exemplify our experience on this plane (or boat 😉 ) of existence.

We, as human beings, are much more than meets the eye though. Like the old saying goes… We’re not human beings having a spiritual experience, we’re spiritual beings having a human experience.

However, I’ve noticed that as many of us go through a “spiritual awakening”, we often find it difficult to stay grounded and fully immerse ourselves in this material world we’re inhabiting. I like to call this “floating on the ceiling.” And the thing is that if you’re too identified with being a “spiritual being”, you’ll miss out on the wonderful 3D experience at your fingertips.

My man Osho said something along the lines of “A spiritual man is just as comfortable in a bustling village as he is meditating on a mountain by himself.” I couldn’t agree more. (Note: Osho is referenced multiple times in this article, and for good reason. He delivers this message perfectly, with a healthy sense of humor.)

The whole point of this human experience is to dive in. Fully embrace it. Live, learn, laugh, have fun, connect with others and experience as much as possible.

“Experience life in all possible ways — good-bad, bitter-sweet, dark-light, summer-winter. Experience all the dualities. Don’t be afraid of experience, because the more experience you have, the more mature you become.” -Osho

That’s what I realized that I was embodying on the cruise.

I usually eat healthy, but I indulged. I ate what I wanted, and made damn sure that I enjoyed every morsel. (Of course, health is of utmost importance, but occasionally you gotta say fuck it for a short period of time.)

I don’t usually drink alcohol too often, but I drank every night. I drank more than I should have a couple nights too. But hey, it’s all a learning experience and part of the journey of our being.

These kind of things become a problem when they’re done consistently. You become what your consistent behavior is. It would only be problematic if I had continued on that path. Just like how an obese person is not going to be fit after eating healthy for just 6 days.

Ok, back to the topic at hand…

On the cruise, I literally talked to every friendly person in my vicinity. I struck up conversation with every girl/woman I was attracted to (and got denied a few times, but it’s all in good fun). I made new friends at the bar, on the deck, waiting in lines, in the bathroom, wherever. I went zip-lining in Jamaica (ya mon). I swam with dolphins in Cozumel. The list goes on and on.

And I ended up meeting some great, like-minded people as well (hey Nickee and Amanda). Who would’ve known that I would get involved in deep, meaningful conversation within minutes of meeting people? Who would’ve thought that I would form deep-seated connections in the midst of such a seemingly “surface-level” atmosphere? I even randomly ran into someone who I’ve met before (hey Brittany). How crazy is that!?

Life is miraculous when you’re unshakably yourself. Life is magical when you embrace your inherent Love Aura and dive into the river of life.

Experience the world. Experience your physical body. Experience the connection with others, with animals, and with nature. Experience the miracle that is your life right now.

What are you waiting for? Dive in to the human experience.

Stay feelin’ good, feelin’ great.

-Stevie P!

Here’s Osho elaborating on this topic. He beautifully describes integrating spiritual awareness with worldly experience…

The traditional concept of man was that of a materialist or spiritualist, moral or immoral person, sinner or saint. A divided man is miserable. He is neither healthy nor whole; the other half that has been denied will go on taking revenge. It will find ways and means to overcome the part you have imposed upon yourself. You will become a battleground, there will be civil war.

In the past we were unable to create real human beings; we made humanoids. A humanoid is one who looks like a human being but is utterly challenged. He has not been allowed to bloom in his totality. He is adhoora, and because he is half is always tense; he cannot celebrate. Celebration is the fragrance of being whole.

Only a fulfilled tree will flower. Man is yet to flower. The new man will be earthy and divine, worldly and other-worldly. The new man will accept his totality and he will live it without any inner division, without getting split. His god will not be opposed to the devil, his morality will not be opposed to immorality; he will know no opposition.

He will transcend duality, he will not be schizophrenic. With the new man will come a new world, because the new man will perceive in a qualitatively different way. He will live a totally different life. He will be a mystic, poet, scientist. all at once.

The moment a child grows to become whole, society starts to suffocate him, stifling and cutting him into fragments, telling him what to do and what not to do, what to be and what not to be.

