Circle of Concern vs Circle of Control

circle of control

Most people literally throw their lives away because of this…

They waste their time and energy on things they can’t control, while neglecting the things they DO have control of.

If you want to step off of the sidelines and actually engage in life, you need to understand the concept of circle of concern vs circle of control.

Your circle of concern consists of everything within your awareness.

Anything that you’re aware of is in your circle of concern. This can be news events, your friend posting pictures of their travels on social media, what the president of the United States said yesterday, what happened in the last episode of your favorite tv show, that person who yelled at you in traffic…etc. All of that stuff.

Your circle of control is what you can actually control. You have control over the thoughts you choose, the actions you choose and the reactions you choose. That’s pretty much it.

Sadly, most people focus on their circle of concern and neglect their circle of control. This is insanity! And because so many people do this, it makes things worse on the collective level (because the vast majority live in fear and believe that their daily actions are meaningless).

It’s all about where your focus is.

If you focus on your circle of concern, you become passive. And because most things on the news or tv are not empowering, it’s most likely going to be passive and negative. This is the state most people are in. If you don’t focus on your circle of control, you’re going to be a victim. It’s that simple.

Are you going to be a passive victim or are you going to be responsible and empowered? That’s the question you have to ask yourself. You might not be able to change what the President said at a press conference, but you can change your own thoughts, actions and reactions.

This is where a sense of purpose comes into play. What do you want to do? What impact do you want to have? What ripple do you want to send across the Universe?

You can optimize your health.

You can write a book that inspires people.

You can smile at a stranger on the street.

You can hold the door open for someone.

You can give a genuine compliment.

You can support local businesses.

You can choose inner peace.

You can start a business that creates positive change in the world.

You can create art that brings people joy.

All of these are possible for anyone, but they require you to focus on your circle of control.

So I ask you these questions…

Where is your focus?

Are you creating more than you’re absorbing?

Are you making the world a better place, even by the slightest bit?

This is a call for you to step into your power as a creative being.

Let’s co-create a better world together.

Much love.

– Stevie P!

PS – This was an excerpt from my new book, “Essentialism And the Art of Not Giving a Fuck.

Where Did You Get Your Sense of Possibility?

I looked up at the diving board. It was a proud blue piece of art that stood eight feet above the water.

The sun was shining brightly overhead as I observed a young man bounce off of the beautiful blue plank and execute a graceful swan dive, landing in the deep pool with a small splash.

Looking up at my dad, I curiously asked “Is it possible to do a double backflip off of the diving board?”

Without hesitation, he looked at me with a reassuring smile and confidently replied “Nothing is impossible.”

A sense of empowerment rippled through my consciousness. It was a feeling so profound that it transcends time and space. And I feel it as I type this.

I didn’t do a double-back flip that day, or any day for that matter (except on a trampoline once). Yet that moment created a life-altering, paradigm shift within me.

The real takeaway is not the act, but the message it conveys… The only limitations you have are those you place upon yourself.

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Where is the line you’ve drawn between possible and impossible?

How big (or small) is your box of possibility? Why do you even have a box of possibility?

Where did you get your sense of what is really possible?

From school? (standardized indoctrination)

From what the media tells you? (Sensationalized fear-mongering to keep people ignorant and disempowered. Does anyone still believe the mainstream media these days?)

From where mainstream science is at today? (Science is ever-evolving and self-correcting. What we believe today will be thought of as utterly ignorant tomorrow.)

From what your parents told you? (Who were influenced by all of the above as well.)

“To believe a thing impossible is to make it so.” – French Proverb

Here’s a little secret: There is no line rigidly dividing what is possible and impossible. There is no box. We live in a quantum soup of infinite possibility. Depending on your current circumstance, this may be hard to fathom. But anything and everything is possible. Just because you (think you) can’t do something right now does not make it impossible. Who knows what’s really possible? I certainly don’t. And that’s why I’m open to the idea of anything being possible.

50 years ago, it would have been hard to imagine what you’re doing right now. Reading, on a computer screen, what someone else has written and published onto the invisible cloud of the internet (and having the ability to share it with hundreds of people with the click of a button). It would have easily been dismissed as impossible by any rational realist.

“It always seems impossible until it’s done.” – Nelson Mandela

Shatter your self-imposed boundaries of possibility. Embrace the mystery of existence. Dance with the enigma. Entertain any idea, cling to none.

Divorce limitation and start making love with infinite possibility.

“Nothing is impossible, the word itself says ‘I’m possible’!” – Audrey Hepburn

Turn “impossible” into “I’m possible.”

Much love.

– Stevie P!


Fuck Your Victim Mentality

(Pardon the rather blunt title, but this article is the proverbial cold shower. It’s time to wake up and feel alive.)

Why do you constantly need to be a victim?

Why are you arguing for limitation? Don’t you want to be empowered?

Are you addicted to the victim mentality?

Have you attached your identity with being a victim?

So many people are addicted to being a victim. It’s a coping mechanism to the “obstacles” we face in life.

The victim mentality is a choice. You always have the choice, in every situation.

