Release Into Love

“Repression is the hidden force behind illness.”
– Dr. Arthur Janov

We all hold onto so much unwanted baggage. Most of us go through life brimming with repressed emotions, desperately attempting to keep the lid on it all.

Combine our spongelike subconsciousness (particularly in childhood) with a society heavily based in fear, sprinkled with social taboos regarding expression and you have a perfect recipe for the unhealthy repression of emotions.

Our essence is love. We just have so much fear, trauma and baggage piled on top of it. Anyone with a regular meditation practice knows this firsthand. When we clear all of our thoughts, fears and worries we’re left with an indescribable sense of blissful, peaceful love.

Cultivating our well-being is more about letting go of the unnecessary than about adding things. Once we give our body, mind and spirit some space, it all naturally harmonizes. It’s self-correcting, if we simply allow for it.

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How Do We Let Go?

How do we release? It ranges from simple daily activities to extreme forms of therapy, and everything in between.

“In many shamanic societies, if you came to a shaman or medicine person complaining of being disheartened, dispirited, or depressed, they would ask one of four questions.
When did you stop dancing?
When did you stop singing?
When did you stop being enchanted by stories?
When did you stop finding comfort in the sweet territory of silence?”

– Gabrielle Roth

Do you laugh every day? Do you sing every day? Do you dance every day? Do you cry when you feel sadness or grief? Do you exercise? Do you get out in nature? Do you have any creative outlets? These are all simple things we can do on a daily basis to let go of pent up emotions and lighten our spirits. Most of us “mature adults” do almost none of these things, yet continue to accumulate emotional stress throughout our lives. So no wonder why our emotional stresses just keep stacking up.

While you can clear a whole lot of emotional baggage through the simple ways listed above, some things you’re repressing may be more stubborn and shadowy. For some of the most ingrained traumatic emotions, especially from childhood, you may have to engage in a more intensive release practice or seek the help of a professional.

Unwanted emotions are not only held mentally, but in the body as well. This is important to remember – the most effective forms of release include the body.

Let’s take frustration as a simple, day-to-day example. If you’re feeling frustrated, does it help to just mull over your frustrations in your head? Of course not. You only let go of frustration if you act it out physically, maybe through working out or screaming when you’re alone. And this is also where being mindful comes in, as healthy outlets are important. You don’t want to just be reactive and take out negative emotions on other people. While holding everything in is internally destructive, taking things out on others is externally destructive.

It’s of crucial importance to find healthy outlets for release, which is why I created Primal Release. Primal Release is an in depth course that provides you with all of the tools you need to release into love. It will literally shift your entire state of being. You won’t even believe how light and free you can feel.

CLICK HERE TO LEARN HOW TO RELEASE

Develop a practice of release. Learn to let go of the things that don’t serve your highest good.

You don’t have to hold onto it all.

Release into love.

– Stevie P!
 

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14 Ways to be Primordial (Can You Handle #14?)

Primordial

My life is a streak of whimsical ridiculousness right now. I’ve been embodying my unique authenticity, not caring about what others think and, most importantly, having buckets of fun.

An amusing medium through which this has been expressed is my new favorite word… PRIMORDIAL.

Here’s how it’s defined:

Primordial – (adjective)

  • Existing at or from the beginning of time; primeval.
  • (Especially of a state or quality) Basic and fundamental.

Extrapolating off of the dictionary definition, I started referring to the essential nature of anything as primordial. The primal essence of humanity is primordial. Being authentic and true to yourself is primordial. Living in the present moment, the eternal now, is primordial.

Plus, the word itself just sounds awesome (and hilarious) to say. I have a funny visual of a frat boy, smirking at his buddy and saying “I got so PRIMORDIAL last night, bruh.”

Primordial is a dynamic, diverse word that can be applied to anything.

If you want to make it a noun; primordiality. If you want to ascribe a name to a place that’s primordial; primordia.

As you can probably tell, the possibilities of primordiality are endless.

