The Blossom of Femininity

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The dance of the yin and yang, feminine and masculine energy, has always been of great interest to me.

What adds to the intrigue is how imbalanced these energies have been throughout history (his-story). The shadow side of the masculine has dominated and controlled, suppressing the feminine and relegating femininity to its own shadows.

Since society doesn’t provide us with ideal versions of these energetic archetypes to put into practice, we must create our own.

This is why I’ve been exploring and defining my own version of masculinity. And in doing so, one word seems to exemplify masculine, or yang energy: Giving.

Helping, serving and supporting are all expressions of this true masculine/yang energy characterized by the spirit of giving. This interpretation of the divine masculine can take many forms, giving any type of love, helping someone in any way, material giving, the giving of undivided attention, emotional support (a shoulder to lean on)…etc. This kind of giving is unconditional and from a place of compassion, not fear-based or done in a “strings attached” manner.

A major role of this true, giving masculine, in my opinion, is to provide a safe space for the divine feminine to thrive. A strong masculine energy rooted in love can give femininity, not only within women but also within men, a safe place to fully express itself and blossom. This is not possible with the assault of domination and control from the shadow masculine, which suppresses and squashes the fruits of femininity. The divine masculine must support the growth of the divine feminine (not work against it) in order for humanity to live more harmoniously. Our world urgently needs the blossoming of femininity and its defining qualities like intuition, creativity, holistic thinking, compassion and cooperation.

In the spirit of this topic, these concepts are far better conveyed in more feminine, poetic language than masculine, hyper-rational prose. That’s why I’ll leave you with a poem…

The Blossom of Femininity

Too often we’ve seen the shadows
Masculine
Dominant and violent
Feminine
Deceptive and vain

Forgive the fear
It’s time we embody the archetypes
Through the incarnation of love

Giving
Is the essence of masculinity
The masculine must serve the feminine
For the dance of duality to flow
Not a servant-to-master dependence
But out of the free spirit of giving
The strength of providing
Providing space for the feminine to blossom
Providing safety for the feminine to express

Just as the sun shines its light unconditionally
Ever-giving energy to Gaia
Our light must shine the same
Unyielding and unconditional
Nurturing intuition
Cultivating compassion
Harvesting harmony
To engender the flowering of the heart
And see humanity in bloom

 

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Do You Even Feel, Bro?

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Here’s your life…

Think, think, think, think, think, think, think, think, think, think, think, think, think, think, think, think, think, think, think, think, think, think, think, think, think, think, think, think.

All you do is think.

You’re so caught up in your head that you’ve forgotten how to FEEL.

“Remember, concentrate on the moment. Feel, don’t think. Trust your instincts.” – Qui-Gon Jinn (Star Wars Episode I – The Phantom Menace)

Feeling is understanding. Feeling is both your inner guidance system and the means by which life becomes fully, deeply and totally experienced.

Pause for a second and allow your awareness to drop from your mind and into your body.

How do you feel? (This isn’t some ambiguous, hippie question to have you hold hands and sing kumbaya. It’s both practical and unfathomably important.)

Ask yourself these follow-up questions right now:

What sensations are going on in my body?

What emotions am I feeling?

What feelings or emotions are accompanying my thoughts?

Establish a habit of asking yourself these questions, every day, in different situations and build your “feeling awareness.”

Can You Feel Me?

Fully inhabiting my emotional state was always difficult for me to do. I was so conditioned to always use my mind, to be consumed in thoughts and to (over)think things through instead of feeling things out (especially as a man being born in the US). Western people, and particularly western men, are so dominated by the mind that feelings and intuition are suppressed to the point that many of us aren’t even aware of them.

I would always understand things conceptually, but I never realized that most of the time, I wasn’t really FEELING the truth of the matter. To reiterate the point from before, feeling is true understanding. There’s an indescribable feeling you get when you deeply know something to be true.

Gratitude is a great example of something I’m finally learning to feel. I always thought that being grateful was merely thinking about gratitude (all in my head). But I rarely actually FELT gratitude. Now, when I’m grateful, I not only think it (in my head) but I feel it like waves washing over me (usually in my chest/heart center). And sometimes the feeling is so intense that I feel like I AM GRATITUDE. It’s a different world than just thinking about gratitude. It’s magnificently real.

Why is Feeling Even Important?

I’m a man (in this lifetime at least), so I’ve often wondered about the usefulness of feeling. Something like “I thought that feeling was some overly-emotional, feminine, drama-queen shit. How would feeling benefit me anyway?” And you might be thinking something similar, especially if you’re the product of western (mind-dominant) culture. I’m not saying to be a drama queen or a slave to your emotions, but just to simply be aware of your feelings. Here’s why:

Feeling is your inner guidance system – Your feelings and emotions are your compass, your inner guidance system. It is through the awareness of feelings that you tune into your intuition. This taps into the wisdom of the heart, which perceives from a much more expansive perspective than the mind. As you know, the mind can be deceptive. It’s so easy to trick yourself with the mind, or let self-doubt restrain you from your full potential. Go into your feelings and access the wisdom of the heart. It’s the only guidance you’ll ever need.

Feeling allows you to fully experience life – What is a sunset without the feeling of peaceful bliss associated with it? What is sex if you’re in your head, not feeling the ecstasy flowing through your being? What is hitting the game winning shot if you don’t feel it? The shot is taken through instinct, not by thinking about it, and followed by a feeling of tremendous celebration. Life is an experience, and experiences are to be fully felt, not merely thought about.

