The “I Wish” Fallacy

I cringe when people say “I wish.”

I wish I could do that. I wish I was like that. I wish I had that. I wish I could go there.

You know what? You can! You just have to figure out what it takes to get there, then DO IT. Saying “I wish” creates some far-fetched dream that will never be brought to fruition. A dream that, because of self-imposed limitations, you view as “unrealistic”. Wishing is giving your power away. It’s like saying “I want to do that, but it’ll never happen.” But what’s REALLY stopping you besides yourself?

“I wish” epitomizes the spectator mentality. The hopelessness of someone that has given their power away. Someone that doesn’t take their life in their own hands. Someone living vicariously through the experiences of others. Do you want to be described like this? I sure as hell don’t. Do you want to merely exist, as a spectator on the sidelines? Or truly live? Let’s take our power back. This calls for a paradigm shift…

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Replacing “I wish” with “What can I do to get there?” will create a mentality of empowerment. It will take you from a spectator to an active participant in this game of life. Anything becomes a possibility. Anything becomes achievable.

A lot of people often say things like “I wish I could be in shape like that person.” Change that weak, passive mind state and ask “What can I do to get in that kind of shape?” Get empowered. Free yourself of doubt, self-imposed limitations, and feelings of inferiority. Have the desire to live the life you deserve.

Have a lust for life. Don’t settle for life on the sidelines. If you see something or someone you admire, ask yourself “What do I have to do to get there?” Get hungry! Create a plan and start taking action. You’ll surprise yourself with what you can accomplish.

Live an action-based life. Take your power back. Dare to dream, and have the balls to follow through.

Visualize the action, then actualize the vision.

“I wish” you would 😉

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What are you going to replace “I wish” with “What can I do to get there?”

Traveling the world?

Pursuing your passion as a career?

Getting into the best shape of your life?

Being with the girl/guy of dreams?

Leave your input in the comments section below.

 

The 5 Minute Technique For Getting Things Done

We all put off doing things. We even put off things we know will enhance our lives. And sometimes this happens indefinitely. Going to the gym. Calling your grandma. Getting started on that great book idea you have. We all have things that we know would enhance our lives, yet we put them off.

Why? Because we procrastinate. And why do we procrastinate? Because the task seems daunting. So let’s make everything a little less scary.

Introducing… The 5 minute technique.

Set a timer and give yourself 5 minutes to do something you want to do. You can even do it just by looking at the clock. Do this every day. Or whenever you want to do something that you would normally procrastinate doing.

You can use this technique for anything. Writing, reading, working out, cleaning…etc. You can also apply it to a part of a task to make it even easier to get started. For example, writing the introduction for an essay, instead of focusing on the whole entire thing.

The 5 minute technique makes it easy to get started. If you see something only as a 5 minute commitment, you’re way more likely to do it.

Everyone has 5 minutes a day to commit to something. Don’t act like you don’t. Make a habit out of it and see where it goes from there.

The hardest part of doing something is getting started. It’s all about overcoming inertia. Like pushing a boulder; the hardest part, by far, is actually putting it in motion.

The 5 minute technique works so well because it’s such a small commitment. So small that you trick yourself into starting. Then once you start, everything after comes easier.

Using the 5 minute technique makes taking action less scary and more manageable. It also prevents procrastination, which is a huge problem for most people. The 5 minute technique is an awesome tool for people to create an action-based life. Because things only get done through action. So start taking action, even if it’s in 5 minute chunks.

Oh, and here’s the best part. I wasn’t able to actually finish this post until I did the 5 minute technique. Yup, that happened. It works. Just do it.

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The Art of Not Getting Offended

People get offended way too easily. No offense, but this can ruin your day and turn you into a Negative Nancy. It doesn’t have to be that way though. Let’s be above the influence. Ladies and gents, here’s the art of not getting offended…

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You have the choice. You choose whether or not to get offended by something. So why would you ever make the choice to let someone or something bring you down? Most people don’t realize this, and live life in reactive-mode to what goes on around them. Slow down, and be aware that you choose to be, or not to be, offended.

It’s them, not you. When someone hurls out insults, it’s a manifestation of their own inner frustration. Happy people don’t project negativity. And if you encounter a negative person, maybe they’re having the worst day of their life. You never know. So don’t take offense when someone projects negativity or anger; that’s their own pain. No need to make it yours.

Don’t rigidly attach your identity to an external idea or system. This includes race, religion, nationality, all that stuff. Belief is fine, but you need to maintain fluidity. If you attach your whole identity to something external, you open yourself up to being both incessantly offended and manipulated. Be open-minded, without rigidly clinging to an external image. Celebrate your uniqueness!

