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Positive and Inspirational Things That Happened in 2017

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Note: This is a guest post by Kate Harveston, of Only Slightly Biased.


The New York Times and other outlets are calling 2017 the best year in human history.

It’s hard to disagree — 2017 will be one to look back on for decades to come.

So many notable things happened, and many bold moves were made on behalf of men, women and children everywhere — moves that will continue the world on a positive path.

2017 has become the year of change, and more and more people have decided to no longer abide by society’s expectation to keep quiet about things that truly matter.

As a result of the election, many have become inspired and overcome with passion for fighting back and taking a stand for what they believe in — and how beautiful the change has been.

Maybe you yourself are one of the reasons for the uplifting change in humanity — a drastic transformation from the negative vibes that spread through the world before and after the election.

If you’re one of the catalysts, thank you.

In 2017, there was less poverty and illiteracy.

Fewer children died than ever before.

Unlikely couples fell in love.

Both men and women stepped out of their comfort zones and into the spotlight to stop powerful people from preying on others.

2017 was undoubtedly a year of progress for all of humanity.

Even though we are mostly surrounded by negative news, know that the world is moving in the right direction.

Remember that news is news because it’s a rare occurrence — something we don’t see in the headlines every day.

From news stations and publications, “shock and awe” headlines sell and draw viewer attention. Features about mass shootings and war crimes stand out more than good news about people helping one another.

Keep yourself inspired by remembering the good stories even when bad ones are so prominent. Continue to spread kindness, positivity and love wherever you go.

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Here are four of the many inspirational things that happened in 2017.

1. The #MeToo Movement

If you haven’t heard of the #MeToo movement, you’re not paying attention.

Celebrity scandal exploded when once-admired, now-infamous film producer Harvey Weinstein was exposed by nearly 100 sexual-abuse victims in October of last year. The lengthy list, which goes back three decades, includes big names such as Ashley Judd, Gwyneth Paltrow, Cara Delevingne, Angelina Jolie and more.

The #MeToo social media hashtag went viral in October, shortly after Weinstein’s horrid past was unmasked.

Actress Alyssa Milano urged women to tweet #MeToo in an effort to expose the magnitude of the problem. In response, both men and women took to their social media accounts to share personal stories of sexual assault, as well as an overwhelming level of support to the victims out there who suffer every day.

It was one of the most incredible instances of support in history.

Reese Witherspoon, Jennifer Lawrence, Lady Gaga and other powerful celebrities used their fame for good and came together to bring sexual assault into the light, where it belongs. Many of them even went as far as to post about their personal experiences and how sexual assault impacted their lives, again helping others feel brave enough to come forward on their own.

The “MeToo” hashtag was posted by 4.7 million people in the first 24 hours after Milano started the trend. It reached millions around the world in 85 different countries.

Use your voice, even if you feel it won’t be heard. If we combine all of our voices together, we will be heard, and the #MeToo movement is proof.

2. Poverty Rates Decreased

An economist from Oxford University, Max Roser, calculated that the number of people living in extreme poverty — on roughly less than $2 a day — has gone down by 217,000, making the United States’ official poverty rate 12.7%.

The poverty line in China decreased from 99 million to 43.4 million. Income inequality continues to fall steadily. More people have also gained access to electricity, which is one of the first steps out of poverty.

As the average household income continues to grow, income equality and child welfare are still a major concern for many. However, all should take comfort in knowing that once again, we are moving in the right direction.

3. Prince Harry Proposed to Meghan Markle

It’s a worldwide affair when a royal becomes engaged, gets married and has babies.

Remember when millions of people woke up in the middle of the night to watch the royal wedding of Prince Charles and Princess Diana?

The most current royal engagement has sparked quite a bit of buzz because it will be groundbreaking for the royal family for a number of reasons. Markle is biracial, American and divorced — quite a difference from past royal spousal selections, but the relationship between Prince Harry and Markle is one of great love.

It’s also a sign that tolerance has changed for the better, as well as British public opinion.

After the couple first became public, they faced harsh British tabloid harassment, mainly due to Markle’s mixed racial identity — her father is Caucasian, and her mother is African American.

The Daily Star Online even referred to the engagement as a “marriage into gangster royalty.” However, Prince Harry was able to clear the air with a statement condemning them for the abuse and harassment of his girlfriend, and the world has since started to support the couple and their differences.