Feeling supercharges your manifestation abilities – Most people are familiar with the law of attraction. What you focus on is what you bring into your life. Your thoughts help create your experienced reality. But, here’s the thing, thoughts are only powerful attractors when combined with passionate emotion. It’s the emotion that makes your focus a strong magnetic pull.

This was something I never fully grasped until very recently. I would merely think thoughts, or write them down, thinking that I was attracting the object of my thoughts. And guess what? My manifestations have always been slow going. In contrast, many women I’ve been around are very powerful manifestors. Why is this? Because every thought of theirs is blended with powerful and passionate emotion.

This is why visualization is so powerful. Visualization is imagining something you desire like it’s already happening. You feel it and all of the emotions that come along with it. Successful athletes have famously applied the power of visualization to excel at their sport. It’s a secret weapon of elite athletes and it works astonishingly well.

Here’s an action item (if you want to improve your feeling, visualization and manifestation abilities):
Take 10-15 minutes each day and visualize yourself living the life you desire. Feel it like it’s already happening. Go through all the facets of life; your body, your relationships, your career, your life experiences…etc. Visualize and FEEL it, and you will be a powerful magnet for whatever you focus on.

More Ways to Hone the Power of Feeling

Cultivate body awareness – Practice bringing your awareness into your body. When you have a thought, go into your body and feel the feeling associated with it. When you feel an emotion, notice the corresponding feeling in your body.

Yoga – Yoga is meditative movement, bringing you out of your head and into your body. The practice of yoga is one of the best ways to cultivate bodily awareness. You will naturally be able to intuitively feel things out more. In addition, many yogic poses are heart-opening, opening you up to the world of feelings/emotions (and positive ones at that).

Do anything to get out of your head – Meditate, express yourself creatively, write in a journal, exercise, walk outside, go for a hike, watch the sunset…etc. Anything that helps you to get out of your head will allow you to become more aware of your emotional state.

Drop into your heart-space – Practice bringing your awareness out of your head and into your heart-space (the heart chakra in the center of your chest). Allow your consciousness to reside there. I’ve been doing this a lot recently and it’s been profound. I’m more intuitive and a deep feeling of love pervades my being when I drop into my heart-space. For phenomenal resources regarding this topic, check out the HeartMath Institute.

The mind is a phenomenal servant, but a terrible master. Let your heart be your guide, but don’t forget to take your mind along for the ride.

So I’ll leave you with one question: Do you even feel, bro?


 

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My Problem With Feminism

To preface this post:

  1. We’re all equal, yet unique.
  2. Society has been overly patriarchal for a long time and that needs to change.
  3. I believe that a more matriarchal society would be much more beneficial for humanity.
  4. There is no denying that feminism has accomplished a lot in terms of equality and women’s rights.

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My problem with feminism lies within the phrase “You can’t fight fire with fire.” In fighting the often-oppressive patriarchy, those who label themselves feminists tend to exaggerate their masculine qualities. So by fighting (even the word ‘fighting’ is very masculine) for women’s rights, they ironically become more like the men they’re criticizing. It’s like the recurring theme of governments throughout history… One tyrant is overthrown, only to be replaced by another. Because in the act of overthrowing, you’re forced to become tyrannical yourself.

This is also evident in the workforce. When “playing the corporate game” you need to do certain things to move up the ladder. These usually involve the not-so-positive masculine qualities. But here’s the thing, you won’t change the hierarchy from the inside. You will only become the hierarchy by doing so. That’s why many women in high-ranking corporate positions exhibit the same traits and behaviors as the men. Because you need those traits in order to rise to the top of these rigid, hierarchical organizations. Instead, both men and women should focus on solutions. Building organizations that embrace the feminine side, instead of the exaggeratedly masculine corporate structure we’ve traditionally seen. This comes in the form of entrepreneurship and creating companies that place people over profit.

“The secret of change is to focus all of your energy, not on fighting the old, but on building the new.”  – Socrates

 
Both men and women need to tap into their feminine qualities. The sacred feminine exudes qualities of unconditional love, compassion, wisdom, beauty, gentleness, patience, accepting, forgiving, nurturing, welcoming, healing, receptivity, spontaneity, intuition, and right-brain creativity.

This shift is the basis for solving the problem of exaggerated, masculine rigidity that has pervaded society for the last few millennia. The feminine essence has been suppressed so vehemently because its very existence renders the control system obsolete. It’s that powerful.

Regarding relationships, polarity is essential to their existence. You need the yin and the yang, a dance of masculine and feminine energy for any intimacy to thrive. And this doesn’t mean that the woman embodies the feminine 24/7 and the man embodies the masculine 24/7. It should be a dance of fluidity between the two.

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Most women tend to have a feminine core and most men tend to have a masculine core. And hey, if a man expresses more feminine qualities than the woman in a relationship, that’s fine too. The same principle applies if it’s between two men or two women as well.

Intimacy requires polarity. In magnetism, opposites attract. As above, so below; this concept penetrates all levels of existence.

If two individuals have a relationship without polarity, they’re friends. There’s no magnetic intimacy there. We’ve all seen it in relationships where the woman is forced to exaggerate her masculine energy because the man won’t step up to the plate. This creates two masculine energies; two rigid, dominating forces, and there’s no spark there. You need a giver and a receiver, a speaker and a listener, musical notes juxtaposed against gorgeous silence. Note: It also works between a man who embodies feminine energy and a woman who embodies masculine energy. It’s less common, but there’s still the dance of polarity there.

This is a call for females everywhere to embrace their divine feminine. Embody your inner goddess and share your radiance with the world. It’s vitally needed in this day and age.

Don’t fight fire with fire. Put the fire out with water.

Stay cool.

-Stevie P

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