The Blossom of Femininity

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The dance of the yin and yang, feminine and masculine energy, has always been of great interest to me.

What adds to the intrigue is how imbalanced these energies have been throughout history (his-story). The shadow side of the masculine has dominated and controlled, suppressing the feminine and relegating femininity to its own shadows.

Since society doesn’t provide us with ideal versions of these energetic archetypes to put into practice, we must create our own.

This is why I’ve been exploring and defining my own version of masculinity. And in doing so, one word seems to exemplify masculine, or yang energy: Giving.

Helping, serving and supporting are all expressions of this true masculine/yang energy characterized by the spirit of giving. This interpretation of the divine masculine can take many forms, giving any type of love, helping someone in any way, material giving, the giving of undivided attention, emotional support (a shoulder to lean on)…etc. This kind of giving is unconditional and from a place of compassion, not fear-based or done in a “strings attached” manner.

A major role of this true, giving masculine, in my opinion, is to provide a safe space for the divine feminine to thrive. A strong masculine energy rooted in love can give femininity, not only within women but also within men, a safe place to fully express itself and blossom. This is not possible with the assault of domination and control from the shadow masculine, which suppresses and squashes the fruits of femininity. The divine masculine must support the growth of the divine feminine (not work against it) in order for humanity to live more harmoniously. Our world urgently needs the blossoming of femininity and its defining qualities like intuition, creativity, holistic thinking, compassion and cooperation.

In the spirit of this topic, these concepts are far better conveyed in more feminine, poetic language than masculine, hyper-rational prose. That’s why I’ll leave you with a poem…

The Blossom of Femininity

Too often we’ve seen the shadows
Masculine
Dominant and violent
Feminine
Deceptive and vain

Forgive the fear
It’s time we embody the archetypes
Through the incarnation of love

Giving
Is the essence of masculinity
The masculine must serve the feminine
For the dance of duality to flow
Not a servant-to-master dependence
But out of the free spirit of giving
The strength of providing
Providing space for the feminine to blossom
Providing safety for the feminine to express

Just as the sun shines its light unconditionally
Ever-giving energy to Gaia
Our light must shine the same
Unyielding and unconditional
Nurturing intuition
Cultivating compassion
Harvesting harmony
To engender the flowering of the heart
And see humanity in bloom

 

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The Power of Surrender

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In our modern Western culture, the word “surrender” is thought of as negative.

The basic definition of surrender is “to yield to the power of another.”

It has become synonymous with giving up and viewed as an irrevocable display of weakness. But, contrary to popular belief, the act of surrender may possess far more power than you’ve ever imagined.

Let’s look at another interpretation. In the religious context, surrender “means that a believer completely gives up his own will and subjects his thoughts, ideas, and deeds to the will and teachings of a higher power.” (Wikipedia)

I’ve come to view surrender as something slightly different than what both the dictionary and religious definitions imply. To me, surrender is letting go of your egoic sense of control and allowing the rational mind to yield to a higher purpose. (“Higher purpose” meaning that it’s beyond and more expansive than the ego, the rational mind and physical reality.)

While the religious perspective has some innate wisdom, I don’t believe that this higher purpose or higher power has to be something separate from us. Separation is a physical illusion, as everything is connected on some level. We are multi-dimensional beings, whose layers eventually roll up to Source, God, the Infinite or whatever you believe is the essence of everything. However, simply heeding this intuitive wisdom, whatever that source may be, is more important than debating about exactly what it is or if it’s something separate from us or not.

This higher purpose often comes in the form of subtle intuition that the conscious mind can’t quite grasp. It can also be a deep-seated feeling (aka gut feeling) that you can’t completely rationalize but know to be true.

Surrendering to the Flow of Higher Purpose

I’m not going to say it’s God or angels or spirit guides or higher self or Zordon, because I don’t know for sure. But there is undoubtedly some source of intuition that subtly feeds us information and guides us in certain directions. I’m just calling it “higher purpose” for the (higher) purpose of this article (see what I did there?). Plus, it reminds me of the great Buckminster Fuller quote “God is a verb.”

Surrendering to the flow of higher purpose is ultimately a surrender of the ego and its controlling tendencies. It’s also a surrender of the problem-solving/problem-finding mind to heart-wisdom or intuition. There is less logic and rationality involved, but more feeling, trust and an intrinsic sense of knowing. You release all fear and flow with a higher aspect of yourself that sees beyond what your conscious mind does. While the conscious mind only sees the next step, the intuition sees the entire journey.

