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Momentum: The Most Underrated Phenomenon in Life

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What direction are you building momentum in?

For better or worse, we’re beings of momentum. We’re all accumulating momentum in certain directions.

Are you deepening the groove of monotony? Working at a job you don’t love, coming home to watch tv and going to the same bars on the weekends to forget it all? That’s momentum.

Are you building momentum towards a purpose or a goal? That’s momentum too.

Our daily habits, whatever they may be, create momentum.

It’s a gift and a curse. Momentum is why it’s so hard to break out of comfort zones and overcome addictions. Yet momentum is also why people become massively successful and growth-oriented in all aspects of life.

Think about how hard it is for the person who comes home and watches tv every night to come home and NOT watch tv. Think about how hard it is for the workout junkie to take a week off from working out. Think about how easy it is for an avid hiker to hike a small hill. That’s all momentum!

For me right now, it’s harder NOT to write than it is to write. It’s true. I’m at the point where I can write 3,000 word blog posts in a few hours and books within a few weeks. I’ve built tremendous momentum with writing and synthesizing ideas. And I’m able to do this by leveraging a simple formula for mastering momentum…

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Mastering Momentum = Conscious Habits + Persistence

Conscious Habits

Be aware of your habits. Consciously choose to implement habits that build momentum in the direction you want to head in.

Most people fall into “negative” habits by default because they have no sense of purpose. If you have no sense of purpose, there are more than enough distractions to divert you (tv, social media, gossip…etc.).

Get clear on your purpose and what you truly want in life. Meditate on it. Build momentum towards that. With a sense of purpose, you become the conscious creator of what you want out of life.

“Our plans miscarry because they have no aim. When a man does not know what harbor he is making for, no wind is the right wind.”
– Seneca

Persistence

After consciously creating habits or rituals, you must apply persistence. This means doing it on a daily basis and sticking to it, day in and day out.

Persistence is what separates successful people from the masses who dwell in mediocrity. A writer writes every day to complete a novel. An entrepreneur works hard for years to bring their idea to fruition. Without persistence, the writer would give up after one writing session and the entrepreneur would give up as soon as they encounter resistance.

Resistance is the force that forces growth. By working through resistance you build massive momentum in the direction you want.

Focus on systems over goals. Yes, write down goals, but instead of fixating on them, focus on implementing the daily routines that will get you there. Momentum comes from daily habits. Become process-oriented because that’s where your character is built.

Momentum is the byproduct of what you do day in and day out. You can create momentum in the direction you choose by consciously implementing habits and applying persistence.

We’re beings of momentum. Momentum can either accelerate your progress or keep you trapped in unwanted patterns.

What direction are you building momentum in?

If you don’t like your direction, you have the option to change starting right now. Wake up to your superpower of conscious choice. You can change direction and build momentum towards whatever your heart desires.

Much love.

– Stevie P!

 

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Face It, Your Parents Are Flawed

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Your parents are not superheroes. They never were.

They’re imperfect, flawed humans just like everyone else.

They have strengths, weaknesses, talents, hang-ups, blind spots and biases. Your parents are not immune to the numerous manifestations of the human plight. They slip up, they make mistakes and they’re not always right (even though they might have told you otherwise).

If you’re now an adult yourself, coming to the realization that your parents are flawed human beings is necessary for both your own personal growth and the creation of a deeper, more harmonious relationship with them.

The Silver Lining of Seeing Parents’ Flaws

Recognizing that your parents are imperfect and flawed provides you with two beautiful opportunities…

Realizing That Your Parents Are Flawed Humans Creates Space for a New Kind of Relationship

By recognizing the fact that your parents are imperfect, it allows your relationship with them to be deeper and more genuine. Why? Because it allows for vulnerability. Any relationship naturally deepens when vulnerability is shared. Seeing your parents as flawed creates this space for both parties to share their vulnerabilities with each other.

Through vulnerability, more inner truth is expressed and you’re able to more clearly see the essence of the other person. From this place, you can share your deepest fears, highest hopes and dreams, genuine desires and innermost feelings.

