The Openhanded Life

Openhandedness

“Hold on is what they say
But I say open up your hands and let it fly away
Until the day it comes back and it was meant to be
Take a look at the lovely gift the world has sent to me
Don’t suffer you got to maintain
The rougher the storm gets the more they complain
They don’t aim
They shoot sporadically
Panicky and so dramatically
He ran frantically
Summarized by the look in his eyes
He couldn’t hold on after one too many tries”

– Aceyalone

Do you feel the need to clutch onto everything you desire?

Most of us do. We’ve been conditioned that we must grab what we want and hold onto it for dear life. This applies to everything, from our identity, to our goals, to our relationships, to money, and everything in between.

What if I told you that life is more about letting go than holding on? Well, that is if you want to be happy, fulfilled, present and at peace. If you want to cause yourself more suffering, feel free to stop reading now.

Enter: Openhandedness

Openhandedness is characterized by releasing that fearful, egoic clinging to everything, letting go, generously giving and cultivating the ability to receive.

An open hand can both give and receive, while a closed fist can do neither. If we look at the two basic motivating forces, fear and love, openhandedness is based in love while a closed fist is based in fear. Fear is constricting, an inhibitor to growth and a creator of unnecessary barriers. Love is opening. Love is growth. Love is freedom.

Openhandedness doesn’t necessarily mean walking around with your hands out 24/7 like you’re a Jesus figurine or something. It’s a metaphor for your general mindset. If you’re always so constricted and closed-off, you’ll never have the opportunity to give or receive. A closed fist is also used to cling onto things. And so many of us desperately cling to every part of our lives, for fear of losing whatever it is we’re clinging to. This is absolutely exhausting and completely driven by fear and scarcity.

“Let go or be dragged.” – Zen Proverb

What happens when you cling to a person too much? They feel suffocated and push you away. What happens when you cling to your money? You drive yourself crazy worrying about it, poison your relationships and cut yourself off to making more. What happens when you cling to your identity? You end up pigeonholing yourself and block any spontaneity or change from coming into your life.

This is the mode that most people live in, especially in modern western society. I was completely controlled by this mentality myself until fairly recently. It’s a byproduct of being possessed by the ego, living in fear and not trusting the process of life. That’s a miserable way to go through life.

Yet a magical shift happens once you allow yourself to let go and trust the process of life. That which is meant to come comes and that which is meant to go goes. When you live an openhanded life, you give generously, receive often and joyfully flow with the unfoldment of each moment as it arises. Good things come and go, their beautiful fleetingness thoroughly enjoyed. Challenges are adeptly addressed then let go of. Situations come and go. People come and go. Those who remain in your life remain because they truly want to, not because you fearfully cling onto them. The openhanded life is beautiful, free flowing and rooted in unconditional love.

Lupe Fiasco has a brilliant reference to openhandedness in his song They. Resurrect. Over. New, saying “It’s a new year, every time I open my hands.” When you live an openhanded life, you’re rebirthing yourself in every moment. You’re effortlessly allowing life to spontaneously unfold and dynamically change.

Note: Openhandedness is not synonymous with inaction. When you’re openhanded, you align your actions with the flow of life. You harmonize all aspects of your being instead of letting your ego try to control every situation.

The Main Characteristics of Openhanded Life

Generosity – Giving with an open hand. Giving freely and without expectation. Loving openly and wholeheartedly.

In giving more you receive more. How do you receive more love? By giving more love! Now you might be saying, “This doesn’t work for something like money. You can’t get more money by giving more money.” Well, here’s the thing; if you give more in every aspect of life, you will cultivate a life where you do have more money (and more abundance in general). If you give generously, provide value and help people, you will inevitably find yourself in opportunities that make you more money (professional connections, entrepreneurial opportunities, job promotions, a better job…etc.). So while it may not be an exact 1:1 ratio (ex/ giving $50 and getting $50 the next day), be open to your giving and receiving coming in many forms.

Being Open to Receive – Knowing that you’re worthy of receiving (we all are). Being open to things, situations and people coming into your life when you least expect it. Receiving with gratitude.

Letting Go – Releasing your fearful vice grip to everything. Practicing the power of surrender. Allowing things to unfold as they may. Living motivated by love and without attachment. Remember, attachment is based in fear.

Abundance Mentality – Having an abundance mentality as opposed to a scarcity mentality. The belief that you will always get what you need and you will always be provided for. The belief that there is enough for everyone. The belief that love is an infinite resource.

Faith – Faith in the process of life. Faith in the universe. Faith in your intuition. Being able to trust that things will come into your life when needed.

“It’s a belief: Life is always happening for us, not to us. It’s our job to find out where the benefit is. If we do, life is magnificent.”
– Tony Robbins

Harmony – Harmony is being in alignment. There is no discrepancy between your desires, your intuition and the flow of life. All aspects of your being synergistically work together. When living in closed-fisted fear, the ego attempts to control every situation, which as many people find out, often does more harm than good.

When you intuitively live and act in harmony with the flow of life, life takes on a level of beauty and serendipity that you never could’ve imagined from the limited viewpoint of egoic fear. This sounds like overly poeticized rhetoric but I know it to be true, both from personal experience and the stories of many, many other people.

Spontaneity – Flowing with life, dynamically adapting to any situation. Sailing with the winds of change. Not clutching onto what was or how things could be. Living fully in the present moment and truly enjoying life.

Now that you’ve read about openhandedness, it’s time to apply.

Live that #openhandedlife

Much love.

– Stevie P!
 