Trying to control life with your egoic mind is like trying to walk on your hands (your hands being your egoic mind and your legs being your higher purpose/intuition/heart-wisdom). Sure, you can walk on your hands, but your legs are so much more capable of walking. Besides, your hands are of far more use when they’re free. It’s just like how your mind is sharper and more useful when you’re not exhausting or stressing it 24/7. Let go of that inner egoic control-freak and surrender to the mysterious wisdom of your heart’s intuition. Remember, the mind is a wonderful servant but a terrible master.

Think of this higher purpose as a stream carving through the landscapes of life, always leading to the ocean called “What You Need Most for Your Growth” (Yeah, it’s an ocean with a long name). You can choose to flow with this higher knowing, or go against it. And we all know what happens when we go against our intuition…

Additionally, surrender doesn’t mean being a victim or just sitting around waiting for things to happen. It means heeding your intuition, surrendering to that higher knowing and moving with faith, knowing that your intuitive compass is pointing you in the right direction (because it always does). Another major component is surrendering to the moment.

For more in depth articles on ego, intuition and all of that good stuff:
How To Hone Your Intuition
What Does Your Ego Look Like?

Surrendering to the Moment

Though blind faith in man-made systems without any critical discernment can leave you vulnerable to manipulation, not having faith in anything is just as debilitating (if not more so).

Trust the process of life. Have faith that everything happens for a reason. Trust that life is unfolding for your highest good. Well, what’s the other option anyway? Living in perpetual fear and doubt!? Eh, no thanks.

“Life will give you whatever experience is most helpful for the evolution of your consciousness. How do you know this is the experience you need? Because this is the experience you are having at the moment.” ~ Eckhart Tolle

Surrendering to the moment doesn’t mean not changing anything. It’s simply an acceptance of what is, accepting that what is happening is indeed happening. There is none of the paralyzing, insidious self-denial that slowly gnaws away at your well-being. Accepting the moment (what IS) actually puts you in a better position to change or maximize your situation than not accepting the moment.

For example, if it’s 2PM and you surrender to the fact that you’re stuck at work for three more hours, it puts you in a position to make the most of it. But if you resist what’s happening, you guarantee yourself complete misery for the next three hours. Here’s another one: If you’re overweight and you accept it, only then can you make the lifestyle changes to make yourself fit and healthy. But if you’re in denial of the situation, that self-delusion will prevent you from facing reality and making a change.

The Journey of Life

Learn to let go of your sense of egoic control and trust the flow of life. And paradoxically, when you do this, more of your desires come to fruition. Life is strange, right?

Your intuition is your built-in GPS (higher purpose), trust that it’s bringing you to the right place. Just keep your eyes on the road (be in the present moment) and your hands upon the wheel (ready for action).

Feel the paradoxical power of surrender.

One love.

– Stevie P!
 

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Live Like Every Interaction is Your Last

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We’ve all heard the phrase “Live every day like it’s your last.”

But how many of us truly apply that?

***crickets chirp***

Yeah… Pretty much nobody.

It’s too easy to slip into the dull monotony of day-to-day life, coast through life on autopilot and lull ourselves to sleep inside the deceptive contentment of our comfort zones; only to wake up and find out we’ve missed the dance.

“Live every day like it’s your last” has lost its potency because so many people say it without actually embodying it. So a new phrase that I utilize is “Live like every interaction is your last.”

Serendipitously, I found myself applying that phrase during my travels. “Live like every interaction is your last” has become a perpetual piece of motivational self-talk as I maneuver through my days; and one that has made life infinitely more fulfilling as well.

Everything is an interaction, so whether it be with people, animals, places or circumstances, treat each and every interaction you have like it’s your last.

I was led to approach this “carpe diem” mentality from so many directions. Multiple paths, winding around the requiem of human reality, ended up seamlessly converging on this idea of wholeheartedly diving into each moment, because the next moment is not promised.

11 Key Components to “Living Like Every Interaction is Your Last”

1. Facing the Certainty of Death

The reality of life is that death is inevitable. Death can also come at any time. To not recognize this is ultimate denial. By being consciously aware that death is certain and tomorrow is not promised, you will cherish each moment and squeeze the last drop of divine nectar out of every sacred day you walk the Earth.

No matter what your belief system is – whether you believe in heaven, reincarnation, evolving into Mewtwo in another dimension or believe nothing exists after this life – your time within this physical body is finite. This completely unique life that you’re living right now has never happened before nor will it ever happen again. So be grateful and make the most of it!

View death, not as your enemy or something to be afraid of, but as an ally motivating you to make the most out of each fleeting moment.

“Dream as if you’ll live forever. Live as if you’ll die today.” ~ James Dean

2. Positive Programming

Condition yourself to live like every interaction is your last. Find an affirmation or mantra to repeat and help ground you into the bliss of the present moment.

