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The Purpose Formula

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What’s your purpose in life?

Why are you here? What drives you? What keeps you going?

Have you ever thought about it?

Do you even know the direction you wish to head in?

As humans, we need some sort of purpose in order to be truly happy and have a deep sense of fulfillment in life.

Without a clear purpose, we find ourselves floundering, paralyzed by indecisiveness, drowning in existential dread and living out other people’s dreams instead of our own.

Life is a journey and purpose gives us a direction to travel in. It provides a central theme to our journey.

The journey of life is filled with mystery, unpredictability and spontaneous changes. So while it’s crucial to have purpose, it’s also important to surrender to the process.

Your purpose isn’t fixed. It can change and evolve as you change and evolve. The only constant is change, so it’s a good idea to periodically reevaluate your purpose, especially when starting new chapters in life.

Your purpose can be very simple as well. It doesn’t have to be something grandiose like being president or being a billionaire (those things don’t necessarily make life fulfilling anyway), it can be as simple as cultivating a beautiful garden or as familiar as being the best parent you can be.

Here’s a hint regarding purpose: Your purpose is most likely going to involve helping others in some way. We’re social beings and giving just feels good. If you get really honest with yourself, you’ll realize that the things that give you the most fulfillment have something to do with giving, sharing and connection.

For a clearer idea of your purpose (or purposes) in life, I highly recommend reading the following article and truthfully answering all of the questions: Reveal Your Life’s Purpose by Asking These 15 Questions.

The Power of Purpose

Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose.
– Viktor Frankl

 
It’s incredibly important to find meaning in life, as a sense of purpose is an undercurrent to genuine happiness and fulfillment. Research in positive psychology shows that people who feel a sense of purpose (or meaningfulness) have less physical pain, less anxiety, less stress, less depression and have reduced tendencies toward substance abuse. It’s no coincidence that one of the major commonalities of centenarians (people who live over 100 years) is a sense of purpose. With centenarians, purpose is often tied to religious faith, but it doesn’t have to be. Anyone can find purpose no matter what their beliefs are.

Purpose is like a magic wand. If you feel stuck in any area of life, wave your magic wand of purpose. If you feel depressed, reevaluate and reestablish your purpose with conviction. If you feel anxious, shift your thinking towards your purpose. And really feel it too. Feel that sense of purpose in the depths of your nervous system, igniting your body, mind and spirit. By focusing on your purpose, you naturally shed everything that’s not in alignment with it.

Find a real purpose that’s going to give you the strength to keep it going, no matter what the fuck you go through; no matter what obstacle presents itself.
– Crooked I

 
When in doubt, focus on your purpose. It works.

Mark Twain why you were born

The Purpose Formula

I came up with this technique, which I call “The Purpose Formula.” It is designed to give you a clear sense of purpose and how to move in that direction on a daily basis. Here’s what to do…

The Steps
1. Write down your personal mission statement for your life (in one sentence). This is your big picture purpose to always keep in mind.
2. Choose 6-10 major categories in life (see my example below).
3. Write your purpose for each category (there can be more than one per category).
4. Next to each purpose, write down a habit, routine or tangible things you can do every day (or every week) to move in that direction.
5. Do it! Implement the habits you’ve outlined, focusing on your most important one first.

My Purpose Formula

(Note: I wrote this first, which actually led me to develop The Purpose Formula, so I’m sharing the prelude which created the catharsis for me as well)

Now, since I’m beginning a new chapter of my book, I want to set clear intentions. I want to set a clear direction to head in, to use the metaphor of a road trip.

I need a big picture purpose, but also something that translates into tangible daily actions.

Personal Mission Statement:
Continuously expand my perspective and inspire the hearts of others.

Health:

  • Eat natural, local food – Go to Farmer’s markets at least once per week.
  • Balance alcohol consumption – Limit 2 drinks (good craft beers of course) per night out then switch to water or club soda.

Fitness:

  • Get even leaner and stronger – HIIT every morning, walk a lot, bodyweight workouts 5x per week (improving each workout).
  • Become more flexible – Stretch every morning, yoga at least 2x per week.

Spiritual Progression:

  • Meditate more – Meditate every morning upon waking and afternoon/night as well.

Writing:

  • Continuously improve and express myself through writing – One blog post per week, work towards the completion of a book every day.