Markle’s parents have been divorced for most of her life, and she herself is a divorced woman. While she has great style, you won’t find her in the same traditional attire as Kate Middleton and Princess Diana, as Markle opts for a more casual look. Markle is also American, although it has been reported that she is a direct descendant of England’s King Edward III.

Despite differences, Markle is embraced by the royal family and Prince Harry, and the rest shouldn’t matter.

The lesson behind this fairytale love story is to love who you love and don’t let other opinions sway where your heart is.

The relationship between Prince Harry and Markle has proven that true love can break barriers and that the world continues to grow when it comes to the acceptance of others. Markle herself has taught people that you can and should continue to be yourself above all else. This is a love story for the ages.

4. Heroes Saved Lives During the Las Vegas Shooting

The world will never forget the Las Vegas shooting — 59 innocent lives were taken, and 500 people were injured.

Dozens of heart-wrenching accounts exist of heroic acts from concert-goers and other people who ran straight into gunfire to save their loved ones and even complete strangers.

Each of their stories is an inspiration and a reminder that good and love are alive in the world.

While it’s impossible to mention all of the heroes from that night, highlights include a man who gave his own life to protect his wife, as well as a young mother who acted as a human shield to protect her four-year-old daughter.

One marine found a truck and drove it into the chaos so he could fill the truck bed with wounded victims who needed to get to a hospital. Hundreds of other heroes risked their own lives for the lives of others and stayed behind to tend to the wounded and transport victims to the hospital.

It’s always remarkable to see acts of kindness from strangers and to hear stories about how people came together to help one another, even when their own lives were at risk.

This story is one that resonates with everyone because it proves that humanity is good and that we do have each other’s backs — there’s more love than hate out there in the world.


Life is so special and could end at any moment. Be kind to one another because together, we can make an impact on each other’s lives.

Always choose positivity over negativity — even if the headlines scream about all the bad that happens in the world.

Yes, bad things will continue to happen, but good things will too, every day.

2017 had its moments of both. Make a difference in your own life, and dwell less on the negative — focus your energy on the inspirational news out there instead.

Are You A Negative Nancy? (Signs That You Are)

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Note: This is a guest post by Matthew Snider.

We all know someone who is always the first to point out a flaw. They find the bad in a situation, or highlight an obstacle. These people tend to swim in the negative and have a propensity towards bringing others along with them. While no one really appreciates or thrives in this negative zone, these types are fairly common in today’s world.

Psychological studies suggest that people naturally react more strongly to negative experiences than positive ones. This phenomenon is commonly referred to as “negativity bias” and dates back to the days of the cavemen. It is an evolutionary psychological concept and is very powerful in determining future behavior. Although negativity has a natural and instinctive way of pervading our thoughts and actions, if it becomes a habit it can really push people away.

Here are a few telltale signs you might be allowing negativity to dominate your mindset:

You Make Generalizations

One tendency of a Negative Nancy is to make broad generalizations in the negative. For example, if a letter you recently sent gets lost in the mail, you automatically assume the entire postal system is flawed. In another example, your assistant fails to copy you on an important email. Your response is to assume that all administrative assistants are incompetent. These mass generalizations can be very dangerous and even damaging to your psyche. If you find yourself starting to think in generalizations, take a moment to reflect on all of the scenarios in which these generalizations have been proven false. This will help you keep things in perspective and avoid some of those crazed thoughts.

You Assume Obstacles Are Long-Term

Assuming all obstacles are long-term setbacks is another sign you live in the negative. This chronic attitude tricks your brain into believing there are no alternative solutions to a problem and really hinders your ability to problem solve. For example, you present your budget for a new project and when the financing is not approved you automatically assume your idea is a lost cause. This hopeless thinking can easily become a self-fulfilling prophecy, so be very aware of these defeating thoughts and begin to think in a solution-oriented way.

You Are Critical of Others

A negativity bias can make you hypersensitive to the faults of others. For example, your child might get four As and a C on his report card. But your mind jumps immediately to the C, which you offer a lengthy critique of, yet fail to comment on the positive marks. Additionally, you may attend the wedding of a close friend and instead of enjoying the evening of love and laughter, find yourself critiquing every part of the party. This attitude can be exhausting and can also push people away. No one wants to be in a situation where people constantly criticize them. Next time you find yourself nit-picking at a person or situation, try to sandwich your criticism in between two positive statements. This trick has a way of softening the blow and of making you think in a different way about your critique. It’s a win-win solution for everyone and will help you reverse some of your negative thoughts.