Have confidence in yourself. Be confident enough in yourself so you don’t need external validation. If you’re confident, you’re a lot less likely to be offended. Overcome your insecurities and take steps to build your confidence.

Liberation… Not caring what other people think is ultimate freedom. This manifests out of building enough self-confidence to transcend doubt stemming from what others (including society as a whole) think.

To not let anything external change the course of what you want to do in life.

To not follow what people think you “should” do out of fear.

Note: This doesn’t mean go around acting a fool. If what you’re doing causes harm or annoyance to others (or yourself), you’ve missed the whole point.

Stop getting offended. Nobody can take your happiness away from you but yourself.

Get busy living.

-Stevie P!

 

 

95% of the Health and Fitness Advice You Need in Under 100 Words

The health and fitness industries have been made out to be wayyyyy more complicated than they need to be.

“To earn a fortune in the diet and exercise industries, there is a dictum: complicate to profit” -Tim Ferriss

I’ve devoted literally thousands of hours studying and applying health and fitness information over the last 6 years. I’m ridiculously passionate about both health and fitness. And I would have a career in either one of these, but there’s just this one thing? When you sort through all of the bullshit, it’s all really, really simple. Almost too simple, but it’s been made complicated.

HERE’S 95% OF THE HEALTH AND FITNESS KNOWLEDGE YOU NEED IN LESS THAN 100 WORDS:

Want to be healthier in every aspect? Eat real food —> (“If man made it, don’t eat it.” -Jack LaLanne)

Want to lose body fat? Eat a little less real food.

Want to gain muscle? Eat more real food and lift weights.

Want to lose fat and still be muscular? Eat real food and lift weights.

Want to increase your endurance? Run.

Want to get stronger? Lift heavier weights than you did last week.

It’s really as simple as that.

And want all of these to be lasting, lifelong changes? DO IT CONSISTENTLY AND KEEP IMPROVING.

That’s pretty much all you need to know. That final 5% consists of minutiae, very, very goal-specific things (ex/ rehabbing after a knee injury), or extreme cases (and extreme cases are usually unnatural, if you think about it). For example, a professional bodybuilder is going to have to use more complicated techniques to get down to 3% bodyfat while carrying around 300lbs of muscle. This is an extreme case.

The problems people have with reaching their goals stem from 2 things.

Paralysis by analysis- People will sit on the internet and read every so-called expert’s opinion on every subject. This will leave you confused. And you will just search for more answers instead of actually taking action.

Instant gratification mentality, resulting in lack of consistency- People think everything is instantaneous. And instead of consistently doing something (as described above), they want instant gratification. It didn’t take you 4 weeks to get fat, so it’s not going to take 4 weeks to get a 6-pack. Work at something consistently, track your progress, and you’ll notice subtle changes indicating that you’re moving in the right direction. Consistency with any program is 1,000 times better than inconsistency with the “perfect” program. Life is a journey, not a destination. Learn to love the process of self-improvement. Would you start playing a video game at the final boss? It’s all about the journey. Stay consistent and enjoy it.

And with the advice given above, use common sense. Don’t go outside and start eating rocks (they’re natural right?). Use proper form when lifting weights (It’s all natural movement patterns anyway. But most people are just so imbalanced physically due to poor lifestyle choices). Don’t go to the gym for the first time and try to yank 500lbs off the ground. Use common sense. Get familiar with your intuition, ya dig?

Stay thirsty my friends.

-Stevie P

 

 

 

 

Declutter Your Mind By Decluttering Your Living Space

I had a crazy weekend. The good kind of crazy, of course. The “out in NYC until the wee morning hours 2 days in a row” kind.

But it’s not a wild Friday or Saturday night that I’m here to talk about…

I woke up yesterday (Sunday) morning and immediately started cleaning. And I realized that I usually find myself doing this after a night out. Why? Because it helps me regain focus. When my apartment is decluttered, my mind naturally declutters as well. So I straightened out my physical environment, and my focus returned as I went about doing this.

Reducing the physical clutter around me took me from dazed and confused, to feelin good, feelin great. It helped me overcome that inertia (the hardest part is to actually get yourself moving in the right direction) and set a positive momentum for the rest of the day.

A cluttered living space = A cluttered mind

A cluttered living space = A cluttered mind

The inner environment is a reflection of the outer environment; and vice versa.

Everything is interconnected. Everything influences everything else.

If you feel like you lack focus and are overwhelmed, remove the clutter. It’s a form of simplification, making everything easier. It produces clarity.

If you can’t focus at work, try organizing your desk. If you lack focus at home, organize or clean your home. Throw things out, get rid of the unnecessary. It’ll make you feel lighter, and less weighed down mentally. Even a small act of productivity can create a cascading effect.