Seriously, why the fuck are you choosing victimhood over empowerment? Why?

As Darth Vader put it, “I find your lack of faith disturbing.”

You are the master of the internal, and the external is merely a manifestation of the internal. You don’t see the world as it is, you see the world as YOU ARE.

Being a victim is depriving yourself of your own immense strength. Saying “I can’t” is an act of suicide on your potential self. Complaining is resistance to the present moment, resistance to all that is.

“When you complain, you make yourself a victim. Leave the situation or accept it. All else is madness.” -Eckhart Tolle

Yes, life is difficult for everyone (some more than others), but you have the choice of whether to view difficulties as challenges to overcome, or as an excuse to say “poor me.”

Think about life as like a video game. Would playing Super Mario be fun if you just walked to the right the whole time, with no obstacles? Hell no. The experience is defined by overcoming challenges!

“What you call a setback, I call a challenge,
If I fall I know I’ll get back, it’s all a balance.” -Crooked I

“A pessimist sees the difficulty in every opportunity; an optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty.” -Winston Churchill

Do you really want to be happy? Then choose to be happy! Happiness is not some magical scenario at the end of the rainbow. Happiness is your choice, right now.

Unleash your inner lion; live your strength.

Unleash your inner lion; live your strength.

10 Reasons Why Having a Victim Mentality is Completely Useless:

1. You have the choice!

You have the choice to choose happiness or sadness. You have the choice to choose love or fear. You have the choice to be offended or not. You have the choice of being a victim or being empowered. You have the choice in every moment. So why would you choose to be a victim!? That’s insanity. Empower, overcome and have fun.

“The choice is yours in every moment to create beauty or misery, happiness or pain.” –Ralph Smart

2. You influence your reality.

You create your own reality. The effect of consciousness on reality is being proven on so many levels…

Look into:  the double-slit experiment, the placebo effect, the law of attraction…etc. Also, check out this article, 10 Scientific Studies That Prove Consciousness Can Alter Our Physical Material World.

Entertain this possibility, and you develop your inherent power.

Even if you have a hard to entertaining these things, think about it this way… Your thoughts dictate your beliefs, your beliefs dictate your actions, and your actions dictate your situation. Change your thoughts, change your beliefs, change your actions, change your situation. It’s as simple as that.

Take responsibility back. Response-ability is literally the ability to respond. Embrace it.

“We are not only observers. We are participators. In some strange sense this is a participatory universe.” -John Wheeler (pioneering physicist who coined the terms “black hole” and “wormhole”)

So why are you choosing to be a victim? It’s ludicrous. It’s like being given a hammer, and instead of building a house, you just continuously hit yourself on the foot with it. And that’s what so many people are doing with their lives.

Use the power of your consciousness to achieve your dreams, instead of sabotaging them.

“Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t–you’re right.” -Henry Ford

3. You attract what you are.

If you hold onto a victim mentality, guess what you’ll get?

“A victim mentality creates a victim reality.” -David Icke

If you’re a victim, you’ll attract people and situations that will further victimize you. If you’re empowered, you’ll attract people and situation that will further empower you.

Like attracts like. You reap what you sow. The law of attraction.

“Everything is energy and that’s all there is to it. Match the frequency of the reality you want and you cannot help but get that reality. It can be no other way. This is not philosophy. This is physics.” -Albert Einstein

4. It’s so limiting.

Anyone who has achieved anything great was the antithesis of a victim. Would you break any record as a victim? Or accomplish anything noteworthy? Nope!

A victim mentality is self-created, false limitation.

Why would you ever argue for your own limitation? Stop it. Break free.

“Argue for your limitations and, sure enough, they’re yours.” -Richard Bach

5. Do you want to be the driver, or a passenger?

Do you want to control your own destiny? Or be a victim, at the mercy of external forces? Ask yourself that every time you find yourself complaining or acting like a whiny little victim. Take the wheel back, and drive your car to your rightful destiny.

6. Empowerment is awesome.

Make the conscious decision to be empowered and you feel strong, physically, mentally, and spiritually. It’s literally just the flip of a switch; a simple choice. The beautiful thing is that a positive, empowered mentality permeates every level of existence and allows everything to fall into place. You embrace life, instead of resisting life, making it infinitely more fun, interesting and enjoyable.

I don’t know about you, but I would rather operate in the paradigm of empowerment instead of perpetual victimhood. But that’s just me.

7. Less pain, more fun. (The power of positivity)

Because really, it’s no fun being a victim. People just cling to it because it becomes familiar, it’s a part of their identity and they’re addicted to it.  Drop the victim mentality and enjoy life. Experience life without constantly being in fear.

“Life begins where fear ends.” -Osho

Positivity is a force to be reckoned with, and a superpower we can all harness. A positive attitude strengthens the mind, body and spirit, and makes life quite delightful.

People with positive attitudes live longer, and have more fun doing so…
(Check out these articles)
Centenarians’ Positive Attitude Linked to Long Life
Positive Thinking On Aging Helps Seniors Heal: Study
Do Positive People Live Longer?

