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How to Overcome Perfectionism

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Perfectionism is a trap.

Though it may seem like perfectionism has your best interest in mind, it plays out much differently in the unfoldment of life.

Perfectionism can be stifling. Though the drive for perfection can sometimes push you towards your goals, it most often creates delusional expectations, paralyzing procrastination and harsh self-criticism (as well as external criticism).

We all know (on some level) that perfection doesn’t exist in this reality, so there is an inherent chasm of doubt whenever we chase perfection. The chasm of doubt and subtle anxieties of cognitive dissonance put us on the operating system of fear, where fear becomes the dominant motivating force. This is how perfectionism can make us hyper-critical (to both ourselves and others) as well as prevent us from even starting things (because of the fear that it won’t be perfect).

Nature is imperfect, yet the imperfection of nature is what makes it beautiful, unique and ever-changing. Perfection is stagnation. Perfection is static. Perfection is permanence, which defies the very nature of our impermanent Universe. The only constant is change (in this reality at least), so you might as well embrace the paradoxical perfection of ever-changing imperfection. Imperfection is a gift, as it allows for uniqueness and the potential for perpetual improvement. Forgo the pursuit of perfection, accept where you are in each moment and strive for continual improvement.

Being happy doesn’t mean that everything is perfect. It means that you’ve decided to look beyond the imperfections.
~ Gerard Way

 
Overcoming Perfectionism Through Belief Transmutation

One way to overcome perfectionism is to replace limiting beliefs with new, more empowering beliefs. This is the alchemical art of transmutation.

Examples of limiting beliefs regarding perfection:

  • I have to be perfect in order to be worthy.
  • Everything has to be perfect for me to be happy.
  • Everything has to be perfect for (insert any hope or dream you want to come to fruition).
  • I’m afraid of doing this because it might not turn out perfectly.
  • I want to achieve perfection now.
  • Substitute those old, limiting beliefs for new, more empowering beliefs.

    Examples of more empowering beliefs:

  • Perfection doesn’t exist in this reality, but I achieve excellence.
  • I’m continuously improving and fueled by self-love.
  • I accept where I am in each moment, while always moving forward.
  • Imperfection allows for uniqueness and continuous improvement. I embrace my uniqueness and I’m endlessly evolving.
  • I always try my best and leave the rest up to the Universe/The Process of Life/God.
  • I’ll start now. I can always change, refine and improve things later because nothing is permanent.
  • I embrace the journey and find joy in continuous improvement.
  • Listen closely to your self-talk regarding perfection. Be particularly aware of your self-talk when the urge to procrastinate arises. What beliefs are you holding? What are more empowering beliefs to replace them with? A belief is simply a pattern of thoughts. Change your thoughts and you will change your beliefs.

    Overcoming Perfectionism Through Action

    If I waited for perfection… I would never write a word.
    ~ Margaret Atwood

     
    Perfectionism has a component of fear to it, particularly the fear of not being perfect. And since nothing in this reality is perfect, the perfectionist often chooses inaction over the possibility of trying and not achieving perfection. This creates an incapacitating state of constant procrastination, which is an insidious byproduct of perfectionism. Building a habit of taking consistent action deprograms the perfectionist mindset.

    The unachievable expectations of perfectionism can be paralyzing, preventing you from even starting things. But taking action overcomes the rigid inertia of perfectionism and starts a snowball effect of empowering momentum. By flexing your action muscles, you break through the chains of perfectionism like the incredible hulk ripping through a shirt (except you probably won’t be angry).

    When you build a habit of consistent action-taking, procrastination becomes a distant memory. You’ll learn to find fulfillment in the process. Perfectionism will be re-programmed into the mindset of embracing the journey of life.

    A strategy often discussed in entrepreneurial circles is that of releasing something, or taking action, before you’re fully ready. This idea is not about releasing an unfinished or half-assed product/service, but in accepting imperfection and building the habit of taking action. Remember, nothing is permanent and you can always tweak things later.

    Do not wait: the time will never be ‘just right’. Start where you stand, and work whatever tools you may have at your command and better tools will be found as you go along.
    ~ Napoleon Hill

     
    In the book The Motivation Manifesto, Brendon Burchard discusses defeating your personal demons. One of these demons is called “Defiance,” whose sole purpose is to delay your actions. How do you defeat this demon? You defeat Defiance by transforming delay with action. Decisive action, in the face of fear “sets off an internal tidal wave of power that subjugates our meeker impulses,” according to Burchard.