Losing his wholeness, he becomes guilty about his whole being. He denies much that is natural, and in that very denial he becomes uncreative. Now he will be only a fragment, and a fragment cannot dance, a fragment cannot sing. And a fragment is always suicidal because the fragment cannot know what life is. The humanoid cannot decide on his own.

Others have been deciding for him — his parents, the teachers, the leaders, the priests; they have taken all his decisiveness. They decide, they order; he simply follows. The humanoid is a slave.

My concept of the new man is that he will be Zorba the Greek and he will also be Gautama the Buddha. The new man will be Zorba the Buddha. He will be sensuous and spiritual — in the body, yet with a great consciousness, a great witnessing.

He will be Christ and Epicurus together. Religion failed because it was too other-worldly. It neglected this world. And you cannot neglect this world; to neglect this world is to neglect your own roots. Science has failed because it neglected the other world, the inner, and you cannot neglect the flowers.

Once you do that, neglect the innermost core of being, life loses all meaning. The tree needs roots, so man needs roots, and the roots can only be in the earth. The tree needs an open sky to grow, to come to great foliage and to have thousands of flowers. Then only is the tree fulfilled, then only does the tree feel significance and meaning and life becomes relevant.

Religion talks only of flowers that remain philosophical, abstract; they never materialise because they are removed from earth. And science has failed because it cares only about the roots.

We now need a new humanity in which religion and science become two aspects of one human being. And art will be the bridge. That’s why I say that the new man will be a mystic, a poet and a scientist.

PS- Videos too!

Use This Strategy To Accomplish Anything (Part 2)

This is part 2 on how to accomplish anything. Read part 1 HERE.

Everything you progress in is an epic journey.

And a journey is all about consistent movement while embracing (and hopefully enjoying) the process.

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But sometimes you need sign posts; markers to let you know where you’re at along your journey. Sometimes you need to have your eyes set on a “check point”, generating a newfound spark of motivation to keep pushing.

To reach those check points along your journey, you can unleash a secret weapon…

The final push strategy.

Which can be summarized like this…

Write it down. Share it. Set a deadline. Make the push.

Writing something down, sharing it, and setting a deadline makes  you so much more likely to accomplish anything. They give you the mentality that you can’t NOT do it, and act as the fuel for you to make that final push.

Note: This technique is for concrete goals that you can set for yourself. It should be used when you need that extra push. Your day-to-day routine should be more system, or habit oriented, than goal oriented.

You’re going to make the majority of progress by developing systems or habits. This strategy is for that extra push when you find something specific that you really want to accomplish.

This technique is your haymaker. In a boxing match, a good boxer doesn’t throw haymakers the whole fight. A good boxer jabs, blocks, and looks for openings. Then, when the opportunity presents itself, they throw a big punch. Your system/routine is your jab, your bread and butter. And the final push strategy is the knockout punch.

Get in the ring and dominate.

How to implement the final push strategy:

1. Writing things down. Simply write down your goal, aspiration, or whatever it is you want to make the final push at.

When you write something down, it makes it more tangible. The mere act of writing  desires/goals/aspirations makes them wayyy more likely to come into fruition. Writing serves as a portal through which the intangible enters the tangible world. That’s why it’s so beneficial in manifesting what you want.

2. Sharing. Share your aspiration. Tell a friend, tell your mom, share it on Facebook, send it to an anonymous goal-logging organization; whatever floats your boat.

Sharing puts your goal out into the world. It also creates public accountability. This allows you to leverage your ego and use it as a tool to accomplish something. Whenever you openly declare an aspiration, you’ll have no trouble finding motivation to achieve it.

3. Setting a deadline. Create a reasonable deadline to accomplish your goal, and stick to it.

As humans, we work well with deadlines. A sense of urgency kicks us into high gear.

Note: Deadlines are useful for things we need to proactively work towards, but not really necessary for desires which we attract. For example, are you going to set a deadline to have a girlfriend within 3 months? Nope, this is a desire that you indirectly attract. But what you can do is accomplish goals that will help you attract a girlfriend. Like meeting 10 new women in 3 months. Or losing 10 pounds of body fat in 3 months.