Seeing your parents as flawed humans allows for the relationship to be a two-way street. They’re no longer “above you” and there is no command and obey dynamic. This relationship between peers allows you to give to them as well, because they need love and compassion as much as anyone else.

There’s one catch though; both parties have to be willing to be open and vulnerable in order for the deepening of a relationship to take place. So you must first do the inner work. You must be ready, willing and able. And if your parents are ready as well, awesome. If not, remember the old idiom, you can lead a horse to water, but you can’t make it drink. You can provide the space, but the other person has to step into that space themselves.

Realizing that Your Parents Are Flawed Humans Puts You in a Position to Heal

As children, our parents obviously have an instrumental impact on us, for better or worse. Parents essentially set children off with momentum in a certain direction, and it’s difficult to change that momentum once you’re set in motion.

We subconsciously soak up everything we’re exposed to from the time we’re born until the age of six or seven. During this time period, we absorb everything our parents say and do to us like sponges. We also take on their belief systems and models of reality. This sponge-like phenomenon continues throughout the rest of childhood (or even further), but to a lesser extent.

Due to the state of hyper-absorption we’re in as children, we’re bound to pick up some trauma, limiting beliefs and negative habits. It’s inevitable in the world we live in.

If you want to grow into the greatest version of yourself, you must let go of the things that are holding you down. This means releasing trauma and limiting beliefs.

The perspective that comes with objectively seeing your parents as they are puts you in a highly favorable position regarding trauma, limiting beliefs and inherited pain. If you’re able to see your parents as flawed human beings, you’ll realize that they did the best they could (even if their best was extremely limited). You’ll also realize that their words (and actions) aren’t necessarily in alignment with ultimate truth. So if you picked up a negative belief based upon what your parents said to you, recognize that just because they said it doesn’t make it true. It’s merely their opinion (which may very well be skewed and limited). Seeing things in this way gives you a bigger picture perspective, and with this perspective, it’s easier to forgive, let go and not take on any more negativity.

Another perspective that helps is seeing your parents as hurt little children, particularly when they’re possessed by their ego or pain body*. Again, they did the best they could with what they were working with. If you view them as demigods, their actions become final judgments and set-in-stone truths. So if they say that you’re stupid, for example, then you will truly believe that you must be stupid. But seeing them as hurt little children allows you to put their words and actions into proper perspective. Remember, only hurt people hurt people. From here you can meet their negative actions with compassion, instead of resentment or repression.

This higher perspective will help you realize that you can choose not to carry around their pain and limiting beliefs any longer. It’s their pain, not yours. You only have it because you unknowingly inherited it. Let go. There is no need to carry such unnecessary burdens.

*Pain body is a term coined by Eckhart Tolle, which he describes as “The accumulation of old emotional pain that almost all people carry in their energy field. I see it as a semi-autonomous psychic entity. It consists of negative emotions that were not faced, accepted, and then let go in the moment they arose.”

A Quick Note On Release

There are many ways of releasing traumas and limiting beliefs, just as there are many ways of picking them up. However, this is beyond the scope of this article, as the topic of release is a rabbit hole in and of itself.

Remember this though; self-awareness/mindfulness is always the first step. You must first be aware of something in order to change it. This is why engaging in a daily meditation practice is probably the most important thing you can do.

Sometimes awareness is itself the release or solution, sometimes you might intuitively release in your own way and other times you need to use specific techniques or seek the help of an expert in order to release trauma or limiting beliefs.

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Recognize, realize and understand that your parents are flawed humans, just like everyone else. Find the beauty and opportunity in their inherent imperfections. It made you unique, it made you who you are, it made you infinitely stronger than you would have been if you lived in a perfect little bubble.

Even though this article focuses on the transmutation of flaws, don’t forget that your parents have admirable qualities as well. Be grateful for what you do have. Be grateful for how they helped you. And, if you’re fortunate enough to still have them with you, express this gratitude with them.

Meet everyone with compassion. We’re all here to help each other out.

Much love.

– Stevie P!

 

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An Open Letter to the Spiritualist

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Yes
You are a spiritual being
Having a human experience

But don’t ignore the fact
That you are in a body
A wonderful one at that

Are you going to take it for granted?
Are you going to overlook the vessel you inhabit?
Are you going to neglect the flesh?

