Release Limiting Beliefs With These 5 Simple Steps

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We learn our belief systems as very little children, and then we move through life creating experiences to match our beliefs. Look back in your own life and notice how often you have gone through the same experience.
~ Louise Hay

 
Limiting beliefs are like heavy bags, filled with useless stuff, that you carry with you wherever you go.

You may think that whatever you’re carrying in those bags is important, but the bags ultimately weigh you down and greatly restrict your mobility. There’s also the aspect of becoming accustomed to carrying the bags. Once you do it for a while, it becomes your default state. You don’t know any better, so you go around carrying your baggage without ever stopping to ask, “Wait, what am I doing?”

Limiting beliefs are insidious because you don’t really know that they exist until you’re able to objectively look at yourself. It’s like the old phrase, “The fish will be the last to discover water.” Until you’re able to observe your thoughts, emotions and actions, you’ll forever be confined within a bubble reality of limiting beliefs and disempowering false assumptions.

Many of the limiting beliefs we hold are learned from our parents. As children, we are subconscious sponges, constantly picking up beliefs, habits, behavioral patterns and general views of the world from our parents. This is how our model of reality is sculpted, for better or worse. (See: Face It, You’re Parents are Flawed).

The Power of Mindfulness

I cannot stress the importance of mindfulness enough.

In order to be able to view yourself objectively and even have the option to change, you must cultivate mindfulness.

Think of mindfulness as self-awareness from a higher perspective, or the ability to objectively observe your thoughts, emotions and actions.

Mindfulness is the basis of any change. It is the foundational phenomena that, once, cultivated, will put you in a position of power to change anything. Instead of unknowingly repeating limiting or negative patterns on auto-pilot, mindfulness gives you the choice in every moment to indulge those patterns or not (and choice is a superpower).

If you develop mindfulness, you will be in a position to intuitively discover and release anything that’s holding you back. With enough mastery, you won’t need any external information. If you can still the waters of your mind and just listen, you’ll be able to receive all of the answers you need. Remember that.

Mindfulness is cultivated through a regular meditation practice. It doesn’t have to be anything complicated or time consuming either. The notion that meditation has to be difficult is actually a limiting belief that many people have. You can start just by sitting with your eyes closed and observing your thoughts for 2 minutes every day. Just 2 minutes! Another ridiculously easy practice is the 21 Breath Salute. Once you feel like you’re able to consistently watch your thoughts and they appear less and less, you can extend the time or try out other forms of meditation. Don’t be intimidated by the idea of meditation; even the shortest and simplest daily practice will be greatly transformative over time.

A Simple 5 Step Process For Releasing Limiting Beliefs

1. Ask Questions and Embark on a Scavenger Hunt

Your limiting decisions are hiding out in the areas where you’re producing results that you don’t want.
~ Matthew B. James

 
Your limiting beliefs are the shadows lurking beneath the results you’re getting that you don’t want. So here’s the big question to identify limiting beliefs: What results are you getting that you don’t want? This can apply to any and every aspect of life.

If you’re having money problems, for example, chances are that you’re holding a limiting belief around money. So ask yourself these kinds of questions to get to the bottom of it:

  • What is my self-talk regarding money? (Maybe it’s something like “There’s never enough money.”) And in what situations does this negative self-talk come up?
  • How am I reacting to my financial situation? A feeling of helplessness? A victim mentality? Anger?
  • Hint: If you’re reacting to your situation in a disempowered way, that’s a telltale sign of a limiting belief.

    If you’re having problems finding a relationship, there’s probably a limiting belief standing in the way. Here are some ideas of questions to ask yourself regarding this:

  • Do I think all women are (insert negative adjective)? Do I think all men are (insert negative adjective)?
  • Do I think that women only interested in X? Do I think that men only interested in Y?
  • Am I waiting for perfection?
  • Do I not want to settle down yet?
  • Do I not feel worthy of a good relationship?
  • Use these types of questions for any facet of life that you wish to release limiting beliefs. You’ll be surprised at how much you can uncover just by asking the right questions.

    A major part of releasing limiting beliefs is treating it like an internal scavenger hunt. You have to be honest with yourself and willing to make a change. Adding elements of gamification and viewing the process as a scavenger hunt makes it more fun and less intimidating.