    I’ve also touched on the topic of overcoming doubt, defiance and delay in the article 8 Ways to Transmute Self-Doubt into Faith.”

    The practical how-to aspect of action is simple. Take small actions consistently, preferably every day. Break big tasks or big goals into bite-sized chunks. Create a system to bring you in the direction of a goal and stick to the system. Taking small actions on a daily basis allows you to avoid being overwhelmed and strengthens your action muscles to the point where procrastination doesn’t stand a chance.

    How I Overcame Perfectionism

    Though I still have perfectionist tendencies from time-to-time, it no longer has me in its clutches. Changing my perfectionist beliefs and taking consistent action were invaluable solutions for me.

    My journey progressed based on those two strategies. Firstly, I realized (conceptually, at least) that perfectionism is not attainable in this reality. After some time I was able to accept, feel and deeply understand that truth. Viewing life as a video game greatly aided this understanding as well. From that point, I was able to transmute my perfectionist beliefs into more empowering beliefs (meditation and mindfulness helped with being able to notice limiting beliefs I was holding onto).

    Action was the ingredient that completed the recipe. The most predominate action-based habits I built were publishing blog posts and recording videos. Since I started Feelin’ Good, Feelin’ Great in September 2012, I’ve written a blog post every single week (with a few exceptions). Creating that commitment to action played a pivotal role in breaking out of the paralysis of perfectionism. If I had waited for myself to write the perfect blog post, I would’ve never released anything. It was in choosing to just put myself out there that catalyzed the process of becoming an exponentially better writer. By committing to continual action, I’ve practiced writing far more than I would have if I was stuck in the paralysis of perfectionism.

    More recently, on top of the weekly blog post habit, I’ve been releasing one video every day (on YouTube and Facebook). I record the videos in one take, and they’re unscripted except for jotting down a few bullet points beforehand. Executing the videos in such an impromptu fashion has improved my speaking ability, spontaneity, self-confidence, memory and mental clarity by leaps and bounds. Additionally, recording a video every day has “greased the groove” of my action-taking ability and has allowed the bright light of unconditional self-love to scatter away the shadowy phantoms of perfectionism.

    Dear Human: You’ve Got It All Wrong

    Dear Human. You’ve got it all wrong. You didn’t come here to master unconditional love. This is where you came from and where you’ll return. You came here to learn personal love. Universal love. Messy love. Sweaty Love. Crazy love. Broken love. Whole love. Infused with divinity. Lived through the grace of stumbling. Demonstrated through the beauty of… messing up. Often. You didn’t come here to be perfect, you already are. You came here to be gorgeously human. Flawed and fabulous. And rising again into remembering. But unconditional love? Stop telling that story. Love in truth doesn’t need any adjectives. It doesn’t require modifiers. It doesn’t require the condition of perfection. It only asks you to show up. And do your best. That you stay present and feel fully. That you shine and fly and laugh and cry and hurt and heal and fall and get back up and play and work and live and die as YOU. It’s enough. It’s Plenty.
    ~ Courtney A. Walsh

     
    Embrace imperfection, and accept where you are, while enjoying the journey. Live, learn and grow.

    You are worthy, no matter what.

    You are love.

    – Stevie P!

     

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    8 Ways to Transmute Self-Doubt Into Faith

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    Self-doubt is crippling.

    What makes self-doubt so insidious is that it’s the only thing that truly stands between where we are and where we want to be.

    The only limitations we have are those we place upon ourselves. And these walls of fear that we place around ourselves are what keep us imprisoned.

    Doubt’s polar opposite is faith. Instead of focusing on getting rid of doubt, focus on building faith. This is the concept of mental transmutation as described by ancient Hermetic teachings.

    “The secret of change is to focus all of your energy, not on fighting the old, but on building the new.” – Socrates

    Doubt simply cannot exist in the presence of faith. It doesn’t matter if it’s yourself, God, the Universe or having Bulbasaur as your starting Pokemon. Faith in something is absolutely crucial in leading a happy and fulfilling life.

    Remember that everything that happens in your life is perfect for your personal growth. You also have the inherent capacity to deal with any situation that occurs in your life. There is no need to fear.

    “Nothing in the affairs of men is worthy of great anxiety.” – Plato

    I’m writing this because I noticed self-doubt creeping in recently. Being burnt out a couple weeks ago left me exhausted and made me question myself.

    But by overcoming burnout and implementing a few strategies, I’ve been able to transmute that ugly self-doubt into beautiful self-faith.