Make the most of it
While it lasts
Embrace the experience
Savor the voyage

Make an impact
Spread love
Embody consciousness

Be totally aware
Immersed in the world
Yet not of it
Wholeheartedly engage
In the wonders of corporeality
The sights
The sounds
The smells
The tastes
The touch
The pleasures and pains
The smirk-inducing, physical bliss

The Universe
Is experiencing itself
Through you
For the opportunity
To taste coffee
To flex a bicep
To have amazing sex
To do whatever it is
You’re doing right now

Cherish this video game
Become lucid in the dream
Before it’s over

For life is euphorically fleeting
Paradoxically serendipitous
And meant to be

 

Live It

 

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It’s all about experiences
The people
The places
The “good” times
And the “bad”

The human experience
Is to be wholeheartedly embraced
Thoroughly enjoyed

Be fully aware
Feel the wonder of existence
From traveling to new lands
To the simple pleasure of air entering your lungs
It’s all magical

We are the Universe
Experiencing itself
From a perfectly unique perspective
Treasure the vantage point
That blink in the eye of eternity

Cherish the moment

Life…

Live it

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Dive Into The Human Experience

“The person who has lived the most is not the one with the most years but the one with the richest experiences.” 

                 -Jean-Jacques Rousseau

Life is defined by experiences.

Moments that ripple through time, enriching the ever-present now of our existence.

That’s why, in my opinion, experiences are infinitely more valuable than any material good (besides the necessities for survival of course).

And speaking of experiences, I went on vacation last week! Woo wooo! It was a six day cruise in the Caribbean on the awesome Carnival Breeze, and I’m basking in gratitude for the experience.

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Sailin’

Vacations like this epitomize what I call “the 3D human experience.” Food. Drinks. Partying. Flirting. Dancing. Singing. Socializing. Spectacular scenery. Sunsets over the sea. All things that exemplify our experience on this plane (or boat 😉 ) of existence.

We, as human beings, are much more than meets the eye though. Like the old saying goes… We’re not human beings having a spiritual experience, we’re spiritual beings having a human experience.

However, I’ve noticed that as many of us go through a “spiritual awakening”, we often find it difficult to stay grounded and fully immerse ourselves in this material world we’re inhabiting. I like to call this “floating on the ceiling.” And the thing is that if you’re too identified with being a “spiritual being”, you’ll miss out on the wonderful 3D experience at your fingertips.

My man Osho said something along the lines of “A spiritual man is just as comfortable in a bustling village as he is meditating on a mountain by himself.” I couldn’t agree more. (Note: Osho is referenced multiple times in this article, and for good reason. He delivers this message perfectly, with a healthy sense of humor.)

The whole point of this human experience is to dive in. Fully embrace it. Live, learn, laugh, have fun, connect with others and experience as much as possible.

“Experience life in all possible ways — good-bad, bitter-sweet, dark-light, summer-winter. Experience all the dualities. Don’t be afraid of experience, because the more experience you have, the more mature you become.” -Osho

That’s what I realized that I was embodying on the cruise.

I usually eat healthy, but I indulged. I ate what I wanted, and made damn sure that I enjoyed every morsel. (Of course, health is of utmost importance, but occasionally you gotta say fuck it for a short period of time.)

I don’t usually drink alcohol too often, but I drank every night. I drank more than I should have a couple nights too. But hey, it’s all a learning experience and part of the journey of our being.

These kind of things become a problem when they’re done consistently. You become what your consistent behavior is. It would only be problematic if I had continued on that path. Just like how an obese person is not going to be fit after eating healthy for just 6 days.

Ok, back to the topic at hand…

On the cruise, I literally talked to every friendly person in my vicinity. I struck up conversation with every girl/woman I was attracted to (and got denied a few times, but it’s all in good fun). I made new friends at the bar, on the deck, waiting in lines, in the bathroom, wherever. I went zip-lining in Jamaica (ya mon). I swam with dolphins in Cozumel. The list goes on and on.