    Note: Choose one specific limiting belief at a time for the rest of the steps. Focusing on one belief at a time will help create a deep awareness regarding that belief and allow you to effectively and fully eliminate it.

    2. Write down the limiting belief.

    Writing something down leverages the power of externalization. There’s something magical and cathartic about getting something out of your head and into written form. If you write your limiting beliefs down, it will give you perspective, objectivity and insight that you never would have imagined if you had just kept everything in your head.

    3. Recognize that it is a belief, not necessarily truth.

    This is crucial to understand; just because you believe something doesn’t make it true. Viewing beliefs from this perspective is transformative in and of itself.

    Everything we hear is an opinion, not a fact. Everything we see is a perspective, not the truth.
    ~ Marcus Aurelius

     
    4. Change your thoughts until the belief changes (belief transmutation).

    The most effective way to get rid of limiting beliefs is to replace them with more empowering beliefs.

    A belief is simply a thought that you think over and over again. With mindfulness you can observe and change your thoughts. If you change a thought consistently, then you’ve changed a belief!

    Affirmations are immensely useful here. Let’s go back to the limiting belief regarding money, “There’s never enough money.” Every time you say “There’s never enough money,” “I don’t have the money,” or anything like that (to yourself or out loud), change it to something like one of the following affirmations:

  • I always have more than enough money to meet my needs, wants and desires.
  • I delight in the financial security that is a constant in my life.
  • I am open and receptive to all the wealth in the Universe.
  • I always attract whatever I need for a glorious future.
  • Money comes to me easily and effortlessly.
  • Wealth constantly flows into my life.
  • My actions create constant prosperity.
  • I am aligned with the energy of abundance.
  • Find an affirmation that intuitively feels right for you or create your own based upon the specific limiting belief you wish to replace.

    Consistency is key with this practice. Continuously substitute limiting self-talk for more empowering self-talk and soon enough your belief will be transmuted.

    5. Consciously change your actions based on the new belief.

    How would you act if you had this new belief? Act that way. It’s as simple as that. Act like the belief you want is your reality until it actually becomes your reality.

    Using the example of limiting beliefs around money again, changing your actions doesn’t necessarily mean spending extravagantly. It can be as simple as expressing gratitude (and not guilt) whenever you do spend money. It can also consist of staying open to and actively pursuing more income, instead of just complaining about your lack of money. Another strategy is to not let money be the biggest factor in determining everything you do. For example, if you’re really craving almond butter, splurge and get the expensive almond butter without worrying that it costs $5 more than you usually spend. If you don’t let money control your decisions (while using discretion, of course), then guess what? Money won’t control your decisions.

    Do you think you’re weak? Start acting like you’re strong, lift some weights and you’ll gain strength every week. Do you think you’re a bad writer? Write every day, and after a year, you’ll be a better writer than anyone you know. Do you think you’re bad at talking to men/women (whoever you’re attracted to)? Approach 100 people in the next month and you’ll be smoother than a frictionless surface after that. Do you see the trend here?

    Clarity comes through action. The car has to be in motion in order for the steering to work.

    You can’t sit around and do nothing, expecting your life to magically change. You have to meet the Universe half-way through your actions. Visualize the action and actualize the vision.

    Note: Do steps 4-5 simultaneously until the limiting belief has been transmuted into a more empowering belief. This may take a day or two for some, or as long as a month or more for deeply ingrained beliefs.

    Abundance

    The Paths Are Infinite

    There are also strategies that have the potential of helping you to spontaneously release limiting beliefs. This includes things like plant medicine (ayahuasca, iboga, psilocybin…etc.), energy work (reiki, acupuncture…etc), yoga (especially when holding certain positions for longer periods of time) and insights that emerge out of deep meditation.

    Though this article focuses on a specific process, remember that there are an infinite number of ways to reach any destination. Thinking that there is only one way to achieve something is a limiting belief in and of itself (wink, wink).

    Burst through the bubbles of limitation and embrace all possibility.

    Much love.

    – Stevie P

     

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    Simplicity: Your Key to Lasting Happiness

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    If you’ve been indoctrinated into modern society, you’re conditioned to believe that accumulation equates to happiness.

    You go through life accumulating – money, gadgets, relationships, cars, houses, degrees…etc. – thinking that these additions will make you happy (And how’s that working out for everyone?). But actually it’s removal that begets happiness. Once you clear all of the bullshit, there’s nothing left but peace, joy and positive emotions.