So how does one be primordial? Well, here’s your primordial starter kit:

1. Know who you are.
Know thyself. Transcend the fear of the egoic mind and ask yourself the big questions. “Who am I?” Beyond your race, beyond your nationality, beyond your gender, beyond your body, beyond your name, beyond your set of experiences, beyond your thoughts, beyond your mind; who are you? The only plausible answer is “I am.” Operate from that place of pure, conscious (primordial) awareness and you become your own guru.

Knowing yourself is fundamental. Because without that deep-seated awareness, everything else will be based upon delusion and ignorance.

2. Be authentic, no matter what.
Stay true to yourself. Be unabashedly yourself. Be uncompromising with your authenticity. Embodying your unique authenticity gives you genuine self-love from the depths of your being. It eliminates that anxiety gap between your real-self and what you project to the outside world. As the saying goes, do you.

3. Don’t care about what other people think.
Not caring about what other people think (or what society as a whole thinks) is liberating. It allows you to live life on your own accord. When you’re motivated and act on your own genuine desires, you’re free.

4. Do it big.
Shoot for the moon. If you miss, you’ll land amongst the stars. Set big, audacious goals. And even if you don’t specifically achieve them, you’ll have made much more progress than you otherwise would have. Do it big, dream big, because what’s the point of dreaming small?

5. Take chances.
You regret more things that you don’t do in life, as opposed to things you do. Go for it. Talk to that attractive person in front of you at the store, quit your unfulfilling job to pursue your passion, travel somewhere new, dance like no one is watching. Are you really living if you’re not taking any chances?

6. Get in touch with your primal side.
Don’t suppress or ignore your primal urges. But don’t get lost in the indulgence of your primal side either. Accept your primal self and express your emotions (in a healthy way of course) while maintaining proper perspective. Get in tune with your body and its needs. Workout and feel the blood and adrenaline pumping through you. Wholeheartedly explore your sexuality without guilt or shame. Hike a mountain and feel your intrinsic connectedness with nature. Get outside, run, jump, dance, sing and thoroughly enjoy the beautiful experiences of physicality.

7. Be present.
Live in the moment. Make the now the primary focus of your life. Don’t get absorbed in the circular thought loops that leave you obsessing over the past and future. Only refer to the past if it’s applicable to the present. Only refer to the future if it’s absolutely necessary to plan in the present. Being primordial is timeless. Reside in the eternal now and bask in primordiality.

8. Be unique.
You’re unique. I’m unique. We’re all unique. As humans, no one is perfect. And the silver lining to imperfection is that it begets uniqueness. Everyone is one of a kind. Everyone has special gifts, unique skills and amazingly different traits. So why fit in with the crowd when you can stand out? Being primordial takes on an infinity of forms, and you’re one of them. Smile and own your uniqueness.

9. Be passionate.
Do things wholeheartedly. Have that burning drive that propels you forward in life. Find your passions, and live through them to the point where others are inspired by it. Apathy, mediocrity and boredom make life dull and are, most certainly, not primordial.

10. Be random.
Embrace spontaneity and your own unique quirks. Be whimsical and random. We’re all weird in our own ways and life is a lot of fun when you lean into your primordial randomness.

An example of this is a conversational icebreaker that I randomly came up with. While at a bar last weekend, a woman who I wanted to talk to was walking right past me. Letting my inhibitions go, I spontaneously held up my glass and said “Cheers to Ulysses S. Grant.” Because it was so random and lighthearted, she smiled and reciprocated the cheers. Randomness is primordial.

11. Question authority.
Ask “Why?” Question the status quo. Be a leader, don’t blindly follow. Stand up for what you believe in. Have a voice. Don’t allow external forces to dictate your reality. Break some rules. If you’re not harming yourself or others, then do it. When you’re primordial, you can’t be boxed in or contained.

12. Leave expectations at the door.
Expectations are the fool’s income. Placing expectations on people and future situations will set you up for disappointment. Do things because you genuinely want to do them, not because you’re expecting something out of it. Expect the unexpected, because the only constant is change. Forgoing expectations, on people especially, frees both parties to bask in their primordial essence.