    8 Ways to Transmute Self-Doubt into Faith:

    1. Affirmations
    Affirmations are statements to program your subconscious mind a certain way. They’re immensely helpful for getting through any difficult time. You become what your dominant thoughts are. Program yourself for joy and empowerment.

    Here are some sample affirmations to help transform doubt into faith:
    If you’re afraid of bad experiences – “Everything is a learning experience.”
    If you’re anxious about the future – “I can handle anything life throws at me.”
    If you’re worried about money – “Thank you Universe for the abundance of money flowing into my life at all times.”

    With whatever you want to embody, simply search for related affirmations and you’ll find an abundance of them.

    Write down affirmations on a daily basis and continuously repeat them to yourself. That’s how to maximize the immense efficacy of affirmations.

    2. Visualization
    Visualize yourself achieving your goals. Be as specific as possible. Picture it like you’re already doing it. What does it feel like?

    This is another means of programming yourself to achieve what you truly want in life.

    Visualization has worked for many of the world’s top performers (especially athletes), so it will certainly work for you. Visualize the action and actualize the vision.

    An effective way to leverage the power of visualization is to visualize your ideal day/lifestyle (while being as specific as possible) every morning. You can even include it in your meditation practice.

    3. Take action
    Don’t just sit there marinating in self-doubt. Work towards what you want. Take that first step in the direction you want to head in. Any sort of progress cultivates faith and quells doubt.

    4. Build skills
    Acquiring and building skills naturally increases genuine self-confidence. You become more capable, which then alleviates that insidious self-doubt.

    Pick a skill to develop, and consistently work to improve it.

    5. Be present
    Doubt creeps in when you start projecting your mind into the past or future. Self-doubt is usually about the future; anxiety over imaginary “what if” scenarios.

    What are you doing right now? Be with it totally. Be here now.

    For example: If you want to write a book and you’re outlining it today, focus on that. Don’t focus on how other people have books published. Create the best outline you can today and continue to move forward. This will not only maximize your work, but keep you present and minimize any self-doubt.

    “All negativity is caused by an accumulation of psychological time and denial of the present. Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry – all forms of fear – are caused by too much future, and
    not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms
    of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence.” – Eckhart Tolle

    6. Embrace the mystery of life
    A major aspect of transmuting doubt into faith is embracing the inherent mystery of life. The very nature of the Universe we live in is constant flux. So letting go of trying to control everything and simply enjoying the ride is key. Deepak Chopra discusses embracing the mystery of life in his book The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success where he outlines the following affirmations:

    “I will factor in uncertainty as an essential ingredient of my experience. In my willingness to accept uncertainty, solutions will spontaneously emerge out of the problem, out of the confusion, disorder, and chaos. The more uncertain things seem to be, the more secure I will feel, because uncertainty is the path to my freedom.”

    “I will step into the field of all possibilities and anticipate the excitement that can occur when I remain open to an infinity of choices. When I step into the field of all possibilities, I will experience all the fun, adventure, magic, and mystery of life.”

    7. Rest, then dive back into your work
    Sometimes self-doubt comes from fatigue or burnout. In this case you need to rest in order to function at maximum capacity long-term. Life is a balance of the yin and yang. I discuss how to do this in more detail in the post “How to Avoid Burnout.”

    8. Know that there are forces bigger than your rational mind at work.

    Learn to trust your intuition. Be in that state of deep-seated knowing, and your doubt will be transmuted into faith.

    Stay feelin’ good, feelin’ great.

    – Stevie P!

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    Use This Strategy To Accomplish Anything (Part 2)

    This is part 2 on how to accomplish anything. Read part 1 HERE.

    Everything you progress in is an epic journey.

    And a journey is all about consistent movement while embracing (and hopefully enjoying) the process.

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    But sometimes you need sign posts; markers to let you know where you’re at along your journey. Sometimes you need to have your eyes set on a “check point”, generating a newfound spark of motivation to keep pushing.

    To reach those check points along your journey, you can unleash a secret weapon…

    The final push strategy.

    Which can be summarized like this…

    Write it down. Share it. Set a deadline. Make the push.

    Writing something down, sharing it, and setting a deadline makes  you so much more likely to accomplish anything. They give you the mentality that you can’t NOT do it, and act as the fuel for you to make that final push.

    Note: This technique is for concrete goals that you can set for yourself. It should be used when you need that extra push. Your day-to-day routine should be more system, or habit oriented, than goal oriented.