Your Close Circle Is Highly Negative

Highly negative people tend to flock together. They also tend to ostracize anyone who challenges their comfortable nit-picking habits with a dose of positive attitude. If you find that your work and social conversation is centered around negativity, complaining, and gossip, you are likely under the wrath of negativity bias. Additionally, if you and your posse find yourself bristling with irritation anytime someone tries to put a positive twist on a situation, you are swimming in the Negative Nancy circle.

If you identify with any of these common situations, you are most likely engaging in overly negative behavior. If you’re looking to reverse this trend, try one of these simple tactics. Your body, mind, friends, and family will all appreciate the positive change.

  • Write a daily list of things you’re grateful for
  • Name two positive qualities for every one piece of criticism you make
  • Practice gratitude – Say thank you at least two times per day
  • Smile and exude positive body language
  • Give a gift
  • Give a genuine compliment
  • Surround yourself with other positive-minded people (Remember, you’re the average of the five people you spend the most time with)
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    About the Author
    Matthew Snider is a writer, a personal development junkie and a regular blogger at Self Development Secrets. Matt, with his one quarter Asian descent, did not start out as a writer, but he says, “the love for a subject is the most important aspect of writing. The readers want to read something written by someone who understands them.”

    Are You A Positive Person? You’re Probably in Denial

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    When I started Feelin’ Good Feelin’ Great, I was in denial…

    I believed that positivity consisted on only focusing on “positive” things and ignoring everything “negative.”

    So that’s how I lived my life. I dodged my shadows and avoided my own darkness, then wondered why I felt confined and limited. In doing this, even though I thought that my life was all sunshine and rainbows (because that was the only territory I let myself explore), I was governed by the fear of fear itself (which is a self-created illusion). This phase lasted 2-3 years, until the Seeker archetype within me grew to the point where curiosity, backed by a deep sense of courage/faith/trust, could no longer be confined by fear.

    Positivity can be immensely useful, but when it becomes your identity or a way of avoiding the uncomfortable, you ironically slip into a life governed by fear and delusion.

    This is the trap of what I call delusional positivity; disregarding anything negative and pretending that it doesn’t exist. This is a dangerous way to live because what is suppressed will inevitably manifest in other ways. Although this naïve optimism seems all loving and pleasant, it’s based in fear; the fear of your own darkness (as well as the external reflection of it in the world).

    And what is positive anyway? Essentially, positive and negative are just labels which we place upon things that the ego either likes (positive) or dislikes (negative). When you draw your perspective back and look at the big picture, what you might deem positive and negative will often flip flop. For example, being hospitalized for alcohol poisoning when I was 19 seemed like a “negative” experience at the time, yet it was the greatest catalyst for my journey of self-discovery.

    There is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so.
    – William Shakespeare

     
    This concept is hard to swallow from the limited perspective of the ego, especially with the extremes of war and suffering going on this planet. But we cannot truly understand love and freedom until we experience the extreme opposite. I’m not in any way saying to enable these atrocities though. Part of our process is to overcome them collectively (which begins within each individual). However, the woes of the world serve the purpose of being a harsh reference point of what we don’t want and the ultimate difficult learning experience.

    If there is a meaning in life at all, then there must be a meaning in suffering. Suffering is an ineradicable part of life, even as fate and death. Without suffering and death, human life cannot be complete.
    – Viktor Frankl

     
    Contrast is necessary for holistic understanding. We need negativity to appreciate positivity. We need darkness to appreciate light. From a higher perspective, challenges are viewed as an opportunity to grow, hurdles are viewed as opportunities to leap and pain is viewed as a means of truly understanding joy.

    Love is the innermost craving of humans. Why? Because it is our essence. We experience fear, pain, suffering and the like because through experiencing contrast, we’re able to truly understand and appreciate love.

    Love is a unifying force, while fear is divisive. This applies both internally and externally. Fear divides people and fear divides aspects of yourself. And whenever things are divided, they come into conflict with one another. But love unifies and creates wholeness. So it’s only common sense that the totality of everything is love. Love is the fabric of Oneness. Love is the defining element of Source.

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    The owl’s vision pierces through the darkness and sees through all illusions.