During every personal interaction, I keep the mantra “Live like every interaction is your last” in the back of my head. It helps me to be more present, more compassionate, more loving, more forgiving, more grateful, more bold and more courageous.

We’re always programming ourselves whether we like it or not. Everything you tell yourself is a seed planted in the garden of your subconscious mind. Are you cultivating the kind of garden you want?

3. Letting Go of Judgment

Are you going to waste your time worrying about what other people think of you? Are you going to let the opinions of others determine what YOU DO with YOUR OWN LIFE? Are you going to throw away your own time by judging others? In the grand scheme of things, those petty judgments are ridiculously stupid, and an absolute waste of your precious time here on Earth.

I took a more in depth look at different forms of judgment in these articles:
No One Cares: Your Key to Freedom from Social Anxiety
Crouching Tiger, Hidden Judgment

4. Living Through Your Heart

Don’t let your ego run the show. Reside in your heart-space, that intuitive knowing from a deep place of peace.

Choose love as your motivating force in every situation, not fear.

And as cliche as this phrase is, ask yourself “What would Jesus do?” (or “What would Buddha do?” if you prefer that as the archetype of an ascended master). The point is, what would you do if you were operating from a place of unconditional love? Do that!

5. Practicing Forgiveness

Forgiveness is a pivotal theme here.

Holding onto any negativity is like holding onto a burning coal, thinking that it’s burning the other person. You’re only hurting yourself.

Forgiveness is more about not letting negative emotions fester within you than it is about the other person.

Cultivate mindfulness regarding holding onto grudges or dwelling on negative scenarios in the past. Simply being aware of it will take the wind out of the sails of any negativity you’re holding onto.

6. Recognizing the Stupidity of Negativity

In the grand scheme of things, complaining is useless, getting angry over little things is laughable (and if you really think about it, everything is a “little thing”), clutching onto resentment is idiotic…etc.

Are you going to waste your precious time on Earth mad at the guy who cut you off in traffic yesterday? Get over it and move on.

7. Honesty

Why lie? What’s the point? Think about how it would feel to leave behind nothing but a complex web of lives for those you supposedly care about.

Lying just complicates things anyway, while honesty (though more difficult at times) is much simpler.

Honesty also feels good, because it’s the language of the heart, and any pain felt on the receiving end of a genuinely honest statement (based in love) is pain on the ego’s behalf.

8. Embracing the Little Things

Living like every interaction is your last is not necessarily about going skydiving or throwing a party and inviting everyone you’ve ever met; it’s about cherishing the little things in life.

Savor your cup of coffee in the morning, feel the joy of taking a deep breath through your nose, go for a walk outside and cherish the moment, laugh for no reason, dance by yourself, hold the door open for a stranger and see their beaming smile, give someone a genuine compliment…etc.

Learn to love the little things and your life will be an awe-inspiring experience of perpetual vibrance.

9. Avoiding Regret

“Be bold and courageous. When you look back on your life, you’ll regret the things you didn’t do more than the ones you did.” ~ H. Jackson Brown, Jr.

You’re the brave hero of your own movie, so act like it. And remember that (so called) mistakes make the best learning experiences. Sitting scared in your comfort zone is not living, but a slow death.

Take some risks, be unabashedly honest, talk to that hot girl or guy, write that book you have inside of you, quit your boring job and travel the world, tell your loved ones that you love them every time you say goodbye… Because you never know…

When you’re on your deathbed, are you going to look back and have regrets? Or smile and say “What a ride, baby!”?

10. Presence

The present moment is all that exists, and its fleeting, so cherish it.

The past and future only exist in our minds. And it’s in the mental projections into the past or future where we find our fear, worry, anxiety and all those negative emotions. Remember, there are no problems in the present moment.

The present moment is the ever-moving point of unending actualization which encases the physical dimension. It’s a ceaseless vortex of infinite love that goes wherever you go. You just have to surrender to it.

Feel, in the depths of your soul, the indescribable magic of each moment.

Meet each moment with joyful totality.

11. Your Legacy

What are you doing to make the world a better place? What are you creating? Are you living with purpose? What message are you conveying by the way you live your life?

What is your legacy?

Let the answer to that be a guiding force for the way you live your life on a moment-to-moment basis.

The Catalyst of Travel

Travel has a profound way of spurring this way of living like each moment could be your last. With all of the new (and sometimes scary) places, all of the perilous bus rides and the natural fear of flights, you become far more likely to constantly consider your own mortality.

From that perspective, a choice presents itself in every moment: “Will I make the most of this moment, or succumb to fear and complacency, letting it slip away forever?”

The choice is up to you. You have the option, in every moment, to make the most out of that fleeting moment and live like every interaction is your last.

One love.

– Stevie P!
 