    You’re going to make the majority of progress by developing systems or habits. This strategy is for that extra push when you find something specific that you really want to accomplish.

    This technique is your haymaker. In a boxing match, a good boxer doesn’t throw haymakers the whole fight. A good boxer jabs, blocks, and looks for openings. Then, when the opportunity presents itself, they throw a big punch. Your system/routine is your jab, your bread and butter. And the final push strategy is the knockout punch.

    Get in the ring and dominate.

    How to implement the final push strategy:

    1. Writing things down. Simply write down your goal, aspiration, or whatever it is you want to make the final push at.

    When you write something down, it makes it more tangible. The mere act of writing  desires/goals/aspirations makes them wayyy more likely to come into fruition. Writing serves as a portal through which the intangible enters the tangible world. That’s why it’s so beneficial in manifesting what you want.

    2. Sharing. Share your aspiration. Tell a friend, tell your mom, share it on Facebook, send it to an anonymous goal-logging organization; whatever floats your boat.

    Sharing puts your goal out into the world. It also creates public accountability. This allows you to leverage your ego and use it as a tool to accomplish something. Whenever you openly declare an aspiration, you’ll have no trouble finding motivation to achieve it.

    3. Setting a deadline. Create a reasonable deadline to accomplish your goal, and stick to it.

    As humans, we work well with deadlines. A sense of urgency kicks us into high gear.

    Note: Deadlines are useful for things we need to proactively work towards, but not really necessary for desires which we attract. For example, are you going to set a deadline to have a girlfriend within 3 months? Nope, this is a desire that you indirectly attract. But what you can do is accomplish goals that will help you attract a girlfriend. Like meeting 10 new women in 3 months. Or losing 10 pounds of body fat in 3 months.

    4. Make the push. Take massive action.

    This is where you boost your system into hyperdrive to accomplish what you want. You’ll probably do a lot more than normal. But it’s short-term. Go too hard for too long and you’ll inevitably burn out. That’s why I stick to an simple, easy, consistent system most of the time, and give that extra push when I decide to accomplish something very specific.

    How I used the final push technique:

    Case study on myself – Writing The Art of Not Giving a Fuck:

    My system was to write, edit, or research at least something every day (no matter how small of a task).

    Once I was close to being done, it was time to implement the final push strategy. I set a deadline for myself (in this blog post) to catalyze my final push. I found myself slowing down towards the end, so I needed to set a deadline to help me with the final push. Sharing my deadline in writing took care of steps 1-3 (described above) in one shot. This instantly gave me tremendous motivation to complete The Art of Not Giving a Fuck by the deadline I had set.

    I apply this technique for everything goal-oriented, and it works.

    Think about it. People naturally kick into beast mode when they have a deadline (especially a public deadline). Ex/ Preparing for weddings or vacations is the ultimate call to action for people who want to get in better shape. It’s hard NOT to be motivated and take action in cases like that.

    Now you have the tools to accomplish anything. Now it’s only a matter of taking consistent action.

    Stay feelin’ good feelin’ great.

    Much Love.

    -Stevie P!

    PS- Get your hands on The Art of Not Giving a Fuck. It’s well worth it.

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    Use This Strategy To Accomplish Anything (Part 1)

    In this two part series, I’m going to share with you two techniques that greatly helped in completing my latest eBook, The Art of Not Giving a Fuck.

    Most people struggle with attaining goals, often coasting through life without ever accomplishing what they really wanted to.

    Ask any random person on the street, I guarantee they have goals. But the truth is, goals don’t have great success rates. All too often, goals become something to achieve when [insert excuse for not starting]. That’s the thing! Most people don’t even get started towards their goals, falling into comfortable complacency for the remainder of their days.

    The good news is that there’s a stupid simple way to circumvent that…

    Choose something to improve upon or progress in, and…

    JUST DO SOMETHING, NO MATTER HOW SMALL, EVERY DAY.

    I’m a big fan of systems, habits, and routines that build momentum in a desired direction. When all you have to do is accomplish something bite-sized today, it’s easy as pie (see that double food analogy?). Do this consistently, and you build confidence. Keep at it, and you’ll feel empowered and fulfilled. And before you know it, you’ll be amazed by the progress you’ve made just by doing something, no matter how small, every day. This is the foundation of success and personal development.

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    Embark on your journey. One step at a time, young jedi.

    I read this great article by James Clear a few months ago. And what’s funny is that for everything I’ve made significant progress in, I subconsciously created a system/routine and consistently stuck to it. And this system/routine would result in mind-boggling progression over time.