13. Embrace laughter.
Life is short. Life is a video game. Enjoy the ride and have fun. Is life worth living if there is no fun in it? Comedy, laughter, smirks and silliness are the primordial spices of life.

14. Realize that, at times, you may even be too primordial for this list.
If you’re primordial, you don’t follow any rigid rules. You may want to add more ways to be primordial, or throw them all away. Whatever you do, just live life on your own terms. Now that’s primordial.

“Absorb what is useful. Discard what is not. Add what is uniquely your own.” – Bruce Lee

Let your primordiality precede you.

Stay primordial.

– Stevie P!
 

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What We Can Learn From Drunk People

Drunk people scream, shout, yell, chant, sing, laugh, run, jump, stomp, dance, tell you they love you, and everything in between.

Why though?

One word: EXPRESSION.

Kegs

Expression at its finest

Normally we (as “adults”) suppress everything. We have way too many inhibitions. We keep most things to ourselves. We’re conditioned to not express ourselves. And we’ve learned to blend in with the crowd. We’re afraid to stand out. We’re afraid to express our uniqueness.

But drunk people are a different animal. When intoxicated, most people behave the exact opposite way of everything described above. I guess that’s why a lot of people abuse alcohol. But we can reach same end (while sober) with just a few simple steps. Cheers.

Disclaimer: I’m not advocating drinking. We all know it’s not good for us. But we can take the positive aspects of drunken antics and apply them to our everyday, (hopefully) sober lives. That’s the point I’m getting at here.

Drunk people, for the most part, act like kids. And I mean that in a good way. Think about it. Kids scream, shout, yell, chant, sing, laugh, run, jump, stomp, dance, tell you they love you, and everything in between. Sound familiar?

I was eating lunch in Battery Park the other day and noticed the stark contrast between kids and adults. The kids were running around and having fun. Screaming with laughter, playing tag, picking up branches twice their size, just livin the dream. Then there were the “grown-ups.” Stone-face and emotionless, way too serious for their own good. Buncha nuclear boreheads. And this included me. So I jumped up and cracked a joke, in a desperate attempt to prove to myself that my inner child is still alive and kickin’.

Transcending inhibition and living freely is within reach. We just have to grab it.

So here’s what we can do to harness the positive aspects of drunk behavior (without resorting to drinking like a frat boy everyday):

Realize that holding everything in is terrible for you. So start expressing yourself.

-Learn from your drunk self (well, that’s if you drink). Take the positive aspects of your drunk self and apply them when you’re sober. All the random spontaneity, dancing, singing, and chanting that comes with it. Why not be like that (but with some control) all the time?

-Learn from kids. Look at kids in public places compared to adults. It’s such a stark contrast. Kids play, run around and laugh. Most adults sit, stone-faced and expressionless, like zombies. See my article on this HERE. As funny as it sounds, kids and drunk people have a lot of overlapping, positive behaviors that we can apply. Be more like a kid, while still handling your business.

^Those last two points pretty much equate to unleashing your drunken inner child. Who even gives advice like that?

-Do things to build confidence. INVEST IN YOURSELF. Exercise. Eat right. Read. Acquire skills. Travel. Do awesome things. Don’t sit around and watch tv all day. Do interesting things, and you will become interesting. Invest in yourself and genuine confidence naturally results (genuine confidence >>> liquid courage). Building confidence helps a lot with the next point too…

-Stop caring what people think. Nothing new here. But once you align with the idea that freedom comes from not caring what others think, you will begin to transcend inhibitions.

-Stop defaulting into “normal” behavior and do some random shit. Let your awesome out. Go climb a tree dressed in business casual, and bang your chest like King Kong or something. It feels great.

Oh, and last but not least, respect the stance.

 

As Bruce Lee said,
“Absorb what is useful (no inhibitions, random spontaneity, expression… etc),
Discard what is not (gettin waaasted),
Add what is uniquely your own (do you!).”

Be yourself, because nobody’s better at it.

-Stevie P!