    Happiness comes from removal, not accumulation. Remove fear, remove doubt, remove expectation and you’ll find that you’re left with happiness. Joy is your natural, essential state. You’ve just piled so much on top that you’ve forgotten the bliss that lies beneath it all.

    Meditation is the perfect example of this. Meditation is a “non-doing” in which you slip into the silent space between thoughts. It’s a transcendence of the neurotic thought loops of the mind, bringing you to a state of no-thought. It’s the ultimate removal. And guess what? Everyone feels positive emotions when they meditate (peace, bliss, joy, happiness, serenity…etc).

    “One does not accumulate but eliminate. It is not daily increase but daily decrease. The height of cultivation always runs to simplicity.”
    – Bruce Lee

    And living a life of simplicity doesn’t mean being a simple-minded simpleton. It’s really about being intelligent enough to let go of what doesn’t truly serve your best interest.

    “I do believe in simplicity. It is astonishing as well as sad, how many trivial affairs even the wisest thinks he must attend to in a day; how singular an affair he thinks he must omit. When the mathematician would solve a difficult problem, he first frees the equation of all incumbrances, and reduces it to its simplest terms. So simplify the problem of life, distinguish the necessary and the real. Probe the earth to see where your main roots run. ”
    ― Henry David Thoreau

    Simplicity & Lying
    In the phenomenal book “The Four Agreements” by Don Miguel Ruiz, the first agreement is “Be impeccable with your word.” Speak with integrity, say only what you mean, avoid using the Word to speak against yourself or gossip about others and use the power of the Word in the direction of truth and love.

    Being straightforward and truthful with your word harmonizes your emotions, thoughts, words and actions. That’s why it feels good. Because everything is in alignment.

    Morality aside, lying just makes things too complicated and tedious. For me, having to build and maintain a complex web of lies is much more difficult and emotionally taxing than being brutally honest (even when it’s not politically correct).

    Think about the relationships you have where you’re the most honest. Though your ego may take a few slaps to the face, those relationships are far more fulfilling than those which you wear a mask. Life is far simpler, genuine and enjoyable when honesty prevails.

    “Truth is ever to be found in the simplicity, and not in the multiplicity and confusion of things.”
    ― Isaac Newton

    Simplicity & “Stuff”
    The accumulation of “stuff” is a huge problem plaguing so many people. Buying things to make you happy is a quick fix that quickly fades. And soon enough, you’ll need another hit of it. Buying things can really be like a drug addiction.

    This also leads to the accumulation of stuff, which can bog you down and hinder your freedom on multiple levels. With less stuff, there’s less to clean, less to upkeep and less to distract you from your natural state of happiness.

    One of the first posts I’ve ever written here is on this topic: Possessions vs Experiences: Straight From the Horse’s Mouth

    Simplicity & Desires
    The vast majority of the desires you have are the result of societal programming. If you strip all of the conditioning away, all we really desire are simple things like love, happiness and personal growth. When you simplify your desires, you remove the self-created walls between yourself and happiness.

    “Wealth consists not in having great possessions, but in having few wants.”
    – Epictetus

    Simplicity & Busyness
    Work smarter, not harder. Focus only on what you really need (or want) to get done, instead of dozens of asinine tasks. This will allow you to prioritize and accomplish the most important tasks while being less stressed throughout the process.

    “Slow down and remember this: Most things make no difference. Being busy is a form of laziness—lazy thinking and indiscriminate action.”
    – Tim Ferriss

    Efficiency is doing things right; effectiveness is doing the right things.”
    – Peter Drucker

    Read my post on busyness here: 15 Ways to Cure the “Busy Syndrome”

    Simplicity & Your Body
    Create lasting health and happiness by simplifying diet and exercise. You’ll enjoy it more and it’ll become a natural part of your lifestyle.

    With diet, it might look something like this: Just eat real food (JERF), eat when you’re hungry and have fun splurging every once in a while.

    Regarding exercise, I’ve personally made the most progress using simple, basic routines. Just consistently improving at the most fundamental exercises has worked wonders for me.

    Simplicity & Your Mind
    Think of the mind like a computer. If you have too many programs running at once, the computer will slow down or even crash.

    Focus only on what’s really important, and focus on one thing at a time.

    Having a regular meditation practice will greatly help you in clearing all of the unnecessary programs running in your mind.