“I’d rather be an optimist and a fool than a pessimist and right.” -Albert Einstein

8. Victim mentality = covering your awesomeness

With a victim mentality, you’re robbing yourself of your true essence. You’re denying yourself of your true potential.

It’s a disservice to both yourself and to those around you. When you become a stronger version of yourself, you not only help yourself, but inspire those around you as well.

9. As a “victim” you make life more difficult for those around you.

As a victim, you become a burden (a burden to both yourself and others). You impose your limitations on others as well. When you hold a victim mentality, others have to pick up your slack. Instead of acting as wings, you become a dead weight to both yourself and those around you.

A victim mentality makes you a complete buzz kill too. And people don’t like being around negative, disempowered people. Life is to be enjoyed.

“The truth is that existence wants your life to become a festival… Because when you are unhappy, you also throw unhappiness all around. ” -Osho

10. You welcome dis-harmony and dis-ease.

Your mind state effects your body (see point #2). Positive people are less likely to get sick (see articles in point #7). If you marinate in negative thoughts, they will manifest physically (think about the power of the placebo effect). An example we’re all familiar with is stress. Victims always find something to stress about. Stress causes tension in both the mind and body. Stress releases the hormone cortisol, which if chronically elevated, leads to a whole host of problems. Continuous stress also produces inflammatory responses in the body, which leads to dysfunction and dis-ease.

How stress influences disease: Study reveals inflammation as the culprit
8 Stress-Busting Tips from Experts

11. A victim mentality is complete dependence.

If you’re a victim, you become dependent on everything other than yourself. Dependent on other people. Dependent on external things for your happiness. Dependent on government. Dependent on material goods. Dependent on foods. Dependent on substances. Addiction in all of its forms thrives off of the victim mentality. A victim mentality perpetuates all kinds of fear-based, limiting beliefs and dependency.

Empowerment liberates you from all of this. It’s a simple choice, in every moment.

12. You feed the parasite.

Most would agree that the situation on planet Earth right now is far from the peaceful utopia it could be. Think about the collective fuckedupness that exists…

This idea of an intangible force that we all feed is everywhere. Eckhart Tolle calls it the “collective pain-body” in A New Earth, Don Miguel Ruiz calls it “the parasite” in The Four Agreements, Carlos Castaneda refers to psychic parasites in his books, The Gnostics called them archons, David Icke refers to them as reptilians, in Christianity you have demons, in Islam you have djinn…etc.

If you’re a victim, you’re feeding this parasite. Don’t contribute to the woes of the world. Stop feeding the parasite and cultivate something positive instead.

“The secret of change is to focus all of your energy, not on fighting the old, but on building the new.” -Socrates

13. You miss out on the magic of being a dreamer.

There’s a certain magic to life when you become a dreamer. It’s like going from black and white to high definition. Everything becomes wondrous. It’s that blissful world of imagination that you immersed yourself in as a child.

Get out of the doldrums and step into the field of dreams.

Be a dreamer. No one who has ever made a great impact on the world has been a realist.

“You may say I’m a dreamer
But I’m not the only one
I hope someday you’ll join us
And the world will live as one.”
-John Lennon

Don’t succumb to the illusion of victimhood (I say illusion because it’s merely a crafty trick of the mind/ego).  Let go of the bullshit victim mentality, uncover your true self and step into your infinite potential. You deserve it.

Much love,

-Stevie P!


6 Steps To Program Yourself For Happiness And Success

I want you to answer this question honestly…

How are you programming yourself?


Are you conditioning yourself to your benefit or detriment? Are you programming yourself with love or fear? Are you brainwashing yourself to be empowered and positive, or a disempowered victim? What stories are you telling yourself?

Whatever you program yourself with becomes your experience; your reality.

“Just as your conscious mind can be thought of as the gardener, planting seeds, your subconscious mind can be thought of as the garden, or fertile soil, in which the seeds germinate and grow. 

Your conscious mind commands and your subconscious mind obeys. Your subconscious mind is an unquestioning servant that works day and night to make your behavior fits a pattern consistent with your emotionalized thoughts, hopes, and desires. Your subconscious mind grows either flowers or weeds in the garden of your life, whichever you plant by the mental equivalents you create.” -Brian Tracy


The conscious mind can only hold one thought at a time. You always have the choice of what that one conscious thought is, and you can always change it.

You reap what you sew. Keep planting seeds of love and empowerment, and that’s what you’ll reap.

You’re the gatekeeper. You can let demons or angels into your royal kingdom. The choice is up to you…

“One evening an old Cherokee Indian told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside people. He said, ‘My son, the battle is between two ‘wolves’ inside us all. One is evil. It is anger, envy, jealousy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.

The other is good. It is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion and faith.’

The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather: ‘Which wolf wins?’

The old Cherokee simply replied, ‘The one you feed.’”

We create “reality”…

Placebo Effect – Think about how crazy the Placebo Effect is! Have you ever really wrapped your head around it? It’s a phenomenon in which people’s beliefs cause physical changes. That’s mind-blowing. The placebo effect is a testament to the ability of our consciousness to influence “physical reality.”