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Why I Stopped Traveling the World

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After about 5 months of inspirited vagabondism all over this beautiful planet, I’ve decided to stop traveling (for now).

What? Why? Are you crazy? Don’t you want to keep traveling the world?

Not really, at least for this phase of my life.

I had a myriad of amazing experiences, met hundreds of wonderful people, discovered so much about myself and gained an enormous amount of clarity regarding, well, everything. In short, I got what I was looking for (but of course, the journey now continues in other ways).

How I Decided Where to Go

My travels were guided by places that were calling me. I would get these deep, intuitive callings to go places. And that’s what I followed, no matter what. Money, distance and convenience all took a back seat while I faithfully navigated via my inner compass.

Every place was special and served as an auspicious co-conspirator for my personal evolution. They all played a role that I never would have imagined if I didn’t follow “the calling.”

“There is no logical way to the discovery of these elemental laws. There is only the way of intuition, which is helped by a feeling for the order lying behind the appearance.” ~ Albert Einstein

Why I Stopped Traveling

I stopped traveling because no particular place is calling me right now.

However, that calling is now coming in the form of new endeavors (there are big things on the horizon for Feelin’ Good, Feelin’ Great) and building relationships with kindred spirits.

I have an incredible pull coming from the depths of my being. So that’s my focus right now. That is the theme of this chapter of my life.

Where in the World was Stephen Parato?

Here’s the general list of places I went to (notice that most of it doesn’t make sense from a strictly logical standpoint):

Marseilles, France
Barcelona, Spain
Dubrovnik, Croatia
Split, Croatia
Hvar Island, Croatia
Zagreb, Croatia
Pune, India (at the Osho International Meditation Resort)
Bangkok, Thailand
Chiang Mai, Thailand
Pai, Thailand
Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia
Arambol, Goa, India
Iquitos, Peru (and the Peruvian Amazon)
Cusco, Peru
Machu Picchu
Puno, Peru
Copacabana, Bolivia
Isla Del Sol & Lake Titicaca, Bolivia
Panama City, Panama
Bocas Del Toro, Panama
Isla Basimentos, Panama
San Jose, Costa Rica
Uvita, Costa Rica (and Envision festival)

I took a bunch of buses, a few trains and 13 flights throughout those 5 months (like a so-rad, pro-nomad).

I stayed everywhere from hostels, to Airbnb places, to guest houses and even a fancy hotel in Panama City for a night.

Such diversity of life experiences allows me to appreciate everything more, develop the perspective to be able to relate to anyone and evolve into the greatest version of myself.

Traveling for the Sake of Traveling

Since no place is truly calling me right now, if I were to keep gallivanting around, I would just be traveling for the sake of traveling. Doing that would actually be going against my intuitive guidance (which is pointing me towards new projects and building relationships, not more travel). And we all know what happens when we ignore our intuition.

If you’re traveling for the sake of traveling, are you really being guided by your internal compass? Are you traveling just so you can take beautiful Instagram pictures so that everyone thinks you’re cool? These are questions I’ve periodically asked myself. Notice when your lifestyle choices are based upon other people, or society, instead of your own inner guidance.

“Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma – which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition.” ~ Steve Jobs

I’ve learned to trust my intuition and trust the process of life. When I do, life is infinitely more fulfilling and magical. On the surface, continuing to travel seems exciting, but I know that I’m entering into a different phase right now. I know that as I walk this path of inner truth, opportunities will present themselves that I never would have imagined beforehand.

What is Calling You?

Get in tune with what is calling you. Be brutally honest with yourself.

What do you have a deep, irresistible calling towards?

Who cares what anyone else tells you? Live based on your own genuine, intuitive (heart-based) desires otherwise you’ll forever be a slave to other people and external forces.

The calling will be different for everyone. For you, it may be be starting a family, or learning a new language or traveling to the country where your grandparents were born. We’re all utterly unique, on different journeys and at different stages of our own hero’s journey.

It all boils down to this: Live YOUR life.

Much love.

– Stevie P!

Croatian Island Bay Stance #hvar #starigrad #croatia #thatstancetho #perfectform

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What Does Your Ego Look Like?

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EGO = Everything Gets Ominous

I just came up with that acronym, which seems to succinctly capture that mischievous creature which resides in all of our minds.

The ego can be loosely defined as the part of your mind that separates yourself from others, or your sense of self-importance.

As you’ve probably experienced, the ego can be deceptive, shadowy and a master of creating problems out of nothing. But it’s not all negative. The ego is necessary for things like your (physical) survival and personal uniqueness.

While the ego is a natural part of being human, the key is not letting it run the show. As long as you’re human, there will be ego, but does it control you? Are you completely engulfed by it? Or can you draw your perspective back and observe it?