    Simplicity & Presence
    Simplicity brings you more into the here and now (all that really exists). The simpler life is, the more conducive it is to cultivating a state of present moment awareness.

    “All negativity is caused by an accumulation of psychological time and denial of the present. Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry – all forms of fear – are caused by too much future, and
    not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms
    of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence.”

    – Eckhart Tolle (The Power of Now)

    Read more: There Are No Problems in the Present Moment

    Simplicity & Minimalism
    Minimalism is a form of simplicity. Once you clear all of your baggage (physical, mental, emotional…etc.), you have less burdens, less weighing you down and less obstructions to your happiness.

    “Simplicity involves unburdening your life, and living more lightly with fewer distractions that interfere with a high quality life, as defined uniquely by each individual.”
    – Linda Breen Pierce

    Read more: The Joy of Minimalism: Traveling the World with Only Carry-On Luggage

    Simplicity & Quality Over Quantity
    Quality over quantity is a common phrase, but how many people really put it into practice? It applies to everything, especially relationships. If you build a few good quality relationships, instead of just trying to please everyone, it’s far more fulfilling and rewarding.

    Simplicity & Money
    Prioritize your happiness, instead of making decisions solely based on money. Budgeting and worrying about every penny you spend is a miserable existence. Feel abundant, and abundance will permeate your life. If you have an abundance mentality, you will, by the laws of the universe, attract more abundance.

    Here’s a personal example: I was just in Goa, India and the town I was in (Arambol) only had one working ATM. It was a long walk away, always had a long line and had a limit to how many rupees you could withdraw. Basically, going to the ATM was about as fun as being the wicked witch of the west and caught in a tsunami. So what I did was I would go to money exchange places, which were closer and much, much easier. They charged a 3% exchange fee, but the convenience was so worth it.

    Another aspect of this is simplifying the bills you pay. Evaluate what you’re paying on a monthly basis and figure out what you really need (or want). Get rid of the unnecessary. Also, automate your bill payments, so you don’t have to worry about remembering to pay them (less programs running on the mind-computer).

    Simplicity & Distilling Information
    The skill of distilling information is being able to simplify and concisely assimilate information. This allows for more clarity on whatever you’re learning about, prevents you from succumbing to information overload and puts you in a position to effectively implement the information.

    If you can’t simply explain a subject to a young child, you don’t truly understand it.

    You can build this skill of distilling information by succinctly summarizing things on a regular basis. This could be through writing, verbal explanations or even giving presentations on certain topics.

    “Life is really simple, but we insist on making it complicated.”
    – Confucius

    Find bliss in simplicity.

    Much love.

    – Stevie P!

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    Your Beliefs About Money Are Holding You Back

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    Money…

    Cash, cheese, cheddar, moolah, bread, bills, bones, cabbage, c-notes, dough, dead presidents, ducats, loot, stacks, skrilla…

    Whatever you want to call it, it enormously influences every aspect of our lives. Money is the primary driving force behind so many of our decisions in life. Like Wu-Tang said, “Cash Rules Everything Around Me.” But it doesn’t have to be that way. You can rule over money, as opposed to letting money rule over you.

    Then there’s the paradoxical scenario of how we’re so familiar with money, yet spend very little time or effort questioning what it really is. This puts us at risk of being a slave to money, and manipulated by it, when we should be using it as a tool.

    Money is a promise based upon perception. What is that piece of paper really worth? Next to nothing, of course. It’s just a piece of paper. Money is no longer backed by anything. The bills in your pocket are merely tokens representing a collectively agreed upon, perceived value.

    Money is essentially a form of energy (like everything). Think about the word ‘currency’… Like a current, it should flow. It is energy that gets passed from person to person, entity to entity; representative of exchange of value. It behaves like any other system of energy as well, so we must treat it as energy. Let it flow through you, without blocking it off or clinging onto it. Abundance comes when you’re open to the energy.

    “Money is a symbol of that life force, of its appreciation. Money can be a solidified form of love. Through the transfer of money, we facilitate love and communication with other humans. It offers us a simple system of providing for and loving and nurturing ourselves, and it is one way of expressing generosity and kindness for the less fortunate.” -Stuart Wilde

    That’s in an ideal world, but let’s be honest here; the current monetary system we’ve been relegated to is obviously a heavily manipulated illusion to suit the interests of a select few. It’s become painfully obvious that it’s a rigged game. There’s enough food and shelter on earth, yet people are homeless and hungry due to economic conditions. We work longer hours, yet have the capacity to buy less and less. Money is always cut for anything that actually helps people, yet there’s always an endless supply of money available for war.