Dr. Emoto’s Water Experiments – Another example of consciousness affecting reality is Dr. Emoto’s water experiments. Dr. Emoto would subject water to various stimuli (words, phrases, music…etc), and then quickly freeze them so they crystallize. The results were amazing. Water crystals subjected to love-based stimuli would form beautiful, harmonious structures, while crystals subjected to not-of-love stimuli would would be disharmonious. Intriguing, eh?

Double-slit experiment – Then there’s the famous double-slit experiment… This experiment has repeatedly shown that matter is not what we thought it was, and that the behavior of particles change when they are being observed. This (again) hints at the effect of consciousness on “reality.”  Here’s a great video explaining the double-slit experiment:

Check this article out for more on these topics – 10 Scientific Studies That Prove Consciousness Can Alter Our Physical Material World

The field of possibilities… 
Many who study quantum physics and the fundamental structures of “reality” hypothesize that everything exists as a “field of possibility.” That everything is fundamentally wave-form, and brought to fruition (as “physical reality”) only when conscious attention is placed upon this field. This is science echoing the age-old spiritual teachings of oneness and creating our own reality. Empowering, right?

“Space is not empty. It is full, a plenum as opposed to a vacuum, and is the ground for the existence of everything, including ourselves. The universe is not separate from this cosmic sea of energy.” -David Bohm (theoretical physicist and mentor of Albert Einstein)

For a spectacular presentation of these concepts, check out “Divine Matrix” by Gregg Braden…

The Law of Attraction…
The law of attraction is the belief that “like attracts like.” What you put out into the world is what you receive. You reap what you sew. The law of attraction entails creating your own reality (empowering, right?). “Reality” is more malleable and dynamic than we’ve been conditioned to think. And after studying subjects like quantum physics, these kind of ideas seem less “New-Agey” and more self-evident.

Ok, let’s bring it back to the ground now…

Common sense…
You act, consciously and subconsciously, according to what you believe. For example, if you believe you don’t deserve a girlfriend or boyfriend, you will create that reality. You’ll have bad posture, unconfident communicative abilities, and a lack of that love aura. So then, consequently, you won’t attract a girlfriend/boyfriend. What you believe is what you get. Our beliefs determine our thoughts, emotions, actions, interactions, and thus our experience in life.

“We all tell ourselves stories. We define ourselves with our stories. Is your story helpful?” -Elliott Hulse


How to program yourself for success and happiness (or anything else you wish to BE or attain):

1. Awareness. This is the most crucial thing for any kind of personal development. You must first be aware of your thoughts in order to change them.

“KEY THOUGHT – When you choose to be aware of behavior patterns that don’t serve you, you are in a position to change them. That’s empowerment.” -dr. michael ryce

The best way to develop awareness of your thoughts is to consistently meditate (even if only for a few minutes). Here’s a really helpful list of tips on meditation.

2. Stop the negative thought patterns. Once you become aware of your thoughts, you will then begin catching the negative thoughts as they arise. Simply observe and let go of them. As you do this, they’ll become less and less frequent. Soon enough you’ll be able to transcend the negative thought patterns and consciously program yourself to your benefit.

Piece of advice – Reduce the amount of news you watch (and TV in general). It’s overwhelmingly fear-based, and will further exacerbate negative thought patterns. It’s called ” television programming” for a reason. Don’t be a victim of mass fear-mongering, consciously program yourself to your benefit.

3. Plant the seeds you want. Use your self-awareness to consciously program empowering and loving thoughts into your psyche. Your self-talk should be like talking to a young child, gentle, encouraging and empowering. Be aware of what you say to yourself, as that is the experience you get.

Techniques to plant the seeds you want:

~Affirmations. Affirmations are empowering phrases that are consistently repeated, programming the subconscious mind. With affirmations, it’s crucial to affirm that your desire IS happening. The Universe works in bringing you what you believe in the present moment; what you are projecting in the eternal now. Repeated affirmations upgrade the programming system (your subconscious) in which you operate on.

Here are some examples:
If you want good health…
“I am healthy and strong.”
If you want to attract money…
“I am experiencing money flowing easily into my life.”

Note: A lot of effective affirmations start with “I am…” When you powerfully affirm that it IS, it will come to fruition.

Huffington Post – 35 Affirmations That Will Change Your Life

~Visualization. Successful athletes are well-known for using visualization to optimize performance. Visualize what you desire like it IS happening right now (like with affirmations). Imagine and experience the visualization with all your senses. Become fully immersed, and you will help bring your vision to fruition. Visualize the action and actualize the vision. Consistently imagine the taste of success, and you will inevitably taste success.

“For example, one study had novice weightlifters imagine that they were performing a bicep curl exercise three times a week for eight weeks. The participants did notactually do any bicep curls or any other elbow flexion training during that time. However, they still gained strength in both the elbow flexors and extensors (44 and 32 percent increase in strength, respectively). A second study found that college athletes who performed visualization before strength training had more confidence and lifted more weight in a leg press exercise than they had done before without imagery. “ -Charles Poliquin

4. Move in the direction you want to go. Take action. Work towards your desires. If you want to get stronger, start lifting weights. If you want to become a better writer, read and write more. If you want to find your soul mate, be more open and do more things to meet people.