The ego is a terrible master because it lives off of fear. It only exists because the reality we’re living in is based upon duality and separation, which is divergent from the truth of oneness (see my series on oneness, linked below). Being a product of this disharmonious paradigm, the ego exists in perpetual fear and seeks to control every situation to ensure its survival. This is why people who are completely controlled by ego live in constant fear, create problems out of thin air and try to control everything. When you’re not mastered by the ego, you can let go of fear, follow your intuition and trust the process of life.

On oneness:
Distilling the Truth of Oneness: Events
Distilling the Truth of Oneness: Part 2
Distilling the Truth of Oneness: Symptoms of Separation

What Does Your Ego Look Like?

I recently participated in a guided meditation that included visualizing the ego. And I was surprised, because the image that instantly came to me was the Pokemon “Gengar” (see the picture below).

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It’s so appropriate, especially when reading the description on Bulbapedia

“Gengar has the ability to hide perfectly in the shadow of any object, granting it exceptional stealth. However, Gengar’s body acts as a heat sink; its presence cools the temperature of the surrounding area by nearly 10°F, because it absorbs the warmth. In addition, Gengar possesses the ability to fly through the air, as demonstrated in the anime.

Gengar is very mischievous, and at times, malicious. It enjoys playing practical jokes and casting curses, such as pretending to be one’s shadow, then behaving erratically. When the quarry notices, the Gengar takes delight in its victim’s terror. However, Gengar has been known to be loyal to a Trainer who treats it well. Gengar lives in shadows of rooms, caves, and dark places where shadows form. It is especially fond of urban areas such as cities and back alleys, but only during the night.”

Why the Ego is Like Gengar

  • It’s the “shadow self” or negative aspects of yourself that remain hidden – “Gengar has the ability to hide perfectly in the shadow of any object, granting it exceptional stealth.”
  • It’s “mischievous, and times, malicious.” – The ego is cunning and deceptive. If you let it run the show, it will sneakily create problems and coat your life with an undertone of fear.
  • It’s a good servant, but a terrible master – “Gengar has been known to be loyal to a Trainer who treats it well.” When you’re able to just observe the ego, without being governed by it, life is all good.

Now let’s get into some practical tools.

How to Know When Your Ego is Coming Out to Play
(This is not a definitive list by any means. But it will give you a good idea about how to know when your ego is popping up.)

  • If you’re feeling self-doubt
  • If there is any “problem” that does not involve immediate danger (like getting chased by a bear)
  • If you’re judging
  • If you’re blaming someone or something
  • If you’re offended
  • If you feel good only because someone complimented you
  • If you choose a label as your identity (nationality, race, religion…etc)
  • If you feel any form of fear (The ego is sustained by fear. The fundamental fear is the fear of death (or non-existence), because the ego dies with the physical body)
  • If you’re playing out scenarios in your head
  • If you’re trying to justify yourself
  • If you’re trying to prove that you’re right
  • If you’re playing the victim
  • If you see others as separate from you or your group
  • If you’re instantly labeling something
  • If you’re feeling inferior or superior
  • If you’re comparing
  • If you’re jealous
  • If you’re attempting to control a situation, person…etc (anything related to control is ego)
  • If you’re making decisions based on what other people think of you
  • If you’re nervous or anxious
  • If you have a static image (persona) of yourself that you’re trying to maintain

2 quick tips to help you distinguish between your heart and your ego:

1. Ask yourself if the source of the thoughts or beliefs is that of a wise elder or a cynical, fearful skeptic speaking. The wise elder is your heart wisdom (the inner truth, which I discuss in more detail in this article), while the cynical, fearful skeptic is the ego.

2. Is it coming from a place of love or fear? Love is heart. Fear is ego. Simple as that.

Remember, there’s no need to judge or condemn the ego. That’s actually how the ego sneaks in again through the back door. Just accept it and observe it. Because once you’re aware of the ego, you’re beyond it and it no longer controls you.

Ego Visualization Meditation
1. Sit, stand or lie down with your eyes closed (whichever is more comfortable).
2. Take 10 deep breaths through your nose, focusing on your breath.
3. Visualize your ego – Let go and see what image pops into your head. What does it look like? What color(s) is it? Is it similar to something you’ve seen before?
4. Visualize your ego in front of you – What feelings do you get? What vibe does it give off?
5. Shake hands with it or pet it (depending on what it is).
6. Smile at it with compassion and amusement, knowing you’re the master.

Try this out. Acquaint yourself with your ego. Build that awareness and you’ll be able to differentiate between the blabberings of your ego from the intuitive wisdom of your true self.