    Big Picture Positivity (Positivity 2.0)

    This is a call to let go of short-sighted, delusional positivity and courageously embrace Big Picture Positivity.

    Big picture positivity is the ability to love everything. It is being able to acknowledge and show compassion towards both polarities of duality (light and dark, good and evil, bad and good, negative and positive…etc.).

    Big picture positivity is the application of unconditional love. Big picture positivity is unwavering compassion. Big picture positivity is a total acceptance of what is, without judgment or resistance.

    Can you acknowledge your inner demons and meet them with a compassionate hug? If not, then you’re governed by fear.

    Can you acknowledge “negative” emotions without trying to avoid or change them? If not, then you’re creating resistance, self-judgment and denial.

    Can you acknowledge your darkness and shine light on it? Or are you too afraid? If you’re afraid of something within you, then you’re fragmented yourself. This self-fragmentation will subtly pull on you, pleading to be acknowledged, and will fester until it becomes something that you’re forced to deal with (like a disease).

    Can you acknowledge the evil of the world and meet it with empathy, compassion and love? Or do you react with fear, anger or judgment?

    Crime and the criminal justice system is actually a macrocosm of the practice of big picture positivity, or meeting everything with love. Ignoring crime obviously doesn’t work. But judging and punishing crime isn’t the best solution either (look at the massive failure/disharmony of the US criminal justice system). What does work, however, is acknowledging crime and healing the individual who committed the crime. It is addressing an aspect of the whole that is crying out for help and meeting it with love. People who feel love do not harm themselves or others; it’s as simple as that. So wouldn’t love be the obvious solution?

    The same principle applies to shadow aspects of ourselves. Acknowledge your shadows and meet them with compassion. Heal with unyielding love.

    There’s nothing to be afraid of. It all just is. All of that fear simply comes from resistance to what is.

    Love it all.

    – Stevie P!

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    The Phenomenon of Energy Snowballing

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    Story time…

    Last Friday night I was gallivanting along the streets of Portland (Maine) when I heard the voice of a young man behind me say “Excuse me sir, could you spare any change?” I stopped dead in my tracks. Not because of what he said, but how he said it. It wasn’t the usual, incoherent babble. It wasn’t in a disempowered, victim-stricken tone. It was polite and articulate with a refreshing sense of hope. So I turned around and we both introduced ourselves. His name was Adam and he’s about my age (26… in Earth years). He’s been on his own since adolescence when his single mother passed away. He has family dispersed across the world and (sadly) none willing to help him out. After a series of unfortunate circumstances he found himself with no place to live a couple weeks ago.

    We immediately hit it off and started talking about anything and everything… Our lives, our experiences, the monetary system, philosophy, positivity, personal growth, changing lives…etc. As this positive energy built up between us, a tall dude (around our age too) walked up and excitedly greeted Adam (handshakes & man hugs). They’re old friends that haven’t seen each other in months (his friend was noticeably surprised to find out that Adam was on the streets). So the three of us started talking about empowerment, self-improvement and all that good stuff. At one point, Adam’s friend mentioned that a major turning point in his life was recently when he volunteered at Kripalu for 6 months. I was like “Yo… I was there like 5 days ago!” (see my post here). So funny. So synchronistic. And everyone that walked by our triangle of awesomeness was smiling. We all knew that we were co-creating something special. #datenergytho

    I felt compelled to give Adam $20 and he accepted it with radiant gratitude, promising that he would pay it forward. I knew he would. Then we parted ways and I kept energy snowballing for the rest of the night (that’s another story haha).

    Quick shout out to Adam: Keep your head up and stay positive, my friend. May all the dreams and desires of your heart come true.

    The experience we all co-created last week was a breath of fresh air. That’s the kind of stuff that happens when you’re energy snowballing…

    And we’ve all experienced it. We’ve all experienced the phenomenon of feeding off of other people’s energy. A team rallying behind the empowerment of a motivational halftime speech. One person instigating a spontaneous laugh fest amongst a group of friends. The reaction of everyone at a party when “Return of the Mack” comes on. The ever-increasing, tangible energy of a crowd matching the climax of a song during a live performance. The feeling of utter euphoria that arises within the depths of every soul whenever the word “Pokémon” is brought up. (Wait… Is that just me?)

    Vibes are contagious. Energy is infectious.