    So what does a system look like?

    It’s basically a habit or routine that you consciously and consistently implement. It’s doing something continuously (usually every day), to make progress in the direction you wish to move in.

    Do a little bit every day, even if it’s for the smallest amount of time.

    Think about how consistent work compounds over weeks, months, or even years?

    “Most people overestimate what they can do in one year and underestimate what they can do in ten years.” -Bill Gates

    Elliott Hulse calls it “finding your heartbeat.” Making something such an intrinsic part of your lifestyle that it becomes second nature, like your heartbeat.

    Another variation of a system is Jerry Seinfeld’s “don’t break the chain” technique (described in detail here). It’s basically doing something every day, and marking a big red X on a calendar each day you did it, creating a chain. The goal is to keep doing whatever you’re doing every day and, whatever you do,  don’t break that chain.

    “Consistency is what matters the most in triggering something important to your life.” -Abdul Rauf

    What I did to write The Art of Not Giving a Fuck:

    You guessed it… I focused on doing something every day, no matter how small. Some days I wrote pages upon pages. Other days I edited one sentence (yeah… really). I just focused on doing SOMETHING every day, and before I knew it, I had a finished product.

    “…you can do what I quite often do when I am having an uninspired morning.
    I get started anyway, despite the lack of motivation within.
    I do so by taking a small step forward and by just focusing on taking that one step. I may for example tell myself that I will work on a new article or on editing a part of a new course for 3 minutes.”
    Henrik Edberg (The Positivity Blog)

    Here’s another tip for when you’re not so motivating. Just focus on the smallest thing you can do to move in the right direction. For example, when I have the motivation of a stoned sloth and it’s workout time, I just focus on warming up. “C’mon, let’s just warm-up and see how it goes.” That’s it. And as I’m warming up I’m like “Ok, this isn’t so bad.” And then I focus on doing one set. “Let’s just get through this set.” Then I focus on the next set, and so on and so forth, until (voila) I finished the workout. And if you’re wondering, yes, I do motivational self-talks. It works.

    The things we can accomplish when we take action consistently is literally mindblowing. It’s almost like a superpower.

    “Daily, consistent, focused, faithful expectation raises the miracle power of achieving your dreams.” -John Di Lemme

    This “system approach” can be applied to anything, and works best when it’s a daily habit. The only exception I can think of is something like working out, because you simply can’t lift heavy every day. You need to recover. So in this case, the system would be to work out something like 4 days per week, and make it a lifestyle.

    So…

    Don’t worry about that six pack, just eat one healthy meal at a time.

    Don’t worry about having a New York Times Best Seller, just focus on writing one sentence at a time.

    Don’t worry about catching them all, just focus on catching one Pokemon at a time.

    Don’t worry about getting as big as Ronnie Coleman, just focus on one rep at a time.

    Stay consistent, and before you know it, you’ll be well on your way.

    In the next part, we’ll discuss how to calibrate your system to achieve specific goals. Stay tuned…

    And, of course, stay feelin’ good, feelin’ great.

    -Stevie P!

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    Take Action, Or Let Go, And Move On

    When’s the last time over-thinking did you any good?

    When’s the last time worrying got you anywhere?

    Probably never.

    When it comes to those things that typically consume precious mental energy, you can retain your sanity with a simple principle…

    Take Action Or Let Go

    Take action and forget about it. Or let go and forget about it. Do what you need to do (if you even need to do it in the first place), and move on with your life.

    Don’t let anything kill your vibe. Don’t let anything interrupt your happiness. Get your shit done and live worry-free.

    For example…

    If you’re overweight and you complain about it: Eat healthier, move your body, notice your progress, and stop complaining. Because just whining about your situation gets you nowhere.

    If someone cuts you off in traffic: Simply let go and move on. It won’t be of any benefit to you (or anyone else) to get angry and cling to what happened. (Keyword = happened. Meaning it’s in the past and only exists in your mind.)

    This applies to so many scenarios in life. And a lot of people dwell in the realm of over-thinking and worrying instead of taking action (or letting go) and then moving on.

    Taking action, or letting go, and getting on with your life allows you to be present. When you take action, you’re present. When you let go, you’re present. When you move on, you move with the flow of the moment. And life becomes magical (and mo’ betta’) when you immerse yourself in the now. But when you over-analyze, over-think, or worry, you’re in the past or future (which only exist in your mind). And that hinders you’re ability to appreciate what you’re doing now.