A fun challenge to give you more “ego awareness”:
If someone gives you an ego compliment (ex/ “You look good today.”), respond with “My ego thanks you.” It’s hilarious, lighthearted and will cultivate more awareness regarding the ego.

So I’ll leave you with the question, what does your ego look like?

One love.

– Stevie P!

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An Open Letter to the Materialist

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We live in a three-dimensional reality
And experience it through the filter of five senses
We merely see a sliver of the spectrum of light
We only hear a small slice of the scale of sound

If we cannot perceive something
If we cannot measure something
Does that mean it doesn’t exist?

There is an infinity
Of indescribable mystery
Based in energy
Vibration and frequency

Who is the driver of your body?
Who is the witness of your thoughts?

You are pure awareness

Open up
Experience the truth for yourself
Experience the truth of yourself
Feel it

 

The Love Aura

2 people walk into a bar and stand next to you…

With the first person, you immediately get bad vibes. You get “a disturbance in the force,” as they’d say in Star Wars.

With the second person, you immediately get good vibes. You just feel at ease in their presence.

Who would you rather talk to?

It’s an obvious question. And the decision is made outside of the mind, beyond the bounds of thinking. It is a knowing, a feeling experienced on a deeper level.

People are naturally attracted to people who exude positive energy. Nobody wants to be around a Negative Nancy, or an Angry Andy, right? Operating in the paradigm of love makes you magnetic, hence the term “magnetic personality.”

I call this field of positive vibes “The Love Aura.”

And it’s a phenomenon that both myself and some friends have been experiencing, particularly with women. (Women tend to be more in tuned and intuitive, therefore picking up on a person’s “love aura” more easily.) In my recent experience, I’ve felt even random people being friendly, open, and generally attracted to me. And it’s a deep level of attraction, noticeably different than the purely physical “he’s hawwwt” type of attraction. It’s not because I look like Brad Pitt. It’s not because I’m cooler than a polar bear’s toenails. It’s simply because I’m cultivating the love aura, and people sense it (whether they’re consciously aware of it or not).

Embodying the love aura means developing what is called “heart consciousness.” (here’s where the dots start to connect)

Heart consciousness is opening up to, and using the facilities of the heart-brain. Yup, I said heart-brain. The heart is now being revealed as a sensory organ with its own nervous system, as well as a sophisticated center for processing information. (Check out the Institute of HeartMath for a wealth of information on this.) Heart consciousness is the gateway to the likes of intuition, unconditional love, extrasensory perception, and all kinds of higher awareness.

Fun facts about the ole ticker:

  • The heart is the very first organ to form in fetal development.
  • The heart sends more information to the brain than the brain does to the heart.
  • The heart’s electrical field is 60 times stronger than the brain’s.
  • The heart’s magnetic field is up to 5,000 times stronger than the brain’s, and can be detected several feet away from the body with sensitive magnetometers. (That’s that aura, baby!)
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The heart’s electromagnetic field (courtesy of the Institute of HeartMath)

The crazy thing is that since I began developing heart consciousness, I’ve been directly experiencing what is displayed in the diagram above. Experiencing the field created by my heart and its harmonized interactions with others. That’s why I call it the love aura.

While writing this, I came across this awesome article. And here’s an excerpt from it that’s oh so relevant:

Heart Field Interactions Between Individuals

Most people think of social communication solely in terms of overt signals expressed through language, voice qualities, gestures, facial expressions, and body movements. However, there is now evidence that a subtle yet influential electromagnetic or “energetic” communication system operates just below our conscious awareness. Energetic interactions likely contribute to the “magnetic” attractions or repulsions that occur between individuals, and also affect social exchanges and relationships. Moreover, it appears that the heart’s field plays an important role in communicating physiological, psychological, and social information between individuals.

Experiments conducted at the Institute of HeartMath have found remarkable evidence that the heart’s electromagnetic field can transmit information between people. We have been able to measure an exchange of heart energy between individuals up to 5 feet apart. We have also found that one person’s brain waves can actually synchronize to another person’s heart. Furthermore, when an individual is generating a coherent heart rhythm, synchronization between that person’s brain waves and another person’s heartbeat is more likely to occur. These findings have intriguing implications, suggesting that individuals in a psychophysiologically coherent state become more aware of the information encoded in the heart fields of those around them.

The results of these experiments have led us to infer that the nervous system acts as an “antenna,” which is tuned to and responds to the electromagnetic fields produced by the hearts of other individuals. We believe this capacity for exchange of energetic information is an innate ability that heightens awareness and mediates important aspects of true empathy and sensitivity to others Furthermore, we have observed that this energetic communication ability can be intentionally enhanced, producing a much deeper level of nonverbal communication, understanding, and connection between people. There is also intriguing evidence that heart field interactions can occur between people and animals.