    Everything is energy, frequency and vibration…

    “If you want to find the secrets of the universe, think in terms of energy, frequency and vibration.” -Nikola Tesla

    And everything tends to match the dominant frequency at hand…

    “Everything is energy and that’s all there is to it. Match the frequency of the reality you want and you cannot help but get that reality. It can be no other way. This is not philosophy. This is physics.” -Bashar

    This manifests in the form of feelings/emotions, behavior, situations, experiences…etc. Energy snowballing happens with everything, from the micro scale to the macro scale.

    It all starts with a little spark. That spark could be as simple as a friendly smile. And with that spark, you start attracting similar energy, drawing in compatible vibes. This builds and builds, as beings feed off of each other’s energy. It’s a damn good time.

    And of course, it applies to the “negative” as well (think about riots). Energy snowballing is a powerful tool. So use that tool to build a better home (Earth), instead of hitting yourself in the face with it.

    Be a beam of light everywhere you go. When you radiate your inner light, you drive out darkness and help others see.

    “Thousands of candles can be lighted from a single candle, and the life of the candle will not be shortened. Happiness never decreases by being shared.” -Buddha

    Step into your power and start an avalanche of positive energy everywhere you go.

    “The truth is that existence wants your life to become a festival.” -Osho

    Stay snowballin.

    -Stevie P!

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    Fuck Your Victim Mentality

    (Pardon the rather blunt title, but this article is the proverbial cold shower. It’s time to wake up and feel alive.)

    Why do you constantly need to be a victim?

    Why are you arguing for limitation? Don’t you want to be empowered?

    Are you addicted to the victim mentality?

    Have you attached your identity with being a victim?

    So many people are addicted to being a victim. It’s a coping mechanism to the “obstacles” we face in life.

    The victim mentality is a choice. You always have the choice, in every situation.

    Seriously, why the fuck are you choosing victimhood over empowerment? Why?

    As Darth Vader put it, “I find your lack of faith disturbing.”

    You are the master of the internal, and the external is merely a manifestation of the internal. You don’t see the world as it is, you see the world as YOU ARE.

    Being a victim is depriving yourself of your own immense strength. Saying “I can’t” is an act of suicide on your potential self. Complaining is resistance to the present moment, resistance to all that is.

    “When you complain, you make yourself a victim. Leave the situation or accept it. All else is madness.” -Eckhart Tolle

    Yes, life is difficult for everyone (some more than others), but you have the choice of whether to view difficulties as challenges to overcome, or as an excuse to say “poor me.”

    Think about life as like a video game. Would playing Super Mario be fun if you just walked to the right the whole time, with no obstacles? Hell no. The experience is defined by overcoming challenges!

    “What you call a setback, I call a challenge,
    If I fall I know I’ll get back, it’s all a balance.” -Crooked I

    “A pessimist sees the difficulty in every opportunity; an optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty.” -Winston Churchill

    Do you really want to be happy? Then choose to be happy! Happiness is not some magical scenario at the end of the rainbow. Happiness is your choice, right now.

    Unleash your inner lion; live your strength.

    Unleash your inner lion; live your strength.

    10 Reasons Why Having a Victim Mentality is Completely Useless:

    1. You have the choice!

    You have the choice to choose happiness or sadness. You have the choice to choose love or fear. You have the choice to be offended or not. You have the choice of being a victim or being empowered. You have the choice in every moment. So why would you choose to be a victim!? That’s insanity. Empower, overcome and have fun.

    “The choice is yours in every moment to create beauty or misery, happiness or pain.” –Ralph Smart

    2. You influence your reality.

    You create your own reality. The effect of consciousness on reality is being proven on so many levels…

    Look into:  the double-slit experiment, the placebo effect, the law of attraction…etc. Also, check out this article, 10 Scientific Studies That Prove Consciousness Can Alter Our Physical Material World.

    Entertain this possibility, and you develop your inherent power.

    Even if you have a hard to entertaining these things, think about it this way… Your thoughts dictate your beliefs, your beliefs dictate your actions, and your actions dictate your situation. Change your thoughts, change your beliefs, change your actions, change your situation. It’s as simple as that.

    Take responsibility back. Response-ability is literally the ability to respond. Embrace it.