    “Where ever you are, be there totally.” -Eckhart Tolle

    To visually demonstrate this concept, here’s a lil graph I made:

     

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    Note: The Y-Axis (vertical) represents the spectrum from positive to negative. The X-Axis (horizontal) represents the spectrum from active to passive. Examples are italicized.

    Take action, or let go, and move on.

    Stay feelin’ good, feelin’ great.

    -Stevie P!

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    You Don’t Have To Be An Asshole To Be Assertive

    Guess what?

    The very first Feelin’ Good, Feelin’ Great product is now available!

    “You Don’t Have To Be An Asshole To Be Assertive” (E-Course)

    ^I came up with that phrase, which inspired me to create a course based on it haha.

    In a nutshell:
    “You Don’t Have To Be An Asshole To Be Assertive” is basically a step-by-step e-course on mastering genuine assertiveness and creating an action-based life. But it’s really more than that. It’s paradigm-shifting. It’s secretly deeply spiritual and transformative at the same time, which is why I wholeheartedly believe in it.

    Oh, and there’s an eBook version too.

    Check it out under the new “Products and Courses” tab.

    Or by clicking the flattering image below:
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    Hope you’re having a great weekend!

    Stay feelin’ good, feelin’ great.

    -Stevie P!

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    Be The Change

    Planet Earth is an interesting place, to say the least. It’s definitely a wild ride on this rock hurtling through space. And quite the experience.

    But why does there seem to be so much chaos going on here?

    While we inherently exist in Love and innocence (look at young children), the systems in place seem to be perpetuating the exact opposite. There’s a conflict of interest between our fundamental nature as spiritual beings (Love-based) and the world around us (fear-based).

    Think about it. We come into this world innocent and full of Love. Pure, jovial beings. It’s only after some form of conditioning that we begin to lose this radiant essence and become more fearful.

    This disconnect between our natural state of being and the world around us raises some eyebrows. Something has gone wrong along the way here. Whoever is at the top of the pyramid is fuckin it up for the rest of us. Whether you think it’s the Illuminati, aliens, the bankers, reptilians, or Teletubbies is irrelevant. The point is that there’s an obvious deviation between our essence and the state of planet Earth. And the only way to change it is to BE THE CHANGE.

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    Sitting and waiting for someone else to do the work will not change anything. It will only make us more passive and complacent.

    We need to spark the torch of change.

    Shine your light on the world.

    Only light can drive out darkness.

    Light your candle, produce your own light, and light other candles with your flame. A sole candle produces some light, but millions of candles will illuminate even the darkest abyss. Spread light.

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    Ways you can be the change you want to see in the world:

    Lead by example. Walk the walk. If you think record labels suck, create your own record label (ie Tech N9ne). If you think the obesity epidemic is negatively affecting the world, be fit and healthy. If you can’t stand big corporations, don’t buy from them or start your own small business (which is easier to do than ever before with the internet). Live it.

    Don’t succumb to fear. It does no good to immerse yourself in the negativity going on in the world. Of course it’s good to be aware of what’s going on, but you’re not helping anyone if you marinate on negativity. You can’t help yourself, let alone others, when you’re full of fear and negativity. Why sit, idly complaining in the darkness, when  you can simply switch on the lights? Turn off the news (the biggest fear generator) and spread love. Be proactive in your own way. Be the change. Like Q-Tip said in Steve Biko (Stir It Up), “So much goin’ on, people killin’, people dyin’, but I don’t dwell on that, I think I’ll elevate my mental…”

    Operate with Love. Not succumbing to fear allows you to live in the paradigm of Love. Choosing Love over fear changes the way you live and affect the world around you. Empowering yourself and those you come in contact with. Maintaining a spiritual connectedness. Transcending fear-based manipulation. Making people’s day. Contributing to bringing more light to this planet in any way, shape or form.

    Draw your perception back. Don’t get too absorbed in your mind chatter. We’re the consciousness behind our minds. Forms of meditation are the most common ways of attaining this. Gaining this perspective will immensely help in guiding you on this journey we call life, especially regarding the next point…

    Transcend conditioning. Be aware that “society” has taught us all how to act, behave, and even think (for better or worse). Be aware of your reaction to certain stimuli. Recognize when you exhibit predictable, programmed reactions. Was this embedded in your mind, like a software program? Don’t be a robot. Decondition yourself and allow some room for spontaneity, creativity, and all the other great qualities that make us human.