 

Express Yourself

Expression is a natural extension of who we are.

A fundamental mechanism for being in harmony with one’s self and the world around us.

Expression wipes the slate on a mental, emotional, and physical level.

Expression is spring cleaning for your well-being.

We literally need to express ourselves. It is in our nature as living beings.

Withholding expression creates dis-harmony. Internalizing leads to all kinds of dys-function and dis-ease. Everything which is held in will eventually bubble up and be released in some way, shape or form. Depending on the person and the severity of what is held inside, it will manifest in different forms. Things like anger, destructive habits, substance abuse, dis-ease, body imbalances, anxiety, irrational fears, introversion, weight gain/loss, ticks/twitches…etc will be the result.

Everything we internalize will manifest itself sooner or later. Remember that.

Take a second to be aware of the tension you’re holding in your scalp. Consciously relax your scalp and release the tension. Feel the difference? See how prolonged tension can lead to something like balding?

I guess NWA can stand for “Not Withholding Anything” in this case.

So why don’t we express ourselves like we should?

Well, there’s 2 main factors. Conditioning and caring too much about what other people think.

We were all told to stop running and yelling by our parents. We were all told to sit down and shut up at school. As a child, you’re assaulted with rules, do’s and don’t’s, should’s and shouldn’t’s , and social norms (whatever those things are). Over time, we become conditioned to never express ourselves and assimilate into the dull, gray cloud of normality.

We also care wayyy too much about what others think. Everyone wants to be “normal.” Everyone wants to fit in. Nobody wants to stand out. Why? Why deprive yourself of your brilliant uniqueness? Who said it’s cool to be an emotionless robot? Express yourself! Let your awesome out. Who cares what people think. When you express yourself, you give others permission to do the same. Because, deep down, everyone admires expressive people. Would you rather be an extra, blending in with the crowd, or a distinguishable character? Action.

When your thoughts are no longer influenced by others, you are truly free.

Children inherently express themselves. If they’re angry, they throw a tantrum and stomp around. If they’re sad, they cry. If they’re happy, they jump for joy. When was the last time you saw an adult doing something like this? Adults, after a lifetime of conditioning, remain stone-faced throughout everything. With all of these thoughts and emotions bubbling up inside.

Why so serious?

Animals also naturally express themselves. It’s ingrained in their being, but they haven’t been conditioned and “civilized” like us humans (even house pets retain most of their instincts). Animals never internalize any tension and marinate on it like us “sophisticates” do.

“Eckhart Tolle, the author of “A New Earth” and “The Power of Now,” offers us another view of “duckitude.” In both books, Tolle observes that when two ducks get into a tussle, they end it by flapping their wings and swimming off. As far as he can tell, they don’t stay mad – they don’t carry a grudge. They flap their wings and get on with life. The “duck lesson,” according to Tolle is “Flap your wings, which translates as ‘let go of the story.’” The human mind, in other words, often gets attached to THE STORY and relives it over and over again, thus, living mostly in the past and not in the present.”

^Got that from Urban Dictionary haha. And both of those books are great, by the way.

But unlike animals, we have the awesome ability to change ourselves for the better.

So what are some productive ways to say “duck it!” and let it all hang out?

  • Exercise
  • Shaking and vibrating
  • Writing in a journal/diary
  • Talking to people about what you’re feeling
  • Meditation
  • Singing
  • Dancing
  • Yelling, preferably not at someone else (vocal expression is severely overlooked)
  • Humming
  • Being physically abusive to inanimate objects (think about gorillas shaking trees if they’re upset). Punch a punching bag or something of the like.
  • Cry (I’m lookin’ at you, tough guys)
  • Screaming into pay phones on the street for no reason (I may or may not have done this on St Paddy’s day)
  • Running/sprinting/jumping
  • Painting/drawing
  • Stretching

…The list goes on forever. You know what to do.

Just get into a habit of expressing yourself in some form. Don’t hold everything in. Just get it out. You’ll feel a whole lot better. It’s another way to stay Feelin’ Good, Feelin’ Great.