“Knowing is not enough; we must apply. Willing is not enough; we must do.” – Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

5. Consistently apply steps 1-4. 

See my article “Use This Strategy To Accomplish Anything (Part 1)” for a reminder of how ridiculously effective consistency is.

6. Reap the benefits and continue on the wonderful journey of life. 

And, of course, stay feelin’ good, feelin’ great.

Much Love.

-Stevie P!

Energy Flows Where Attention Goes

I woke up from a dream the other day with this phrase embedded in my mind…

energy flows

Energy flows where attention goes. What you focus on grows.

Whatever is the focus of attention becomes more prominent.

It’s one of those “hidden in plain sight” concepts; almost too obvious for people to fully grasp and consistently apply. Your attention, your focus, is an aiming of energy. What you choose to direct your attention towards is what you choose to give power to.

Instead of going on an abstract ramble, I’ll get into some examples.

Solo Activities


When meditating, you focus inward. This is why meditation builds self-awareness. You become aware of your thoughts. You familiarize yourself with your intuition. You become more in tune with your entire being; mind, body and spirit.

Read my introduction to meditation here: Introduction to Meditation


Prayer (which many consider to be a form of meditation) typically focuses on certain words, phrases, or images. It’s an affirmation that gives power to whatever you focus on. And it’s usually towards a goal (ex/ praying for the health of a loved one). So the focus of the prayer is where energy flows. Whether you call an answered prayer coincidence, chance, or placebo effect (a testament to the power of the mind btw), there’s something to it. Some mysterious force that we haven’t quite wrapped our heads around that allows prayer to “work.”


When writing, you draw inspiration from….wherever the fuck it comes from, and direct it to the page (or screen, if you’re typing).

Working Out

When doing any type of exercise, the focus is on the body.

Bodily awareness is honed when you exercise correctly and consciously. Performing a pullup is a good example. The pullup works most of the upper body, with the back muscles being the primary movers. But you have to be aware of your entire body throughout the movement to ensure proper technique. You have to tighten your whole body (or else you’ll be pulling up dead weight). You also have to initiate the movement by contracting your back muscles (which is hard because most people have trouble “feeling” these muscles). Without even getting into the intricacies, you can see how an exercise as (seemingly) simple as a pullup requires a lot of bodily awareness.

This is why people like yoga masters and bodybuilders are keenly aware of every part of their bodies.

Do you smell what The Rock is cookin?

Do you smell what The Rock is cookin?

Group Activities

The effect seems to be amplified in groups. This is where many people are directing their attention towards the same thing.

Standing in a Circle and Talking

When people stand in a circle, the conversation becomes an entity in and of itself. Everyone takes turns giving the conversation energy, and toying with that energy.

Anything at a Table

This includes meals, meetings…etc. Like with what I said above, the meal/meeting becomes almost like an entity itself. Let’s take a meeting, for example. In a meeting, people come together to brainstorm and achieve something. Everyone’s focus, attention, and energy is on the same goal. And for some reason I feel like round tables work best. Maybe because everyone faces the same center point.

Watching TV

TV literally draws the viewers in. The focus (or consciousness) of everybody watching goes to the TV.

Think about how completely absorbed you get while watching TV. You become completely immersed in the screen-world, and oblivious to your surroundings (aka “reality”). This is like the opposite of meditation. It is transferring your awareness/consciousness away from yourself and to whatever is on TV (this is what makes watching movies so enthralling).

It’s essentially externalizing your power. This is (one of the reasons) why you see so many disempowered people living vicariously through others (celebrities, athletes…etc). I’d rather be like the most interesting man in the world and live vicariously through myself. (And how ironic is it that I just referenced a TV commercial? Haha)

Group Events

This includes any concerts, singing, dancing, chanting, group meditation/prayer, or whatever other crazy rituals people participate in behind closed doors.  With any type of group ritual, a fantastic amount of energy is generated. You can feel it when you’re involved.

If you’ve ever been to a great concert, for example, you know that you can literally feel the energy. Oh and have you ever heard that Tibetan monks have been rumored to actually move objects through acoustic levitation? Yeah, crazy stuff.

The key question here is this: What are you focusing on?

Socrates building the new

So here’s the action item from this post…

Be conscious of what you focus on.

What are you giving energy to?

“Your thoughts are like packs of wolves. The pack you feed will grow stronger. The pack you choose to feed is up to you.”

Much love.

– Stevie P!

The Artistry in Physique Building

What do we really have control of?

If you think about it, this can be summarized in just two words… OUR SELVES.

Our self (mind/body/spirit) is the only thing completely within the realm of our control. We can’t control other people. We can’t control the weather. We can’t control the Earth’s orbit. Most things are out of our control. But our minds and bodies are fully within our sphere of influence. And with recent findings regarding the science of epigenetics, we have more control than previously thought. Read about epigenetics HERE and HERE. It’s empowering stuff.