    For a comprehensive background of the monetary system, I highly recommend the following documentary, entitled ‘The Money Masters’…

    But until a new system develops, let’s learn how to view and use money in a way that will benefit your state of well-being as well as those around you.

    3 Ways to Change Your Money Mindset and Live in Abundance

    1. Stop thinking money is “real.”

    Money is just a token representing the perception of value. It’s merely a symbol. It’s a form of energy.

    It’s a means of exchange to obtain things with inherent (“real”) value, but it has no real value itself.

    In the US, money is essentially an exchange of IOU’s (yay, imaginary debt) between the Federal Reserve and the US Treasury, with the banks as the middle man. It is debt to begin with. And that debt gets exponentially multiplied through fractional reserve banking.

    It’s very important to know where money comes from. If you want to know exactly how money is created, this video sums it up very nicely:

    And here’s an excerpt from “The Perception Deception” by David Icke. Nothing you don’t already know, but it really puts things in perspective…

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    Stop thinking money is “real.” This shift creates awareness and opens you up to the next two points…

    2. View money as a means to an end, not the end goal.

    Why do you want money? What are you going to do with that money?

    If you want money just for the sake of having money, or for keeping score, then what’s the point? With that mentality, you’ll never be happy.

    When you view money as a means to an end, and not the end goal, you change the whole dynamic. If you have money as your end goal, you put it on a pedestal and it becomes your master.

    If you view money as a means to an end, it works for you (instead of the other way around), and you’ll lead a more fulfilling life. This would be, for example, having the goal of taking a 2 week trip around Italy. Money becomes a means to finance this trip. Because of that, you’re far more likely to obtain it, and the trip would add to your life experience (experiences > stuff).

    “People don’t want to be millionaires — they want to experience what they believe only millions can buy.” -Tim Ferriss

    View money as a means to an end, and let it work for you.

    3. Don’t worry about money and have an abundance mentality (let it flow).

    “Worry, like a rocking chair will give you something to do, but it won’t get you anywhere.” – Vance Havner

    The goal with money should be to not worry about money. When you worry about money, you create a “limitation aura” for yourself, and block the universal flow of abundance. Since money is essentially energy, you get what you put out. Too many people are stuck in the poverty mind set. Think limitation, and that’s your reality. This is a major factor in how wealthy or poor families tend to continue their economic status from generation to generation. It’s the mind set, abundance or limitation, that determines our financial status (as well as our ‘reality’ as a whole).

    Have an abundance mentality… And, whoomp! There’s your reality.

    Everything is energy and that’s all there is to it. Match the frequency of the reality you want and you cannot help but get that reality. It can be no other way. This is not philosophy. This is physics.”

     

    An attitude of gratitude creates abundance.

    That’s the secret. Be grateful for what you have, trust that your needs will always be met, and you will find yourself bathing in the river of perpetual abundance. It’s almost magical how it works.

    Money is also a major source of emotional turmoil for so many people. This creates an underlying environment of fear in your subconscious that drives your behavior and robs you of your inherent freedom and happiness.

    Stop taking money, and life, so seriously. It almost seems counterintuitive, but once you “let go” (without being naïve/stupid of course), everything seems to just fall into place. Opportunities will present themselves and doors will open. You just need to walk through.

    Don’t worry about money. Worrying is utterly useless. Get your priorities straight, take care of what you need to and let go. If you need/want more, simply take action towards your goals (instead of worrying). When there’s a will there’s a way. There are no limits to human creativity, and this is becoming excitingly evident in the information age.

    Be generous when your heart guides you to do so. Let currency flow, for there is always more heading your way.

    Here’s some of the best advice I’ve ever come across regarding money…

    Remember, the goal is to not worry about money. It’s just energy. And a means to an end. It’s a means to acquire things of “real” value (food, homes, land, Pokemon cards…etc).

    To sum it all up, have an abundance mentality (without being naïve or stupid), take action based on your own intuition and live without worrying about money. That’s how to live the beautifully bountiful life you were meant to live.

    Attract wealth in all forms.

    Much love.

    -Stevie P!