In short, energetic communication via the heart field facilitates development of an expanded consciousness in relation to our social world.

The overwhelming majority of communication is non-verbal. It has a lot to do with the heart (as described above), the subconscious mind, and other phenomena foreign to physical perception. Intonations and body language, which are direct manifestations of your internal state, come into play as well. If your internal state is that of love, it will permeate all aspects of communication/interaction with others.

The love aura optimizes and harmonizes all forms of communication and interaction. So when people sense this harmonic field, they feel a “good vibe,” and are more likely to be friendly and at ease. But when you’re operating in fear, your heart’s field will be disharmonious, which people will feel as a “bad vibe,” and close-off or react negatively.

As you can imagine, the love aura ameliorates everything from friendly greetings to sexually-flavored interactions. People are naturally drawn to positive, love-based people. You don’t need egotistical facades like “game.” You don’t need pickup lines. Pickup lines are like relying on Google Translate to write a love letter, it just won’t come out right and will sound excruciatingly awkward. There’s no shortcut; you need to learn the language to make it work. (And the language in this case is love.) All you need is to have love for yourself and others (or BE love to yourself and others), and the rest falls into place.

The love aura is a multi-dimensional smile. An intrinsic bliss. A deep-seated, genuine confidence. An unconditional love for one’s self and others. The love aura allows you to be the master of your reality. It’s a positive, powerful, expansive vibe, and that’s what makes it so attractive.

When you operate in love, you let go of fear. Fear only exists in the absence of love (or ignorance to love). Fear is what dis-harmonizes us. Fear is what blocks us off to possibility. Fear is the self-imposed limitations. When fear is released, limitations are shattered and your entire being harmonizes as it should.

How to cultivate your love aura:

1. Show love. Be grateful. Show appreciation. Be positive. Smile. Spread love. BE love.

2. Let go of fear. This comes naturally the more you embrace the paradigm of love. Just be aware of fear when it arises (in any form), and let go.

3. Embark on the inner journey. Get to know yourself. Explore the unseen. Embrace the stillness when your mind is calm. Open yourself up to infinite possibility.

4. Smile, laugh a lot, and have fun.

There’s a certain depth in people’s eyes when they operate in love. That divine sparkle. You can see this in your own eyes if you look directly in a mirror and smile.

There’s a brilliant radiance that comes along with the love aura as well. Your skin, face, and persona become beaming beacons of pure love. It’s a beautiful thing.

And then, of course, there’s that irresistibly alluring aura. People just like being around you, and because of this it greatly benefits both friendly and potentially intimate interactions.

The love aura makes you more attractive on every level. It’s a gorgeous exemplification of a love-based, synchronized being.

Cultivate your love aura. Experience the magic of life.

Stay feelin’ good, feelin’ great.

-Stevie P!

Pay Attention To The Signs

We all get signs…

Subtle hints from the universe, pointing us towards certain directions in life.

It’s mysterious and unexplainable stuff, yet something we all experience. That’s what makes it so intriguing. A lot of times signs aren’t things we can necessarily prove, but phenomena which we all unequivocally experience.

All of us experience signs, but paying attention to them increases the quantity as well as the clarity of the messages conveyed. Becoming consciously aware of signs we experience allows us to more readily act on these seemingly cryptic cosmic clues.

When we tap into our intuition and follow the signs, life becomes magical and everything seems to just fall into place. Living becomes more exciting. More invigorating. More joyful… Like a game to be played.

Signs guide us on our life journey, just as street signs guide us to our destination while driving.

Signs come in any and every shape or form. That’s what can make them so elusive. It’s not like an alarm on your phone. Signs are far more unpredictable and subtle than that.

Here’s some common types of signs, from my experience.
*Note: Don’t limit it to these though, because they can literally come in any form.
Synchronicity
Significant dates
Constant repetition of certain words or phrases
Different people asking you about the same thing
Deja vus
Common themes in dreams
An unexplainable attraction to something
Any strange/anomalous occurrences

There’s gotta be more that I’m not thinking of right now. Just keep an eye out, like “aye aye captain.”

When we ignore signs, or go against them, is when problems arise. A lot of “problems” are merely signs that we’re going against what our heart is pointing to. Signs that we’re resisting the flow of life.

Know that there is no 100% definitive answer for any signs either. There’s no answer sheet. No cheat sheet. We have to use our intuition and form our own conclusions as to where they point.

“In hindsight signs be glarin’ back
Where’s the map to show you where you’re at?
I can hear the crowd yellin
I can smell the tire smoke
I can hear the starter pistol
Where’s the track?”
Jay Electronica

Here’s how to follow the signs:

1. Set the intent. Once intent is established, the puzzle pieces start coming together. Create a desire that you truly believe you will attain, and it will inevitably manifest. The most effective way of doing this is to write a list of desires and keep it somewhere you see every day. (I have a list of my desires set as the background of my phone.)