And I ended up meeting some great, like-minded people as well (hey Nickee and Amanda). Who would’ve known that I would get involved in deep, meaningful conversation within minutes of meeting people? Who would’ve thought that I would form deep-seated connections in the midst of such a seemingly “surface-level” atmosphere? I even randomly ran into someone who I’ve met before (hey Brittany). How crazy is that!?

Life is miraculous when you’re unshakably yourself. Life is magical when you embrace your inherent Love Aura and dive into the river of life.

Experience the world. Experience your physical body. Experience the connection with others, with animals, and with nature. Experience the miracle that is your life right now.

What are you waiting for? Dive in to the human experience.

Stay feelin’ good, feelin’ great.

-Stevie P!

Here’s Osho elaborating on this topic. He beautifully describes integrating spiritual awareness with worldly experience…

The traditional concept of man was that of a materialist or spiritualist, moral or immoral person, sinner or saint. A divided man is miserable. He is neither healthy nor whole; the other half that has been denied will go on taking revenge. It will find ways and means to overcome the part you have imposed upon yourself. You will become a battleground, there will be civil war.

In the past we were unable to create real human beings; we made humanoids. A humanoid is one who looks like a human being but is utterly challenged. He has not been allowed to bloom in his totality. He is adhoora, and because he is half is always tense; he cannot celebrate. Celebration is the fragrance of being whole.

Only a fulfilled tree will flower. Man is yet to flower. The new man will be earthy and divine, worldly and other-worldly. The new man will accept his totality and he will live it without any inner division, without getting split. His god will not be opposed to the devil, his morality will not be opposed to immorality; he will know no opposition.

He will transcend duality, he will not be schizophrenic. With the new man will come a new world, because the new man will perceive in a qualitatively different way. He will live a totally different life. He will be a mystic, poet, scientist. all at once.

The moment a child grows to become whole, society starts to suffocate him, stifling and cutting him into fragments, telling him what to do and what not to do, what to be and what not to be.

Losing his wholeness, he becomes guilty about his whole being. He denies much that is natural, and in that very denial he becomes uncreative. Now he will be only a fragment, and a fragment cannot dance, a fragment cannot sing. And a fragment is always suicidal because the fragment cannot know what life is. The humanoid cannot decide on his own.

Others have been deciding for him — his parents, the teachers, the leaders, the priests; they have taken all his decisiveness. They decide, they order; he simply follows. The humanoid is a slave.

My concept of the new man is that he will be Zorba the Greek and he will also be Gautama the Buddha. The new man will be Zorba the Buddha. He will be sensuous and spiritual — in the body, yet with a great consciousness, a great witnessing.

He will be Christ and Epicurus together. Religion failed because it was too other-worldly. It neglected this world. And you cannot neglect this world; to neglect this world is to neglect your own roots. Science has failed because it neglected the other world, the inner, and you cannot neglect the flowers.

Once you do that, neglect the innermost core of being, life loses all meaning. The tree needs roots, so man needs roots, and the roots can only be in the earth. The tree needs an open sky to grow, to come to great foliage and to have thousands of flowers. Then only is the tree fulfilled, then only does the tree feel significance and meaning and life becomes relevant.

Religion talks only of flowers that remain philosophical, abstract; they never materialise because they are removed from earth. And science has failed because it cares only about the roots.

We now need a new humanity in which religion and science become two aspects of one human being. And art will be the bridge. That’s why I say that the new man will be a mystic, a poet and a scientist.

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The Era Of Broadcasted Tragedy

Let me preface this by saying my heart goes out to all. Keep your head up.

We live in an era of broadcasted tragedy.

An era in which appalling events are ubiquitously publicized, creating a global ritual of fear and despair.

An era in which past tragedies are thrown back into the public eye, year after year.

Does this mean that we should sweep all negativity under the rug and pretend as if it doesn’t exist? Of course not. Negativity exists, because free will exists. And transparency allows truth to be readily available.

Does it mean that we shouldn’t feel sadness? No. Sadness is a natural part of the human experience, and we can’t ignore it. After all, what is joy without pain?