Career:

  • Writing – Continuous improvement, expressing potent truths, inspiring and entertaining (daily practices outlined in Writing section).
  • Inspire more people – Through writing, making videos (every day), creating more courses and just living my truth in daily life.
  • Expand my healing abilities – Meditate more, promote my online coaching and Reiki practice. Spark that brilliance within people in a one on one setting
  • Other – Getting involved in other projects that resonate with me to earn more money, learn new skills and broaden my life experience (ex/ freelance writing opportunities).

Relationships:

  • Attract a beautiful partner to learn and grow with – Embody the qualities of a person I wish to attract, do things I love and don’t hesitate to say hi or reach out to people.
  • Attract or find a tribe and deep relationships – See above.
  • Deepen my connection with friends and family – Speak my inner truth. Embrace human connection. Reach out to people. Genuinely be interested in them. Be there to help. Show gratitude. Never hold back genuine compliments.

Travel:

  • See more of the world – Visit places that are calling me. Plan an interesting trip within the next 6 months.

Nature:

  • Hike more – Hike a mountain or trail at least once per week.
  • Connect with nature – Visit a cool natural place at least twice per week (park, body of water, hiking, ocean…etc.).

Knowledge:

  • Read more books – PhotoRead at least one book per week. Read every night too.

A Note on Habits

Attempting to establish multiple new habits at once will just overwhelm you. So if you outline your Purpose Formula and see that you have several new habits which you want to implement, focus on one habit at a time.

Also, make sure that the habits you outline are as simple and easy as possible. If habits are not simple and easy (especially at first), they can become intimidating and you probably won’t stick to it.

Set one habit in one area of life as your priority and focus on creating that habit first. Once it becomes embedded and is second nature to you, then move on to implementing a new habit. Habits take 66 days to become automatic, so implement a habit for at least 66 days before starting a new habit. Remember, your purpose is the epitome of a long-term endeavor, so there’s no need to rush.

Most people overestimate what they can do in one year and underestimate what they can do in ten years.
– Bill Gates

 
Know where you’re headed and embrace the journey.

Now I’ll leave you with the obvious question: What’s your purpose?

Much love.

– Stevie P!

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Why Learning is like Jet Fuel for Happiness

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I found myself wading into the alluring blue-green Caribbean Sea, with my right hand on a surfboard and my eyes fixated on an immense wave approaching. I’ll admit, it was a bit intimidating: an ominous undulation, already taller than me, quickly rising out of the infinity of liquid power. But the fear within, which had risen along with the wave itself, was immediately transmuted into childlike excitement as I snapped into action, spinning the surfboard around and hopping on, belly first.

Exuding exuberance, I glanced over my right shoulder to see the wave swiftly advancing toward me. My warrior ethos kicked in and I paddled with powerful, staunch strokes, building just enough momentum right as the wave tasted my heels. The wall of water surged upon me, thrusting me into a realm of slowed time and total focus. The board was no longer a lifeless object, but a kindred spirit, conspiring to maximize my moment. It was a beautiful communion between beings, conceived through coalescence and driven by synergy.

With a blast of pizzazz, I popped up onto my feet, landing in the classic surfer stance (totally, dude). What a feeling! The inner child within me was jumping for joy as I cruised towards the shore with a beaming smile on my face.

That was the conclusion of my very first surfing lesson. It was a true climax of bliss, fueled by the magical phenomenon of… LEARNING.

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Learning is an integral element of the human experience.

We came into this life to learn and grow. And without learning, no growth is possible.

All inhibitors of learning and growth (stagnation, monotony, boredom, fear, comfort zones…etc) drain the joy out of life and deaden the spirit. On the other hand, learning, growth, progress and perpetual new experiences infuse life with a euphoric vivacity. This feeling of elation is a tell-tale sign that you’re in alignment with your inner truth.

“Life begins at the end of your comfort zone.” – Neale Donald Walsch

Life’s tendency is toward progression. Life is defined by growth. If you’re not growing, you’re dying.

Learning is a precursor to growth and an undeniable catalyst of happiness.

The act of learning doesn’t have to be strictly intellectual either. If it’s something physical, like surfing, your mind and body work together in the learning process. This weaves threads of cooperative harmony through all levels of being.

It is undeniable that learning is crucial to the human experience. Learn to love learning and your life has no choice but to change for the better.

Think about how good improvement feels. Think about how good personal evolution feels. That feeling is the child of learning and growth.

Be Willing, Eager and Open to Learning

Willingness to learn is as equally important as the learning process itself. If you’re open and eager enough, you will learn anything you wish to.