4. Make the push. Take massive action.

This is where you boost your system into hyperdrive to accomplish what you want. You’ll probably do a lot more than normal. But it’s short-term. Go too hard for too long and you’ll inevitably burn out. That’s why I stick to an simple, easy, consistent system most of the time, and give that extra push when I decide to accomplish something very specific.

How I used the final push technique:

Case study on myself – Writing The Art of Not Giving a Fuck:

My system was to write, edit, or research at least something every day (no matter how small of a task).

Once I was close to being done, it was time to implement the final push strategy. I set a deadline for myself (in this blog post) to catalyze my final push. I found myself slowing down towards the end, so I needed to set a deadline to help me with the final push. Sharing my deadline in writing took care of steps 1-3 (described above) in one shot. This instantly gave me tremendous motivation to complete The Art of Not Giving a Fuck by the deadline I had set.

I apply this technique for everything goal-oriented, and it works.

Think about it. People naturally kick into beast mode when they have a deadline (especially a public deadline). Ex/ Preparing for weddings or vacations is the ultimate call to action for people who want to get in better shape. It’s hard NOT to be motivated and take action in cases like that.

Now you have the tools to accomplish anything. Now it’s only a matter of taking consistent action.

Stay feelin’ good feelin’ great.

Much Love.

-Stevie P!

PS- Get your hands on The Art of Not Giving a Fuck. It’s well worth it.

Use This Strategy To Accomplish Anything (Part 1)

In this two part series, I’m going to share with you two techniques that greatly helped in completing my latest eBook, The Art of Not Giving a Fuck.

Most people struggle with attaining goals, often coasting through life without ever accomplishing what they really wanted to.

Ask any random person on the street, I guarantee they have goals. But the truth is, goals don’t have great success rates. All too often, goals become something to achieve when [insert excuse for not starting]. That’s the thing! Most people don’t even get started towards their goals, falling into comfortable complacency for the remainder of their days.

The good news is that there’s a stupid simple way to circumvent that…

Choose something to improve upon or progress in, and…

JUST DO SOMETHING, NO MATTER HOW SMALL, EVERY DAY.

I’m a big fan of systems, habits, and routines that build momentum in a desired direction. When all you have to do is accomplish something bite-sized today, it’s easy as pie (see that double food analogy?). Do this consistently, and you build confidence. Keep at it, and you’ll feel empowered and fulfilled. And before you know it, you’ll be amazed by the progress you’ve made just by doing something, no matter how small, every day. This is the foundation of success and personal development.

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Embark on your journey. One step at a time, young jedi.

I read this great article by James Clear a few months ago. And what’s funny is that for everything I’ve made significant progress in, I subconsciously created a system/routine and consistently stuck to it. And this system/routine would result in mind-boggling progression over time.

So what does a system look like?

It’s basically a habit or routine that you consciously and consistently implement. It’s doing something continuously (usually every day), to make progress in the direction you wish to move in.

Do a little bit every day, even if it’s for the smallest amount of time.

Think about how consistent work compounds over weeks, months, or even years?

“Most people overestimate what they can do in one year and underestimate what they can do in ten years.” -Bill Gates

Elliott Hulse calls it “finding your heartbeat.” Making something such an intrinsic part of your lifestyle that it becomes second nature, like your heartbeat.

Another variation of a system is Jerry Seinfeld’s “don’t break the chain” technique (described in detail here). It’s basically doing something every day, and marking a big red X on a calendar each day you did it, creating a chain. The goal is to keep doing whatever you’re doing every day and, whatever you do,  don’t break that chain.

“Consistency is what matters the most in triggering something important to your life.” -Abdul Rauf

What I did to write The Art of Not Giving a Fuck:

You guessed it… I focused on doing something every day, no matter how small. Some days I wrote pages upon pages. Other days I edited one sentence (yeah… really). I just focused on doing SOMETHING every day, and before I knew it, I had a finished product.