Many people worry about things they can’t control, while neglecting the only things they really can control. This is ass-backwards if you ask me.

You know the ol’ serenity prayer? “Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference.” That’s the ticket right there.

We have control over our minds and bodies, so why not optimize them? And, well, really they’re one in the same. Our body is an extension of our mind, and our mind is an extension of our body.

So why wouldn’t you work on the only thing within your control? Seems like a no-brainer to me.


It’s called a chiseled physique for a reason.

“While control may be impossible to maintain in all situations, there is one place that you will always be the master: the temple of your body.” -John Romaniello

Developing the physical body is crafting your own unique carapace around your consciousness.

It’s laying out the architecture, performing the construction work, and fine-tuning the interior design of the temple that houses the spirit.

Body is the temple

Improving your physicality creates a sanctuary of empowerment in a world filled with fear, anxiety, and uncertainty. This empowerment makes you well-equipped to handle whatever life throws at you. (or whatever you throw at life) <—seewhatididthere?

The phenomenon of bodybuilding is a direct result of this. It is taking full and complete responsibility for yourself. Every sliver of progress made is yours. Pushing the boundaries of physical potential makes bodybuilding fascinating. Building the body fulfills a deep, primal yearning in a society that has dulled our instincts. It’s complete mastery of the material self. It’s the ultimate form of empowerment in our tangible reality.

This is also the reason why physical improvement is the most popular form of self transformation these days. Countless people have changed their lives by changing their body. Enhancing your own unique physicality is improving the only thing you really have control over. It is ultimately taking your power back, and that’s why so many people are working on improving their bodies. It puts you in the driver’s seat of life.

The body is your vehicle for your road trip in this reality. So you should make sure it’s running optimally. And since you’re living in it (for now), you want it to be awesome right? An optimized vehicle is, of course, more conducive to an optimized trip. Just don’t turn it into an ego-trip 😉

Our bodies are the physical manifestation of our beings. So physique building is sculpting the physical aspect of yourself. We live in a 3-dimensional reality, so optimizing the 3-dimensional part of yourself should be a fundamental rite of passage. If we existed in a reality where we could “see” thoughts, we would sculpt our thoughts to “look” awesome. (The only way we can do that now is to express thoughts through the mediums of language or art.)

And speaking of art, our bodies are truly a work of art. A complex, beautiful system with endless subtleties. Each is unique. Each is personalized. It’s an artistic masterpiece that is 100% yours.

The beauty of imperfections:

Perfection doesn’t exist. The perfect body doesn’t exist. But this allows for two hidden benefits:
1. Continuous improvement. No matter what, you can always improve. There is always room to grow. Life is perpetual growth. And really, who likes to be stagnant?
2. Uniqueness. If everyone was “perfect” then we would all be the same. Imperfection results in infinite variety. It makes being an individual possible.

***Pokemon metaphor alert***

Improving yourself is like a Pokemon leveling up. As you level up, you increase your HP (Hit Points aka how much damage you can take). You learn new attacks. You accumulate new abilities and increase your overall strength. Maybe you were born an Onix, and you think you got the short end of the genetic stick. But really, there is no short end of the stick. Any Pokemon at level 80 is exponentially stronger than the “best” Pokemon at level 20. Remember that, and work on becoming the strongest version of yourself.

The Rock Onix

Congratulations, your Dwayne Johnson evolved into Onix!

Learn to let go of what you can’t change. And instead, focus energy on the things you can change. Maximize yourself, and you will be empowered. This will positively impact every aspect of life, and inspire others to empower themselves as well.

Think of your physical self as your video game character. And your higher self/spirit/soul is the one playing the video game. Level up while you’re here, and enjoy the experience!


And another great metaphor for good measure

Stay feelin’ good, feelin’ great my friends.

-Stevie P!

Human Race Take Your Power Back

Don’t externalize your inherent power.

Stop giving your power away.

That’s how people devolve from unique individuals to automatons. From vibrant beings, to dull shadows. From freethinkers, to brainwashed sheeple. From healthy and passionate, to fat and apathetic. From fun-loving and imaginative, to just plain bland.

These stark contrasts are becoming more and more apparent in today’s society. There is something fundamentally wrong. We all know it deep down, but some choose to ignore it. Are we too hopelessly dependent on the system to even entertain these ideas?


We need to realize what we’re truly capable of.

It is our responsibility as human beings. Not doing so is a blatant injustice to ourselves, our future, and the whole of existence.

Empower yourself.

Regarding knowledge. You don’t need a degree, or letters after your name to think a certain way. Give yourself permission to be thoroughly informed on any subject. The information is out there, take advantage of it. Have a burning desire to learn. The more you learn, the more you know. The more you know, the more you understand. The more you understand, the more you apply. The more you apply, the more power you have. And the more power you have, the more you truly live. (Just use that power for good, ya dig?)