    Vote with your dollar. Don’t agree with what McDonald’s does? Don’t buy from them. Don’t like the over-prescription of pharmaceuticals here in the US? Don’t take ’em. Find alternatives. Companies can’t exist if consumers don’t give them money. Simple as that. The beauty of a consumerist society is the power the consumer has. We just need to direct that power in the right direction.

    Empower yourself. Take responsibility and control of yourself. Trust your own intuition and judgment. Don’t give your power away.

    Own your health. Our body is our vehicle in this reality. Take control of it. In a world where our health is being systematically destroyed, being healthy is freedom fighting. Optimize your health. When you’re healthy, you don’t need medication. You don’t need incessant doctor visits. You don’t need to buy gimmicky health products. You become less dependent on external forces. When you’re healthy, you realize how good you’re meant to feel. This is so empowering. Healthy people are vital, full of energy and passion. Not passive. Not complacent. Healthy people are more inclined to be the change they want to see in the world. And owning your health makes you feel so damn good that your positive aura spreads to everyone around you.

    Be proactive, not passive. Do things! Create. Participate. Do. We’ve become too passive lately. Change only takes place through action. A society of tv-watching couch potatoes will never create positive changes. Get up, get out and get somethin.

    Voice your opinion on things that matter to you. If you’re passionate about something, express it. We all have unique ways of thinking. New ideas don’t come to fruition unless someone shares it. There would be no progression if people never expressed alternative viewpoints. Don’t shy away from expressing your opinion on something you deeply care about, no matter how “crazy” it may seem. Life would be no fun if there was only one opinion on everything. And with the internet, what you have to say has the potential to reach billions of people. Now that’s powerful. No wonder why information and ideas are spreading like wildfire these days.

    But don’t force your opinion on others. It’s important to express your opinion, but it’s your opinion. Nothing is 100% true or false. Reality is one big gray area. The world has too many people forcing ideas on others anyway. Don’t contribute to that. We all have a right to different opinions.

    Be like water. Like Bruce Lee said. Don’t be rigid. Be open-minded. Don’t worry, your brain won’t fall out. Entertain new ideas without rigidly attaching to them (allowing you to explore anything without being easily manipulated). Constantly evolve. Be dynamic and flexible. Be open to infinite possibility. Because who knows what’s really possible?

    Be child-like. Be random. Express yourself. Laugh out loud. Play! Move your body. Adults have become almost expressionless robots. This hinders our ability to think/act differently, take action, and experience pure euphoria. Being more child-like gives us the ability to “be the change”, and have a great time doing it.

    Pursue your passions. Follow your bliss. Dedicate time and effort to things you’re passionate about, as opposed to what you’re told to do. These days it’s even possible to make a living off of what you’re most passionate about*, no matter what it is. This is what I’m working towards. Pursue your passions and share your unique awesomeness with the world.

    So don’t complain if you see something you don’t like. Get proactive. Do something.

    “Be the change you want to see in the world.”

    Stay feelin’ good, feelin’ great.

    -Stevie P!

    *For more info on this subject, look into:
    -The 4-Hour Workweek by Tim Ferriss
    -Crush It! by Gary Vaynerchuk
    -Elliot Hulse’s Non-Job Campaign

     

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    5 Strategies To Overcome Inaction

    What good is knowledge if you don’t use it?

    What good is theory if it can’t be put into practice?

    What good are intentions or promises if you don’t follow through with them?

    Action is how any(and every)thing gets accomplished.

    Action is the currency of our reality. It is what must be exchanged for whatever you wish to obtain.

    Apply. Act. Do.

    “Action will remove the doubts that theory cannot solve.”  – Tehyi Hsieh

    Let’s compare an action-based life to a life of inaction…

    Active life vs passive life

  • Experiencing vs witnessing
  • Creating vs watching
  • Expressing vs withholding
  • Standing out vs fitting in
  • Being extraordinary vs being ordinary
  • Get used to acting instead of getting caught up in paralysis by analysis.

    Get used to doing instead of watching.

    Get used to creating.

    DO more!

    Take action, ask questions later.

    That’s what I did with creating the e-course on assertiveness (coming soon). I just did it, because I knew I had it in me. I got started, and refined everything once it was already set in motion.

    You regret more things you don’t do as opposed to things you do. Life is defined through experiences. Create as many as possible.

    Enter the paradigm of an action-based life.