“…you can do what I quite often do when I am having an uninspired morning.
I get started anyway, despite the lack of motivation within.
I do so by taking a small step forward and by just focusing on taking that one step. I may for example tell myself that I will work on a new article or on editing a part of a new course for 3 minutes.”
Henrik Edberg (The Positivity Blog)

Here’s another tip for when you’re not so motivating. Just focus on the smallest thing you can do to move in the right direction. For example, when I have the motivation of a stoned sloth and it’s workout time, I just focus on warming up. “C’mon, let’s just warm-up and see how it goes.” That’s it. And as I’m warming up I’m like “Ok, this isn’t so bad.” And then I focus on doing one set. “Let’s just get through this set.” Then I focus on the next set, and so on and so forth, until (voila) I finished the workout. And if you’re wondering, yes, I do motivational self-talks. It works.

The things we can accomplish when we take action consistently is literally mindblowing. It’s almost like a superpower.

“Daily, consistent, focused, faithful expectation raises the miracle power of achieving your dreams.” -John Di Lemme

This “system approach” can be applied to anything, and works best when it’s a daily habit. The only exception I can think of is something like working out, because you simply can’t lift heavy every day. You need to recover. So in this case, the system would be to work out something like 4 days per week, and make it a lifestyle.

So…

Don’t worry about that six pack, just eat one healthy meal at a time.

Don’t worry about having a New York Times Best Seller, just focus on writing one sentence at a time.

Don’t worry about catching them all, just focus on catching one Pokemon at a time.

Don’t worry about getting as big as Ronnie Coleman, just focus on one rep at a time.

Stay consistent, and before you know it, you’ll be well on your way.

In the next part, we’ll discuss how to calibrate your system to achieve specific goals. Stay tuned…

And, of course, stay feelin’ good, feelin’ great.

-Stevie P!

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The Art of Not Giving a Fuck (eBook)

The Art of Not Giving a Fuck eBook is finally here!

Check it out HERE.

The Art of Not Giving a Fuck holds a special place in my heart. It’s the culmination of so much knowledge, wisdom and experience I’ve acquired over the years.

It is for everyone, including myself. I feel it has truly empowering and actionable information that will most certainly enhance your life. I also find myself consistently applying more and more of what is discussed since I began writing this book. I hope this work sparks something within you. I hope it acts as a catalyst for setting you on the path of empowerment, becoming the best version of yourself, having fun, and spreading joyfulness to others.

Even though the title is “The Art of Not Giving a Fuck,” it’s deep, insightful, spiritual and ultimately rooted in love. This book is a “Trojan horse” of sorts, in the way that it conveys messages of empowerment and love in an unorthodox way.

I wrote this book because I believe it contains crucial messages that will enhance our experience of life. I struggled a lot with fear of all kinds until recently. I cared way too much about the opinions of others, and this suppressed my true essence. But through a lot of self-work, inner exploration, and self-improvement in every aspect of life, I feel liberated and empowered. I let my awesome out, no fucks given.

The Art of Not Giving a Fuck is a combination of my knowledge/wisdom/experiences, the knowledge/wisdom/experiences of others, and reverse engineering the mind-sets of people I deeply admire.

There is so much out there, so much to learn, so much to experience. This is my collage of applied knowledge; my mosaic of wisdom and experience. This is my gift to the world. And I present it to you with a big, beaming smile as I write this.

I wish you a life filled with peace, love, happiness, health, learning, and most importantly FUN.

“You gain nothing by being bothered by life’s events. It doesn’t change the world; you just suffer.” – Michael A. Singer

Enjoy yourself!

-Stevie P!

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Get your copy today —> The Art of Not Giving a Fuck (eBook)

And here’s the series of posts I did on The Art of Not Giving a Fuck:

Great Moments in the History of Not Giving a Fuck: Viral Edition

Good news…

The Art of Not Giving A Fuck eBook is set for release on Tuesday, February 25th!