    “We are not only observers. We are participators. In some strange sense this is a participatory universe.” -John Wheeler (pioneering physicist who coined the terms “black hole” and “wormhole”)

    So why are you choosing to be a victim? It’s ludicrous. It’s like being given a hammer, and instead of building a house, you just continuously hit yourself on the foot with it. And that’s what so many people are doing with their lives.

    Use the power of your consciousness to achieve your dreams, instead of sabotaging them.

    “Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t–you’re right.” -Henry Ford

    3. You attract what you are.

    If you hold onto a victim mentality, guess what you’ll get?

    “A victim mentality creates a victim reality.” -David Icke

    If you’re a victim, you’ll attract people and situations that will further victimize you. If you’re empowered, you’ll attract people and situation that will further empower you.

    Like attracts like. You reap what you sow. The law of attraction.

    “Everything is energy and that’s all there is to it. Match the frequency of the reality you want and you cannot help but get that reality. It can be no other way. This is not philosophy. This is physics.” -Albert Einstein

    4. It’s so limiting.

    Anyone who has achieved anything great was the antithesis of a victim. Would you break any record as a victim? Or accomplish anything noteworthy? Nope!

    A victim mentality is self-created, false limitation.

    Why would you ever argue for your own limitation? Stop it. Break free.

    “Argue for your limitations and, sure enough, they’re yours.” -Richard Bach

    5. Do you want to be the driver, or a passenger?

    Do you want to control your own destiny? Or be a victim, at the mercy of external forces? Ask yourself that every time you find yourself complaining or acting like a whiny little victim. Take the wheel back, and drive your car to your rightful destiny.

    6. Empowerment is awesome.

    Make the conscious decision to be empowered and you feel strong, physically, mentally, and spiritually. It’s literally just the flip of a switch; a simple choice. The beautiful thing is that a positive, empowered mentality permeates every level of existence and allows everything to fall into place. You embrace life, instead of resisting life, making it infinitely more fun, interesting and enjoyable.

    I don’t know about you, but I would rather operate in the paradigm of empowerment instead of perpetual victimhood. But that’s just me.

    7. Less pain, more fun. (The power of positivity)

    Because really, it’s no fun being a victim. People just cling to it because it becomes familiar, it’s a part of their identity and they’re addicted to it.  Drop the victim mentality and enjoy life. Experience life without constantly being in fear.

    “Life begins where fear ends.” -Osho

    Positivity is a force to be reckoned with, and a superpower we can all harness. A positive attitude strengthens the mind, body and spirit, and makes life quite delightful.

    People with positive attitudes live longer, and have more fun doing so…
    (Check out these articles)
    Centenarians’ Positive Attitude Linked to Long Life
    Positive Thinking On Aging Helps Seniors Heal: Study
    Do Positive People Live Longer?

    “I’d rather be an optimist and a fool than a pessimist and right.” -Albert Einstein

    8. Victim mentality = covering your awesomeness

    With a victim mentality, you’re robbing yourself of your true essence. You’re denying yourself of your true potential.

    It’s a disservice to both yourself and to those around you. When you become a stronger version of yourself, you not only help yourself, but inspire those around you as well.

    9. As a “victim” you make life more difficult for those around you.

    As a victim, you become a burden (a burden to both yourself and others). You impose your limitations on others as well. When you hold a victim mentality, others have to pick up your slack. Instead of acting as wings, you become a dead weight to both yourself and those around you.

    A victim mentality makes you a complete buzz kill too. And people don’t like being around negative, disempowered people. Life is to be enjoyed.

    “The truth is that existence wants your life to become a festival… Because when you are unhappy, you also throw unhappiness all around. ” -Osho

    10. You welcome dis-harmony and dis-ease.

    Your mind state effects your body (see point #2). Positive people are less likely to get sick (see articles in point #7). If you marinate in negative thoughts, they will manifest physically (think about the power of the placebo effect). An example we’re all familiar with is stress. Victims always find something to stress about. Stress causes tension in both the mind and body. Stress releases the hormone cortisol, which if chronically elevated, leads to a whole host of problems. Continuous stress also produces inflammatory responses in the body, which leads to dysfunction and dis-ease.

    How stress influences disease: Study reveals inflammation as the culprit
    8 Stress-Busting Tips from Experts

    11. A victim mentality is complete dependence.

    If you’re a victim, you become dependent on everything other than yourself. Dependent on other people. Dependent on external things for your happiness. Dependent on government. Dependent on material goods. Dependent on foods. Dependent on substances. Addiction in all of its forms thrives off of the victim mentality. A victim mentality perpetuates all kinds of fear-based, limiting beliefs and dependency.