“No snowflake in an avalanche ever feels responsible.”-Voltaire

Create an avalanche of awesomeness.

And you don’t have to be a neat freak. You just need to be organized enough to curb the chaos and reduce all the mental noise.

*Metaphor alert*

Life is a puzzle. When you organize the pieces, you gain more clarity. If the puzzle pieces are scattered, you can’t see the big picture. Think about how overwhelming a pile of scattered puzzle pieces looks.

Sometimes it takes putting a just few pieces in place to start seeing the big picture more clearly.

Have fun with your puzzle. See the big picture.

10 Steps To Living A Successful Life

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What I mean by this:

Most importantly, an awesome life is created through action (that’s why it’s listed 6 times haha). Remember that.

Step 1. Figure out what you want to do

You first have to figure out what you want. Where you want to go. Think about driving without a destination. You’ll just end up wandering aimlessly forever. How many times have you left your driveway without a destination? Apply the same principle to life (I guess leaving the driveway = birth here). Find your passions, discover your purpose, and know where you’re headed.

Step 2. Set goals

Set specific goals to accomplish what you want to do. And these don’t have to be grandiose. They can be small measures to take on a daily basis. Big goals are made more manageable when broken into smaller goals. If you want to bench press 300 lbs, you don’t just walk into the gym and throw 300 lbs on the bar. You start with what you can manage, and consistently add a small amount of weight each workout until you reach 300 lbs. Setting goals helps you visualize the action, and actualize the vision. Goals are your road map.

Steps 3-9.

Nothing gets done without action. It’s as simple as that. You can read all there is about fitness, but it doesn’t matter until you actually go to the gym. You can know all there is about investing, but that knowledge is useless until you actually invest. Just do it. That being said, you also need to see if you’re moving in the right direction (step 6), so you can make changes if necessary. All of the action in the world is ineffective if you’re moving in the wrong direction. So stop dwelling in the emptiness of inaction. Stop procrastinating. And start living an action-oriented lifestyle right now. It’s the only way to truly live.

Step 10. Repeat

When you accomplish a goal, you’ve made it… That’s it… You’re done, right?

…. Wrong.

Find another goal to work towards. Do something bigger and better. Become more awesome. Life is boring when you’re stagnant. You need to constantly challenge yourself and grow to live an awesome life.

“Any organism that isn’t growing is dying.” -Jason Ferruggia

So focus in taking action. Overcome inertia and get in motion. You can always change course later.

Stay feelin’ good, feelin’ great my friends.

-Stevie P

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The Choice is Up to You

I got inspired after reading this post. Here’s the FGFG spin on it.

The choice is up to you

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

You have the choice. You have the power. You have control.

You choose whether or not to get offended when someone cuts you off in traffic.

You choose whether or not to get angry when someone bumps into you.

You choose whether or not to wake up in a good mood.

You choose whether or not to be offended by what someone says.

You choose whether or not to let other people affect you.

You choose whether or not to watch tv or do something beneficial for yourself.

You choose whether or not to treat your body right.

You choose whether or not to eat foods you know are good/bad for you.

You choose whether or not to implement good/bad habits.

You choose whether to complain or not.

You choose to be grateful for what you have or whine about what you don’t have.

You choose to be a victim or take responsibility for your own life.

You choose what you think.

You choose your actions.

It is your choice to be positive or negative.

It is your choice to be happy or miserable.

You have the choice. You have the power. You have control. Stop being attached to stories you tell yourself. Be present. And discover how empowering life can be.

The choice is up to you.

How to Overcome Being in a Slump

I was dealing with the post-trip blues at work this week after my trip to Honduras. It’s always difficult getting back into grind mode after a vacation. My concentration was nonexistent. I had the attention span of a goldfish. I felt anxious. I couldn’t sit still. I was in a slump, and I needed to snap out of it. By Friday, I was back to feelin’ good, feelin’ great mode. Here’s what worked for me, and it’ll probably work for you too.

Slump crushing 101:

Don’t internalize everything. Express your feelings to someone, or even just write it down. Internalizing and stuffing emotions is bad news bears. The mere act of getting something out works wonders for your well-being. It sounds corny and it’s not the most masculine tool in the shed, but it works. Do what I did, call up momma and tell her how you feel.

Do something fun. Do something enjoyable during your free time. For me, it was going out on a phenomenal Valentine’s Day date (you know who you are).

Workout and release tension. Mobility exercises first thing in the morning relieve all kindzzz of bodily tension. And throwing heavy weights around is the best stress reliever I’ve ever come across. Just move yo body, and you’ll instantly feel better.