What is perverse regarding these tragedies, in my opinion, is how the message is presented. It creates a global feeling of sadness, and twists that sadness into fear, anxiety, hopelessness, and powerlessness. So instead of empowering ourselves to find a solution and prevent these tragedies from happening in the future, we turn to the “almighty” figures at the top of the hill. And they’re happy to provide us with solutions that may not be in our best interest. Because fear makes people so easy to manipulate, we remain ensnared in this terrible cycle.

The cycle also extends to the anniversaries of past tragedies being massively publicized every year. Like a fear-inducing reminder. It’s disturbing to think how we’ve become almost robotic. A certain button is pressed and the vast majority will exhibit a predictable reaction. We have been installed with a fear-based programming.

Don’t succumb to fear. In the face of tragedy we must operate within the realm of love instead. Send love to all and help uplift humanity. The only way to drive out darkness is with light.

And recognize that it’s natural to feel sadness and go through a period of mourning. Feel it. Embrace it. Be with it. Then transform that sadness into something positive and uplifting instead of fear, anxiety, hopelessness, or powerlessness.

To break this cycle, we must first acknowledge the negative things that happen. Then we must get to the real root of why they happen. And finally, we must uplift ourselves and take action to prevent these tragedies from happening in the future.

When I say get to the real root, I mean it in the truest sense. Maintain an open mind, question everything, and draw your own conclusions. Don’t naively swallow everything that anyone tells you, even if it’s lauded as “the official story.”

We seem to be caught in an endless loop of misguided commemoration with these negative occurrences. Tragedy is thrust into the minds of the people, then roused again and again; marinating our collective psyche in despair. It’s a vicious cycle that does no justice for the victims, nor our human race as a whole. We need to take our power back.

Peace and love to all.

-Stevie P!

The Matrix

I re-watched The Matrix for the first time in a while a few nights ago. It’s definitely a paradigm shifter, and it threw me into philosophy mode. If you’re not familiar with the movie, read the synopsis HERE.

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Themes that got me philosophizing:

1. What is real?

The Matrix forces you to question reality. At one point, Morpheus says to Neo, “How do you define ‘real’? If you’re talking about what you can feel, what you can smell, what you can taste and see, then ‘real’ is simply electrical signals interpreted by your brain.”

Bringing this concept closer to home, a recent article in the Huffington Post UK states that physicists may have evidence that our universe is a computer simulation.

To quote Ab-Soul, “I don’t even know what’s real, I’m just being real.”

Another interesting insight is that many people, as children, have intuitive thoughts of reality not being as it appears on the surface. When I was a kid, I thought that maybe I was a character in someone’s elaborate storybook. My sister would entertain the possibility of her being a part of someone’s dollhouse. Young children maintain a spiritual essence of sorts, which gets lost through conditioning and “growing up.” So maybe I was on to something back in the day…

2. Entities (behind the scenes) manipulating the human race.

In The Matrix, the antagonists literally harvest humans and feed off of them for sustenance. Humans are kept blinded from the “real world” in a coma-like state. The simulated matrix acts as their perceived reality.

This is a strikingly similar concept to David Icke’s reptilian theory (first introduced in his book “The Biggest Secret”). Icke hypothesizes that fourth dimensional reptilian entities control humanity behind the scenes, creating a perceived reality, and feeding off of negative energy. Outlandish? Definitely. But you never know…

Is this swiftian satire, or hints at the truth?

Weigh the evidence for yourself and form your own, unbiased opinion.

Oh, and keep this in mind

Oh, and keep this in mind

3. Limitations

In the Matrix, Morpheus tells Neo to free his mind, and repeatedly emphasizes this point. When Neo finally does free his mind, he makes the impossible possible.

The only limitations that exist are those you place upon yourself. Once you rid yourself of limiting beliefs, you open yourself up to infinite possibility. And this is when the formerly impossible now becomes possible. Break out of the boxes you’ve put yourself in, stop repeating negative mantras, and abandon all self-imposed limitations.

Neo- “Are you saying I can dodge bullets?”
Morpheus- “No, Neo. I am saying that when you are ready, you won’t have to.”

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And, to wrap things up, I love the quote about deja vu in The Matrix. Definitely something to marinate on.

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Is this applicable to the “real world” as well?