    Empowerment liberates you from all of this. It’s a simple choice, in every moment.

    12. You feed the parasite.

    Most would agree that the situation on planet Earth right now is far from the peaceful utopia it could be. Think about the collective fuckedupness that exists…

    This idea of an intangible force that we all feed is everywhere. Eckhart Tolle calls it the “collective pain-body” in A New Earth, Don Miguel Ruiz calls it “the parasite” in The Four Agreements, Carlos Castaneda refers to psychic parasites in his books, The Gnostics called them archons, David Icke refers to them as reptilians, in Christianity you have demons, in Islam you have djinn…etc.

    If you’re a victim, you’re feeding this parasite. Don’t contribute to the woes of the world. Stop feeding the parasite and cultivate something positive instead.

    “The secret of change is to focus all of your energy, not on fighting the old, but on building the new.” -Socrates

    13. You miss out on the magic of being a dreamer.

    There’s a certain magic to life when you become a dreamer. It’s like going from black and white to high definition. Everything becomes wondrous. It’s that blissful world of imagination that you immersed yourself in as a child.

    Get out of the doldrums and step into the field of dreams.

    Be a dreamer. No one who has ever made a great impact on the world has been a realist.

    “You may say I’m a dreamer
    But I’m not the only one
    I hope someday you’ll join us
    And the world will live as one.”
    -John Lennon

    Don’t succumb to the illusion of victimhood (I say illusion because it’s merely a crafty trick of the mind/ego).  Let go of the bullshit victim mentality, uncover your true self and step into your infinite potential. You deserve it.

    Much love,

    -Stevie P!

    The Love Aura

    2 people walk into a bar and stand next to you…

    With the first person, you immediately get bad vibes. You get “a disturbance in the force,” as they’d say in Star Wars.

    With the second person, you immediately get good vibes. You just feel at ease in their presence.

    Who would you rather talk to?

    It’s an obvious question. And the decision is made outside of the mind, beyond the bounds of thinking. It is a knowing, a feeling experienced on a deeper level.

    People are naturally attracted to people who exude positive energy. Nobody wants to be around a Negative Nancy, or an Angry Andy, right? Operating in the paradigm of love makes you magnetic, hence the term “magnetic personality.”

    I call this field of positive vibes “The Love Aura.”

    And it’s a phenomenon that both myself and some friends have been experiencing, particularly with women. (Women tend to be more in tuned and intuitive, therefore picking up on a person’s “love aura” more easily.) In my recent experience, I’ve felt even random people being friendly, open, and generally attracted to me. And it’s a deep level of attraction, noticeably different than the purely physical “he’s hawwwt” type of attraction. It’s not because I look like Brad Pitt. It’s not because I’m cooler than a polar bear’s toenails. It’s simply because I’m cultivating the love aura, and people sense it (whether they’re consciously aware of it or not).

    Embodying the love aura means developing what is called “heart consciousness.” (here’s where the dots start to connect)

    Heart consciousness is opening up to, and using the facilities of the heart-brain. Yup, I said heart-brain. The heart is now being revealed as a sensory organ with its own nervous system, as well as a sophisticated center for processing information. (Check out the Institute of HeartMath for a wealth of information on this.) Heart consciousness is the gateway to the likes of intuition, unconditional love, extrasensory perception, and all kinds of higher awareness.

    Fun facts about the ole ticker:

    • The heart is the very first organ to form in fetal development.
    • The heart sends more information to the brain than the brain does to the heart.
    • The heart’s electrical field is 60 times stronger than the brain’s.
    • The heart’s magnetic field is up to 5,000 times stronger than the brain’s, and can be detected several feet away from the body with sensitive magnetometers. (That’s that aura, baby!)
    heart magnetic field

    The heart’s electromagnetic field (courtesy of the Institute of HeartMath)

    The crazy thing is that since I began developing heart consciousness, I’ve been directly experiencing what is displayed in the diagram above. Experiencing the field created by my heart and its harmonized interactions with others. That’s why I call it the love aura.