Where you get knowledge and information is important too. Do yourself a favor and turn off the TV. Don’t let the mainstream media be your main source of information. A small, handful of companies own all of the media and they’ve been proven wrong, biased, and caught lying way too much to trust any information (*cough* propaganda *cough*) they present. Get your information from a variety of sources, and form your own conclusions.

Regarding how you perceive reality. Trust your own intuition and judgment. Don’t let anyone, or any institution, tell you how to think. Again, arm yourself with knowledge and form your own conclusions.

“Different methods interpreted into different forms, from entirely different perceptions and seen from different norms” -Canibus (Poet Laureate II)

Everyone has their own unique spin on reality. What’s yours?

Regarding health. Maximize what you have control of (your mind and body). Experiment for yourself. If you’re not life-threateningly ill, you don’t have to rely on doctors, scientists, and so-called gurus. Realize that you have the power and ability to find the results you want.

Here’s a perfect example regarding diet. You can read what all the experts say about what’s good for you and what’s not, but you’ll never know until you experiment for yourself. Say you want to know if dairy causes allergies for you. Remove dairy from your diet for a few weeks and keep everything else constant. Then reintroduce it and track your results. Common sense, right? But it seems like people forget about simple self-experimentation. Or does everyone just want to give up their power and be force-fed ideas from so-called “experts”?

Regarding physical fitness. See what your body is capable of. Push yourself. Express through movement. Use your body and notice how good it feels. Build an intuitive feel with your own body. It’s yours, and you should know it best. Feel the mind-muscle connection. Recognize your body’s uniqueness. Cherish your body, your vehicle in this reality. The only one you get. Realize that your body is within your control. Recognize how empowering it is to change your body for the better. Losing fat, gaining muscle, getting stronger, reducing pain, building flexibility. All of these are empowering not just on a physical level, but on every level of being. Feel your power.

Paradigm Shifts That Create Empowerment: (How To Have An Empowered Mentality)

Faith. Have faith in yourself. Have faith in God, the Universe, Consciousness, or whatever you want to call it. Faith eliminates self-doubt. Faith crushes fear. Faith allows you to see that it’s all good (baby baby), and trust your own judgment. Remember, the universe tends to unfold as it should.

Eliminate the word “can’t” from your vocabulary. It seems obvious and repetitive, but eliminating limiting speech really works. “The only limitations you’ll ever have are those that you place upon yourself.”

Yes, you do have the ability to make a difference. And this applies to EVERYTHING.

“No snowflake in an avalanche ever feels responsible.”-Voltaire

You matter more than you think.

Think about this; can McDonald’s exist if no one buys from them?

No one is better than you (Or worse than you, for that matter). We’re all unique, yet equal. Get off the metaphorical dick of celebrities, actors, athletes, doctors, CEO’s, politicians, TV personalities, religious figures…etc. Stop externalizing your power. Take what is useful from people you admire, and use it as fuel to “become the strongest version of yourself.”  (Yo! Elliott)

“Absorb what is useful, reject what is useless, add what is uniquely your own.” -Bruce Lee

No thought or idea is inherently better or worse than others. They’re just different. Don’t be afraid to express YOUR opinion. Sheep life is no fun. Be a lion.

Question everything. Draw your own conclusions.

Think about responsibility not as accountability, but as power. Put a positive spin on things and trust your intuition. Why wouldn’t you?

If you’re not going to do something about it, then who will? This applies to both your life and humanity as a whole. No one is going to read your mind and do everything for you. Well, unless you still live in your overprotective mom’s basement. YOU need to take action to get what you desire. And we must do the same as a collective race. We can no longer fall into this diffusion of responsibility. If we keep playing hot potato with our problems, people will keep getting burned. Let’s take our power back.

So… What happens when you decide to take your power back:

  • YOU gain control of YOUR life.
  • You gain knowledge and wisdom at an accelerating rate. (Because there’s no more mental blocks and limiting beliefs)
  • You gain experience from taking action and experimenting.
  • You lead an action-based lifestyle.
  • You stop being a spectator.
  • You become a lot less likely to be manipulated.
  • You don’t become a victim. The victim mentality creates the victim reality.
  • You develop genuine, unshakable confidence.
  • You give yourself permission to answer the questions you ask.
  • You uncover and express your brilliant uniqueness.
  • You truly live, instead of merely existing.
  • You give others permission to do the same.
  • You become the master of your fate. The creator of your reality.

(There’s a lot more to include in that list too. Help me out by adding more in the comments below.)

Here’s something interesting. I somehow ended up listening to this speech by David Icke while writing this. And it’s oh so relevant…


Stay feelin’ good, feelin’ great.

-Stevie P

The “I Wish” Fallacy

I cringe when people say “I wish.”

I wish I could do that. I wish I was like that. I wish I had that. I wish I could go there.

You know what? You can! You just have to figure out what it takes to get there, then DO IT. Saying “I wish” creates some far-fetched dream that will never be brought to fruition. A dream that, because of self-imposed limitations, you view as “unrealistic”. Wishing is giving your power away. It’s like saying “I want to do that, but it’ll never happen.” But what’s REALLY stopping you besides yourself?