Three Manifestations of Willingness that Will Greatly Accelerate Your Life Learning Process

  1. Embrace curiosity – Einstein put it perfectly when he said, ““I have no special talent. I am only passionately curious.”
  2. Listen – Listen to what other people have to say, instead of talking all of the time. Listen intently, listen with curiosity and listen with an open mind.
  3. Ask questions – Question everything and entertain any idea.

Be willing, eager and open to learning and the doors of understanding will eagerly open to you.

There are, of course, ways to refine and streamline the learning process as well.

An effective model for rapid learning is Tim Ferriss’ D.S.S.S. strategy from his book The Four Hour Chef. The acronym D.S.S.S. stands for Deconstruct, Selection, Sequencing, and Stakes.

Deconstruct
“What are the minimum learnable units, the LEGO blocks, I should be starting with?

Selection
“Which 20% of the blocks should I focus on for 80% or more of the outcome I want?

Sequencing
“In what order should I learn the blocks?”

Stakes
“How do I set up stakes to create real consequences and guarantee I follow the program?”

Read more about Tim Ferriss’ D.S.S.S. strategy here.

Another Useful Tip for Learning

The human attention span is not very long, so learning in short stints (30-60 minutes at a time, with short breaks in between) is a great way to leverage this. The percentage of information you’re able to retain drops in the middle of any learning session. This is why most people only remember the beginning and end of a long, study marathon. So instead of trudging through things for hours, engaging in short sessions with breaks allows you to function at maximum capacity and actually get more done. Plus, it just feels better (which is a subtle hint itself).

This is why many schools found it more effective to have 50-minute classes, because after that point, kids stop paying attention.

I personally thrive off of getting things done in 20-30 minute chunks, followed by breaks. This is a great strategy for learning, writing and really accomplishing anything.

Tim Ferriss (again) beautifully charts this phenomenon in The Four Hour Chef:

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Why Surfing is the Perfect Medium for Learning

Surfing is both physical and mental – Surfing simultaneously engages the body and mind, and is healthy for both. You use both simultaneously, which creates harmony between the two. Plus, it’s a form of exercise (which, as everyone knows, has a ton of benefits itself).

Nature therapy – You’re outside and connected with nature while you’re learning. You get your feet in the sand (grounding/Earthing), the sun on your face (Vitamin D), the breeze in your hair and you’re in the water (which comes with benefits too). It’s a beautiful, healthy combination of learning and the four earthly elements.

Surfing engages the warrior ethos in a healthy manner – It’s a positive outlet for your warrior spirit. Surfing is both a physical battle and a cooperation between you and the ocean. For those like myself who have a deep connection with the warrior archetype, positive expressions of it are necessary for your well-being. For too long, the warrior ethos of humanity has been relegated to war and other forms of senseless violence. Learning to surf is also learning to bring out your warrior ethos in a healthy way.

As you can tell, I love learning. And learning how to surf was a tremendous experience for me.

Keep learning. Keep growing. Find happiness along the journey of continuous expansion.

Much love.

– Stevie P!

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Why I Left My Job

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I just quit my job…

It was what most people would call a “good job,” a comfortable position at a software company that looks good on paper. But it was deeply unfulfilling and represented the polar opposite of who I am as a person.

I always instinctively knew that the well-trodden path wasn’t all it’s cracked up to be. You know the whole deal. Go to college, get a “good” job, get married, get a house with a white picket fence, have kids that repeat this cycle, delay all gratification in life for the dream of retiring with money saved…etc. But it wasn’t until I read The Four Hour Workweek by Tim Ferriss that I become consciously aware that it was all, for the most part, bullshit. That book shifted my paradigm and verbalized what I intrinsically knew to be true.

Due to my voracious reading and soul-searching, I’ve become acutely aware that sitting in an office, doing monotonous work that doesn’t add much value to society is simply not for me. I’ve spent a lot of time contemplating my life’s purpose and I’m arranging my short stint on Planet Earth accordingly. Everyone has so much to share with the world. It’s a shame that so many people relegate themselves to jobs that don’t allow them to express their true purpose.

I really dislike spending my time doing things that are not deeply fulfilling. I’m also finding inauthenticity difficult as well. If you work for someone else, you have fake enthusiasm to a certain extent in order to keep your job. (Of course, the level of this depends on who you are and what your job is.)