    While writing this, I came across this awesome article. And here’s an excerpt from it that’s oh so relevant:

    Heart Field Interactions Between Individuals

    Most people think of social communication solely in terms of overt signals expressed through language, voice qualities, gestures, facial expressions, and body movements. However, there is now evidence that a subtle yet influential electromagnetic or “energetic” communication system operates just below our conscious awareness. Energetic interactions likely contribute to the “magnetic” attractions or repulsions that occur between individuals, and also affect social exchanges and relationships. Moreover, it appears that the heart’s field plays an important role in communicating physiological, psychological, and social information between individuals.

    Experiments conducted at the Institute of HeartMath have found remarkable evidence that the heart’s electromagnetic field can transmit information between people. We have been able to measure an exchange of heart energy between individuals up to 5 feet apart. We have also found that one person’s brain waves can actually synchronize to another person’s heart. Furthermore, when an individual is generating a coherent heart rhythm, synchronization between that person’s brain waves and another person’s heartbeat is more likely to occur. These findings have intriguing implications, suggesting that individuals in a psychophysiologically coherent state become more aware of the information encoded in the heart fields of those around them.

    The results of these experiments have led us to infer that the nervous system acts as an “antenna,” which is tuned to and responds to the electromagnetic fields produced by the hearts of other individuals. We believe this capacity for exchange of energetic information is an innate ability that heightens awareness and mediates important aspects of true empathy and sensitivity to others Furthermore, we have observed that this energetic communication ability can be intentionally enhanced, producing a much deeper level of nonverbal communication, understanding, and connection between people. There is also intriguing evidence that heart field interactions can occur between people and animals.

    In short, energetic communication via the heart field facilitates development of an expanded consciousness in relation to our social world.

    The overwhelming majority of communication is non-verbal. It has a lot to do with the heart (as described above), the subconscious mind, and other phenomena foreign to physical perception. Intonations and body language, which are direct manifestations of your internal state, come into play as well. If your internal state is that of love, it will permeate all aspects of communication/interaction with others.

    The love aura optimizes and harmonizes all forms of communication and interaction. So when people sense this harmonic field, they feel a “good vibe,” and are more likely to be friendly and at ease. But when you’re operating in fear, your heart’s field will be disharmonious, which people will feel as a “bad vibe,” and close-off or react negatively.

    As you can imagine, the love aura ameliorates everything from friendly greetings to sexually-flavored interactions. People are naturally drawn to positive, love-based people. You don’t need egotistical facades like “game.” You don’t need pickup lines. Pickup lines are like relying on Google Translate to write a love letter, it just won’t come out right and will sound excruciatingly awkward. There’s no shortcut; you need to learn the language to make it work. (And the language in this case is love.) All you need is to have love for yourself and others (or BE love to yourself and others), and the rest falls into place.

    The love aura is a multi-dimensional smile. An intrinsic bliss. A deep-seated, genuine confidence. An unconditional love for one’s self and others. The love aura allows you to be the master of your reality. It’s a positive, powerful, expansive vibe, and that’s what makes it so attractive.

    When you operate in love, you let go of fear. Fear only exists in the absence of love (or ignorance to love). Fear is what dis-harmonizes us. Fear is what blocks us off to possibility. Fear is the self-imposed limitations. When fear is released, limitations are shattered and your entire being harmonizes as it should.

    How to cultivate your love aura:

    1. Show love. Be grateful. Show appreciation. Be positive. Smile. Spread love. BE love.

    2. Let go of fear. This comes naturally the more you embrace the paradigm of love. Just be aware of fear when it arises (in any form), and let go.

    3. Embark on the inner journey. Get to know yourself. Explore the unseen. Embrace the stillness when your mind is calm. Open yourself up to infinite possibility.

    4. Smile, laugh a lot, and have fun.

    There’s a certain depth in people’s eyes when they operate in love. That divine sparkle. You can see this in your own eyes if you look directly in a mirror and smile.

    There’s a brilliant radiance that comes along with the love aura as well. Your skin, face, and persona become beaming beacons of pure love. It’s a beautiful thing.

    And then, of course, there’s that irresistibly alluring aura. People just like being around you, and because of this it greatly benefits both friendly and potentially intimate interactions.

    The love aura makes you more attractive on every level. It’s a gorgeous exemplification of a love-based, synchronized being.

    Cultivate your love aura. Experience the magic of life.

    Stay feelin’ good, feelin’ great.

    -Stevie P!