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Your Beliefs About Money Are Holding You Back

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Money…

Cash, cheese, cheddar, moolah, bread, bills, bones, cabbage, c-notes, dough, dead presidents, ducats, loot, stacks, skrilla…

Whatever you want to call it, it enormously influences every aspect of our lives. Money is the primary driving force behind so many of our decisions in life. Like Wu-Tang said, “Cash Rules Everything Around Me.” But it doesn’t have to be that way. You can rule over money, as opposed to letting money rule over you.

Then there’s the paradoxical scenario of how we’re so familiar with money, yet spend very little time or effort questioning what it really is. This puts us at risk of being a slave to money, and manipulated by it, when we should be using it as a tool.

Money is a promise based upon perception. What is that piece of paper really worth? Next to nothing, of course. It’s just a piece of paper. Money is no longer backed by anything. The bills in your pocket are merely tokens representing a collectively agreed upon, perceived value.

Money is essentially a form of energy (like everything). Think about the word ‘currency’… Like a current, it should flow. It is energy that gets passed from person to person, entity to entity; representative of exchange of value. It behaves like any other system of energy as well, so we must treat it as energy. Let it flow through you, without blocking it off or clinging onto it. Abundance comes when you’re open to the energy.

“Money is a symbol of that life force, of its appreciation. Money can be a solidified form of love. Through the transfer of money, we facilitate love and communication with other humans. It offers us a simple system of providing for and loving and nurturing ourselves, and it is one way of expressing generosity and kindness for the less fortunate.” -Stuart Wilde

That’s in an ideal world, but let’s be honest here; the current monetary system we’ve been relegated to is obviously a heavily manipulated illusion to suit the interests of a select few. It’s become painfully obvious that it’s a rigged game. There’s enough food and shelter on earth, yet people are homeless and hungry due to economic conditions. We work longer hours, yet have the capacity to buy less and less. Money is always cut for anything that actually helps people, yet there’s always an endless supply of money available for war.

For a comprehensive background of the monetary system, I highly recommend the following documentary, entitled ‘The Money Masters’…

But until a new system develops, let’s learn how to view and use money in a way that will benefit your state of well-being as well as those around you.

3 Ways to Change Your Money Mindset and Live in Abundance

1. Stop thinking money is “real.”

Money is just a token representing the perception of value. It’s merely a symbol. It’s a form of energy.

It’s a means of exchange to obtain things with inherent (“real”) value, but it has no real value itself.

In the US, money is essentially an exchange of IOU’s (yay, imaginary debt) between the Federal Reserve and the US Treasury, with the banks as the middle man. It is debt to begin with. And that debt gets exponentially multiplied through fractional reserve banking.

It’s very important to know where money comes from. If you want to know exactly how money is created, this video sums it up very nicely:

And here’s an excerpt from “The Perception Deception” by David Icke. Nothing you don’t already know, but it really puts things in perspective…

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Stop thinking money is “real.” This shift creates awareness and opens you up to the next two points…

2. View money as a means to an end, not the end goal.

Why do you want money? What are you going to do with that money?

If you want money just for the sake of having money, or for keeping score, then what’s the point? With that mentality, you’ll never be happy.

When you view money as a means to an end, and not the end goal, you change the whole dynamic. If you have money as your end goal, you put it on a pedestal and it becomes your master.

If you view money as a means to an end, it works for you (instead of the other way around), and you’ll lead a more fulfilling life. This would be, for example, having the goal of taking a 2 week trip around Italy. Money becomes a means to finance this trip. Because of that, you’re far more likely to obtain it, and the trip would add to your life experience (experiences > stuff).

“People don’t want to be millionaires — they want to experience what they believe only millions can buy.” -Tim Ferriss

View money as a means to an end, and let it work for you.

3. Don’t worry about money and have an abundance mentality (let it flow).

“Worry, like a rocking chair will give you something to do, but it won’t get you anywhere.” – Vance Havner

The goal with money should be to not worry about money. When you worry about money, you create a “limitation aura” for yourself, and block the universal flow of abundance. Since money is essentially energy, you get what you put out. Too many people are stuck in the poverty mind set. Think limitation, and that’s your reality. This is a major factor in how wealthy or poor families tend to continue their economic status from generation to generation. It’s the mind set, abundance or limitation, that determines our financial status (as well as our ‘reality’ as a whole).

Have an abundance mentality… And, whoomp! There’s your reality.

Everything is energy and that’s all there is to it. Match the frequency of the reality you want and you cannot help but get that reality. It can be no other way. This is not philosophy. This is physics.”

 

An attitude of gratitude creates abundance.

That’s the secret. Be grateful for what you have, trust that your needs will always be met, and you will find yourself bathing in the river of perpetual abundance. It’s almost magical how it works.

Money is also a major source of emotional turmoil for so many people. This creates an underlying environment of fear in your subconscious that drives your behavior and robs you of your inherent freedom and happiness.

Stop taking money, and life, so seriously. It almost seems counterintuitive, but once you “let go” (without being naïve/stupid of course), everything seems to just fall into place. Opportunities will present themselves and doors will open. You just need to walk through.

Don’t worry about money. Worrying is utterly useless. Get your priorities straight, take care of what you need to and let go. If you need/want more, simply take action towards your goals (instead of worrying). When there’s a will there’s a way. There are no limits to human creativity, and this is becoming excitingly evident in the information age.

Be generous when your heart guides you to do so. Let currency flow, for there is always more heading your way.

Here’s some of the best advice I’ve ever come across regarding money…

Remember, the goal is to not worry about money. It’s just energy. And a means to an end. It’s a means to acquire things of “real” value (food, homes, land, Pokemon cards…etc).

To sum it all up, have an abundance mentality (without being naïve or stupid), take action based on your own intuition and live without worrying about money. That’s how to live the beautifully bountiful life you were meant to live.

Attract wealth in all forms.

Much love.

-Stevie P!