    5 Strategies to Overcome Inaction

    1. Act before your brain starts over-analyzing the situation.

    Just do it, before thinking your way to indecisiveness and inaction. A good example of this is when I went cliff jumping a few weeks ago. I climbed to the top of a rock, and I jumped before I even gave myself a chance to over-think. Ready… fire… aim haha.

    2. Take small actions everyday.

    Break big goals into bite sized pieces. Accomplish at least one of those bite-sized pieces everyday. So easy. And that shit adds up.

    3. Less input, more output. Less passive, more active. Less watching, more doing.

    Spend more time doing and creating. Practice using your own judgment and intuition instead of relying on external forces for everything.

    4. Create a bucket list and start checking items off. And set goals to work towards.

    This gives you a sense of direction, instead of wandering aimlessly. When you lack purpose, you’ll spend more time watching tv and less time working towards something. Do big things. Live an awesome life.

    5. Realize that getting started is the hardest part.

    Overcoming inertia and getting in motion is the most difficult part of taking action. An object at rest tends to stay at rest. An object in motion tends to stay in motion. The hardest part of a habit is, well, establishing the habit. That’s why everyone dreads Mondays; it’s the re-establishment of a habit. But then the rest of the week flies by. Just get started, and the rest is easy. Get your ass in motion and let momentum carry you.

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    For a great way to become more action-oriented and achieve what you want, I highly recommend Action Affirmations (click here to get it).

    Stay feelin’ good, feelin’ great.

    – Stevie P!
     

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    2 Easy Tricks To Build Self-Awareness

    Self-awareness is the precursor to any personal change or growth.

    You have to be aware of something before you can do something about it, right?

    To lose fat, you must first recognize that you have fat you want to lose. To become more assertive, you must first recognize that you lack assertiveness. To become a Pokemon master, you must first recognize that you gotta catch em all.

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    Awareness, then action. That’s the name of the game.

    But the thing is, most people lack self-awareness. Because we are completely absorbed by our thoughts 24/7, we gain no perspective. Like the fish who is unaware of the water surrounding them throughout life. We become oblivious to ourselves. We fail to recognize useless (and sometimes destructive) reoccurring patterns, let alone give ourselves opportunities to correct them.

    Nothing like a first-grade-lookin-cartoon-drawing, right?

    Self-awareness is turning on the lights, allowing you to see everything you couldn’t see when in the dark.

    It is the first step in creating any change in life.

    So here’s 2 easy tricks to build self-awareness and assess your own behavior:

    1. Draw your perception back.

    Don’t be absorbed by your mind. Exist beyond it.

    “The mind is a wonderful servant, but a terrible master.” -Robin S. Sharma

    You’re not your thoughts. You’re the consciousness behind your thoughts. You’re the sky and your thoughts are  merely clouds passing by.

    Deepak Chopra sums up that concept nicely here (at 1:37):

    Allow yourself to witness your mind’s incessant activity, without attaching to it.

    Draw your perception back and you’ll be able to objectively assess yourself. You’ll get a bird’s eye view of your thoughts, feelings, emotions, behavior, habits…etc.

    2. Write things down.

    Writing things down makes them more tangible. It also allows us to assess ourselves from different angles than we’re used to, providing useful new insights. I don’t know what it is, but there’s something magical about the act of writing things down. It always does the trick.

    Keep a journal. And write unfiltered. Just write everything on your mind. No one’s going to read it. It’s for your eyes only. Writing with no filter will give you an objective look at yourself, which is crucial.

    Log how you act/react in different situations. Write about experiences in your life and your thoughts about them.

    Log how your body feels in different situations. Being conscious of your body is an invaluable skill to have (because we only get one in this lifetime). One idea is writing how you react to different foods. This has really helped me familiarize myself with my body and nutrition. It builds tremendous body awareness as well. I’ve had a lot of realizations by doing this, like recognizing that pasta bloats me like Snorlax at a chinese buffet (that’s Pokemon reference #2 if you’re keeping track).

    Write down your goals, desires and aspirations. Make a bucket list. Recognize what you want out of life, and give yourself things to work towards.

    Write down any noticeable changes in your life and how you feel about it. The mere act of writing things down results in self-awareness. And from there you can make the decision to do something about it.

    Okay then.

    Apply those 2 simple tips and you will greatly increase your self-awareness. You’ll be able to recognize your thoughts, feelings, emotions, habits…etc. And once you become more self-aware, you have the power to steer your life in any direction you choose.

    Self-awareness acts as a platform to launch from.

    Blast off.

    -Stevie P!