Recharge the batteries. Do some sort of meditative activity to clear the brain. Breathe deeply for 2 minutes. Lay down with your eyes closed for a bit. Those worked for me, but do whatever you prefer. It’s so refreshing to mentally escape from everything (including your own mind) for even a few minutes.

Get some sleep. The positive changes a good night of sleep can bring are borderline magical. You wake up feeling like a phoenix rising out of its ashes.

Have a goal/goals to work towards. I’m back on my health and fitness grind (Carb Backloading and working on mastering bodyweight exercises), making my own almond butter, and setting goals for this site. I’m kind of all over the place with this, but it keeps me positive and focused. Anything goal-oriented (skill acquisition, accomplishing something…etc) fosters self-improvement, which is crucial for long-term happiness and living an awesome life.

If you ever feel yourself slipping into a downward spiral, try out these techniques, and throw up a middle finger and a smile to the blues.

-Stevie-to-the-P

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A Week In Honduras

I just got back from a week long trip to Honduras. An absolutely amazing experience to say the least, so I have to share it with you. One of my best friends is a hiking guide at D&D Brewery in a village called Los Naranjos (check it out by clicking HERE), which is an awesome place by the way. I went with another friend to visit him and genuinely experience Honduras. And ohh boy, it definitely didn’t disappoint. We spent most of our time in rural areas. The week consisted of a lot of hiking, row-boating, cliff jumping, camping, whitewater rafting, traveling, practicing my Spanish, crazy taxi rides, and interacting with all different types of people.

Me in Honduras

Overlooking Lake Yojoa

So many aspects of the world we live in are very paradoxical. Though extreme poverty is widespread throughout Honduras, many Hondurans are rich in ways that Americans aren’t.

Nature comes to mind first. There are epic landscapes everywhere in Honduras. Lush greenery, majestic mountains, and gorgeous waterfalls shape the countryside. There is natural beauty everywhere you look, which is a stark contrast to the concrete jungle of NYC. Food also comes into the picture as an extension of this environment. Yes there are (sadly) economic factors that come into play with access to food, but locally grown, natural food is readily available. And plus there’s the possibility of growing food in your own backyard. How many Americans can say those things?

The other aspect is family. In the midst of widespread poverty and hardships, the family structure has maintained importance in Honduras. Families stick together and help each other out, while some families in the US can’t even share a meal together. This type of culture extends into the world of hospitality as well. Many people will help you out with directions, a meal, or anything you need without second thought. It is the embodiment of the expression, “mi casa es su casa.” It’s a beautiful thing. While here in the US most people don’t even say hi to their neighbors.

Things we take for granted in the US and the rest of the Western world:

Safety– In Honduras, there’s armed guards in front of anything of importance. All homes are fenced off with barbed wire. Police are corrupt and unreliable. It’s like the wild west. You can’t safely walk the streets at night. Compare this to New York City, where you can stumble around drunk at 3am and be alright.

Lack of extreme poverty– Yes, we have poverty in the US and other western countries, but not third world poverty. The poverty in some parts of Honduras is on another level. You really have to see it for yourself to wrap your head around it. This leads me to my next point.

Opportunity– For the impoverished people living in third world nations, there is very, very little opportunity. People are relegated to their small world, without the ability to go anywhere else. With no access to books or new knowledge. It isn’t impossible to find a better life, but it’s a steep, uphill battle. Compare this to the US, where everybody has access to information (libraries, internet, newspapers…etc). Anybody can start a business. Even for people born in the poorest areas of the US, for example, there is at least the opportunity for a better life. A lot of people in third world countries don’t have that kind of opportunity.

Lessons I learned:

Appreciate everything I have. I was forced to. As an American, the contrast is so in your face that you’re literally forced to appreciate everything you have that many people don’t. I’m instantly more grateful.

Admire nature. I don’t get to see landscapes like those of Honduras everyday, ya know? Check out the pics.

Savor the moment. Every moment is fleeting. Every moment is once in a lifetime. A vacation to a new place makes this blatantly obvious.

Go with the flow. Don’t resist new experiences. Be flexible. Be easygoing. Do new things. Don’t worry about what you can’t change. As Bruce Lee said, “be like water, my friend.” Life is more enjoyable that way.

Realize what’s really important. Experiences and the bonds made with others. That’s what is really important. That’s what life is all about. Chasing material wealth and gathering “stuff” is intrinsically unfulfilling.

All in all, I’m so grateful for my experience in Honduras. Thank you Cerone for accompanying me, and thank you Jwalk for having us. It was one of the best weeks of my life.

Here’s some more pics from my trip:

Cliff Jumping

Cliff Jumping

Sorry TLC, I went chasing waterfalls

Sorry TLC, I went chasing waterfalls

Sunrise

Sunrise