And as the third and last installment of the mini-series “Great Moments in the History of Not Giving a Fuck,” I present to you the viral edition…

1. Russian guy dancing at a resort

I don’t think there’s anyone in the world more comfortable in their own skin. While most people are too self-conscious to even participate in things like this, this guy has the time of his life. Plus, he’s got some moves too. Fun over fear, my friends.

 

2. Guy singing and dancing to Bon Jovi at a Boston Celtics game

This guy (Jeremy Fry) does what everyone really wants to do, and it’s so awesome. So many people are so self-conscious and stuck living vicariously that they just sit there like zombies at events. Not this guy though! He doesn’t give a fuck. He made the day of thousands of people at the game, and millions who’ve seen it on Youtube. If I was wearing a hat, I’d tip it to this guy.

 

3. 55-year-old hard-drinking Slovenian man swims the entire Amazon River

http://www.mirror.co.uk/news/uk-news/man-swims-the-entire-length-of-the-amazon-414258

Yeah, you read that right. That guy (Martin Strel, pictured above) really swam the entire Amazon, no fear and no fucks given. Read the article, it’s great. What an absolute legend.

 

4. Russell Brand tearing newscasters apart and mocking the current state of mainstream “news”

Russell Brand says what’s on his mind, doesn’t have any inhibitions, and shatters the trance that TV news usually has people in. And he does it all in a witty, hilarious, and surprisingly polite manner.

 

5. Elliott Hulse – Brain Slave No More

In this video, Elliott both discusses and demonstrates how we imprison ourselves in our bodies. He yells, stomps, shakes, screams; all of the things we would reactively (because of conditioning) call “crazy.” But you know what!? He’s right. How good does it feel to scream at the top of your lungs? It’s a cathartic release. We’re so conditioned to suppress feelings, emotions, and expression. But once you allow yourself to express (especially through the body), it’s positively liberating and creates harmony on so many levels.

Hope you enjoyed all these great moments. I hope they made your day. And I hope you, like me, have been inspired by some of these.

Can you think of any other Great Moments in the History of Not Giving a Fuck? Comment below.

And remember…

The Art of Not Giving a Fuck eBook is set for release on Tuesday February 25th, 2014. Mark your calendar!

Stay feelin’ good, feelin’ great.

Much love.

-Stevie P!

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All related posts on the upcoming The Art of Not Giving a Fuck eBook:

 

Great Moments in the History of Not Giving a Fuck: The Guy Who Refused To Do The Nazi Salute

If you want to see someone who epitomizes The Art of Not Giving A Fuck, look no further than the image below…

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“It was Nazi Germany in 1936, and a crowd of people had gathered in Hamburg to watch the launch of a navy training vessel. As hundreds raised their arms in unison in the Nazi salute, one man stood with his arms crossed, his eyes squinting at whoever was leading the salute.”¹

 

That one man was August Landmesser, connoisseur of  the “just because everyone’s doing this dumb shit, doesn’t mean I’m going to”-mentality.

I applaud ol’ August. What a G, and what a testament to moral heroism. This one action serves as a reminder that no matter how fucked up a society is, the human spirit will never be completely extinguished. Free will is a trump card we can pull out at any time. We always have the choice, though we might be conditioned to think otherwise. Oppressive control systems only come to fruition through our acquiescence.

Their power over you is only the result of you not knowing your own.

Our main man August was fearless in his epic moment of noncompliance. Fear allows us to be manipulated oh so easily (like everyone else in the picture), but if you don’t give a fuck (aka don’t give into fear), you take your power back. You can’t be controlled. You can’t be herded. You can’t be easily manipulated. You become your own person whose actions are based on what you feel to be right… Now that’s empowerment, and August Landmesser embodied it.

“Even if you are a minority of one, the truth is the truth.” – Mahatma Gandhi

The Art of Not Giving a Fuck eBook is coming soon…

Stay feelin good, feelin’ great my friends.

-Stevie P!

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¹http://www.washingtonpost.com/blogs/blogpost/post/august-landmesser-shipyard-worker-in-hamburg-refused-to-perform-nazi-salute-photo/2012/02/07/gIQA1ZzExQ_blog.html?tid=pm_national_pop

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