“I wish” epitomizes the spectator mentality. The hopelessness of someone that has given their power away. Someone that doesn’t take their life in their own hands. Someone living vicariously through the experiences of others. Do you want to be described like this? I sure as hell don’t. Do you want to merely exist, as a spectator on the sidelines? Or truly live? Let’s take our power back. This calls for a paradigm shift…

I wish

Replacing “I wish” with “What can I do to get there?” will create a mentality of empowerment. It will take you from a spectator to an active participant in this game of life. Anything becomes a possibility. Anything becomes achievable.

A lot of people often say things like “I wish I could be in shape like that person.” Change that weak, passive mind state and ask “What can I do to get in that kind of shape?” Get empowered. Free yourself of doubt, self-imposed limitations, and feelings of inferiority. Have the desire to live the life you deserve.

Have a lust for life. Don’t settle for life on the sidelines. If you see something or someone you admire, ask yourself “What do I have to do to get there?” Get hungry! Create a plan and start taking action. You’ll surprise yourself with what you can accomplish.

Live an action-based life. Take your power back. Dare to dream, and have the balls to follow through.

Visualize the action, then actualize the vision.

“I wish” you would 😉


What are you going to replace “I wish” with “What can I do to get there?”

Traveling the world?

Pursuing your passion as a career?

Getting into the best shape of your life?

Being with the girl/guy of dreams?

Leave your input in the comments section below.


The Choice is Up to You

I got inspired after reading this post. Here’s the FGFG spin on it.

The choice is up to you













You have the choice. You have the power. You have control.

You choose whether or not to get offended when someone cuts you off in traffic.

You choose whether or not to get angry when someone bumps into you.

You choose whether or not to wake up in a good mood.

You choose whether or not to be offended by what someone says.

You choose whether or not to let other people affect you.

You choose whether or not to watch tv or do something beneficial for yourself.

You choose whether or not to treat your body right.

You choose whether or not to eat foods you know are good/bad for you.

You choose whether or not to implement good/bad habits.

You choose whether to complain or not.

You choose to be grateful for what you have or whine about what you don’t have.

You choose to be a victim or take responsibility for your own life.

You choose what you think.

You choose your actions.

It is your choice to be positive or negative.

It is your choice to be happy or miserable.

You have the choice. You have the power. You have control. Stop being attached to stories you tell yourself. Be present. And discover how empowering life can be.

The choice is up to you.


A Great Paradox of Our Age

We live in an age where everything we desire is available at the push of a button. We do not have to expend much effort to do anything. It’s comfortable. It’s safe. It’s a problem.

"What it must be like, I wonder, to live in a world where food appears at the press of a button? How would I spend the hours I now commit to combing the woods for sustenance if it were so easy to come by? What do they do all day, these people in the Capitol, besides decorating their bodies and waiting around for a new shipment of tributes to roll in and die for their entertainment?"

“What it must be like, I wonder, to live in a world where food appears at the press of a button? How would I spend the hours I now commit to combing the woods for sustenance if it were so easy to come by? What do they do all day, these people in the Capitol, besides decorating their bodies and waiting around for a new shipment of tributes to roll in and die for their entertainment?” (excerpt from The Hunger Games)

Isn’t it ironic that as everything is becoming easier for us, our mind and body, the two most fundamental facets of our lives (and the only things we have full control of), are becoming more and more difficult to maintain?

This is a result of giving our power away.

We no longer find and cook our own food, we allow others to do it for us. This disassociation from the food chain makes it oh so easy for companies to produce and sell us “food” that destroys health. It makes it easy for us to place the responsibility of our bodies in the hands the medical community. It makes it easy for “big pharma” to sell dangerous drugs to everyone with so much as a slight headache. Having food available at our beck and call 24/7 makes it easy for us to overeat. In terms of food, we view chicken not as the living animal, but as a chicken nugget. Our ignorance regarding this has made us vulnerable to a whole host of health problems. Obesity, heart disease, diabetes, and all other diseases associated with poor diet and lifestyle choices (key word) are rampant in modern society. But it doesn’t have to be this way. Knowledge is power, and applied knowledge is a powerful tool for change. We need to educate ourselves on health, learn to cook (create) for ourselves, and listen to our bodies. This empowers us, because being in control of our health creates an unshakeable foundation for success in all other aspects of life.

We no longer think for ourselves, we allow others to do it for us. Look around at all of the institutions in place that tell people how and what to think. The education system, the mainstream media, organized religion…etc. All of these institutions delimit free thinking. And what’s the result of this? So many people walk around with an underlying feeling of purposeless. The feeling that something is missing; that something is not quite right. Depression, fear, and anxiety are rampant in modern society. But it doesn’t have to be this way. Knowledge is power, and applied knowledge is a powerful tool for change. We need to start thinking for ourselves, keeping an open mind, being open to unlimited possibility, and letting our inherent creativity flow. It’s amazing how this creates a sense of empowerment and instills an enchanting purpose in everything we do.

Let’s take our power back, and hop in the driver’s seat of this ride we call life.