2. Be aware and open. Signs can pop up in any way imaginable. Be aware and open to all possibility. You might see signs pointing you to a new job, a new place, a skill to acquire…etc. So stay on the lookout, mate.

3. Be grateful. There’s something magical about gratitude. When you’re grateful for what you have, you seem to attract more. I’ve experienced this firsthand. When I’m grateful, I attract more positive things in my life. Gratitude creates abundance. Gratitude is an open door, allowing things to easily flow in and out of your life. (The beneficial flows in, while the detrimental flows out, of course.)

4. Get some time for yourself. You don’t necessarily even have to meditate. Just consistently get some time to yourself, free of distractions. Whatever clears your mind and leaves you in a deep stillness. Because this is where you really tap into the magic of intuition, inspiration, and higher awareness. A little productive solitude sets the scene for intuitive living.

5. Write things down. ***If you don’t do anything else, do this*** 
Writing things down allows you to log and objectively evaluate signs you receive. This also makes you more aware, increases the amount of signs that pop up, and allows you to more effectively interpret their meanings. Writing things down brings them to fruition.

6. Develop heart consciousness. Follow your intuition. Let your heart guide you; not the mind or ego. The mind (and the ego too) makes a beautiful servant, but a terrible master. Learn to use the mind as a tool, without being a slave to it. Access your intuitive abilities. Tap into your inherent higher awareness. Let your heart lead the way. And you’ll experience a profound knowing. There’s a deep knowing experienced when you’re guided by your heart. Not believing, but KNOWING. Take heed to THAT feeling.

Check out these resources on the fascinating topic of heart consciousness:
Heartmath.org
Developing Heart Consciousness

7. Remember to take action. Nothing comes to you if you just sit there waiting for opportunity to knock. You must do the knocking. There’s opportunity behind every door. Pay attention to the signs and get to knockin. Knowledge is useless without action.

Intuitively following the signs.

Although it works in mysterious ways (well from a mind-based perspective at least), the heart always leads us in the right direction. You may not even initially realize this, because the heart is always many steps ahead of the analytical brain. The heart sees the bigger picture.

“You don’t have to see the whole staircase, just take the first step.” – Martin Luther King, Jr.

The mind, however, can be deceptive. The mind can justify anything. It can make up excuses for anything. It can talk us in, or out, of any situation. Plus, there’s dozens of cognitive biases that greatly distort our perception of reality. This is why it’s so important to let the heart guide, while allowing the mind to follow. Just don’t forget to use it when you need to.

Follow your heart but take your brain

A note on ego. (A major roadblock when following the signs.)

The ego is a product of the mind, and it sustains itself through fear. The ego fears not being accepted, so it wants to look cool. The ego fears scarcity, so it is selfish. The ego fears getting hurt, so it protects itself. The ego fears the unknown, so instead of taking leaps of faith, it makes up excuses. Like anything else, the ego can have its uses (expressing individuality, facing life or death situations…etc). But it gets real ugly when ego runs the show. The heart is love. The ego is fear. The heart doesn’t give a fuck about anything (besides unconditional love). The ego gives too many fucks, and constantly seeks validation. Pay attention to the signs, follow your heart, and experience the magic of existence.

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A sign I got to help me pay attention to the signs

An example of following the signs.

The most obvious example of signs is regarding relationships. So here’s a scenario: A man meets an attractive woman.

Sign #1 He HAD to talk to her as soon as he saw her. There was no question in his mind. He strongly needed to establish some sort of connection. So strongly that it overwhelmed any excuses his monkey brain could muster.

Sign #2 They met on the summer solstice, which has tons of spiritual significance. And it’s also a time to plant seeds, in every sense of the word.

Sign #3 A lot of synchronicity between the two of them. A lot of small, but meaningful “coincidences.” Like texting each other at the exact same time.

Sign #4 He set the intent just a few days before their meeting. He wrote a list of his desires and one of them was “a beautiful woman as a girlfriend.”

Yup, those are some signs alright. Signs indicating that that woman was meant to be in his life for some reason. Signs for her being significant to his life experience in some way. But the fun part is figuring out exactly what the signs mean as you go. In what kind of way is this meeting significant? That can only be revealed through taking action and seeing what happens.

We all need to pay more attention to the signs we get. It builds awareness, hones intuition, and makes life a magical adventure.

Follow your heart, and dive into the human experience.

Stay feelin’ good, feelin’ great.

-Stevie P!

^Thanks to my brother Tommy P for reminding me of that song.