Another factor for me leaving is that marathon sitting is the bane of my existence. Sitting for 8 hours a day is rough for me (and staring at a screen exacerbates it). We humans are built to walk, not sit. I would find myself antsy at work and getting up every half hour or so. I would take walks or stretch throughout the day and set myself up so I could work out during lunch breaks. I like to have control over my sitting time, which is why I prefer determining my own schedule. I’m most effective when I get into the zone on the computer for 20-30 minute intervals, and then go do something else.

I’m a self-motivated free spirit. (That would probably be the summary version as to why I left my job.)

I thrive off of and value a high degree of personal freedom. It’s just in my nature. I don’t like being told what to do. I’d rather hop in the driver’s seat and be the captain of my own fate.

The Age of Infinite Opportunity

There are massive opportunities for people to earn a living by expressing their true purpose and helping others; more so than any other time in history. The internet and global communication has provided a vast array of ways to make money, with the only limit being your imagination. All of the information you need is right in front of you, you just have to metabolize it and put it into practice.

Realization and Bold Decisions

I realized that I was staying at my job out of complacency. So I lined myself up for departure. Then I made the bold decision to leave in favor of traveling the world and pursuing writing (along with some more of my own endeavors).

“Be bold and courageous. When you look back on your life, you’ll regret the things you didn’t do more than the ones you did.” – H. Jackson Brown, Jr.

I view life as a grand video game. Overcoming obstacles and making bold decisions creates a worthwhile, fun and fulfilling living/gaming experience.

On the other hand, remaining within the confines of comfort zones does the opposite. It stifles growth and glazes life with an insidious, underlying dreariness. And that’s no fun.

My shift into boldness occurred because I’ve learned to follow my heart. I act on my intuition, feeling out situations more than over-analyzing everything. Even when my mind doubts, I know that my intuition sees the bigger picture. This has worked out well for me, every time. Life seems to unfold in a beautifully serendipitous manner when you embrace the mystery of it all and step with faith.

“Although the road is never ending
take a step and keep walking,
do not look fearfully into the distance…
On this path let the heart be your guide
for the body is hesitant and full of fear.”

– Rumi

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How I Left: The Practical Steps

1. I knew exactly what I wanted.

Before you embark upon any journey, you have to first decide where you want to go.

I knew that I wanted to work for myself and be able to travel more. And I’ve been consistently working towards this for a while.

Here’s the affirmation I’ve been writing down and saying to myself for the last 2+ years:
I’m earning a living online, giving me freedom of time and location.

And guess what? It’s coming to fruition. (specific desire + consistent action = success)

2. I saved money.

Anyone can save money if they prioritize it and find creative ways to do so. How you do it will completely depend on your individual circumstance.
 
3. I set myself up with other options.

I started Feelin Good, Feelin Great over 3 years ago and I’ve kept at it. I’m finally getting significant traffic and building a substantial email list. I have books and courses, as well as other means of monetization to experiment with on there.

Also, the writing I’ve done has already opened the door to many other things (like GorillaRadio.tv). I have a whole host of other endeavors and ideas that I’m pursuing.

I’m barely making any money now, but the trickle is already transforming into a stream. Persistence pays.

Put yourself in a position to bring your goals into being.

4. I made bold decisions.

You have to take some leaps of faith to live an awesome life. It’s as simple as that. Quitting my job was a leap of faith.

This goes back to what I explained earlier. If you want to live a great life, you have to take risks. Life is a video game, keep exploring leveling up.

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What I’m Doing

You know when you first meet someone, they might ask you that old blasé question, “So what do you do?” Here’s how I would answer that now. (Well, after whimsically proclaiming that I’m a Laughologist, of course.)

1. Writing, writing, writing.

I’m writing on here (of course) and for GorillaRadio.tv. I also have a novel in progress and a few other books in the pipeline.

2. Expanding Feelin Good, Feelin Great.

I’m driving more traffic, staying active on social media, adding more products and courses…etc.

3. Traveling around the world

It’s shaping up to look like France, Spain, Croatia, India, Thailand and some more of Southeast Asia. We’ll see how it goes. Stay tuned for updates on my travels.

4. Pursuing any other creative/entrepreneurial adventures that pop up.

“Follow your bliss and the universe will open doors where there were only walls.” – Joseph Campbell

Live boldly and take action.

Remember, no one on their death bed looks back and says, “I wish I’d spent more time in the office.”

The world is yours. Go get it.

– Stevie P
 

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